I'm in a seven-year relationship with a guy I care about deeply. We own a home together, get along very well, and have a safe, stable relationship. The problem is that our relationship feels platonic, and to me, unsatisfying. I'm thirty-two and he's thirty-eight, but we only have sex about three or four times a year. When we kiss, it's like I'm kissing my brother. I work out and take care of myself, but he doesn't seem to notice my efforts at all. We hardly ever do anything social together.