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JOHN CHRISTOFFERSEN | November 12, 2008 09:19 PM EST | AP

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Peg Oliveira, and Jen Vickrey, left, kiss to seal their marriage after they were married by Appellate Judge Herbert Grundel outside City Hall in New Haven, Conn., Wednesday, Nov. 12, 2008 shortly after a Superior Court Judge ruled on the legality of marriages between same sex couple are legal. (AP Photo/Bob Child)

WEST HARTFORD, Conn. — Same-sex couples exchanged vows Wednesday for the first time in Connecticut amid cheers and tears of joy, while gay activists planned protests across the country over the vote that took away their right to marry in California.

Surrounded by red roses and smiles, Jody Mock and Elizabeth Kerrigan, who led the lawsuit that that overturned the state law, emerged from West Hartford's town hall to the cheers of about 150 people and waved their marriage license high.

"We feel very fortunate to live in the state of Connecticut, where marriage equality is valued, and hopefully other states will also do what is fair," Kerrigan said.

The Connecticut Supreme Court ruled 4-3 on Oct. 10 that same-sex couples have the right to wed rather than accept a 2005 civil union law designed to give them the same rights as married couples. A lower-court judge entered a final order permitting same-sex marriage Wednesday morning. Massachusetts is the only other state that allows gay marriages.

Gay marriage advocates said they were planning nationwide demonstrations this weekend in more than 175 cities and outside the U.S. Capitol. A Seattle blogger was trying to organize simultaneous protests outside statehouses and city halls in every state Saturday.

In New York City, several hundred demonstrators gathered Wednesday outside a Mormon Temple to protest the church's endorsement of the same-sex marriage ban in California. Several people held signs asking "Did you cast a ballot or a stone?" while other signs read "Love not H8."

"I'm fed up and disgusted with religious institutions taking political stances and calling them moral when it's nothing but politics," said Dennis Williams, 36, of New York. "Meanwhile they enjoy tax-free status while trying to deny me rights that should be mine at the state and federal level."

Michael Otterson, a spokesman for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, said while citizens have the right to protest, he was "puzzled" and "disturbed" by the gathering given that the majority of California's voters had approved the amendment.

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"This was a very broad-based coalition that defended traditional marriage in a free and democratic election," Otterson said.

Outside City Hall in New Haven, bubbles and white balloons bounced in the chilly autumn air as well-wishers cheered the marriage of Peg Oliveira and Jennifer Vickery.

Despite the roaring traffic and clicking cameras, "it was surprisingly quiet," Oliveira said after the brief ceremony. "Everything else dissolved, and it was just the two of us. It was so much more personal and powerful in us committing to one another, and so much less about the people around us."

According to the state public health department, 2,032 civil union licenses were issued in Connecticut between October 2005 and July 2008.

But there was no comparison between civil unions and marriage for Robin Levine-Ritterman and Barbara Levine-Ritterman, who obtained a civil union in 2005 and were among eight same-sex couples who sued for the right to marry.

"We didn't do it with pride or joy," Barbara Levine-Ritterman said of getting the civil-union license. "It felt gritty to be in a separate line."

On Wednesday, however, she proudly held up the first same-sex marriage license issued in New Haven as about 100 people applauded outside City Hall. She and her betrothed, who held red roses, plan to marry in May.

"It's thrilling today," Barbara Levine-Ritterman said. "We are all in one line for one form. Love is love, and the state recognizes it."

Manchester Town Clerk Joseph Camposeo, president of the Connecticut Town Clerks Association, said clerks in the state's 169 communities were advised by e-mail shortly after 9:30 a.m. that they could start issuing marriage licenses to gay couples.

The health department had new marriage applications printed that reflect the change. Instead of putting one name under "bride" and the other under "groom," couples will see two boxes marked "bride/groom/spouse."

Like the highest courts in Connecticut and Massachusetts, the California Supreme Court ruled this spring that same-sex marriage is legal. After about 18,000 thousand such unions were conducted in California, however, its voters last week approved Proposition 8, a referendum banning the practice.

Gay rights groups said Wednesday they plan to ask California voters to overturn the ban if legal challenges to Proposition 8 are unsuccessful.

Constitutional amendments to ban gay marriage also passed last week in Arizona and Florida, and Arkansas voters approved a measure banning unmarried couples from serving as adoptive or foster parents.

Gay rights advocates are citing Massachusetts as an example at planned rallies this weekend to demonstrate why gay marriage is beneficial to families and children.

"In Massachusetts, in particular, we have a great story to tell, a great story to tell about marriage equality, that it works and that it's good," said Marc Solomon, executive director of MassEquality.

Kris Mineau of the Massachusetts Family Institute, which opposes gay marriage, said planned and past protests, some of which have been angry in tone and targeted churches, are meant to intimidate the California high court into invalidating Proposition 8.

"We are a nation that goes by the rule of law," he said. "No court should ever be intimidated by mob rule. And that's what our opponents right now are trying to do."

The California vote has sparked protests and several lawsuits asking that state's Supreme Court to overturn the prohibition.

Activists also are aiming boycotts and protests at businesses and individuals who contributed to the campaign to pass Proposition 8.

Connecticut voters could have opened the door to ending gay marriage last week by voting for a constitutional convention to amend the state's constitution, but the measure failed.

Peter Wolfgang, the executive director of the Family Institute of Connecticut, a gay-marriage opponent, acknowledged that banning gay weddings in Connecticut will be difficult but vowed not to give up. He condemned the high court's decision as undemocratic.

"Unlike California, we did not have a remedy," Wolfgang said. "It must be overturned with patience, determination and fortitude."

The state's 2005 civil union law will remain on the books for now. Same-sex couples can continue to enter civil unions, which give them the same legal rights and privileges in Connecticut as married couples without the status of being married. Several states, including California, allow domestic partnerships or civil unions for same-sex couples.

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Associated Press writers John Christoffersen in New Haven, Conn., Susan Haigh in Hartford, Conn., Jay Lindsay in Boston, Marcus Franklin in New York and Lisa Leff in San Francisco contributed to this report.

WEST HARTFORD, Conn. — Same-sex couples exchanged vows Wednesday for the first time in Connecticut amid cheers and tears of joy, while gay activists planned protests across the country over the ...
WEST HARTFORD, Conn. — Same-sex couples exchanged vows Wednesday for the first time in Connecticut amid cheers and tears of joy, while gay activists planned protests across the country over the ...
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The Chaos Cloud was on hand yesterday to keep demonstrators away:

http://www.weeklyworldnews.com/headlines/chaos-cloud-covers-new-haven/

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:44 AM on 11/13/2008
- MechaMike I'm a Fan of MechaMike 2 fans permalink

Also educate your public about the lies that were told about gay marriage by the wingnuts in CA.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:31 AM on 11/13/2008
- MechaMike I'm a Fan of MechaMike 2 fans permalink

It won't be long until the wingnuts try to vote your marriages away.

Get ready and be prepared. Connecticut gays and their allies need to start making organizations and websites to counter any challenges to their marriages NOW!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:31 AM on 11/13/2008

yes MechaMike, you're right, and since i am proud of my state, i will join a organization to protect our new right!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:21 AM on 11/13/2008
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It’s ironic to live in a state that supports both gay marriage as well as the death penalty. That my state suddenly said yes ( actually a judge did ) to liberal cultural extremism, but also yes to the most primitive, reactionary facet of the state, the power to take life - albeit a heinous life - is the political contradiction of Connecticut today. As a vigorous opponent of the death penalty, I hope that my state re-abolishes it. But I doubt whether both it and gay marriage will last this otherwise enlightened state.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:02 PM on 11/12/2008
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At least we voted for Obama: 60% to 39%

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:24 PM on 11/12/2008
- vinny I'm a Fan of vinny 77 fans permalink
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look at your hosebag senator...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:32 PM on 11/12/2008
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Lieberweasel? And I actually voted for said hosebag. Oh, well...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:02 PM on 11/12/2008

Good to see courts are doing their job and protecting minority rights against the stupid, superstitious majority.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:49 PM on 11/12/2008
- aweissnet I'm a Fan of aweissnet 26 fans permalink
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I support gay marriage. I would support the death penalty if the system worked fairly and the correct person was punished (and punishment appropriate for the crime). There might be a better way to deal with some of those offenders without taxing prisons or the system--let the victims and public have a say. Same as on the bailout money. Like a democracy.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:42 AM on 11/13/2008

We were there this morning! It was great. We never thought in our lifetimes that this would happen. Everyone one was cheering, gays, straights, blacks and whites, grandparents, clergy. It was really cool. We were married in Mass. this summer and now it's recognized here. I am so proud and thankful to live in CT.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:21 PM on 11/12/2008
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Anyone know if CT has a residency requirement?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:17 PM on 11/12/2008

Check out glad.org. They have all of the laws.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:22 PM on 11/12/2008

I'm getting dizzy looking back and forth from one coast to another on this gay marriage thing. Gays must be a lot more assertive to claim their human rights in the USA. The time is obviously right and gays must stop pussyfooting around and go for it. The only ones holding gays back at this point are the gays themselves. I'm ready for gay marriage. So are many millions of other Americans.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:45 PM on 11/12/2008
- vinny I'm a Fan of vinny 77 fans permalink
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sure... but there needs to be some public debate about the ramifications of same sex marriage..­.

what about adopting children?

potentials for abuse of the law?

so it's a proposal that doesn't confer rights to gay individuals, it's a proposal that has far reaching implications for society...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:00 PM on 11/12/2008

Abuse of the law? Far reaching implications for society? What are you talking about?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:42 PM on 11/12/2008
- vinny I'm a Fan of vinny 77 fans permalink
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correction: that doesn't confer...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:02 PM on 11/12/2008
- vinny I'm a Fan of vinny 77 fans permalink
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cwap... that doesn't JUST confer..

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:03 PM on 11/12/2008
- aweissnet I'm a Fan of aweissnet 26 fans permalink
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You have not been listening to the conservative side! .. they think it is an abomination and a breakdown of American values. They call it anti-Christian.

When all arguments fail, they invoke the word "god" to wipe out any further ration or reasonable dialog.

And now they say, "public voted," it's over. I think heterosexuals perhaps should then not have a vote on gay marriage, since they're not gay,

Kind of like slaveowners voting on whether slavery should be allowed. A little slanted but biased, just the same.

Maybe like banks voting on whether they should be bailed out.

Democracy is not always democracy.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:46 AM on 11/13/2008

I think this gives a rather clear signal to up to 10% of America's best talent where they're more welcome, eh? Yay for Connecticut and Massachusetts!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:35 AM on 11/12/2008
- NWBrunette I'm a Fan of NWBrunette 61 fans permalink

Oh Happy Days!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:32 AM on 11/12/2008
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 256 fans permalink
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Remember that fights like this take a LONG time. People think women suffragests didn't appear until the 1900s, when in fact they'd been actively fighting for the vote since the early 1800s. It's just that in the 1900s they finally started getting some traction, and of course this ended in votes for women.

And it started EXACTLY the same as it did for gays. People said they were going against nature and against God. They were reviled. Thery were told they weren't respecting democracy and state rights. If we give women the vote...wha­t's next, dogs voting? Over time they made more and more headway, and now is there anyone left fighting to repeal voting rights for women?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:08 AM on 11/12/2008
- aweissnet I'm a Fan of aweissnet 26 fans permalink
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Well I think the women who switched a vote from Hillary to Palin simply because she was a woman, while totally diametrically opposed on every other possible issue--those women that voted for her (Palin), are obviously not of sound mind. They need to have their voting privileges revoked.

Well, you know, it's democracy, so that can't happen. But it should.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:09 PM on 11/13/2008
- WillCooney I'm a Fan of WillCooney 10 fans permalink
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I have yet to see a valid argument, from those who want to ban gay marriage, as to how this would negatively affect heterosexual marriages. Just what is the definition of "equality under the law"?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:44 AM on 11/12/2008
- aweissnet I'm a Fan of aweissnet 26 fans permalink
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I believe that gays need to make clear to heterosexual people (or all people) who are totally unaware what the argument is about. Married christians, believe they want "god" and society to recognize them as married, whatever that is. I could care less why they want to do it--because of spiritual beliefs, or for the legal rights. The fact is, marriage is a legal institution moreso than it is anything else, since we have laws that favor married people. If they were not favored by law, it would not be a legal issue. It is. People need to know that gays are denied those rights, forever--as long as they remain gay (or single).

Married people have (think it's like twelve to thirteen hundred) laws that favor them. This has lots to do with finances, as well as many other rights and privileges, but finances and property is big. Gay people will be denied those benefits for a lifetime.T­hings like bankruptcy, for example, a single mother (like struggling more than a married one), or a woman who lives in a partnership with another woman--will be denied the right to keep her house under homestead or bankruptcy law. That's 1 little example. ONE. And trust me, it's a huge issue. Especially in these times. Property is not protected as it is in marriage. It's not just hospital visitation, trust me.

And that's what Equality means. Gays deserve those rights, privileges, and benefits as well, and don't get them.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:16 PM on 11/13/2008
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Hotel rooms, restaurants, flowers, cake makers.
They could be helping California's economy...

Oh, well.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:44 AM on 11/12/2008
- KaLaPa111 I'm a Fan of KaLaPa111 6 fans permalink

YAYYYYYY!!!!!

I'll admit: I was a little upset over the past couple of days about some California gays blaming all Blacks for Prop 8's passage. My reaction was a knee-jerk one (i.e., "Oh so it's my fault? Well screw 'em!!") but the truth is I could never stop supporting full civil rights and marriage benefits for the LGBT community.

Stop the finger-pointing, guys! The fight continues! Rome wasn't built in a day and you and I both know that what you're fighting for is inevitable!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:43 AM on 11/12/2008
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 256 fans permalink
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Why shouldn't they have pointed that out? Like it or not, over 70% of blacks voted against Prop 8 and that's just the God's honest truth. No not ALL blacks feel this way...but apparently a majority of them do feel "Well, yes equal rights for ME...not for you"

It's important because up until now the left has been able to contend that it's nothing but old people and evangelicals who oppose gay marriage, but apparently a LARGE majority of black voters feel this way as well.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:04 AM on 11/12/2008
- bilmardre I'm a Fan of bilmardre 35 fans permalink

Blacks did not vote to deny anyone any right that they do not deny themselves. They also did not vote to attain any privilege that they do not wish for anyone else.

The fact is that many people do not approve of homosexuality. While it is nobody's business what consenting adults do in private, many people feel that granting gay marriage is basically sanctioning homosexuality. I would bet that many people who disprove of redefining the word marriage would approve of civil unions with all the rights and responsibilities of marriage.

Do not confuse blacks or anyone else disapproval of homosexuality with approval of discrimination.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:51 AM on 11/12/2008
- cblcar I'm a Fan of cblcar 6 fans permalink

Despite what the voting shows, it still is not helpful to assign blame. The black and Latino communitie are not going to join the cause if put on the defensive. The conclusion that those communities need to come to is until we are ALL treated equally under the law, "civil rights" is just an empty term. That conclusion is only going to be reached through an effort to reach out and dialogue with each other.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:55 AM on 11/12/2008
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It's not the AA community's fault that they voted the way they did, sometimes it's just that way.

I've since redirected most of my activist anger against the religious groups that pushed this through, specifically the LDS church.

Really Mormons? 43% of the money came from you guys?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:15 PM on 11/12/2008

Wow. A state that allows ALL people to be equal. How novel.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:38 AM on 11/12/2008

Mazel Tov, CT.

S*ck it, Cali's old people.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:35 AM on 11/12/2008
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Word to that.

Nov 5th made CT so much more appealing to me than CA

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:16 PM on 11/12/2008

It's 85 and sunny here today, and the Supreme Court gets the last word on Prop 8. Don't jump ship yet.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:48 PM on 11/12/2008
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