When Gorbachev came to power he, like Obama, inherited a war that was not in the interest of his nation. If the response of a Soviet dictator was to end it, might we not be justified in doing the same?
There's no doubt that women have to choose between family and a certain career tier. Adequate workplace policies just don't exist to give women the opportunity to do both. But taking issue with that fact isn't whining, it's advocating for progress.