John Mayer Likes Xanax, Is Just Looking For A Wife

Number one, he needs to quit the Xanax, its way too dangerous a drug. Second, if he is looking for a wife, he needs to realize women are out there by the droves, but he needs to stop dating people in the industry. He needs someone who can bring him back to his roots, back to reality, who isn't in it for the money or the fame. I am dating a musician now, a wonderful, great, totally talented guy, and the reason we get along so well is that I let him do his thing, travel, and I do mine. The last thing we discuss is music when we are together, except once or twice when we go to a blues concert, otherwise the topic is off the table. We balance each other. John needs to find an older gal, way beyond the fame thing and getting her face plastered on a rag mag. Young girls are too immature to handle the complexities of this business. Its a hard business, guys travel, have groupies. If you can't deal with it, don't date it. As far as him wanting come on lines that wow him? If he has the right woman, talk will be the last thing needed. More like a hose to cool them off. Ah youth, don't you love it?

This dude sure loves to hear himself talk. It seems like once a week he does a "blog" or an interview wherein he spills the beans on his "feelings." Hey, he's just like the rest of them.

You just may need that Xanax shortly after your wife says the I do's. You know when you realize you are no longer a single rock star that women throw themselves at. Keep it within arms reach, you will need it my man.

Wow, never thought that guy who sings lightly profound songs could be so shallow. Number 1, there ain't a perfect girl out there. Yes, she will get all dramatic when you ask about her day. When you get married, the drama is just beginning.

Number 2, if you think seeing a woman sitting in a bar and instantly judging she is amazing, you've got at least 40 more years of growing up to do.

Ha ha ha, thanks for a good laugh at Mayer's profound immaturity.

I don't think he needs a wife. He's got a pretty good love affair going on with himself.

Re: Looking For A Wife

Posing in that Borat swiwsuit was a great start.

There's one problem with Xanax: it's addictive as hell. If he needs Xanax more than a few times here and there, he's got real problems and should approach them seriously.

What Xanax does, for those who have never taken it, is make you completely emotionally numb. It's a zombie pill. It's far too powerful for most people to take it casually; unfortunately, most psychs prescribe it like candy.

I wish him well, but I have to say, isn't playing the blues the original xanax? If you're hurting, pick it up, play it, mean it, and you feel better...then you do it again and again...etc. Xanax is the easy way, until you overuse it, then it becomes a nightmare that even playing the blues can't heal. So...John, please, play harder, go deeper, bring it up and expel it...this is the very heart of the blues! Xanax is truly a crutch, but the blues is a gift from god.

what a wanker. also, his music is lame.

Iatrogenic addiction to Xanax is rampant and few people are looking at the real issues.
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boring. like his music.

Wow, artistic talent comes in fragile packages. But, we know that. The cemetery has many markers

It might be hard to find the girl of your dreams if your bottom criteria is that she has to be a "pin-up." Good luck with that.

PS:
I want to add that it seems like the best solution is for him to get a blow-up doll that can say "No Complaints."
It would save a lot of women a lot of suffering.

Wow, I feel his pain. NOT! How self-involved does someone have to become to wake up and realize they have a perfect life and an imaginary wife. I can honestly say, I have a perfect woman in my life, not because she wants to take pictures of my body parts, but rather, because our communication is so evolved. John clearly suffers from the dreaded Limelightitis. This rare disease strikes people caught in the bubble of their own making. I would urge John to meet a woman, not just have sex with women. The first step to finding that "happy" relationship is to speak from the heart, not from the bottom of a xanax bottle. Ironically, xanax is the refuge of countless cocaine users. There might be a problem here. The Betty Ford Clinic is affordable for people of John Mayer's exaggerated financial status. I don't have the luxury
of dwelling on my make-believe problems. I am only America's Write-In Presidential Candidate. Thanks for your time. Kind Regards, David Jon Sponheim

Awwww! He wants a "pin up" how very un-shallow of him!!

Reading what he has said he makes me feel physically ill. My thoughts are based on what he has said here, but also on what he's said in other interviews and the things written on his blog.
He sounds like a true narcissist looking for a woman to serve his needs- by listening to him whine about his "dark neighborhoods" in his soul- and then shut up about any needs she may have. Any woman that he finds who will actually do that- he'll find fault with her because he's not going to have any respect for a woman who truly loves him and his devoted to him. Even a "pin-up" will end up wondering why she isn't enough for him.
He may eventually find someone, but only when and if he makes a serious inquiry- that means throw out the Xanax - about why he's so profoundly self-absorbed. Of course, there are many, many people in this country who are similarly affected, and the good news about that is that there is much literature on the subject of narcissism and many therapists who understand.
The problem with those most seriously affected, though, is that they don't see anything wrong with the idea that other people should serve their needs, and they are not likely to read these books or seek therapy. And why would you, when there is likely to be a long list of "pin-ups" waiting breathlessly to be proclaimed "the one?"
My guess is that without effective counseling he (and the many, many men like him in this country) will be well into his fifties or sixties before he seeks help and is ready for a truly devoted partner. Until then, I can only pray for the string of women who will try desperately to be "the woman of his dreams." They will live a nightmare.

he's a complete nut. but i love him anyway.

all songwriters are addicted to ANGST

their real fear is that one day they might just be happy and have nothing to write anymore.

Following would be great song lyrics John:

"I know how to be a celebrity. I know how to be a guy on the street. I know how to roll with the punches. I know how to do the whole thing. And my past is actually pretty sterling. But when I think about my wife, I worry. I worry about what she thinks when she reads about me"

Damn.

Lose the regrets, regret is living in the past.
Lose the anxiety. anxiety is worry about the future.

See what you can do about being in the now.

In reading this, I just learned what it must be like to be a really bored and incredulous therapist. Only I wasn't being paid.