Maureen Dowd's Advice To Jenny Sanford: "Change The Locks"

The New York Times:

Stay focused, ladies. Here is The Practical Guide to Help Spurned Political Wives Survive Old Problems in the Era of New Technology.

1. Skip the press conference, especially when your husband is copping to call girls, gay pickups in airport bathrooms or "tragic" and "forbidden" telenovela-style love stories. Stoicism at the skunk's side is overrated and, as Larry Craig's wife learned, sunglasses don't help.

2. When there's an Associated Press bulletin quoting your husband saying that he has found his soul mate but he's going to try to fall back in love with you, change the locks. (At your second home, too.)

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Comments

[NoPretenses]

Mrs. Sanford, if your first priority, as you have stated, is your children. Don't do the cliched "I will stay with my husband for the children's sake." With all that has been said and done don't use your children as an excuse to be with an unworthy husband. When they get older, they will respect you for standing on your own with pride and honor and that is the best example you can possible set.

Good luck!

[osusana]

Yesp, "staying together for the sake of the kids" often turns out to be something you do TO the kids, and not in a good way. When a third grade teacher lamented that my son was now from "a broken home", I informed her that no, I had removed the broken parts from our home and now he was in a calm, intact, single-parent home. He grew up just fine, thank you.

[beaupritchard]

This and "Chris Kelly's God is My Doorman: Mark Sanford for Non-Christians" http://www.huffingtonpost.com/chris-kelly/god-is-my-doorman-mark-sa_b_223472.html made my day today.

I could not stop smiling as I read "stoicism at the skunk’s side is overrated and, as Larry Craig’s wife learned, sunglasses don’t help "

Thanks

[dillydawg]

Attorney, Settlement, Visitation Rights. Nothing more nothing less. End it. Move on.

[jsgaetano]

She should hire security too. Her husband is a conservative- we all know how much conservatives love terrorism, so there's no telling what him or some drug crazed Dittohead might do.

[Kindheart]

Total agreement with Maureen. Mrs. Sanford, move on...your husband is a loser. And trust me, this won't be the last time he searches for his "soulmate".

[claytie]

I saw the piece (with pix) on Huffpost the other day applauding the stylishness of Mrs. Stanford's new dress. When I read "Change the Locks" and saw the photo today, I thought it was meant as a suggestion to change her rather dowdy hairdo. But that's not what Dowd intended, and alas, it's probably too late anyway.

[denicci1977]

As I said before I believe Sanford despises his wife so much that he is doing this to her publicly. He wants her to divorce him. No one in their right mind would go all out in public to say their mistress is their soul mate when they are truly sorry and trying to makes their marriage work. Jenny should take that trash out to the dumpster.

[justwaitandsee]

My 2nd Favorite:

11. Cut your losses and keep going. Don’t let yourself get dragged into his drama or your reputation may follow his down the well. Hillary refused to let that happen. She salvaged her long investment in Bill Clinton and turned a profit when she became a senator.

[KLordsha]

Question....did she plagiarize that?

[justwaitandsee]

I don't know let me ask her

[BarackMan]

Computer says......."Nooooooooooo."

(Stephanie Miller)

[justwaitandsee]

My First Favorite:

10. High-powered women like Hillary, Elizabeth and Jenny who give up their careers to focus on their husbands’ ambitions feel doubly betrayed. But it’s not your husband’s fault if you sacrifice more for the relationship than he does. Like an investor in a down market, you took a risk without a guarantee it would pay off. If you make your husband your career and you lose your husband, you lose your career, too.

[punkingale]

I haven't noticed Hillary Clinton, Secretary of State, losing HER career.

[scjk67]

jeebus, i can't get the picture out of my head of Sanford like Marlo Brandon screaming -------
" Zella...OH ZELLA!!!! "

[scjk67]

um, oooops, i meant ...."Stella.... OH STELLA!!!!!"

[NotStarvingArtist]

And surely you meant Marlon Brando, not Marlo Brandon, too.

[katcrap]

Dear Jenny Sanford,

I am sorry your husband is this type of man. Your boys need to know that you love them and that you know that their father loves them too.

Your husband has twice stood in front of cameras and told the public that he's in love with another
woman. I know it hurts but the pain will get better as time moves along.

Even if your husband pledge not to see the "love of his life" anymore, does it really matters? YES.

Yes, it matters and you need to be honest with yourself. Do you want to be with a man because he's making himself stay with his wife and kids,? Or do you want a man who is in love with you and would never put another worman over you or his children.

Of all days, your husband disappeared on Father's Day. He is now falling apart, crying on national TV that this woman is the love of his life, true love.

This is a love TKO, it's time to let it go. Divorce Mark Sanford and move on with your life !

[NotStarvingArtist]

Exactly right! What was it when he fathered four children with his wife? Was that not "true love"? Was she not his soul mate? He sounds like a teenage boy with an adolescent crush on a cheerleader. Sadly, he's just another middle-aged man having a mid-life crisis. Unfortunately, for his wife, he's having it in the brightest spotlight he could find. She should dump him as quickly as humanly possible.

[CanisLatrans]

Now is also a good time to teach your sons "don't be 'that guy'."

[SCmommy]

Amen. "that guy" sucks.

[jamie461]

If Mark Sanford goes out and buys himself a red convertible, he is officially a middle-aged cliche.

[sufi66]

There's nothing heroic or exceptional about this woman.

She's an ex-Wall Street hack who became the wife of a powerful man.

Now she still plays out the role of victim (although it appears she does it differently than the others) .

It's time for her to start sending out resumes. That's all her actions mean. No doubt, she also is angling for a book contract.

In other words, it's pure cynicism at work here.

This "couple", such as it is, has nothing to be proud of.

[RandVictims]

She should do the nasty with Dennis Kucinich to get even.