10 Questions To Ask Your Mother...Right Now

cnn.com:

As adults, so many of us don't ask enough about our mothers. (Maybe we're scared. More likely we just don't get around to it.)

Yet there's no better way to become closer to a person, even if you've known her all your life. So, after an utterly unscientific survey of friends and acquaintances, I've come up with 10 queries to get you started. Try them out this Mother's Day. You may even learn something about yourself.

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Comments

[screamingbanshee]

i spent a week with my mother in hospital before she unexpectedly died less than a week later. i asked her lots of questions, we talked a lot, and i am grateful for that...but i really wish i had seen this article last mother's day. this should be posted every year.

[nancy50]

I lost my mother 16 years ago. There are many things I wished I'd asked her, but I really, really want to know when she went through menopause and how long the hot flashes lasted.

[littlepuffycloud]

My 77 yr old mother would be all flustered and wonder why I was asking her some of these questions..
and I don't think she could ever answer some of them honestly. Nor am I sure I would want her to.
Although the last question made me tear up a little.

[tlgeiger62]

Speaking for myself, asking my mother these questions would be the WORST possible thing I could do. Not because they are not good questions but because my mother would interpret these questions as criticisms. The author is assuming the relationship between mother and daughter is an open and honest one.

NOT IN MY FAMILY it's not.

[NAPinMtPSC]

tlgeiger62 -

I understand where you are coming from. Reading all of these articles about how wonderful mothers are, how they are our guardian angels, bitter sweet memories of losing a mother and regrets about questions we never asked can be difficult for those of us who have had a different experience with our mothers.

Just giving birth does not make someone a caring and loving person. Many women, like my own mother, gave birth to children without giving it much thought, weren't interested in parenting and made it quite clear that they regretted having children.

Now in my 40's I have come to terms with this as best I can, but this motherhood myth is maybe even more damaging than the prince charming myth and I wish more women understood that not everyone is suited to motherhood. You do not have to procreate, and if you do so without giving it long hard thought you are harming not just yourself, but other human beings that you have made a conscious decision to create.

Sentimentality can be dangerous. I wish more women were completely honest about their experiences in mothering so that not having children would be a more socially accepted choice.