I learned a long time ago from a young girl when I was a young boy of 16 about kissing. I had read in a detective book about kissing; it said a woman prefers a short but lightly sensuous first kiss.

So I did that, and after She had this smile on her face which told me all I needed to know that it was right.

Sometime later we were on the roof of my house in Hawaii looking at the stars and she told me it was the kiss that got her. She said other boys tried a tonsil check and she hated that.

I remembered that for the rest of my life.

I've only been told a few times I am great kisser but I have never had anyone say anything bad which means one of two things. They were too polite OR,I was never bad; maybe average but that's okay too.

BUT the very best was in 1989 with a young woman I had had a serious crush on and of whom I knew was in an abusive relationship (nonphysical abuse) and one night she came to my work and asked what I was doing that evening and I told her going to see a friend's band play an outdoor concert in Pasedena. She asked if I wanted company. About four hours later, it happened and it was the perfect kiss between us both. Absolutely perfect.

To this day we even mention how that night went and to her how the kiss sealed the deal. Unfortunately things didn't work out. IF any of you (and I know that is arrogant to think so) have followed my rants against the cult of sceintology you will possibly remember my stating how I spent close to two years saving the love of my life from them. That was her and things were never the same after that. We are friends now and she seems to be happily married living in North Carolina.

So now I have no doubts the right kiss can make all the difference in the world.

Thats why I hate kissing if you are not having sex at the same time,... Who gives a crap about kissing women if you are not doing it?

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that's why i always go for a double

True. Just ask Monica Lewinsky.

Let me get this "straight", guys actually like to kiss girls?

Ugh.

Unless you're both drunk, horny, or both, let me give a few words for those unsure of themselves when meeting out the first smooch: tender, gentle, soft, and shortlived. Grab and growl just don't make it.

Kissing is like driving; everyone thinks they're better than average and hardly anyone really is.

This isn't exactly true. It depends on what's being kissed. A 'bad kisser' can turn a woman into a writhing, moaning, ecstatic happy-face if he knows where to kiss; even if he isn't up on all of the technical details.

The same is sometimes true for men, but men tend to be touchy-feely people. They can become enraptured by the up-close warmth of the miracle called 'woman'.

Remember Senator Bob Packwood?

Quality is quality, you can tell it relatively soon. And it really does help getting the clothing off.

I don't like "aggressive" kissing. I'm pretty sure many women agree. We like to set our own pace.

Men should understand that female sexuality is different and unlike what they see in the porn crap they download every day...

I've tended to notice that the first kiss can be awkward, and that as you get to know someone, a rhythm develops.

Don't get me wrong, though. I HAVE had a couple that were as bad as the article mentioned.

Very few times has the kissing been hot and heavy since the beginning.

I think bad breath is why you do not make it to second whether you are a male or a female.

Out of a lifetime of kissing I recall perhaps 2 or 3 memorable kissers. Kissers who sent your heart and mind racing for sex.

The vast majority were average, ordinary. A very few were just bad.

The hard part is there's no teaching an average kisser how to be great. Perhaps you could teach them then dump 'em, but having to tell someone how to kiss well takes all the magic out of it.

After all, how sensous someone kisses is exactly how sensuous they fug. The tongue, mouth, and lips are just proxies for, well, you know.