Elizabeth Edwards: Oprah Asks, "Are You Still In Love With Him?"

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May 5, 2009 07:37 PM EST | AP

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FILE -- In an Oct. 7, 2008 file photo Elizabeth Edwards, wife of former Democratic Presidential candidate, John Edwards, speaks during a press conference on health care in Richmond, Va. Edwards talks about her reaction to her husband's affair on "The Oprah Winfrey Show" to air Thursday May 7, 2009. (AP Photo/Steve Helber/file)

CHICAGO — Elizabeth Edwards says that whether she still is in love with her husband, former presidential candidate and U.S. Sen. John Edwards, after his admitted affair is a "complicated question."

In an episode of "The Oprah Winfrey Show" to air Thursday, Winfrey asked Edwards, "Are you still in love with him?" in an excerpt provided in advance to The Associated Press by Harpo Productions.

Edwards responded, "You know, that's a complicated question."

Winfrey also asked Edwards, "Is it a day-by-day thing?" And Edwards said, "Neither one of us is out the door so I guess it's day by day, but maybe it's month by month."

The talk show host visited the Edwardses at the Chapel Hill, N.C., home where the couple live with their children, Cate, Jack and Emma Claire. Winfrey interviewed Elizabeth Edwards about her relationship with her husband, his affair and her battle with terminal cancer. Besides the TV interview, there will be a companion piece in the June issue of "O" magazine.

A Harpo spokeswoman said the only caveat to the interview was that Winfrey could not mention John Edwards' mistress by name. Winfrey also spoke with John Edwards, though excerpts of his interview were not provided.

Elizabeth Edwards' memoir, "Resilience," is to be published this month.

In the book, Edwards wrote that her husband admitted at the end of 2006 _ soon after launching his second presidential campaign _ that he'd made a mistake with videographer Rielle Hunter on a single night. Edwards said it was more than a year later before she learned it was more than that, according to excerpts released by Time.com.

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"More than a year later, I learned that he had allowed (the woman) into our lives and had not, even when he knew better, made her leave us alone," Edwards wrote, according to the excerpts. "I tried to get him to explain, but he did not know himself why he had allowed it to happen."

Edwards said she doesn't want the affair to take over her life, just as she doesn't want her cancer to do the same.

John Edwards went public with the affair in August after the National Enquirer reported he was the father of Hunter's daughter. He has denied paternity.

Elizabeth Edwards addressed that speculation with Winfrey.

"That's what I understand," Edwards said. "I've seen a picture of the baby. I have no idea. It doesn't look like my children, but I don't have any idea."

She also described Hunter as being different from both her and her husband.

"We're basically old-fashioned people," Edwards told "O" magazine. "So, this was a pretty big leap for him. Maybe it's being so different is what was attractive."

Edwards was laying the groundwork for a presidential campaign when he hired Hunter to shoot videos of him. He said the affair with Hunter began and ended that year, although Hunter was seen on the campaign trail until the final days of 2006.

Edwards wrote in her memoir that news of her husband's affair made her cry, scream and throw up in a bathroom. She told Winfrey she had asked her husband for one gift when they were married 31 years ago.

"I wanted him to be faithful to me," Edwards said. "It was enormously important to me."

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CHICAGO — Elizabeth Edwards says that whether she still is in love with her husband, former presidential candidate and U.S. Sen. John Edwards, after his admitted affair is a "complicated questio...
CHICAGO — Elizabeth Edwards says that whether she still is in love with her husband, former presidential candidate and U.S. Sen. John Edwards, after his admitted affair is a "complicated questio...
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- Cherubim I'm a Fan of Cherubim 27 fans permalink

I'm glad John and Elizabeth Edwards have returned to
American politics. I missed them.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:49 AM on 05/06/2009

You know what? I bet their children aren't glad they've "returned" to American politics. Can you imagine children reading or hearing that their parents aren't "out the door yet" but are taking it month-by-month? That's a fine public statement -- IF YOU DON"T HAVE KIDS.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:33 PM on 05/07/2009
- ObiW I'm a Fan of ObiW permalink

1) It's extremely difficult to live with someone who has cancer. I did and it was tough. The daily grind & all the pills and doctors visits and treatments will make you crazy or even sick yourself.

2) No human being can go without water for 3 days. Substitute food for sex and you have Edwards. Yeah, he was a devoted husband/politician but it was tough on him too & no one has addressed that part of it.

3) It's difficult to have sex with someone who's vomiting, taking pills and having their hair fall out while making love/sex.

4) He needed human contact with another human being who didn't have an illness. A human being who didn't need pills or comforting. Some men just aren't good at illnesses or sickness. Some take as much as they can before they leave . . . to have sex with the another person.

5) Edwards doesn't strike me as the type to stay home to nurse Liz with with a cold, never mind cancer.
Except that he had a baby, if it weren't for that baby, I wouldn't care because the healthy partner must keep themselves healthy while the sick one continues to get better.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:10 AM on 05/06/2009
- JBCinSD I'm a Fan of JBCinSD 5 fans permalink

Oh, puhleeez, Obi. Blame the victim.

The only place you are correct is in #5 - John Edwards is a narcissist who is interested inly in his own reflection in the mirror.

You can be sure that this affair was not his first and has nothing whatsoever to do with Elizabeth's cancer. The chicky knew just how to play him - you're so wonderful, let people see the real you through my camera - and he loved it.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 02:02 AM on 05/06/2009
- Cherubim I'm a Fan of Cherubim 27 fans permalink

ObiW, I agree with you. Some people here seem to have forgotten
that John Edwards is human; or could it be that some
who post here are of another species.

" To err is human, to forgive divine."
a qote from Alexander Pope, an English poet.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:34 AM on 05/06/2009

So, did John say "Through sickness and in health... til death do us part"?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:07 PM on 05/06/2009

What kind of man would cheat on his terminally ill wife just because he lusts for a healthy sex partner? How selfish and sleazy!! I certainly want to give John Edwards more credit than that!!

I hope that John Edwards was vulnerable because he was in a lot of emotional pain as a result of Elizabeth's illness and Rielle provided a momentary escape -- not sexual, but emotional. Not that it was about Rielle and her healthy body at all but rather that it was just about the opportunity for a momentary escape that he couldn't resist because she --Rielle-- was amoral enough to pursue a married man with an ill wife.

And of course Elizabeth still loves her husband -- even though she can never respect and admire him the way that she once did -- they've had a long, loving, and successful life together and seen one another through some of the worst tragedies imaginable. They have a bond that is not easily broken. The woman is terminally ill. She needs the support of her life partner right now and he needs to be there for her.

People should just mind their own business when it comes to how Elizabeth deals with John's infidelity.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:00 AM on 05/07/2009
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I agree giselle,
People make mistakes. I do feel for Elizabeth bacause her time is numbered and she did not need this drama to make her feel worse. I dont know much about Edwards, but I hope he still loves her. Somehow when he decided to run for president regardless of his wife's health, I thought to myself, this guy is really selfish and ambitious, to put her through this when she needed more time spent with him. So I'm not sure what kind of guy he really is....
but hope for Elizabeths sake that he will behave an support her through this difficult journey she now faces, and when she is gone, he can choose another life. He also has young kids he should think of. I hope the baby is not his as this would really complicate things...what a foolish thing to do!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:15 PM on 05/25/2009
- hereinlou I'm a Fan of hereinlou 37 fans permalink

She doesn't need money.... she doesn't need to sell books... and this is a woman facing a terminal cancer....

This must somehow be an important story for her to tell... maybe some sort of legacy for her children... or maybe therapeutic.

Still, I do feel for her... she is a strong woman and mother, and anyone who has ever felt betrayal on some level should understand how hard it is to be blindsided.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:58 AM on 05/06/2009
- learntofly I'm a Fan of learntofly 221 fans permalink
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Sometimes if truth isn't laid out in black & white, it gets rewritten by word of mouth. Especially if one of the persons involved lied repeatedly to his family, through their trust to the wind, and broke the most valued vows.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:49 AM on 05/06/2009
- meko I'm a Fan of meko 46 fans permalink
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What a legacy for your children - ensuring the pubic disgrace of their father, ensuring all their schoolmates and everyone they will ever know is aware of their family's dirty laundry.

A strong mother deals with her desire for vengeance privately. She does work to make sure their children hate their father. She does not share his shame with their classmates. A strong mother could have told them the truth with dignity, "Your father had an affair. We still love each other and we love you. Even if we don't stay together, you matter more to us and want you to be happy."

Elizabeth Edwards is using the world as her therapist and putting herself first. I know how hard it is to be betrayed. I also know how hard it is to be a child of someone who's been betrayed, who insists on leaning on you and sharing everything with the world. It is not a legacy that I appreciate.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:28 PM on 05/22/2009
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Why do I feel so strongly that none of this is my business? Please explain to me why politicians and their ever-suffering spouses have to strike a pose -- or go on Oprah. Why can't they just go to their friendly, neighborhood therapist like most of the rest of us (if we can afford it)? There is no overcoming a betrayal like this and I'd like to point out that there are far more important things going on in the world -- this has a really high "ick" factor -- sorry, Elizabeth, dump the dodo and enjoy life without having to apologize or explain.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:39 AM on 05/06/2009
- merger I'm a Fan of merger 9 fans permalink

Selling books. Who knows, maybe she is trying to sell enough books that she will be financially independent of him and can kick him to the curb. She could just walk away with the legal crap of dividing assets. I am probably projecting. It is what I would do if I were in her shoes. I would promote the heck out of the book, sell movie rights, take all the proceeds and say adios mf and never look back.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:21 AM on 05/06/2009

The only thing that makes it our business is the fact that they are national public figures and so the infidelity made the news cycle with everyone weighing in on the whys and wherefores and the dump him / don't dump him debates.

So Elizabeth decided to speak her mind and set the record straight from her perspective-- which she has every right to do.

She shouldn't feel bad about anything...except perhaps believing that she could control whether or not her husband cheats. No woman can control that. She can provide all of the incentives available to womankind--beauty, affection, attention, you name it -- but in the end, a man either will control his own impulses or he will not. And many -- maybe most -- just aren't up to the challenge. Not consistently anyway...

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:24 AM on 05/07/2009

Oprah is a good venue for being able to sell books.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:35 AM on 05/06/2009
- ramal I'm a Fan of ramal 68 fans permalink
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I doubt Elizabeth Edwards wrote the book for money, the Edwards are multimillionaires and she has a terminal illness. She probably wrote it is a form of catharsis. Certainly after what she has been through she needs it.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:33 AM on 05/06/2009
- springsm I'm a Fan of springsm 51 fans permalink

It could be a catharsis. Sometimes dumping it all helps the healing. I wish her well and actually I hope they heal as a couple, but I surely don't want to see it on every gossip mongering program and magazine.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:47 AM on 05/06/2009
- merger I'm a Fan of merger 9 fans permalink

What this woman has gone through in her life--death of their son, cancer, and then the betrayal of her husband is more way more grief than anyone deserves. My goodness do I ever wish her well and much future happiness. "Bless her heart"

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:30 AM on 05/06/2009
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I totally agree, she definitely does not need the money or the publicity, but writing about something painful can be a way of healing oneself. Get the pain out and sharing it burden with the world.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:06 PM on 05/07/2009
- Jude55807 I'm a Fan of Jude55807 5 fans permalink
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Q. How Can Elizabeth Edwards find out if John Edwards fathered Rielle Hunter’s baby?
A. http://www.butasforme.com/2009/05/05/joke-of-the-week-q-how-can-elizabeth-edwards-find-out-if-it-is-johns-child/

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:53 PM on 05/05/2009
- DaisyDooks I'm a Fan of DaisyDooks 30 fans permalink
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O M G I hooted and hollered when I saw that clip. Thanks for making me laugh out loud!!!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:32 PM on 05/07/2009
- noahark I'm a Fan of noahark 3 fans permalink

Ms. Edwards how are you and John soooooooooo different
like you are the classic stand by your man politician wife that seems hellbent on humiliating your husband,and the cheating woman every chance you get
typical cheating politician husband--same script

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:33 PM on 05/05/2009
- armadillo I'm a Fan of armadillo 35 fans permalink
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Elizabeth just hit Palin level with me.

Please keep your sorid family drama inside the confines of your own home. I don't care who was doing who, why they were doing it, where they were doing it or whether it produced off spring.

Jumping Jesus!!!!!! Some decorem PLEASE!!!!­!!!!!!!!!!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:31 PM on 05/05/2009
- Promise I'm a Fan of Promise 13 fans permalink

I wonder why she is doing this....maybe it's therapeutic for her. But he has confessed and is apparently trying to walk the straight and narrow. Is all of this rehashing in the public really helpful in healing their relationship? It almost makes me feel sorry for him.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:08 PM on 05/05/2009
- Boadicea I'm a Fan of Boadicea 64 fans permalink

It's about selling a book, that's all.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:17 PM on 05/05/2009
- Cherubim I'm a Fan of Cherubim 27 fans permalink

Promise, I think this is the beginning of the "silver lining" the John and Elizabeth Edwards story.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:22 PM on 05/05/2009
- Cherubim I'm a Fan of Cherubim 27 fans permalink

Correction:
Promise, I think this is the beginning of the "silver lining" in the John and Elizabeth Edwards story.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:24 PM on 05/05/2009

Elizabeth has spoken many times about the tragedy of those that are not as fortunate as she is to have top of the game health care.Surviving Cancer in this country is totally in relation to how "rich" one is and their access to health care. John and Elizabeth were all about universal health care....and extremely lucky for all of us so is Obama. Give her a break....

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:49 PM on 05/05/2009
- Cherubim I'm a Fan of Cherubim 27 fans permalink

So much hate; so little Universal Health Care.
Watch:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z1E3vFyFN-Y&eurl

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:26 PM on 05/05/2009
- JBCinSD I'm a Fan of JBCinSD 5 fans permalink

Hate? I don't see or hear it in her.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:54 AM on 05/06/2009
- Mygirl I'm a Fan of Mygirl 6 fans permalink
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While I have empathy for Elizabeth Edwards, I am really angry when I think what this could have done to the Democratic Party had John Edwards won the primary and then to have this come out. It would have destroyed the party and John McCain would be president and Sarah Palen would be vice (Horror ). I wish Elizabeth had spoke up early on.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:24 PM on 05/05/2009
- All4ME I'm a Fan of All4ME 6 fans permalink
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Thank you for pointing that out, excellent observation, Mygirl.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:37 PM on 05/06/2009
- williamg I'm a Fan of williamg 251 fans permalink
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Both John and Elizibeth are shameless.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:23 PM on 05/05/2009
- springsm I'm a Fan of springsm 51 fans permalink


that is very harsh, williamg...and until you walk a mile in her shoes...I would be abit more cautious in my judgments, if I were you.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:48 AM on 05/06/2009
- TexasMom I'm a Fan of TexasMom 3 fans permalink

How is this good for their kids? Won't they at some point see these interviews and this will be part of their story? I'd like to think I wouldn't do that to my kids no matter how mad I was or how much money the book would make.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 10:22 PM on 05/05/2009
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