4 Essential Traits Of Good Friends

There's no denying that our friends have a tremendous impact on our lives. Good friends make the good times even better, and the bad times more bearable. We learn and grow by sharing our thoughts and experiences with them. You could say that a life without friends is no life at all.

And yet, our need for friendship also creates a big risk. By befriending the wrong people, we invite chaos and confusion into our lives, possibly derailing our personal growth. Remember that you need to choose your friends carefully, allowing the good people into your inner circle while keeping your distance from those who would be harmful. Here are some important traits to look for in a good friend.

They're generally positive.

While everyone has their ups and downs, a good friend will be positive most of the time. You really don't want a "project," someone who's going to suck all the life force out of you with their constant negativity. Friends should benefit from being with each other, and let their positivity rub off on each other.

Life is short, and you don't have time to save everyone from negativity while dragging yourself down in the process. And this goes both ways. In order to be a good friend, you need to be positive as well. Both of you should make the other feel better about themselves and life in general.

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Comments

[Soulfully_Yours]

Utter crap! A friend is one who is not afraid and backs out at crucial times. It's those times of trouble/ sadness that one is in need of warmth/care. Are you afraid to give?? What is the big deal? You will receive bountiful..If my friend were feeling sad / was in distress and was constantly negative I would delve further and seek some help. It doesn't matter if its a draining process. The important thing is that she/ he's getting help..Later when things stabilize you'll have your friend loving you for not deserting them..Put yourself in their shoes..If you were highly negative for some reason and you are clueless about what the problem is..and your 'so called' friend deserted you..wouldn't you call that friendship 'pseudo'?? There are good times and bad times and people who stick through both are your true friends..rest are all these nonsensical people you call 'friends'..

These theories are doing a lot of rounds these days...Ensure that your inner circle is filled with positive people and not negative people..etc..Why are they negative? What is the problem?? Its alright to go out of your way and help...if you are so sensitive then you really need to grow up..One cannot always live in a fictitious paradise..Balance it with pragmatism...

[Dkilmon]

I highly disagree with this article. I don't think you can just classify what a good friend is. It really depends on you, and how you see things. I would never trade my friends for some kind of overly-positive naive fools who try to go through life thinking the world is beautiful and all that stupid stuff. Being negative is a lot of fun when you have the right sense of humor.

[DaObamaMama]

Oh how that picture of Balki Bartokomous brings back memories!!! I loved the show Perfect Strangers show much. Remember the good ole' nights of pizza and pop and TGIF?

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A heartwarming video Democrats and Republicans alike should see.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4iIYRZWBd9Y

[stayinsouth1981]

My husband has become my best friend. There is a Santa Claus~

[kc7999]

If only Larry had picked Balki as his running mate instead of that Jane Byrne, he would have won back in '88.

[gbcinques]

my fave friend quote...
A friend helps you move - a real friend helps you move a body. ;-)

[Mother77]

My best friend cries alot but I think she's an amazing woman anyway. She has accomplished a lot in her life and overcome disasters. She is there for me and I am there for her. A best friend does not fit any list.

[Eric8869]

I guess I don't have any friends by those requirements. damn

[commentguy1234]

Now, cousin, we do that Happy Dance.

[Airball01]

It's called the Dance of Joy!