Obama's Grandmother Dies At Age 86

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First Posted: 11- 3-08 04:36 PM   |   Updated: 12- 4-08 05:12 AM

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***Scroll down to the bottom of this article see John and Cindy McCain's statement on the death of Barack Obama's grandmother:***

Barack Obama's grandmother, whose personality and bearing shaped much of the life of the Democratic presidential contender, has died, Obama announced Monday, 1 day before the election. Madelyn Payne Dunham was 86. Obama announced the news from the campaign trail in Charlotte, N.C. The joint statement with his sister Maya Soetoro-Ng said Dunham died peacefully late Sunday night after a battle with cancer.

They said: "She was the cornerstone of our family, and a woman of extraordinary accomplishment, strength, and humility. She was the person who encouraged and allowed us to take chances."

Obama learned of her death Monday morning while he was campaigning in Jacksonville, Fla. He planned to go ahead with campaign appearances.

The family said a private ceremony would be held later.

Last month, Obama took a break from campaigning and flew to Hawaii to be with Dunham as her health declined.

Obama said the decision to go to Hawaii was easy to make, telling CBS that he "got there too late" when his mother died of ovarian cancer in 1995 at 53, and wanted to make sure "that I don't make the same mistake twice."

The Kansas-born Dunham and her husband, Stanley, raised their grandson for several years so he could attend school in Honolulu while their daughter and her second husband lived overseas. Her influence on Obama's manner and the way he viewed the world was substantial, the candidate himself told millions watching him accept his party's nomination in Denver in August.

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"She's the one who taught me about hard work," he said. "She's the one who put off buying a new car or a new dress for herself so that I could have a better life. She poured everything she had into me."

Obama's nickname for his grandmother was "Toot," a version of the Hawaiian word for grandmother, tutu. Many of his speeches describe her working on a bomber assembly line during World War II.

Madelyn and Stanley Dunham married in 1940, a few weeks before she graduated from high school. Their daughter, Stanley Ann, was born in 1942. After several moves to and from California, Texas, Washington and Kansas, Stanley Dunham's job landed the family in Hawaii.

It was there that Stanley Ann later met and fell in love with Obama's father, a Kenyan named Barack Hussein Obama Sr. They had met in Russian class at the University of Hawaii. Their son was born in August 1961, but the marriage didn't last long. She later married an Indonesian, Lolo Soetoro, another university student she met in Hawaii.

Obama moved to Indonesia with his mother and stepfather at age 6. But in 1971, her mother sent him back to Hawaii to live with her parents. He stayed with the Dunhams until he graduated from high school in 1979.

In his autobiography, Obama wrote fondly of playing basketball on a court below his grandparents' 10th-floor Honolulu apartment, and looking up to see his grandmother watching.

It was the same apartment Obama visited on annual holiday trips to Hawaii, a weeklong vacation from his campaign in August, and his pre-election visit in October. Family members said his grandmother could not travel because of her health.

Obama and his grandparents:

Madelyn Dunham, who took university classes but to her chagrin never earned a degree, nonetheless rose from a secretarial job at the Bank of Hawaii to become one of the state's first female bank vice presidents.

"Every morning, she woke up at 5 a.m. and changed from the frowsy muu-muus she wore around the apartment into a tailored suit and high-heeled pumps," Obama wrote.

After her health took a turn for the worse, her brother said on Oct. 21 that she had already lived long enough to see her "Barry" achieve what she'd wanted for him.

"I think she thinks she was important in raising a fine young man," Charles Payne, 83, said in a brief telephone interview from his Chicago home. "I doubt if it would occur to her that he would go this far this fast. But she's enjoyed watching it."

Stanley Dunham died in 1992, while Obama's mother died in 1995. His father is also deceased.

When Obama was young, he and his grandmother toured the United States by Greyhound bus, stopping at the Grand Canyon, Yellowstone Park, Disneyland and Chicago, where Obama would years later settle.

It was an incident during his teenage years that became one of Obama's most vivid memories of Toot. She had been aggressively panhandled by a man and she wanted her husband to take her to work. When Obama asked why, his grandfather said Madelyn Dunham was bothered because the panhandler was black.

The words hit the biracial Obama "like a fist in my stomach," he wrote later. He was sure his grandparents loved him deeply. "And yet," he added, "I knew that men who might easily have been my brothers could still inspire their rawest fears."

Obama referred to the incident again when he addressed race in a speech in March during a controversy over his former pastor, the Rev. Jeremiah Wright. "I can no more disown him than I can my white grandmother," he said.

Dunham was "a woman who loves me as much as she loves anything in this world but who once confessed her fear of black men who passed her on the street."

Still, much of who Obama is comes from his grandmother, said his half sister.

"From our grandmother, he gets his pragmatism, his levelheadedness, his ability to stay centered in the eye of the story," she told The Associated Press. "His sensible, no-nonsense (side) is inherited from her."

Madelyn Lee Payne was born to Rolla and Leona Payne in October, 1922, in Peru, Kan., but lived much of her childhood in nearby Augusta.

She was the oldest of four children, and she loved to read everything from James Hilton's "Lost Horizon" to Agatha Christie's "The Murder of Roger Ackroyd."

Dunham and her husband were "vicious" bridge players, according to her brother Jack. After retirement, the two of them would take island cruises and do little but play bridge and a more difficult version called duplicate bridge.

Associated Press Writer Nedra Pickler in Charlotte, N.C. contributed to this report.
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Statement by John and Cindy McCain on the death of Barack Obama's grandmother:

ARLINGTON, VA -- Today, U.S. Senator John McCain and Mrs. Cindy McCain issued the following statement on the passing of Barack Obama's grandmother, Madelyn Dunham:

"We offer our deepest condolences to Barack Obama and his family as they grieve the loss of their beloved grandmother. Our thoughts and prayers go out to them as they remember and celebrate the life of someone who had such a profound impact in their lives."

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this is the one that was a typical white person right?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:01 PM on 11/05/2008

Don't you know this wonderful woman at one point in time in little Barack's life looked into his eyes and told him that he could be anything he wanted to be...even the President of the United States.
I cried yesterday when I heard during Hardball that she had passed. It was so very sad.
She did a wonderful job. She was an amazing mother, grandmother and mentor.
I am so excited. I can feel it in the air. The weather is beautiful and the sense that something great is going to happen is all around.
When I saw Obama and Michelle voting this morning with the girls, I just thought...­.WOW...thi­s is really happening!!!!!!
And that little Sasha....girl...she is going to need her own security detail!!!!! She is little pistol!!!!!!! It will be refreshing to have that spirit and youth in the White House again showing the promise of tomorrow if we are willing to tackle today!!!!!
Obama2012......

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:16 PM on 11/04/2008

shellyamber...your words made me cry. Tears of sadness...­joy...fait­h and praise to a wonderful woman who guided a little boy.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:47 PM on 11/04/2008

We love you Toot. You have put country first not only when you worked on the assembly line during WWII but in your sacrifices to raise a wonderful family. God bless you Toot. Our prayers of comfort are with your family. We wish we could have given you one more day here on Earth to be with your grandson today but we know you have to best seat to watch all the festivities.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:08 PM on 11/04/2008
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My thoughts and prayers are with Senator Obama and his family. My dad died yesterday too, and he didn't have a chance to cast his ballot for him (Dad was an "Obamacan"), so right now I'm feeling a lot of kinship and empathy with our future president. Toot is watching from the other side, with his parents and grandfather, and smiling.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:20 PM on 11/04/2008

Rest in peace Toot...My heart goes out to the Obama family. Like everyone, I wished that Obama's grandmother would've have seen her son make history tonight.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:44 AM on 11/04/2008
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A week ago my beloved husband went to the doctor and the plan was to go vote after the appointment well he had to go straight to the hospital, so we got him an absentee ballot. Last Thursday he filled it out, 3 hours later he passed away.

He like Barack's grandmother will not be able to share in the joy of seeing Barack lead this country to a new beginning.
He gave to Barack and Barack will continue giving back to his family and grandchildren.

Take the time to vote today no matter what.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:37 AM on 11/04/2008
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I am so sorry about your loss Blue. I am happy that your beloved hubby was able to get in his vote and that it will be counted.

My thoughts and prayers are with you

~madeofsteel

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:51 AM on 11/04/2008
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Thank you

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:44 PM on 11/04/2008
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This is obviously a major loss for their family.

However, the circumstances of her passing (on the eve of the election, no less!) is somehow, in a strange way, a further indication that Obama is walking with destiny right now.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:23 AM on 11/04/2008

I grew up in Wichita Kansas and am familiar with the values of the people of this state. We are conservative and usually Republican, but we're not stupid. Most of my friends here are voting for Mr. Obama. He feels comfortable to us - probably because of Toot. Thank you, Ma'am, for your gift to our country.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:16 AM on 11/04/2008
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Rest in peace Toot. Your work here is done. Your daughter was a wonderful woman, and your grandson will become the first black president of the US on January 20th. And even without that historical bit he will be a great president, because he is a genuinely good person.

Thank you for what you have given this world.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:14 AM on 11/04/2008

Forget Chicago, "Toot" is going to have the best-seat-­in-the-hou­se to watch Barack become President tonight: Sitting in God's lap, enjoying the festivities.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:30 AM on 11/04/2008
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Both Stan and Toot Dunham were raised with the same rock solid Kansas values I was. Work harder than you have to for the common good. Respect your neighbor, even though they may not be like you. Find the face of God in everybody. Never think more of yourself than is proper. Your job is to care for those who have it harder than you have. Care for those in need. Do not flinch from your lot, even when it is more difficult than you thought. Make the best of what you have. Accept life for what it is- not for what you want it to be. Do your job to the highest ability you possess. Never ever quit striving till the last dog dies.
The same values were instilled into my sister and I, by my Parents, who still live in rural Jefferson County Kansas, by our Grandmothers, New Deal Democrats, who helped raise us both. And from their Parents and Grandparents.They came from a time and place where your neighbors were few and far between and you depended on them for your very life.
These are Pioneer values. They are part of what made America great.
You can see it in Barack. I believe she influenced him more than anyone.
Toot Dunham is gone now. But her work lives on in our next President.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:27 AM on 11/04/2008

Deepest sympathies to the family.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:27 AM on 11/04/2008

He should have stayed with her until the end ...he will win the election and those moments are irreplaceable. He lost the chance to be with his mom at her death and now he has blown another opportunity. Proof that politicians sell their souls to get what they want.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:11 AM on 11/04/2008
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What would John "Country First" McCain have done?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:16 AM on 11/04/2008
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Rethugs like you are the reason Obama will win. People are tired of nastiness in their body politic. Reasonable Republicans are leaving the GOP in droves. Wake up and smell the aroma of Change!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:18 AM on 11/04/2008

Hello? Anybody home? When my grandmother was dying I was working on my first big movie - something I had been working towareds many years - I flew home for 3 days; at the third day she said, thank you for coming. Now, go back to you life and what you need to do.

Why wouldn't Obama's granny have said something to him... she's watching all this - don't you worry about that.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:22 AM on 11/04/2008

Again, please leave well enough alone.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:27 AM on 11/04/2008

Relax, she's in Heaven, making sure McCain doesn't steal the election!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:31 AM on 11/04/2008
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i know what i want to call you but i will say ...Senator ,,,Obama condolences from my family to yours ...My husband and i prayed that your grandmother would see November 5th ...we were very sorry to hear of her passing...may she rest in peace knowing what she has given all of us

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:10 AM on 11/04/2008

Rest in peace, Toot, after a life well-lived. May God hold you in His arms, and may He comfort Senator Obama and his family.

I am so grateful to see kind comments here. Last night I read Tapper's blog on ABC and saw that Tapper personally posted mean-spirited remarks about Sen. Obama in the context of reporting Obama's tribute to his grandmother while in NC.

What kind of person would travel on Obama's plane for months, only to slap him across the face at the end of the post with the words: "It was the most emotional and, well, human I've ever seen Sen. Obama, who can be affable but also can also have his coolness sometimes seem downright chilly"? What kind of person so utterly lacks social grace that he can't keep his criticism to himself for the one post that simply called for sympathy?

Wretched man! McCain was gracious. Tapper could not find a shred of kindness in his heart -- and naturally, it set off his nasty readers. Simple courtesy, appropriate social behavior, seems to be beyond his understanding. It's people like him who are responsible for the erosion of our public discourse.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:49 AM on 11/04/2008
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Barack's grandmother's death seems untimely....one day before his big day. But she was called home to dispatch the Angels to surround her grandson to protect him from this day forward. She is watching and went peacefully knowing that he is going to be fine.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:01 AM on 11/04/2008

Nope, it's perfect. If she couldn't make it to Chicago, she'll watch him win from Heaven!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:33 AM on 11/04/2008
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I can hear God saying, "Well-done, my good and faithful servant, come up higher." I hope her grandson is elected so she will have the best of all seats from which to view the inauguration.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:08 AM on 11/04/2008
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The republicans have been calling Barack "chilly" and "aloof" because they have trouble finding anything to criticize him on personally, yet they need something to counter the complaints of McCain's obviously bad temper. Best they can do is accuse him of seeming "unhuman" because of how difficult it is to rile him. *shrug* I take it as a compliment to Obama. "We can't p*ss him off - he's not HUMAN!!!" LOL

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:21 AM on 11/04/2008
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