Why Girls Like Bad Boys

ABC News:

Ricky Menezes, a 22-year-old from Marlborough, Mass., says he knows he will hook up with "about 20 girls" in the next month.

How does he know this, you ask? Ricky knows this because he's what we call a "bad boy" -- the type of guy who knows exactly how to act, what to say and how to manipulate women into giving him what he wants.

New research suggests that bad boys may indeed beat nice guys when it comes to getting female attention.

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Comments

[petef59]

"Bad boys" BS-mostly copied beahvior from movies and TV where every thing is scripted, nothing spontaneous,dangerous, or 'out of the box'. If 'bad boys' existed in any real numbers, after the looting of our pensions, jobs and futures, the streets would be full demanding justice. The 'bad boys' are out on their motorcycles and pumping iron at gyms/health clubs to appear to be bad. Phuckin hilarious.

[Malkin71]

As far as the men liking bad girls...I'll say again, men like sex.

Bad girls appear to be more of a sure thing.

As far as the party with bad girls, marry good girls thing...you can't bring a ____ home to your mom. Societal pressure.

A question that would be impossible to answer would be what if we could take away the society/environment aspect of it....

Would men ever go for the good girl? I tend to doubt it...

Who knows, but I would think most women would tend to still settle down for the good of their kids.

[unbozo]

Here's a thought. Maybe women like bad boys because they are bad girls. Let's stop pretending that women aren't responsible for their own lives.

Water seeks it's own level. Birds of a feather flock together.

[RobinSeattle]

Men are bad:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u3Th3EOCh5E

[RobinSeattle]

Extroversion is a negative trait?

"A strategy of building trust and intimacy and commitment is, by nature, going to take longer. Thus, the payoffs are likely to be greater in the short term."

And nice guys finish first in this scenario just how? If you are a more sensate personality, bedding women eight to the bar for your own pleasure no matter what you have to do to pull that off rocks! And just because someone is great in bed or you have fun with them on dates doesn't mean they will be all that great to live with 24/7.

The little secret that a lot of married women won't admit is that when they marry the more boring but financially stable guy because he is a better provider for her children, in her dreams, she will hearken back to her wild times with bad boys because there was more excitement and mystery involved. Bad boys tend to be more enigmatic to them. And that boredom with the nice guy she feels often leads to divorce.

So maybe the bad boys are doing something right and nice guys are suckers.

[Brokenduck]

I am not a psychologist.

That being said, I wonder if this issue might have something to do with the hidden (and not hidden) effects of sexual abuse on girls. Case in point: I know a woman who was molested by her father as a child and she has somehow gravitated toward and now married a man who is a spit image of the father who she has hated for a very long time. He is very much the definition of the "bad boy" type.

I hate to simplify things so much, but it often scares me to think how common sexual abuse is among young girls and their relations. I have known a lot of women who were victims of this and it scares me to think that there are many more out there who can't even come to terms with what has happened in their own lives.

[RobinSeattle]

Actually, you're on to something.

Women tend to repeat in their private lives what they experienced at home with dad. So if dad wasn't emotionally available or was physically absent a lot then the daughters in those households often choose men who really aren't "there" in one way or another in the relationship.

As the male definition in the household, women are often looking for a daddy substitute and bad boys fulfill that role because they are more dominant personality types who insist on calling the shots in a relationship whereas nice guys tend to be more wishy washy in that regard. In other words, the bad boy becomes her daddy. Kinda wacked, but true.

[Dolphinfan65]

This is the reality, women want to be MOVED, by you EMOTIONALLY, then PHYSICALLY!!!, some men look great and get it QUICKER then OTHERS, BUT, if he hasn't MOVED her EMOTIONALLY, it will not last. But if he is able to do both and some how balance the two, they may get 5 to 10 years of marriage out of it and some kids!!!
Also older women want more physicality, then emotional bonding!! at first!!! but must have both to be truly happy.

[desthmoneses]

I think the opposite is also true, I see women all the time who treat guys like crap, ignore their feelings and what they want and just take what they want, and these women are always in supply of men. I think a woman could be just as successfull being a bad girl as a man can be at being a bad boy. I myself am intrested in niether one, I want a kindred spirit and a soulmate, and some one who treats me like crap will never be that person.

[Dolphinfan65]

Most men not all , stay with women like that because they are either HOT, or the sex, is great. most dump them after, the first sign of AGING!!!!

[nbb1956]

But for that matter----I think that Boys also like "Bad Girls"---must date back to some primordial instinct.

[Malkin71]

No, men like sex. Period.

If the good girls want to give it up, that's just as good...if not better...

[sunnybunny]

Thats not what I have observed. I've seen plenty of beautiful nyphomaniac doormats over the years lose out to the mean dominating type girls time and time again.

[Dolphinfan65]

Class; BAD GIRL= PUTS OUT!!
GOOD GIRL= FAMILY LIFE

[Vickster]

"When a girl goes bad the men go right after her." - Mae West.

[SparkyAdams]

I read this interesting hypothesis a few years ago about why women might prefer bad boys. For much of history, humanity has lived in tribal groups. These groups constantly raided one another--often for their women. Over time women adjusted to the fact that they were regularly kidnapped by the bad boys who had defeated their good boys. They did so by developing a preference for the bad boys.

This is called an adaption behavior.

[Kessei]

There's no evidence that raids such as you describe were at all common. In the vast majority of tribal societies which survived to the present day, raids in which women were abducted have typically been extremely rare.

Besides which, if we evolved by women regularly being raped, then don't you think that our anatomy would have evolved to make it so that women were not as physically harmed by rape? Many rape victims have lingering physiological effects which severely impact their ability to have children.

[SparkyAdams]

Well, they have developed a preference for the bad boyz.

[MerhabaAbi]

So, women like confident men who aren't afraid to step out of the herd and think for themselves. Perhaps they sense that as a trait they'd like their own children to posess. Using an example of a manipulator and calling that the standard for bad boys is misleading. Manipulators are represented in any group or caste you can find. Bad boys are more acurately defined by their lack of reverence for authority, ritual and traditional mores.

P.S. the normal counterpoint to bad boys is nice guys, not good guys

[desthmoneses]

I don't think you defined a bad boy at all, a bad boy/girl is a personality type not a belief set and they can be from anywhere, and they may not be manipulative but all of them treat you selfishly.

[rlugbill]

I'm a lawyer and I represent a lot of bad boys. They will get in a fight with their girlfriend and then she'll take charges on him. Then, he'll go to jail and then she'll feel bad and want to get back together and wants the charges dropped.

Then, they get back together and the cycle starts again. I think many women subconsciously like the drama and excitement. A conflict-free relationship seems boring to them.

But when it comes time for marriage, thinking women often opt for the nice guy because they aren't looking for drama, they are looking for stability. You need stability to raise children, not drama.

[RobinSeattle]

"I think many women subconsciously like the drama and excitement. A conflict-free relationship seems boring to them."

Bingo!

Plus the message she is sent by him is that he counts first and won't play up (submit) to her like nice guys do. Women like that alpha male behavior.

[Malkin71]

I have some advice for the "nice guys" out there who want what the "bad boy" gets....

(JUST FYI, one thing about "nice guys" is that women convince themselves that the "nice guy" doesn't want sex, he's so nice.....think again, ladies....)

DO NOT LISTEN TO WHAT WOMEN "say" THEY WANT.

Watch their actions, not their words.

Ladies, if you want a more "aggressive or confident or "manly" man....stop CLAIMING to want the opposite. Society is confusing men left and right.

Women like assertive men, because women are naturally "receptive" towards sexuality rather than assertive. That doesn't mean you have to a liar, a jerk or a rapist.

Don't ask them ten times where they want to eat, they like a man who can make decisions. I know, I know...feminism has told you that you must "respect" the woman's opinion....Fine, ask her until she makes the decision, see how much most (not all, I know, but most) women resent you for it.

Also, sometimes nice guys are slow to initiate sex, which then puts the burden on the woman to do so...and then she feels like a _____. No good. That is why they will go for a bad boy over the nice guy, they know for sure, that the bad boy will make the moves.

And, when it comes to the bedroom, pretend they are a juicy piece of meat and you are a hungry animal just let out of their cage.

[Melkor]

You speak great truth. There aren't just traits they like about bad boys. There are traits they DON'T like about "nice guys". Excessive politeness, a lack of spontaneity, a lack of sexual aggression, timidity in social settings - on a visceral level those traits tend to turn many (not all) women off.

But truthfully these are the fruits of a post-feminist, Oprah-fied world. Generations of men have grown up being told their basic nature is bad. The good news is, nature is nature. It might be buried down deep under the social conditioning but ALL men have an inner bad boy in them. They just need to set it free and stop apologising for being what they are.

[SayWhatYouWill]

Good stuff Malkin71 :) Did you learn that in Men's Health or Maxim?

[Malkin71]

I learned it in life. From real women. Who want real men, and not the load of goods feminists will sell you...

[VivaZapata]

a study to tell us that exciting is more attractive than boring. another sign of common sense's absence.

[discourse jockey]

"how to manipulate women into giving him what he wants"

Otherwise known as *seduction*, at least among the non-sexually-repressed.