John McCain's First Wife Speaks Out

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First Posted: 06- 9-08 09:42 AM   |   Updated: 06-17-08 05:12 AM

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The UK Times scores the first interview with John McCain's first wife in the 2008 campaign season:

McCain likes to illustrate his moral fibre by referring to his five years as a prisoner-of-war in Vietnam. And to demonstrate his commitment to family values, the 71-year-old former US Navy pilot pays warm tribute to his beautiful blonde wife, Cindy, with whom he has four children.


But there is another Mrs McCain who casts a ghostly shadow over the Senator's presidential campaign. She is seldom seen and rarely written about, despite being mother to McCain's three eldest children.

And yet, had events turned out differently, it would be she, rather than Cindy, who would be vying to be First Lady. She is McCain's first wife, Carol, who was a famous beauty and a successful swimwear model when they married in 1965.

She was the woman McCain dreamed of during his long incarceration and torture in Vietnam's infamous 'Hanoi Hilton' prison and the woman who faithfully stayed at home looking after the children and waiting anxiously for news.

But when McCain returned to America in 1973 to a fanfare of publicity and a handshake from Richard Nixon, he discovered his wife had been disfigured in a terrible car crash three years earlier. Her car had skidded on icy roads into a telegraph pole on Christmas Eve, 1969. Her pelvis and one arm were shattered by the impact and she suffered massive internal injuries.

When Carol was discharged from hospital after six months of life-saving surgery, the prognosis was bleak. In order to save her legs, surgeons

had been forced to cut away huge sections of shattered bone, taking with it her tall, willowy figure. She was confined to a wheelchair and was forced to use a catheter.

Through sheer hard work, Carol learned to walk again. But when John McCain came home from Vietnam, she had gained a lot of weight and bore little resemblance to her old self.

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Today, she stands at just 5ft4in and still walks awkwardly, with a pronounced limp. Her body is held together by screws and metal plates and, at 70, her face is worn by wrinkles that speak of decades of silent suffering.

For nearly 30 years, Carol has maintained a dignified silence about the accident, McCain and their divorce. But last week at the bungalow where she now lives at Virginia Beach, a faded seaside resort 200 miles south of Washington, she told The Mail on Sunday how McCain divorced her in 1980 and married Cindy, 18 years his junior and the heir to an Arizona brewing fortune, just one month later.

Carol insists she remains on good terms with her ex-husband, who agreed as part of their divorce settlement to pay her medical costs for life. 'I have no bitterness,'

she says. 'My accident is well recorded. I had 23 operations, I am five inches shorter than I used to be and I was in hospital for six months. It was just awful, but it wasn't the reason for my divorce.

'My marriage ended because John McCain didn't want to be 40, he wanted to be 25. You know that happens...it just does.'

Some of McCain's acquaintances are less forgiving, however. They portray the politician as a self-centred womaniser who effectively abandoned his crippled wife to 'play the field'. They accuse him of finally settling on Cindy, a former rodeo beauty queen, for financial reasons.

Read the full article here. Last week, McCain was pressed on his marital infidelities at a town hall meeting -- watch video and read an account here.

Read the whole story: Times UK

The UK Times scores the first interview with John McCain's first wife in the 2008 campaign season: McCain likes to illustrate his moral fibre by referring to his five years as a prisoner-of-war in Vi...
The UK Times scores the first interview with John McCain's first wife in the 2008 campaign season: McCain likes to illustrate his moral fibre by referring to his five years as a prisoner-of-war in Vi...
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- srtjsrtj I'm a Fan of srtjsrtj 2 fans permalink

Family Values the Republicans? I heard this story several months ago but refused to believe it. Christians don't abondon their spouses for any reasons. Republicans hang out the Banner of Family Values and many those we know about with one exception, Huckabee, don't live out the Christians. Yet they chase the Evangelical vote. Hippocrates

It's good to know that Ross Perot cared enough to stand by the Ex Mrs. John McCain through her significant illness that's more than her husband John McCain Did.

One's true character is revealed when someone especially a Spouse is treated with such Disrespect.

These are not Christian Values or Family Values, this represents No Values.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:01 PM on 06/10/2008

The point isn't that he got a divorce or that he stepped out on the women that he was married to. It is that the republican party put themselves above it all. They act like they only define what "family values" are and that when They (republicans ) have sex with a prostitute, another woman, another man, leave their kids have gay children or are gay it doesn't matter because they are the party of "family values." It is the hypocrisy. If they didn't act like they don't do it and don't condone it it wouldn't matter when they got caught doing it. Which they do often.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:32 PM on 06/10/2008
- benne I'm a Fan of benne 10 fans permalink

Enough of these personal attacks. I do not subscribe to the "any means necessary," but believe that politics is belittled when we obsess over such details of someone's personal life.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:19 PM on 06/10/2008
- partyofone I'm a Fan of partyofone 45 fans permalink

Reminds me of the Newt Gingrich story, only much much worse. It will be interesting to see how the "family values" crowd dismisses this history.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:07 AM on 06/10/2008
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He returns from war in 1973, remains married to her for another 7 years, then gets a divorce.

He ought to remain married to her forever out of pity?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:55 AM on 06/10/2008
- Shaddup I'm a Fan of Shaddup 13 fans permalink
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"...for better or worse."

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:35 PM on 06/10/2008

Well...no. I was thinking more out of "in sickness and in health" or perhaps duty to her and their children. But pity? I''m sure she did not demand or even want that.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:57 PM on 06/10/2008
- pbfishtaco I'm a Fan of pbfishtaco 12 fans permalink
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If you read the entire article it notes that he started cheating on his first wife almost immediately. Carol McCain for some reason still loves this cad.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:25 PM on 06/10/2008
- hbw3 I'm a Fan of hbw3 permalink

Ross Perot's quote about McCain was stunning:
________

But Ross Perot, who paid her medical bills all those years ago, now believes that both Carol McCain and the American people have been taken in by a man who is unusually slick and cruel – even by the standards of modern politics.

‘McCain is the classic opportunist. He’s always reaching for attention and glory,’ he said.

‘After he came home, Carol walked with a limp. So he threw her over for a poster girl with big money from Arizona. And the rest is history.’

_________

BTW Huffpost, the story is not from the "UK Times" (I think you mean the Times of London), it's the Daily Mail - very different newspaper.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:06 AM on 06/10/2008
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This should kill a lot of the independent swing votes for Maccy-C.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:36 PM on 06/10/2008

This man has no honor. His wife waited for him for 5 years while he was in Vietnam and the moment he was back from Vietnam, and discovered she was disabled, he dumped her like a hot potatoe. I have no respect for this man. Sure, I praise him for his service to this country, but that's as far as I give him praise. I'm a Gulf War veteran and served in the Army for 13 yrs. So, in no way can anyone say I don't understand what war does to a man. I lived it and witnessed the horrors of war. McCain is an opportunist and a liar. I don't trust him and will not vote for him this coming November. He's a war hawk and is as dangerous as Bush. My vote is going to Obama. I would rather vote for a man that sincerely is looking to bring peace and prosperity to this country. And though Obama may not have served in the military, it does not mean he is not patriotic. One can be patriotic without being in the military, such as being a doctor, a fireman, a policeman, a teacher, etc. I hope we all see McCain for what he is: a traitor with no values!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:25 AM on 06/10/2008
- SwingVoter I'm a Fan of SwingVoter 19 fans permalink
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Believe me, there is no other stronger support of Obama that I know than myself, but this is tabloid rubbish.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:43 AM on 06/10/2008
- danoj I'm a Fan of danoj 17 fans permalink

50% of all marriages end up in divorce, and this is tabloid journalism. Maybe the guy just didn't love his first wife anymore for one reason or another. Kind of hard to pass judgement on this one.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:35 AM on 06/10/2008
- LCRover001 I'm a Fan of LCRover001 19 fans permalink

Not loving your wife and leaving her because she has been disfigured is a big difference.

She faithfully waited for him knowing that he would not return the same person she knew and loved. He bailed ASAP when he saw her. That he took care of her after ward shows that he still loved her yet he was not willing to stick by her.

I agree peoples personal lives are their personal lives, but when you use you personal life as a reason to be elected you have to be willing to take the good with the bad. When you stand as a values candidate then personal lie is fair game.

Funny thing about this mess is that the right will say it is his personal life and no ones business then in the next breath proclaim how bad Clinton is because he fooled around on his wife and how awful it is that Hillary has staid with him.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:34 AM on 06/10/2008
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uh,..., did you miss the part where he started whoring around soon after his return from Viet Nam? Trust me, women won't miss that one.

So, he's out fishing for a rich, beautiful new wife while his loyal, crippled wife recuperates? You say, "Maybe the guy just didn't love his first wife anymore for one reason or another." Whatever happened to the vows of marriage?

If John can be so callous to a woman who loved and needed him, think about what type of president he'll be.

I wonder what his kids think of him.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:15 PM on 06/10/2008
- partyofone I'm a Fan of partyofone 45 fans permalink

It sounds like facts to me.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:09 AM on 06/10/2008
- xmw I'm a Fan of xmw 18 fans permalink

No these are facts and not just ones that come up during an election year. carol may just be publicly speaking out but people have known since the divorce what happened. He married cindy a month later for god sake. How's that for respecting your kids???

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:02 AM on 06/10/2008

how can the republicans claims to be the party of family values when their leader is a philanderer who dumped his first wife to marry a rich heiress? where is the outrage?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:28 AM on 06/10/2008
- blackjack I'm a Fan of blackjack 3 fans permalink

Can you think about the pounding that you as a DEMOCRATIC if the CORPORATE CONTROLED MEDIA had this information on Obama or any DEMOCRATIC person running for office. And Rove, and LIE-berman and friends would be having a time of there life. But it is a REPUBLICAN so MUM is the word.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:24 AM on 06/10/2008
- JulieSA I'm a Fan of JulieSA 165 fans permalink
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John Kerry's first marriage had a sad outcome, though not as sad as Carol McCain's story. His first wife was depressed and attempted suicide, and wrote that she felt smothered by her husband's political career. After the divorce, she was outraged when Kerry requested that the marriage, which produced two children, be annulled, and Kerry married an extremely wealthy heiress. Later, he and his first wife made up and she supported Kerry's candidacy, just as Carol McCain does with her ex-husband, and Senator Webb's second wife does with her ex (he's on wife #3).

My point here is that the media and the Republicans could have tried to make an issue out of his first wife, but nobody (including me) wanted to hear it, and she refused to talk about it to the press.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:58 AM on 06/10/2008

Thanks for the heads up on Webb-- if the press goes after this carol McCain being left- then Obama can't go with Webb-- so he needs a man married to the original for many years..

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:07 PM on 06/10/2008
- savory1 I'm a Fan of savory1 2 fans permalink

OMG, This can't be true. Basically, Mc Cain is a cad. She waited and worried about him for FIVE years, has a car accident lost her looks/body and because of that she gets dumped when he gets back! He is the quintessential Republican. If he could not stay the course with a disabled wife, how the heck will he handle stressfull situations in the White House. Is his word any good? Then he complains about her looks behind her back, I am sure he felt it was her fault that he was cheating on her and later dumped her. This speaks to his character.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:39 AM on 06/10/2008
- gonavy I'm a Fan of gonavy 7 fans permalink

So, Carol finally agrees to an interview to let people know how she feels about her exhusband and the article seems to have next to nothing in it about an actual conversation with her. Most of these quotes are from other people with contradictiory ideas about what happened and how she feels about it all.

Why bother asking her at all.

I applaud her for speaking out. I just wish the mail would have had the class to actually make the article about her feelings.

So, I guess The Mail didn't endorse McCain.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:50 AM on 06/10/2008

I'm not minimizing the pain it must've caused, but he'd been tortured for five years, and she had been horribly disfigured. When they finally got back together after five years apart, neither of them were the person that they had married. That's a dual trauma that would've caused a lot of marriages to fall apart. Look at all the divorces occurring with returning Iraq veterans. Hell, most of the 50% of the marriages that end in divorce fall apart for far less serious reasons.

I've been cheated on, and unceremoniously dumped, and I certainly suffered for a time, but the bottom line that I had to come to grips with, was that you can't make somebody love you. And you can't guilt them into it. Love has to be voluntary not obligatory­..

Marriages are very personal things, and without me knowing how things were in that McCain house, and how they interacted on a daily basis, I have to withhold judgement. I do know (from watching my parents) that when one or both of the people in a marriage is very unhappy ( for whatever reason) and cannot work it out, staying together is just masochism.

He set Carol up financially for life, and paid all of her medical bills for life. As long as she's not bitter, why should we be? I think McCain is the worst thing we need as a president, but not because he divorced his first wife.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:47 AM on 06/10/2008
- NotMcCain I'm a Fan of NotMcCain 73 fans permalink
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Wasn't Carol his second wife? My understanding was that he cheated on his first wife with Carol (and probably others), then cheated on Carol with Cindy (and probably on Cindy with Vicki Iseman).

I'm not a big moralizer, but we've seen a president with a womanizing problem and I'd rather not go through all that again. The vibe between the two McCains already seems chilly enough--I don't want to watch them for another 4 years, or a more public infidelity scandal.

On a health note, McCain looks much less vigorous to me now than he did in 2004--or even last year. I think campaigning is tough, and keeping up with Obama's schedule has got to be physically and mentally taxing when you're not at your best (I was no big Hillary fan but -- wow -- I still marvel at how she kept up, daily, and always looked so fresh. That is not the case with McCain at all. He already isn't looking well and he has 5 more months to go.)

I just don't understand why 45% of the voters are supporting him. The "Straight Talk Express" is completely gone now, and there's nothing appealing about the idea of four more years of failed Bush policies, stonewalling, and outright lies. Why is McCain getting any support at all? I don't get it.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:29 AM on 06/10/2008

His support will not last as the campaign goes on. Everybody will see just what you see. He's not gonna get any younger. This is just Bob Dole redux. When it's hopeless the GOP let's the old cats run.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:01 AM on 06/10/2008
- lee4 I'm a Fan of lee4 4 fans permalink

It's early yet and he's hasn't been in the spotlight til now. The average Joe just sees him as a POW and "war hero". He'll be exposed for what he is, and hopefully people will be paying attention.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:43 AM on 06/10/2008

You are confusing McCain with Newt Gingrich. Newt cheated on his first wife (his high school teacher) with wife #2. He then cheated on Wife #2 with Wife #3 - a congressional aide. It's tough keeping the love lives of these family value guys straight!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:05 AM on 06/10/2008
- JulieSA I'm a Fan of JulieSA 165 fans permalink
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You are incorrect. He's been married twice. Also, there is no evidence that he's cheated on Cindy.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:26 AM on 06/10/2008
- partyofone I'm a Fan of partyofone 45 fans permalink

After the Clintons and the Bushes, it would be refreshing to have someone whose character and values you could trust, and whose words you could believe. This information certainly raises questions about McCain's character.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:12 AM on 06/10/2008

Yeah, you sure gotta protect God-fearing Americans from that terrible gay agenda -- marriage between two committed people, many of whom have had 50 year monogamous relationships without the benefit of the state's imprimatur. Barack Obama is not going to try to slur McCain with this, but don't be surprised to see some 527s and blog chatter continuing through November. It's not the infidelity or leaving someone who apparently was as smashed and damaged JUST AS MUCH AS JOHN!! It's not the political opportunism of picking a rich, politicallyl connected heiress in a "safe" Republican state. It's te hypocrisy, stupid, yet once again. Preaching family values while this is in the background? Reagan's the only other president to get away with the 2-faced indiscretions but people attributed that to his early "Hollywood" persona. I'm not so sure middle-America is going to be that forgiving to a guy they don't respect or trust anyway.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:42 AM on 06/10/2008
- genia I'm a Fan of genia 27 fans permalink
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So...here'­s this man who endures all this unimaginable suffering, you'd think that....yo­u'd like to think that after that experience any one of us would appreciate what is truly important in life......
Not this guy...John­ny wanted attention and riches and superficial thiings...­...well, one thing I know ...I could not vote to elect a man like this to POUS
No way.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:08 AM on 06/10/2008
- liseworks I'm a Fan of liseworks 143 fans permalink
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This isn't as sad a story as some people (below) seem to think.
A LOT of marriages fall apart.
People change. Feelings change.
People grow older & wiser -or- they grow more immature & shallower, & McCain picking a typical "gorgeous" blonde is a good example of that.
(I don't think she's gorgeous & would probably enjoy Carol's company any day of the week) -
My take on it is that quite probably Carol didn't exactly feel too sexy or romantic in the aftermath of her serious accident. & she likely has a lot of things & interests that sustain her.
McCain was in a different place.
It was what it was.
As friends, they agreed to change their relationship, she, acknowledging his need to sew his oats after his long ordeal, and him, probably acknowledging that she was more focused on her healing.
I doubt that it was all as dramatic as it sounds.
They had gotten used to living apart for a long stretch of time, so there wasn't a big adjustment in living patterns to be made.
I bet Carol's life has been an interesting one & honestly ? - the guy's kind of a wimp - with Cindy, they look to me to be a couple who are probably dull as dishwater ....

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:47 AM on 06/10/2008
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