Bill Murray: Divorce Was "Devastating"

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JAKE COYLE | 10/ 7/08 06:43 PM | AP

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NEW YORK — The deadpan and depressed characters Bill Murray has specialized in portraying as an actor in recent years have always stood in contrast to the life-of-the-party guy he is in real life _ whether on a golf course or shuttling people around downtown Stockholm in a golf cart, as he did last year.

But Murray said he identified anew with those characters _ like the dour Herman Blume in "Rushmore" _ when his wife of nearly 11 years filed for divorce in May. In the papers filed by Jennifer Butler Murray, she alleged that Murray abused her and was addicted to alcohol and marijuana.

"That was devastating," Murray said. "That was the worst thing that ever happened to me in my entire life."

Though the freshness of such a wound would keep many Hollywood stars far away from the press, Murray, 58, came to New York from his home upstate to help publicize "City of Ember," a film opening Friday in which he co-stars along with Saoirse Ronan, the young star of "Atonement," and Tim Robbins.

About a city forged underground because of environmental destruction on the earth's surface, it's a kind of somber, underworld "Jetsons" _ and a clear metaphor to contemporary concerns. Murray plays the city's mayor, a lackadaisically corrupt but popular figure.

Though not as substantial as some of Murray's best roles _ Bob Harris in "Lost in Translation," Don Johnston in "Broken Flowers," Phil Connors in "Groundhog Day" _ it's still a typically lively, self-aware performance; you expect him to wink to the camera at any moment.

The film was shot in Belfast, Ireland, before the divorce, which was made final in June. The months after have been ones of depression for the comedian. The court decided that the couple's four children will live with their mother, while Murray has visitation rights and will pay child support.

In a forthright and emotional conversation, Murray rarely struck a tone of bitterness about the break-up, but rather spoke with watery eyes of a tremendously painful summer trying to reconcile himself to the divorce.

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"I was just dead, just broken," he said.

"When you're really in love with someone and this happens _ I never had anything like this happen," he said. "It's like your faith in people is destroyed because the person you trusted the most you can no longer trust at all. ... The person you know isn't there anymore."

Murray said his lowest point came a few weeks ago. When friends asked if he wanted to participate in an air show to support the Illinois United Service Organizations (Murray grew up outside Chicago), he accepted the skydiving invitation.

"They asked me on a day I didn't care," said Murray. "I didn't even care if there was a parachute. Of course, by the time I got there I had had a few good days and I thought, `What am I doing?'"

But Murray said he's begun building himself back up, and one of the first steps was coming out to discuss "City of Ember" _ and even attend the premiere, "which is a nuisance," he said with characteristic deadpan.

"I've had a great deal of success in life _ not just money or fame or anything like that _ I just feel like I've done well in many areas of life," said Murray. "I've learned how to live and I think I've learned things about living. It's almost like: `OK, you learned that much, now let's try this. Let's see how you can do if this happens to you.'"

Murray is famously difficult to get in touch with for a film. He doesn't have an agent or a publicist and in the past, filmmakers have had to leave a message on a voice mail, which Murray checked infrequently. He has joked that entire careers have been launched on the parts he's turned down.

"City of Ember" director Gil Kenan ("Monster House") said getting the script to Murray "was not an easy prospect."

"There are so many stories out there, most of them horror stories, about getting (Murray) to work on films or of his on-set demeanor, but I have to say ... he had a real gung-ho attitude," said Kenan.

What drew Murray to the script when he received it was its writer, Caroline Thompson, who adapted Jeane Duprau's book. Murray met Thompson ("Edward Scissorhands") years ago and says "she works on a higher level than the rest."

"From my perspective, he's in a place where he's more open to things than he may have been in the past," said Kenan. "There's a lot in him. We've seen aspects of that on the screen now that he's had a career, but I actually feel like there's a lot more there that hasn't been seen."

Two years ago, Murray said he had taken to Jay-Z's idea of "retirement," meaning people might generally consider him out of the game but he could nevertheless continue to work here and there.

After the divorce, though, he's rallying to dedicate himself more fully.

"I've just come out of a sort of doldrums and I feel like I want to go," he said. "I want to work. I want to get going. I want to do a few things at once. I really want to connect with other people that are going that way and `Let's go'... I want to bounce off like a pinball. Like a pinball, I want to bounce off bumpers that are positive. I want to bounce off people that are positive and hope that'll make me more positive and give me momentum."

Earlier this year, Murray shot his third film with Jim Jarmusch, a thriller filmed in Spain titled "The Limits of Control." He also worked again with Wes Anderson ("Rushmore," "The Royal Tenenbaums") doing a voice for the animated "The Fantastic Mr. Fox."

His "City of Ember" co-star Robbins, who directed Murray in his 1999 film "Cradle Will Rock," recently asked him to be in his latest directorial effort. Said Murray: "I'll throw in."

The writers of "The Office" have been hired to pen a "Ghostbusters III," which Murray thinks could offer a fresh take on the films, the second of which he (and many others) found disappointing.

"If I could get through this in a powerful way, I feel that I have even more potential to do something," said Murray. "I think I'd be working on a higher level. It'd be great to achieve, to do the art that I thought I was always capable of _ something that really, really affects people and grabs them and makes them feel and become alive."

"I've tried to lighten it for people. I know how hard it is," said Murray. "There's a lot of goodwill out there for what I've done. And I didn't really appreciate it so much before. I really appreciate it now."

(This version CORRECTS 14th graf to "now," sted "not" in quote `... now let's try this.'. AP Video.)

NEW YORK — The deadpan and depressed characters Bill Murray has specialized in portraying as an actor in recent years have always stood in contrast to the life-of-the-party guy he is in real lif...
NEW YORK — The deadpan and depressed characters Bill Murray has specialized in portraying as an actor in recent years have always stood in contrast to the life-of-the-party guy he is in real lif...
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Ghostbusters, Caddy Shack, Life Aquatic, STRIPES! This guy has left a mark, and at 58 years young I think Mr. Murray is going to leave us laughing (and occasionally crying) for a long time to come. Be the (pin)ball Mr. Murray, be the ball. And may you have many many replays.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:39 PM on 10/09/2008
- MARTYB I'm a Fan of MARTYB 8 fans permalink

Must be a cultural thing, never thought he was funny, even when he was on SNL. As for his acting he
is "OK" but from the comments you might think this guy was a" world class actor". I just think he was
VERY lucky to have a career at all.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:19 AM on 10/09/2008
- avraamjack I'm a Fan of avraamjack 21 fans permalink
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What is your culture ?
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    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:26 AM on 10/09/2008
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OMG, he is funny as hell. Todd on SNL, the lounge singer on SNL, Ghostbusters, yet he did Lost in Translation on top of all that, the guy is terrific. Sorry he suffered.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:14 PM on 10/09/2008
- wordvarc I'm a Fan of wordvarc 29 fans permalink

Been there Bill.

Shock, denial, idealization, anger, and moving on are the stages.

Take your time. You feel alone but you are not alone.

Acknowledge but don't chase your shadow,

If it doesn't kill you it will make you stronger.

If you can feel it and talk about it you'll get through fine.

Godspeed.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:33 AM on 10/09/2008
- tchristin I'm a Fan of tchristin 12 fans permalink

Clap your hands together Bill and chant "it just DOESN'Tmatter"... "it just doesn't MATTER" .. "it JUST doesn't matter..." (Meatballs - for all you Bill Murray fans)

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:13 PM on 10/08/2008

Bill is definitely charming. He gives the sense in all his recent roles of wisdom learned the hard way, which is probably not too far off the mark. "The Life Aquatic" is so moving to me for so many reasons, not the least Bill's humanity in the role, warts and all. Go Bill! and long may you last!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:36 PM on 10/08/2008
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"I'm *a* god, not *the* God.

At least I don't think I am...."

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:03 PM on 10/08/2008
- kwright I'm a Fan of kwright 9 fans permalink

I usually do not comment on this sort of topic but I have had a lifelong crush on Bill Murray. All my friends just don't get it. I find him irresistible, and yes, handsome. It must be part of his charm and unassuming personality. He is so funny and manic.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:26 AM on 10/08/2008
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I get it. He also has something of a Richard Burton aspect to him. I think he is a marvelous actor and loved his version of The Razor's Edge. Been a great fan of his from day one.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:36 AM on 10/08/2008
- Puller58 I'm a Fan of Puller58 9 fans permalink

This too shall pass.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:00 AM on 10/08/2008
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"Oh, it's not the speed really so much, I just wish I hadn't drunk all that cough syrup this morning."

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:26 AM on 10/08/2008
- dac253 I'm a Fan of dac253 23 fans permalink
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He may be Bob Wiley, Phil Conners, or Carl Spackler; but to me, he will always be the Zissou. I don't think he was acting in that movie.

God bless Bill Murray.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:12 AM on 10/08/2008

I've enjoyed so many movies with Bill over the years and even though The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou wasn't overall a great movie the scene with him dancing in his wetsuit to the music piped into his helmet still makes me laugh hard. His career is filled with funny lines and perfect timing and flashes of brilliance.

I don't know if what his x-wife says is true or not and I'm not about to judge him for that when I don't know anything about his personal life. I do hope he gets better and is able to move on and do some wonderful movies again. He has made many movies over the year I really enjoyed and I really want him to make more.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:12 AM on 10/08/2008
- darthdarcy I'm a Fan of darthdarcy 48 fans permalink
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If your not bitter Bill and only heart broken, you got off easy...

Consider yourself lucky..

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:59 PM on 10/07/2008
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Hey Bill

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:09 PM on 10/07/2008
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I've met famous people before, but the day I met Bill Murray at King & The Bear....all I could do was grin & say "water!" (they were teeing off at a hole with a big water trap)

I was truly star struck. Couldn't talk. He's THAT cool.

I usually blow by these kind of personal stories about celebrities but I decided to comment & show my support to him & his new work. With my biggest grin, I say to Bill Murray "Godspeed...go be the damn pinball".

:)

P.S. and BTW...if you could uh Bill...could you uh....pull some strings and bring back those Asian taco's over at the Caddy Shack? I'd be very much obliged...lol - man, I DREAM about those things. The delicious spicy chicken wrapped in crisp lettuce with cellophane noodles...holy sh*t those were good.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:08 PM on 10/07/2008
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Cool.
( He was my favorite in the remake of The Christmas carol renamed "Stooge" ---)

Except for the Elephant movie.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:52 PM on 10/07/2008
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Stooge....lol

I know you meant Scrooged, but that's okay. The elephant movie was "Larger than Life"

I'm particularly fond of "The Life Aquatic with Steve Zissou" and his other films with Director Wes Craven, but I'd like to see him work with Harold Ramis again. They're great together and I think everybody would love to see another Ghostbusters.

We just need his comedy any way we can get it - we need ALL the comedy we can get these days (ifyaknowwhatimean)

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:11 PM on 10/08/2008
- Topfeeder I'm a Fan of Topfeeder 34 fans permalink

Try P.F. Chang's. They are good too.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:06 PM on 10/08/2008
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Years ago i read an interview with Murray... i suppose in Rolling Stone? In it he speaks of living in his mother's house at one point and being depressed. He suggested he surrvived it by taking long walks through Chicago with his mom's little Cairn terrier. I recommend it. I prescribe it. Walking with a little dog is the perfect antidote to self-absorbed humors. There is a cairn terrier pup out there, somewhere, waiting for you, Bill!

Prayer wheel spinning for the darling Murray. May he find his zen center so obvious to all but himself.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:49 PM on 10/07/2008

I remember seeing Bill at Second City sometime in the early 70's and he has been memorable in every role since. We all have complicated lives and none of us are perfect, but read the book Guru: My Days With Del Close....Close described Bill as a most giving and kind person. Best wishes to you Bill.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:13 AM on 10/09/2008
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