Maureen Dowd's Advice To Jenny Sanford: "Change The Locks"

The New York Times:

Stay focused, ladies. Here is The Practical Guide to Help Spurned Political Wives Survive Old Problems in the Era of New Technology.

1. Skip the press conference, especially when your husband is copping to call girls, gay pickups in airport bathrooms or "tragic" and "forbidden" telenovela-style love stories. Stoicism at the skunk's side is overrated and, as Larry Craig's wife learned, sunglasses don't help.

2. When there's an Associated Press bulletin quoting your husband saying that he has found his soul mate but he's going to try to fall back in love with you, change the locks. (At your second home, too.)

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Comments

[LoudmouthLime]

13. Run, don't walk, to the best image consultant money can buy. Mountains of money but neglected appearance does not a happy woman make.

[OneLiberalLady]

There;s betrayal and then there is BETRAYAL. Sanford has behaved like a complete jerk. Can this marriage be saved? Computer says....nah.

[ravencalling]

In my opinion Jenny has an opportunity right now called freedom. She doesn't need him. And if it were me, I would be working on keeping myself out of the public eye while ensuring that the sleeze ball had plenty of competition in his bid to fall back in love.

[medicontheedge]

throw his cheatin' as* out. change the locks. get a pitbull lawyer. don't talk to the press. let the cheater do that. just get a copy of every video and print article for the divorce trial, where you take him for every cent.

then live well! as always, the BEST revenge.

[Roxanna]

Thank You Maureen !!!

For your sound, truthful and honest advise that is not just for politicians wives but all women. I can see you are for helping them take charge of their own lives rather than being an appendage to their husbands..

It's about time women were no longer second class citizens.

[Tidyus]

I don't think he could fall back in love with her as long as she uses her children as a whip against him. 'Being a good parent is the most important thing you can do.." He might even believe that but has given up on it. I wonder if money was put forward to entice Spitzer and Sanford...Spitzer being so good at going after the bad guys and Sanford being such attractive presidential possibility. Sanford has a certain authenticity about him that, for example, you might say Romney lacks, one of the first to start attacking Sanford over this. Sanford,s failing...he really does believe in love. Many men have women all the time and the wife never learns of it.

[skippypicasso]

Sanford's failing is that he is a looney.

[RedDogBear]

"I don't think he could fall back in love with her as long as she uses her children as a whip against him. " So, let me make sure I understand this, Sanford could make the sacrifice to "fall back in love" with his wife but unfortunately he can't because his wife is using "her children" (so they aren't his as well?) as "a whip against him"? How exactly is she using the kids as a whip?

I wouldn't judge Sanford since I think private lives should be private. But the idea of blaming his wife, who I admire for not being a normal political wife door mat in all of this, the idea of blaming her is really quite amazing to me.

[MED1025]

Blaming the wife and kids for the husbands public fall from grace? They have nothing to do with it. He has destroyed his career, his credibility and his dignity all by himself

[jazzifay]

What's he gonna come up with next? A love child on the way?

[rjcrawford33]

Ah, Dowd at her wicked best: succinct, biting, funny, and languidly cynical.

[RedDogBear]

Here is the best article that summarizes why I hate Dowd: http://dailyhowler.com/dh030507.shtml

"WHEN YOU READ DOWD, YOU’RE RIDING WITH COULTER: ...But then, why should pundits criticize Coulter when she describes Dem males as big “f*ggots?” It’s very similar to the gender-based “analysis” their ... Comptesse Maureen Dowd, has long offered. In Dowd’s work, John Edwards is routinely “the Breck Girl” ... and Gore is “so feminized that he’s practically lactating.” Indeed, two days before we voted in November 2000, Dowd devoted her entire column, for the sixth time, to an imaginary conversation between Gore and his bald spot. “I feel pretty,” her headline said (pretending to quote Gore’s inner thoughts).That was the image this idiot wanted you carrying off to the voting booth with you! Such is the state of Maureen Dowd’s broken soul. ...

And now, in the spirit of fair play and brotherhood, she is extending this type of “analysis” to Barack Obama. In the past few weeks, she has described Obama as “legally blonde” ...; as “Scarlett O’Hara” ...; as a “Dreamboy,” as “Obambi,” and now, in her latest absurd piece, as a “schoolboy” ... Do you get the feeling that Dowd may have a few race-and-gender issues floating around in her inane, tortured mind? But this sort of thing is nothing new for the comptesse. Indeed, such imagery almost defines the work of this loathsome, inane Antoinette."

With "liberal" like her who needs neocons?

[WindySailor]

Whiie I can't disagree with Maureen Dowd's advice, there is more than enough in her writing and life story to demonstrate that she is a misandrist (hates men).

[barackobama4prez]

When I finally left my ex, I cut all my hair off...I needed to start fresh. It felt great.

[dutch163]

Jenny Sandford has been a class act
Dowd has some good advice
this "soul mate "stuff has been an embarassment...to her, to their kids
public humiliation
she can do better, even if it is no one!

I liked the comedian who was going to issue shirts to wives of governors that read" I'm with stupid" LOL

that said, it is Jenny's decision if she thinks she can possibly take him back and have a marriage
i would say: odds are against it

[riverhouse]

She's been a class act in public because she's been through this all before with his other 'crossings of the line'. This wasn't a surprise to her and she's been behaving as though it's all old hat to her.

Change the locks. Amen.

[Weirdwriter]

How do you know she knew exactly what he meant by "crossing the line"? If he looked, but didn't touch, had lust in his heart but didn't act on it, do you think he told her every time?

She's been behaving with a restraint that's admirable but not saintly. Change them locks, Jenny, but keep it dignified for the kids.

[SharpDressedMan]

Dowd, unsuccessful with men in her life will never understand wives who do all they can to keep a family and marriage from falling apart.

[freethinkergirl]

Markee doesn't deserve her!!!!

[theBUSHdemocrat]

Thank you for reminding me why I am single. Do you work hard to maintain a marraige, yes. Does every marraige go through rough times, yes. Do you remain with a man who continuously cheats, asks for permission to see his mistress, and announces his love for her publicly? Can I get a Hell No!

An unhappy marraige can be more devastating than a divorce. . . . had Sanford divorced his wife - this story would be null and void and his children would have been the saved the public embarassment which will never leave the memories of their peers.

[Roscheblue]

And how would you know....could it be because your own wife is a doormat? No woman deserves the kind of treatment that Jenny Sanford is receiving from a man who is her husband and the father of her 4 young sons.

[ReealOne]

Very well said!

[zanzig]

Why would they do that? It seems clear that the husband, in this case anyway, has already disengaged from the marriage. What exactly is the wife clinging on to?

[Weirdwriter]

A very narrowly interpreted set of Scriptures, would be my guess. And as the one who's invested the most, she probably finds it hard to call it loss.

[everythinginmoderation]

She would be wise to dump him.

[beaupritchard]

Notably lacking in all this was any kind of reference to "never doing it" again ...

[jalowe1957]

My advice to Jenny Sanford is this: THROW THE S.O.B. OUT!

You can always do better by yourself than being some philandering politician's appendage.

[Ellyllon]

What kind of divorce law does S.C. have? I assume it's not 'no fault.' However, if they do no fault divorce there, that might explain why she didn't bump him to the curb immediately - she's the one with the money & perhaps she doesn't want it to go in his slimy pockets.

[riverhouse]

Inherited money and assets are not marital property.

[freethinkergirl]

Unless they were comingled in joint accounts!!!! Hope she was smarter than that.

[IndependenceDame]

Take the kids on summer vacation in another country (not Argentina) so they can avoid the Governor's weekly pity party/press conference while the attorneys haggle. He didn't just cheat on Jenny. He cheated on the kids, too. It won't surprise me if after he reconnects with his soul mate, he cheats on her, if he hasn't already. Jenny, if he crawls back - crush him like a Palmetto bug. Then clean your shoe and move on.