Pittsburgh mom says daughter bullied into anorexia

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JOE MANDAK | 08/19/09 12:47 PM | AP

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PITTSBURGH — A woman has filed what experts believe is a first-of-its-kind lawsuit against the Pittsburgh Public Schools, claiming her daughter developed anorexia because male students bullied the girl about her weight, forcing her to leave the district.

But those experts – including the head of the National Eating Disorders Association – say linking bullying to anorexia is oversimplification, at best.

"With eating disorders, we say you're born with a gun and life pulls the trigger," said Lynn Grefe, chief executive officer of Seattle-based NEDA, who has never heard of a school being sued over such a scenario.

Generally, people who develop anorexia already have issues with anxiety, obsessive-compulsive or perfectionist behavior. Bullying could trigger anorexia in those people but not others who are taunted about their weight, Grefe said.

"The person's often a real high achiever, and if you put those people in a situation and then their world comes crashing down, they get triggered," Grefe said.

That's essentially what's described in the 10-page federal lawsuit Pittsburgh attorney Edward Olds filed Friday on behalf of an unnamed woman whose middle-school sixth-grader began to be bullied 2006-07 by three boys who called her "fat."

The girl was in a program for gifted students, made straight A's and was active in community and volunteer programs, the lawsuit said.

The lawsuit contends a guidance counselor did nothing to stop the bullying. The next year, in seventh grade, two other boys joined in the daily harassment.

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"Some other students tried to shame the boys about the conduct. However, no faculty member or other school official intervened," the lawsuit said.

By February 2008, the girl entered an inpatient treatment program for anorexia nervosa because "her weight was dangerously low."

The girl's mother contends school officials harassed her when she tried to home-school the girl, who now attends private school.

The woman's attorney didn't return calls for comment and a school attorney says only that he'll vigorously defend the district.

Although experts say they've never heard of a lawsuit alleging that anorexia resulted from school bullying, suits over school-based bullying are not new.

The lawsuit contends the school's alleged failure to protect the girl violates Title IX, an antidiscrimination law affecting any school that receives federal funding.

Title IX has most often been cited in lawsuits about disparities in the number of athletic opportunities and scholarships afforded to male and female athletes.

But the U.S. Supreme Court says peer-on-peer gender harassment also violates Title IX if the school should have stopped the abuse and a student lost an educational opportunity as a result, said Tom Hutton, senior staff attorney for the National School Boards Association.

Hutton has never seen a suit claiming school bullying caused anorexia, though Title IX bullying suits are becoming more common. "But I wouldn't say I've seen a tidal wave of them," he said.

Dr. Alberto Goldwaser, a forensic psychiatrist and expert witness on mental illnesses from New York University, cautioned against linking bullying directly to anorexia.

Goldwaser says adolescent girls with high-achieving, perfectionist tendencies are prime candidates for the disorder.

"But we cannot say that anorexia is caused by bullying or brain issues or mother-daughter relationships or any one thing," Goldwaser said.

Yet another legal expert said that focusing on the girl's anorexia misses the point of bullying lawsuits.

"Very often it's nervous orders of different kinds that are alleged in these lawsuits," said Bruce Ledewitz, a Duquesne University law professor. That this girl developed anorexia "is completely incidental."

The issue, instead, is whether the bullying "deprives the victim of an educational opportunity. That's the language that's been used in these suits all along."

PITTSBURGH — A woman has filed what experts believe is a first-of-its-kind lawsuit against the Pittsburgh Public Schools, claiming her daughter developed anorexia because male students bullied the g...
PITTSBURGH — A woman has filed what experts believe is a first-of-its-kind lawsuit against the Pittsburgh Public Schools, claiming her daughter developed anorexia because male students bullied the g...
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- maebven I'm a Fan of maebven 5 fans permalink

It's been a while since I heard about legislation written to change laws that let parents off the hook for the bad behavior of their kids. My family has been the victim of rotten kids who have gone scott free after committing expensive and dangerous acts because they were juveniles. The police could only throw up their hands.

But that's what needs to be done. Hold the parents responsible and deny their little darlings a free education if they're going to abuse it. Make them pay for damages just as they would have to do if their dog got off the leash. There are exceptions, some kids are just unable to make good decisions. But when parents are clearly guilty of not enforcing good behavior, as was the case my situations, they should pay for damages, at the very least.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:32 PM on 09/03/2009

Taking the school to court is not going to solve the behavioral problem! That is the problem with our society, we think that hitting someone in the pocket book is going to change the behavior, going to change how people act.....absolutely not. The parents and the kids, need behavioral therapy and counseling! What is causing these children to act this way? Raise a child up in a society where the biggest, the fastest, the baddest guys succeed, where MMA, Wrestling, kick bocking is praised....and you are going to get young men who feel that this behavior is acceptable. We have classes in our schools on everything under the sun, why not on behavior! What is acceptable, what is not......its evident they are not getting it at home..........

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:20 AM on 08/24/2009
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Having a class on behavior would be pointless because many parents already have behavior rules for their kids that conflict with acceptable behavior at school. You'd be horrified at the number of students I've encountered over the years who hit another kid and then say, "But my mom (or dad) said I could!"

In my experience, kids who are bullies usually have parents who are bullies.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 11:05 AM on 08/24/2009
- poster1122 I'm a Fan of poster1122 23 fans permalink

This should not be a lawsuit. Kids are mean and kids who are so inclined will find a way. That's been true since the beginning of time. Suing the school will not make a whit of difference to the bullies.

Rather than deplete even more funds from the school, if you want to hold someone accountable, let the responsibility fall onto the people most responsible: the parents of the bullies. Of course, that means that each and every one of you (heaven forbid!) would actually have to be accountable for your child's behavior!

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 01:56 PM on 08/21/2009
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 230 fans permalink
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I think the main point is that how is suing the school is going to punish the children who go there just as much as the school itself. Public schools are underfunded enough as it is.

I agree that the responsibility lies with the parents. I have friends who are teachers who talk about how difficult it is to deal with bullies, because whenever they intervened, it actually made things WORSE for the victim...the bullies became even more aggresive when the teachers weren't around, in revenge for the kid getting them into trouble.

Also, as someone who was anorexic for years, and whose anorexia manifested also due to middle school bullies (though I was already thin, and the bullying wasn't weight related), I don't think bullying causes eating disorders. I think that I would have developed an eating disorder no matter what, and that the bullying is just what happened to trigger it. If it hadn't been that, it would have been something else. I may have hated those bullies, but I don't think they made me sick.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:00 PM on 08/21/2009
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 230 fans permalink
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Agreed. Public Schools are in enough economic trouble as is. Lawsuits like this don't just punish the school, they punish all the kids who go there.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:33 PM on 08/21/2009
- poster1122 I'm a Fan of poster1122 23 fans permalink

The lawsuit approach to dealing with all of life's problems. *Rolls Eyes*

The Supreme Court never should have expanded Title IX's meaning to allow schools to be sued for student bullying. It may sound nice in principle, but it just makes the problems worse. All this does is force schools to deplete funds even further, without any clear indication that it gets any better results.

Why do I say this? Does the average grade or high schooler care if his/her school gets sued? Kids can be mean and those inclined to be will find a way. Unless you plan on posting a teacher at every hallway, watching every conversation, you're always going to have bad behavior on the part of some kids. That's life.

Here's a novel idea: rather than sue the school, maybe the fault lies with the *parents* of the bullies.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:26 PM on 08/21/2009
- sunnybunny I'm a Fan of sunnybunny 15 fans permalink
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Bullying sucks. But that said, if 5 boys all thought she was fat she probably was (a lot of kids are fat these days). Anorexia? How skinny did she become? None of this information is in the article. Obesity is a serious problem in our society today and a fat kid developing " anorexia" ? Not neccessarily altogether bad? I don't think this should be a lawsuit. I do think the girl in question needs a little extra attention and empowerment from Mom (not to look for someone to blame- but feel in control of her own fitness and confidence).

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:27 AM on 08/21/2009
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 230 fans permalink
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Anorexia is not a cure for obesity. That's like saying that crystal meth is a cure for cocaine addiction.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:31 PM on 08/21/2009
- sunnybunny I'm a Fan of sunnybunny 15 fans permalink
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Actually it would be impossible to remain obese if you were anorexic, while it would be possible to remain addicted to cocaine if one were also addcicted to meth so that doesn't exactly add up. While it may not be healthy, it could be an opportunity to learn what is.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:39 PM on 08/21/2009
- Malkin72 I'm a Fan of Malkin72 45 fans permalink
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Bullying should not be tolerated.

But think about the logistics of trying to control the behavior of an entire school full of kids...you want to SUE the school?

In the old days, I remember parents would teach their kids how to stand up to bullies, not how to SUE them.

When she gets out into the real world and her boss is mean to her, should she SUE them?

Again, the bullies should be stopped....SHOULD be....they won't ALL be stopped. You have to raise your kids tough enough to live in the REAL world.

It's tough out here.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:25 AM on 08/21/2009
- sunnybunny I'm a Fan of sunnybunny 15 fans permalink
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Exactly, she needs empowerment and confidence. That is what should be encouraged . Looking for someone else to blame does not really solve her problem.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:30 AM on 08/21/2009
- TheBlackCat I'm a Fan of TheBlackCat 230 fans permalink
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Malkin-
Not that I agree with this lawsuit....but what kind of industry do you work for where middle school bullying behavior is tolerated? In any job I have had, if anyone at my place of work behaved towards a fellow employee the way middle school bullies behaved towards me, they were fired.

I've had bosses who were hard @$$es and would yell, and you know what, I deal with them just fine....but this in no way compared to the pack of bullies who terrorized me in middle school, whose goal in life was to make me miserable.

It is NOT a normal part of adult life to have a group of people fixated on you..who follow you, threaten you, harass you, intimidate you, and do nothing but try and make your life a living hell. In what horrible world do you live in when this IS part of normal adulthood, where this behavior is tolerated?

Yes we all have to deal with mean, offensive people in life. But you should not diminish bullying by making it seem that bullies are nothing more than run of the mill "mean people."

If bullies behaved in the same manner as adults as they did then, they would be considered stalkers and their victims would have restraining orders. They would not be simply considered people with attitude problems we all have to learn to live with.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:54 PM on 08/21/2009
- ailbhe I'm a Fan of ailbhe 11 fans permalink

The school ignored a young girl being repeatedly bullied by five boys. They failed in their duty to protect a child and should face the consequences for that.

The boys should also face punishment for their actions. I can't imagine how they could not be ashamed to be so pathetic that they have to pick on a girl. What kind of culture allows boys to do that? Where I grew up a boy picking on a female would have been a target for beatings.

The victims mother should also sue the parents of these 'boys' for raising them badly. Children are not born bullies, they are raised to behave like that. The parents obviously knew that their darling boys were picking on a girl (how manly...), they thought nothing wrong with it because otherwise they would have made sure it never happened again. They were probably proud that at least their kids weren't the 'bullied'. They should be ashamed of themselves.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 06:19 AM on 08/21/2009
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Kids are very good at hiding this sort of thing from faculty. Often, all teachers have to go on is the testimony of a student or other hearsay. In our current environment, if a teacher contacts a parent because she heard that the student was bullying another kid, that teacher is likely to get sued for defamation or something. Teachers really can't act unless they actually see the bullying event, and most kids are savvy enough to avoid that.

Really, parents just need to raise their kids not to be punks. Problem solved. Then maybe school can go back to strictly academics.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:14 PM on 08/21/2009
- sunnybunny I'm a Fan of sunnybunny 15 fans permalink
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I know, the last thing I ever wanted when I was picked on was for someone to intervene adding insult to injury and further magnifying my humiliation.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:41 PM on 08/21/2009

Bullies look for emotionally vulnerable kids who they see as "pathetic" and thus deserving of torment. They consider it all to be the victim's fault.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:46 PM on 08/22/2009

"Generally, people who develop anorexia already have issues with anxiety, obsessive-­compulsive or perfectionist behavior."

As I read this in the article I wondered if the writer was really thinking about what our children face within our society as a whole. The pressure our children face in society to be achievers and excel are tremendous, we show scantly dressed women who barely weight 100 lbs on our magazines, they see how athleticism and physical beauty are esteemed. What does this do to the psyche of our children? Put that together with the peer pressure which they face within our schools, the teenage competition and it is no wonder that our daughters have the eating problems which they do. As a pediatric nurse I do not disagree that children, young ladies do have problems with OCD, bulimia, or anorexia nervosa but I do believe that we are not addressing the psychosocial contributions to these disorders.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:36 AM on 08/21/2009
- Callyson I'm a Fan of Callyson 42 fans permalink
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Bullying behavior should not be tolerated, at all. That applies regardless of the gender of the bullies and the bullied. It's not clear from the article just how aware the school officials were of what was going on, but if a school counselor was informed and did nothing (which the article seems to say) than that is a real problem and the mother is right to bring a lawsuit. If the school knew one of its students was in a hostile educational environment due to bullying and did not take appropriate steps, than that is enough reason to hold the school accountable.
I don't know that there is a direct causal link between being a victim of bullying and becoming anorexic, but that is almost a side issue in my view. I also do not know to what extent the bullies in this case were driven by sexism, as opposed to being bullies due to other issues that they may have. I definitely agree that sexism should not be tolerated in schools, but speaking as someone who was bullied in junior high by a female student, I think the link between bullying and sexism is indirect. Both ills--sexism and bullying--need to be taken more seriously and opposed more clearly by school districts. If this suit leads to progress on that front, more power to the mom and her daughter for speaking out.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 12:10 AM on 08/21/2009
- Malkin72 I'm a Fan of Malkin72 45 fans permalink
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"That it's not okay to make crude and degrading jokes in front of women."

I can agree with most of what you said, but I'm curious....why is it not ok to make crude or degrading jokes in front of women?

By omission, is it ok to do so in front of men?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 09:19 PM on 08/20/2009
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I think it's significant that this particular student was a high-achieving female being bullied by 5 male students. It seems indicative of pressure to conform to a physical standard to draw attention away from her other pursuits. Middle School is typically a key point at which girls are pressured to abandon studies in favor of conforming to beauty standards in an attempt to attract boys. It is the age when math and science grades in girls begin to fall, more than likely due to similar types of harassment and pressure from fellow students. If the school does nothing about it, it is tacitly encouraging this sort of behavior and preventing female students from remaining high achieving. In short, it is sexual harassment of the type that women endure throughout their lives in an attempt to hamstring their intellectual and professional abilities and refocus their energies on their appearance.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 04:37 PM on 08/20/2009
- Malkin72 I'm a Fan of Malkin72 45 fans permalink
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Why do they have to do that?

If she wants to pursue a life of math and science, no one is stopping her.

Right?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:59 PM on 08/20/2009
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Your privilege is showing in that comment Malkin. It is intellectually dishonest to suggest that bullying a high achieving girl shouldn't have any affect on her, especially at that age. We've all been 12, 13, 14 years old. We all know that our environments as children have huge affects on who we become as adults, and that those years are a critical age for shaping. You're asking a lot of rudimentary questions, so I'm wondering: what is it exactly that you find objectionable?

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 08:23 PM on 08/20/2009
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I'm sure a lot of people will read this article and defend the school district and try to diminish the poor girl's experience, but I can honestly say from personal, first-hand experience that bullying at school (especially at the middle school age) has profound affects on the child being bullied. When I was at that age, I was disfigured in a car accident and had to wait a couple of years before they could reconstruct my face. Even after the surgery, I was harassed and bullied non-stop and the teachers did nothing to discourage it. I fell into a severe depression, my grades fell, I began to feel suicidal, and ended up with a variety of psychological problems and had to be hospitalized, home schooled, and then sent to a completely different city for schooling because the kids would continue to bully me out of school if they saw me on the street. Teachers have an obligation to protect students from this kind of harassment. Just because it's between children doesn't mean it's harmless.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 03:15 PM on 08/20/2009
- singermuse I'm a Fan of singermuse 22 fans permalink
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The bullying doesn't stop there. Women are being bullied every day by advertisers, and the pseudo culture in general, and it's mostly men doing it, by the double standard. It was only a week or two ago that I read right here on the huff po about how men are "letting themselves go" more and more with rounder bellies, while women are being held by an ever tightening leash to attain unrealistic goals in body weight and image. It's misogyny plain and simple and should be considered a hate crime. If those boys were truly held accountable and faced consequences for their hateful and possibly homicidal actions (shouldn't it be considered at least manslaughter if the girl died as a result of their emotional torturing?) it could set a precedent for better treatment of women in the future and be a very telling commentary on how we must stop the way young boys and men are being taught to subconsciously hate women from an early age. Perhaps if they had fathers who were actually around and could set a better example and mentor them.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:46 PM on 08/20/2009
- Malkin72 I'm a Fan of Malkin72 45 fans permalink
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Wow.

At what point are you responsible to yourself and your own actions and reactions.

I guess, NEVER, in your world.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 05:57 PM on 08/20/2009
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Singer, I agree. I do want to point out though, that it isn't even just men that are necessarily the problem. Often women are just as complicit in participating and perpetuating misogynist cultural ideas, because we have all been indoctrinated into the same culture. I think the most progress could be made by education campaigns that target both males and females. I do agree that bullies should be held accountable, and that if there was actually aggressive efforts to reach out to boys, (something I don't see a lot of) maybe we could change the way they think when they become men.

    Favorite    Flag as abusive Posted 07:01 PM on 08/20/2009
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