Whipped: What To Do When It Happens To You

Whipped: What To Do When It Happens To You

Huffington Post   |  Verena von Pfetten   |   March 21, 2008 04:58 PM


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it's nothing new. Some of history's most celebrated and powerful men were cut down to size by the women in their lives. Samson was famously laid low by Delilah. Ronald Reagan called his wife "Mommy." Even John Lennon fell victim to Yoko, who reportedly left cat turds in his path to remind him who was boss...Everywhere you look these days, you see the telltale signs of submission: pathological obedience, public humiliation, couples Pilates. It may start with a walk down the aisle--and isn't marriage one of the cornerstones of male acquiescence?--but it doesn't end until you're side by side in the beauty shop, waiting for your matching highlights.

Ah, the whipped boyfriend. Ever the bane of wing-men and frat brothers alike, the whipped boyfriend is a tale as old as time, a song as old as rhyme. GQ has taken it upon themselves to put together a slide show of "the twenty-five most emasculated, disempowered, henpecked husbands on the planet." Click here to read more and access the slideshow.

If you think you're whipped, or knows somebody who might be whipped, check out this great self-help video:


And, of course, the movie quote that spoke to men everywhere:

Frank: I told my wife I wouldn't drink tonight. Besides, I got a big day tomorrow. You guys have a great time.
College Student: A big day? Doing what?
Frank: Well, um, actually a pretty nice little Saturday, we're going to go to Home Depot. Yeah, buy some wallpaper, maybe get some flooring, stuff like that. Maybe Bed, Bath, & Beyond, I don't know, I don't know if we'll have enough time.

So, are you whipped? Have you ever been whipped? Or do you actually enjoy Saturdays spent at Bed, Bath, & Beyond and think that "whipped" is something made up by bored, bitter, lonely, sad, and single male friends? Tell us your thoughts and stories in the comments below.


 
 

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Women are never referred to as "penis whipped." Of course in heterosexual relationships, that's the status status quo for women - one of many reasons why this is such a sad, destructive lifestyle choice. Heterosexuality is at its core based on the fear and persecution of difference and the inability of men and women to enjoy intimate relationships is anything but surprising. The misery and destructiveness of people who persist in choosing such behavior is inevitable.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:39 PM on 03/24/2008

Men are whipped because they allow it. Women do the whipping because they have more particular opinions on things men are passive about or simply don't care. Combine that with poor communication, an unwillingness to assert one's feelings and inability to find mutually satisfying compromise. It's one thing to have a wife or a girlfriend. It's another to have a partner. Having a partner is a lot harder but--I hope, as I'm getting married later this year to a fine woman who is as assertive as I am (and as willing to calmly discuss and compromise)--ultimately more rewarding.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:25 PM on 03/24/2008

IMO, most of the accusations of being "whipped" are merely an inability to understand consideration for someone's feelings other than one's own.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:50 PM on 03/24/2008

This disturbing article is brought to us...by a woman? Nice to know your batting for the other side to spit tobacco juice at us for having game...men are totally whipped by their own psych. profile, merging into a dominating woman. no one is at fault here. it's just nature. some men know they are bad, or maybe they have deep insecurites. and the dominating women have deep insecurities to have to be so over the top with their control. so they have something in common and can relate.

Some men just know they are bad, or not good enough,or feel that way, and that's their problem. well, in the case of kurt cobain, maybe it did get a little out of control.

but brad eventually moved on from his matching highlights with jen....to an uber-control freak angelina. there's a pattern here. it's the man who doesn't feel complete without the warm pocket, that he probably doesn't deserve, and he loves torturing himself over it

the woman just fell into a good situation. you can't orchestrate these things. except for courtney. she's exceptional. but she's never gotten anywhere since. the men must be onto her scheming ways.
it's luck for the rest of the women who happen to find themselves on top, and enjoy it. no reason to hate. unless its courtney, involved, or a similar psychotic.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:32 AM on 03/23/2008

in my opinion, no one has to be on top. i've got a wife who chills. neither of us is too interested in making the other bend to our particular will. now, my FIRST marriage...different story. life's too short to have someone busting your hump at HOME.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:43 PM on 03/24/2008

Sexist, misogynist drivel lamely masquerading as humor... Why do straight guys hate women?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:49 AM on 03/23/2008

I do not think anyone should be 'whipped' but having been married for 15 years, I can attest to seeing the syndrome even in myself from time to time. And I like raising my kids, not because I should, but because, for the most part, it's fun. A hell of a lot more fulfilling than cubicle work or simply making money.

Now here is the interesting thought...fairly soon, single men will be able to have their own children without having to bond/involve themselves with women in any way....scientists believe they are within 20 years of creating an artificial womb. Now there's food for thought. Soon, men can be a single parent if they choose to, and raise kids without women around to 'complicate' things...

When the scientists (in France, I think) announced their findings, it was met with a really really cold shoulder from the 'gentle sex' across the pond...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:02 PM on 03/22/2008

http://www.ojp.usdoj.gov/bjs/homicide/gender.htm - This is the URL to a page from the Bureua of Justice Statistics page. It points out the following:
"Most victims and perpetrators in homicides are male"
"The gender distribution of homicide victims and offenders differs by type of homicide:
If the victim is male the chances that the perpetrator is an "intimate" are 35.2%. If the victim is female the chances that the perpetrator is an intimate are "64.8%"" I"
Intimate in the statistical chart is a separate line item from "Family". So in my reading of this chart it would appear that, in relationships, it is the men who are more likely to literally be doing the "whipping" and the choking and the stabbing and the shooting. This article suggests that there are vasts numbers of men out there controlled by the women with whom they are in a relationship. The facts would seem to indicate that is not the case. That in fact it is men who are, frequently with violence or the threat of violence, doing the controlling IN RELATIONSHIPS IN WHICH ONE PARTNER CONTROLS ANOTHER (which I don't think is the majority of relationships. I think in the majority of relationships when one partner feels over-controlled by another he/she leaves, which is part of the reason the divorce rate is so high).

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:43 PM on 03/22/2008

American men are spoon-fed the myth that the only way to "grow up" is the get married and reproduce -- which, of course, is just what women want us to believe. Marriage is strictly for suckers in this day and age. Married men might as well turn over their testicles to their wives, who probably are cheating on them anyway. (I have more luck with married women than single ones.) We men should change this crappy society we live in. We should teach boys early on to avoid women looking for long-term commitments of any kind. And we should legalize prostitution, which is perhaps the most normal, honest and healthy interaction between the sexes.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:32 AM on 03/22/2008

My vote for the most depressing HuffPo comment of 2008.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:01 PM on 03/22/2008

sorry you can't get laid :)

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:50 PM on 03/22/2008

"...turn over their testicles to their wives..." - Merlin7 9:52 AM on 03/22/2008.
Let's not forget the sisterhood of family court. The organization empowers the sisters of the court..
On a slightly different tangent, engagement with married women makes you part of the game. My participation in this game ended decades ago.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:17 PM on 03/22/2008

Points for intent, OK. I don't want to be mean but that video was pretty bad... the standard is low.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:55 AM on 03/22/2008

Thank you. It's completely not funny. It's like something SNL would produce, except worse.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:00 PM on 03/22/2008

No one should let themselves be controlled by their partner, be it man or woman. If your unhappy with the way your being treated, free yourself. We don't live in the middle east after all, were free to choose how we act, and who we act with.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:38 AM on 03/22/2008

right on the money, moneses.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:45 PM on 03/24/2008

So a man that is in love with a woman who has her own mind, her own career, her own self is "whipped?"

This is about the most offensive "writing" and by "writing" you mean "screed" that has appeared on these pages.

Women should tell Huff Post this stuff belongs in "Insecure Man Quarterly" and not here. And

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:36 AM on 03/22/2008

agreed

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:50 PM on 03/22/2008

it's not about women being free, its about them mistreating their partners, which is not o.k. regardless of sex.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:40 AM on 03/22/2008

This is really not funny.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:03 AM on 03/22/2008

Actually, yes, this is funny.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:14 AM on 03/22/2008

My wife says it is not.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:37 AM on 03/23/2008

Your standards for humor most be deploringly low. Now I know who keeps funding the garbage that Hollywood continues to pump out and label as comedy. Will Ferrell must adore you.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:03 PM on 03/22/2008

Wrong, it is funny. And it s TRUE!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:56 AM on 03/22/2008

Never underestimate the power of the pussy. C'mon, guys; do you really need it that bad? If so, pay for it on occasion and get on with your lives. Do you really want to put on the harness and plow till you die for a wife and two kids? If your answer is "yes," you're a brainless idiot, and I feel for you. I was almost there once. I 'll see you in the afterlife, but you'll have to wait for me for 10 or 15 years. Good luck, chump.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:58 PM on 03/21/2008

Nothing like having a naked woman in bed, you don't have to pay for, who actually does care about you. Not so bad

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:19 AM on 03/23/2008

you my friend have NO understanding of the male libido. There is nothing romantic about sex to us, all orgasms are exactly the same, and its more akin to a bodily function than an act of caring. If a man ever tells you "if you cared about me you'd do that for me" or "I want to show you my love by taking you to bed" the punch him in the face and throw him out of your life because all he really wants is your vagina, it makes no difference to us whether you care about us or not, as long as were having sex its all the same. So in short to your comment is wrong because having a hooker, or more likely a one night stand, or sex buddy is pretty much the same as being with a woman who loves you dearly. In fact some men even prefer it because they dont like getting emotional, the person you love often makes sex more complicated.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:30 PM on 03/23/2008

That's a shame. I wouldn't have thought such a good news source would take this pile of misogynistic BS seriously.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:50 PM on 03/21/2008
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