'Single Motherhood By Choice' Movement Gains Momentum

Ten years on and this group of women is growing. So-called "single motherhood by choice" has always existed: around 250 of the 1,100-strong membership of the UK's Donor Conception Network (DCN) are single mothers. Usually this is a decision women come to in their late 30s or early 40s. Not any more. Olivia Montuschi, a spokeswoman for the DCN, reports that the organisation has been approached recently by a several women in their early 30s already considering donor insemination: "It's increasingly an option. They're more likely to conceive [at this age], of course. But the idea that women are giving up on finding a man at 33 or 34 does seem a bit sad." The DCN has relaunched a Single Women section on its website and released a leaflet entitled: Dear Would-Be Single Mum.

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Comments

[LordMoon]

Life is not about just getting what you want, children have needs that are seperate from their parents.

Giving to their children is what good parents do.

Taking from children is what bad parents do.

Children, especially young ones can have very intense needs. Don't expect to drop them off at a therapists office, and make it ok, when those needs interfere with you getting what you want.

[AZAcct]

The picture for this topic is not appropriate and inaccurate­...

Bridget Moynahan is not one of the women this article talks about--the women who want to/prefer to have children on their own.

I quote from an interview:

"The first thing Bridget Moynahan did when she returned home from the hospital last August with her newborn son, John, was cry. Uncontrollably.

She had dated Brady for three years, but in February 2007 she found herself in a complicated situation. She was three months pregnant with his child but no longer in a relationship with him. Though she says, “There’s no reason why my son years down the line would need to read anything [personal] about his mother or his father,” it’s common knowledge that Brady has since moved on with Brazilian supermodel Gisele Bundchen, 27. Meanwhile, Moynahan is raising her son alone (though Brady does spend time with Jack).

“When you’re suddenly pregnant and no one is standing by your side, even if you’re in your 30s, it’s a hard conversation. I’m a traditional girl, and I believe in marriage, and I just always thought that’s the way I’d be doing this,” she says. “For a moment, it was hard for me to accept that this was the way I was going to have a family.”

http://www.celebitchy.com/12187/bridget_moynahan_talks_about_being_a_single_mom/

[Triangle1]

With a 50-60% divorce rate, we already have a lot of single parenting going on. Most people who divorce don't continue living under the same roof. So you have kids who are pretty much raised by one parent. Or a step parent. With visits or trading off with the ex spouse. In other words, about half our children are already living through this kind of experience. I'd rather see kids being raised by people who want them, than see kids that are the result of an "accident" who make terrible parents. http://mespace.wordpress.com

[ofcoursejesusisblack]

If you are willing to adopt and bring a child into your life then I say go for it! Donor insemination, on the other hand for a woman who thinks "it's time" or "entitled" is one of the most selfish things you can do. These women obviously are thinking only of themselves. Ask any single mom and they'll tell you that it's no picnic in the park. To willingly put your child in this situation is recklass at best. There are countless children that are waiting to be adopted. I urge any woman who is considering the selfish option of choosing to be a single parent through donor insemination to reconsider and adopt a child that is already here .

[mamalove]

sure, adoption is a wonderful thing, if you want to do it. who are you to judge whether a woman wants to have her own biological child? so, you think all those men out there who have left the mothers of their children for whatever reasons, are reckless? i agree!! but the women, who stick around and raise the children, they are not selfish. and neither is the woman who saves herself alot of dissapointments by choosing to do it on her own in the first place.

[LillianB]

Would you say the same thing to a couple aiming for a child?

[FZliveson]

Good luck when the going gets tougher.
Nice and fine when you are rolling in security.
The banks are failing and the Bubberment is taking over
Gonna be tough times for single moms...tou­gher, I mean.
No charm in being neurotic and it doesn't help the young'ns either