06/17/2008 05:12 am ET Updated Nov 17, 2011

What To Do When You Can't Afford To Be The Maid-Of-Honor

Being a bride's maid or matron of honor is a distinction many women cherish. But it doesn't come cheap.

It can easily cost a woman $1,000 or more for the honor of standing beside the bride on her big day, according to, the leading wedding Web site.

On top of the traditional expenses of wedding attire, transportation and chipping in for a gift from the bridesmaids, maids of honor can wind up hosting bridal showers, bachelorette parties and even the co-ed Jack and Jill party -- often footing the bill entirely.

Expectations are reaching bridezilla proportions, a trend Anna Post, spokeswoman for the Emily Post Institute and great-great-granddaughter of the etiquette authority, attributes in part to the extensive coverage of celebrity weddings on television and in style magazines.

Many bridesmaids are left torn between maintaining a friendship and breaking the bank.

Is all this necessary? Are brides asking too much of their friends?


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