Sex Study Says Female Orgasm Eludes Majority Of Women

ABC News:

First came the G-spot, then multiple climax and spiritual tantric sex. The modern woman is not only expected to be a good mother and a professional success, but some believe she needs to behave like a porn star in the bedroom.

So if a simple device could reveal whether a woman is capable of a vaginal orgasm, would it take the pressure off heterosexual women to perform?

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Comments

[fusionfan]

Remember the old Seinfeld episode, when Elaine is worrying that she can't compete for her boyfriend against a gay male lover, since men know what their package contains and how to use it best?
Well, women understand women pretty well: I suggest that men spend a few (many) hours watching videos of romantic lesbian sex. Men will (1) pick up a lot of interesting tips and techniques, and (2) realize the time that's sometimes needed for women to orgasm.

Finally, Wilhelm Reich had it right. No amount of technique or expertise can make a woman orgasm who for emotional or psychological reasons, does not want to expose herself to the openness and trust that a true orgasm demands. Some women have been so scarred from bad experiences that they just don't trust men enough to really let go with them. Other times, they just don't want to open themselves up to the jerk who's on top of (or underneath) them. The latter case is often not a problem, since the jerk will not care about his partner's satisfaction except in a narcissistic way. (Was it good for you, honey?).

And then the tantric and spiritual stuff is a bonus, though I have never tried that yet.

[TeresaOReally]

The thing is, when a woman's clitoris is stimulated deliberately the size and shape of her genitals can change drastically, including her clitoris dropping down towards the entroitis (entrance to the v). Perhaps this is the answer to shortening the c-v distance. I also agree however, more and more people are not as focused on penetration, and because of this are finding out there is even a lot more pleasure available once the mind is open. Deliberate Orgasm has been one of those things for me, and since having DO dates regulary I have also become orgasmic during intercourse even thought that wasn't my goal.

[ModernTimes1]

My empirical evidence tells me me otherwise :-) The only girlfriend i ever had with problems in this area was a Vietnamese girl with some serious psychological issues in that department.

[fusionfan]

And I'm sure you've had sex with, and satisfied, hundreds, if not thousands of women. So a 99.99% satisfaction rate aint' bad!

(My phallocrat sensor is tingling).

[khanti]

As the Pope said the other day "..play before sex...." or was it pray before sex.

[audadvnc]

My partner and I have a great love life, and she comes every time... just not during intercourse. But by the time I'm finished, we're both spent, and have travelled the peaks and valleys of love. As far as we're concerned, female climax during intercourse is a non-issue.

[seattle music]

It's not all or nothing.

When I was young, anxious, inexperienced? I was non-orgasmic with a partner (no problem by myself.)

When I became a little more experienced, more confident? Voila! Plenty of orgasms -- 99% of the time.

In my forties I had a magical transformation and became reliably multi-orgasmic.

Now, in my early 50's, I orgasm as many as 25 times in quick succession (BOOM! BOOM! BOOM! one yummy O right after another) every time I make love to myself or with a partner who is willing to stimulate me (or "allow" me to stimulate myself) before or during intercourse.

Have I ever had a "hands and mouth free" orgasm? Never. Not once. Even with a very big fellah with amazing endurance. Perhaps because my uterus is tipped, perhaps because I have stretchy skin, perhaps because of the clitoris-to-vagina distance. I've heard it all. Whatever.

Do I feel deprived, deformed, weird? Don't make me laugh.

All my lover has to do is kiss me and touch me before and during intercourse and watch the fireworks show explode while enjoying his own fireworks. What's wrong with me? Nothing I have any interest in changing.

The whole "vaginal orgasm" myth is just silly. It's nonsense.

[Cheapthrills]

Are you trying to convince yourself? If you think vaginal is nonsense you ain't doing it right.

[PresidentRobertBooth]

***Sex Study Says Female Orgasm Eludes Majority Of Women***

It's because men (except for me) don't care enough about understanding what kind of stimulation a woman needs.

[TN]

so true

[Cheapthrills]

So, Mr. "except for me" do you include your partner in understanding or do you just think you know it all. That is the worst type of sexual partner...thinking you understand rather than asking.

[wm1066]

At first I thought the picture of the fireworks was a picture of a sea urchin...if you have ever stepped on one you know the pain it can inflict....the article had a hole other meaning for me for awhile!

[TomZart]

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Some other time, I’m not in the mood
Why cant we just cuddle and watch TV
When couples drift into the celibate zone
It’s not long till someone will flee.

Sexual fulfillment helps preserve love
Parenthood, marriage and self-esteem.
Those who maintain it avoid saying no
To be blessed by its pleasure and gleam.

While dating we tend to be more romantic
Putting forth the best of our charms.
Sharing dinners, long walks and lustful weekends
As we spend more time in each others arms.

How many times have you said “not tonight”
Exposing your happy home to harm?
Today’s crushing deadlines leave little time for love
Leaving partners with sorrow, sadness and alarm.

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Dial your own number and leave the phone off the hook.
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[TakLoufer]

And the Leonard Pinth Garnell award winner for Worst Poetry Spam goes to...

[escribacat]

Most published poet on the web, eh? Gawd.

[CydMiller]

I've never seen more articles/advice on how to improve heterosexual lovemaking. Despite all the advice, it seems women have less organisms and would just rather sleep.

I recommend having sex with a women. You don't see countless articles or how-tos for two women making love. The question is not whether 2 women will have an orgasm, its how many will they have.

[Malkin72]

I always wonder about these studies.

Wouldn't the women have to all have sex with the same man as a control for a proper experiment?

Some men are bigger or smaller than others. Some men last longer or shorter than other men. Some men know what they are doing, some don't.

If you talk to a woman who is married and faithful to a small, quick man who no clue...then I would bet that orgasm will ELUDE her.

Give that some woman to a man who knows what he is doing and see if we can't move her from the can't have a vaginal orgasm into the can column. Those % could change drastically.

[kjstjohn]

Apparently there are a lot of American men who do not know how to make (good) love. Look at the (mostly) pathetic sex scenes in American movies. They are nothing like the scenes in French movies. The French know how to do it. The best way for most women to achieve orgasm during intercourse is to have multiple orgasms through various techniques of love-making. It may take a couple of trial runs to get to know her and for her to relax and trust you. Then, mix it up, slow it down, and voilà! And voilà again!

[Malkin72]

"The best way for most women to achieve orgasm during intercourse is to have multiple orgasms through various techniques of love-making"

Huh? If I was grading your paper....

[kjstjohn]

LOL. I was trying not to be explicit and hoping others could read between the lines. Achieve orgasm at least once through a mixture of techniques (giving and receiving manual and/or oral, intermixed with intercourse) and then achieve orgasm again during straight intercourse. Mix it up. That is the not-so-secret secret to French love-making that too many American men have not discovered.

Now that I have done my public service to women everywhere, I will go back to being the sweet, reserved lady that I actually am (most of the time).

[dadw5boys]

A Lady I knew years ago sent me this article said I should comment.
Pardon my way of putting things but it is like playing a piano you just have to hit the right keys to make great music.
Remember that Pointer Sisters song Slow Hand ?

I want a man with a slow hand
I want a lover with an easy touch
I want somebody who will spend some time
Not come and go in a heated rush
I want somebody who will understand
When it comes to love I want a slow hand

Lover with a slow hand
And I get all excited with his easy touch
I've found somebody who will spend the night
Not come and go in a heated rush

Well a man can do more with his hands than anything else.
I felt it was necessary to satisfy my lover before we ever had intercourse because of all the things I had heard about women left unsatisified. But i have failed at times becuase there was just not enough time.
Now, It feels good to walk into a room and hear her swoon a little; just a look and she almost melts. lol .

[humaneismyth]

i've "done" it maybe three times in the last 12 months..haven't reached "it" in OVER A YEAR.And of course I am a woman.

[Smirk]

That's no fun. If you haven't or don't already: do kegel exercises frequently and use your solo sessions to determine what works best for you physically and, if need be, how to be attuned to the moment at hand. Few men hesitate to ask for or do what works for them, and you shouldn't be either.

[janehenry]

Maybe you should bake some cookies. ;)

[thevillagewag]

What? cookies? What for?

[singermuse]

The reason some women do not achieve "vaginal" orgasm is because their clitorus is not located in their vaginas. One does not have to achieve "vaginal" orgasm to have a fulfilling and wonderful sex life. But many women know nothing about their own bodies and are told that "down there" is dirty or bad or otherwise not to be investigated. God forbid they should find out they can give themselves orgasms and don't really need a man to intervene. Not that having a partner is a bad thing mind you. Orgasms are the wonderful gift every adult should give themselves and each other.

[Smirk]

Hear, hear!

[Malkin72]

This is crucial.

Women who don't touch themselves have no RIGHT to orgasms. And certainly not to complain.

You don't know how to do it and you won't even bother to try to figure you out, but some guy is supposed to know how to do it for you?

[kjstjohn]

When young women have confided in me that they were not climaxing with a man (through any techniques), the advice I have given them is to first find their own triggers by themselves (which may involve locating a muscle that when tightenned helps to trigger climax). Second, I tell them to teach their young men to mix it up and to guide them until they get it right. Third, I tell them that it is absolutely key for most women that the man care about his partner. If the desire to please is not there, a huge percentage of women can forget about it.

[JohnFromCensornati]

Exactly. Grandma and god are not watching...and neither is Santa.

[kjstjohn]

LOL! And heaven forbid!

[Gregor53]

Well, Santa "comes only once a year" also. :

[TeresaOReally]

Agree!!! You would just love DOing.

[Katharine Pallos]

Yep.