Dr. Laura Blames Spitzer's Wife

Eliot Spitzer loves him some whores! How did it ever happen? What drove him to risk his career and marriage? And what does it say about the rest of us? These are the big questions taken up by the Today Show, and look who they got to answer them! Dr. Laura Schlessinger, that's who? Wondering if she said anything vaguely reprehensible? Yeah, kinda she did!

VIEIRA: Do you think women play any role in this, Dr. Laura?

SCHLESSINGER: It's interesting. what you said about what men need -- men do need validation. When they come into the world they're born of a woman. Getting the validation from mommy is the beginning of needing it from a woman. When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like our hero, he's very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs. These days, women don't spend a lot of time thinking about how they can give their men what they need.

VIEIRA: Are you saying women should feel guilty, like they somehow drove the man to cheat?

SCHLESSINGER: You know what, the cheating was his decision to repair what's damaged, and to feed himself where he's starving. But, yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.

Meredith Vieira did a wonderful job throughout, pretending to be shocked when Schlessinger answered her question with the nutball response she expected when she specifically prompted Dr. Laura to let loose. Strangely, though, Schlessinger's contribution to the discourse wasn't the weirdest. That came from anthropologist Helen Fisher, who, while laudably rejecting the notion that Spitzer's transgressions were anyone's fault but his own, nevertheless added: "All you have to do is look at Eliot Spitzer. He has a high cheekbone and low brow ridges. Those are signs of very high testosterone."

So there you have a solid range of opinion! Either Spitzer's testosterone-fueled forehead should have tipped everyone off, or Silda Spitzer should have provided her husband with "attention." The more you know!

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Comments

[Hitsong]

Who listens to these FREAKS? Take a good look at her - pretty clear she's a misery case. I hear Dr. Phil is looking for a new mate. Hear that, Laura? Maybe you can get him to keep it up. His head, that is...

[aintnogod]

"When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings sexually, personally, to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like our hero, he's very susceptible to the charm of some other woman making him feel what he needs."

As a male, I'm insulted by Laura's ignorant claim that it's a wife's responsibility to "make" a man into a man. I had a skinny stepmother very much like Laura, and so I can say with great authority that Laura's the kind of woman who can really make a man feel like a failed dick—a real ball buster is that Laura, Doctor of what, certainly not psychology or any credible science.

Sheesh, what a donkey face she has.

[SouthernYankeeBelle]

Before you start commenting on the Spitzers I would look at your own family. Isn't your own son in some hot water over some pictures he did in Iraq that were way out of line. Using your logic Laura what did you do wrong rising your son? Remember what goes around comes around. Spitzer cheating on his wife and that is their private business. I hope they can get through this mess he caused. I don't want to see anyone hung out to dry for cheating. This adminstration has done so much to distroy this country that the Spitzers, Vitters, and Larry problems are small problems. Lets get back to business.

[SlithyTove]

The View can settle this by having Erica Jong challenge "Dr." Laura to a mud-wrestling match.

[adled]

I suppose "Dr" Laura can comment on the failings of the woman here but her insight to the man's part in this is silly. I'm a guy and one thing I know for sure is that what ever the reason rationalizing bad behaviour does no one any good and explains nothing.

[MadxAsxHell]

Dr. Laura has something like 3 failed marriages. She's obviously not very good at determing what makes a good partner for herself, nor how to preserve the relationship.

PHYSICIAN, HEAL THY SELF!

[realpolitic]

She would rather sale books than heal herself!

[ohnoyoudidnot!]

Narcissism is sweeping the country. The real blame belongs to Spitzer - he made a choice that destroyed his career and family - because he thinks he deserves to have whatever he wants, despite the cost to others. Similarly, Bush does whatever the hell he wants with total disregard for the will of the American people. Seriously, look around - it's not called the "me generation" for nothing.

[beright]

Narciissim: you nailed it!!!

[realpolitic]

He probably has some addiction to risk he enjoyed even more than the hooker. I mean, he knew that he had a lot of enemies.

[DrJimmy]

I really never agree with her but in this case she is right. I'm not saying what he did was right and to drag her up on stage was being a coward. However if you speak to the majority of men they will honestly will tell you that their wives sexuality has all but left. Just the way it is......There is a reason it's a famous joke...

[dawlishgal]

HAHAHAHA! What is the moral of these two charlatans...that women are better off marrying a fat guy?

[standforpeace]

I think I'll call in to Dr. Laura's show and see if she can put me in touch with the local chapter of Women Who Hate Women. I'm pretty sure she's a founding member.

[theblueAmerican]

Dr. Laura is like Ann Coulter. Why does anyone listen to them? While I'm at it. Lets include Glenn Beck, Sean Hannity, Rush the big fat idiot Limbaugh, pretty much everyone on Fox Noise, Laura Ingram and every other right wing nut job who I don't know or have forgotten. I'll keep Bill O'Reilly because he is kind of entertaining and I think he is a closet liberal. Dr. Laura, what a hoot. Makes you wonder what kind of drugs she took years ago. Remember her nude photos. Looking at them makes me wonder what her husband does on the side. His hand must be looking pretty good. I can imagine Dr. Laura saying "Yes dear, you made me come. Are you done yet? I have people to scold on the radio now. I'll let you touch me in a month but next time don't take so long. 5 minutes is a long time to give in my busy schedule".

[bitabingbitabangbitaboom]

Hillary...............

When Bill was the CIC and under tremdous pressure and strain and could not sleep at night; did your relieving his anxiety count as EXPIERENCE????????????

[choppedliver]

Hey, the Today Show brought "Dr." Laura in as an expert on cheating. Excellent choice! -- just ask her ex-lover's wife.

[Jonny38103]

Spitzer took the deviant path and got caught. And threatening his own and others' health by not wanting to use protection is stupid and inexcusable.

His wife knows if she was sexually available to him or not. I will say I don't expect anyone to live a sexless life just because their mate says so. That's way too much control. And to split up a family over the parents' sex life or lack thereof isn't easy.

I'm not sure what some people think the coreect answer is. In my own case, I finally decided that my ex-wife could control whether or not I had sex with her, but not whether or not I had sex. She used sex as a weapon, and I finally decided there was no love in that, and that staying together for the children in this case was no longer a good thing because I didn't want to ruin their view of marriage.

I'm happily divorced.

As for Dr. Laura, a lot of the old ladies used to say the same thing - he wouldn't be out playing around if he was getting what he needed at home. That is pretty lame. But the flip side is that some, and I said some, women like to withhold sex to get what they want and grant sex when Hubby's been a "good little boy." That is a recipe for disaster and there's certainly no love there.

[ElkoJohn]

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it's in the genes; males are wired to spread their seed.
it's takes discipline to remain faithful to your wife
& some work to keep the marriage compatible.
commitment is not for the "me-only" people.
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