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Mississippi School SUED For Canceling Prom After Lesbian Date Request

Lesbian Prom Date

SHELIA BYRD   03/12/10 01:57 PM ET   AP

JACKSON, Miss. — A lesbian student who wanted to take her girlfriend to her senior prom is asking a federal judge to force her Mississippi school district to reinstate the dance it canceled.

The American Civil Liberties Union of Mississippi on Thursday filed a lawsuit in U.S. District Court in Oxford on behalf of 18-year-old Constance McMillen, who said she faced some unhappy classmates after the Itawamba County School District said it wouldn't host the April 2 prom.

"Somebody said, 'Thanks for ruining my senior year,'" McMillen said of her reluctant return Thursday to Itawamba Agricultural High School in Fulton.

The lawsuit seeks a court order for the school to hold the prom. It also asks that McMillen be allowed to escort her girlfriend, who is a fellow student, and wear a tuxedo, which the school said also violated policy.

The district's decision Wednesday came after the ACLU demanded that officials change a policy banning same-sex prom dates because it said it violated students' rights. The ACLU said the district violated McMillen's free expression rights by not letting her wear a tux.

McMillen said she never expected the district to respond the way it did.

"A lot of people said that was going to happen, but I said, they had already spent too much money on the prom" to cancel it, she said.

McMillen said she didn't want to go back to the high school in Fulton the morning after the decision, but her father told her she needed to face her classmates.

"My daddy told me that I needed to show them that I'm still proud of who I am," McMillen told The Associated Press in a telephone interview. "The fact that this will help people later on, that's what's helping me to go on."

The school board statement said it wouldn't host the event "due to the distractions to the educational process caused by recent events" but didn't mention McMillen. District officials didn't return calls seeking comment Thursday.

At least one supporter has offered to help McMillen and her classmates hold an alternate prom.

New Orleans hotel owner Sean Cummings told The Clarion-Ledger of Jackson he was so disappointed with the school board's decision he offered to transport the students in buses to the city and host a free prom at one of his properties.

"New Orleans, we're a joyful culture and a creative culture here and, if the school doesn't change its mind, we'd be delighted to offer them a prom in New Orleans," he told the newspaper. "Concluding your high school experience should be a joyful one. One shouldn't conclude that experience with all their friends on a negative note."

Same-sex prom dates and cross-dressing are new issues for many high schools around the country, said Daryl Presgraves, a spokesman for GLSEN: Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network, a Washington-based advocacy group.

"A lot of schools actually react rather than do the research and find out what the rights of these students are," said Presgraves.

McMillen says she hopes her fight will make it easier for gay students at other schools facing discrimination.

"I want other kids to know that's it not right for schools to do that," she said on CBS's "The Early Show."

In 2002, a gay student sued his school district in Toronto to allow him to attend a prom with his boyfriend. A judge later forced the district to allow the couple to attend and stopped the district from canceling the prom.

U.S. Rep. Jared Polis, D-Colo., said a bill he's introduced in Congress would make it illegal to discriminate against gay and lesbian school students. He said at least 10 states have such laws, and his bill is modeled after those.

"This situation with the prom is a perfect example of why we need to protect students from discrimination. In this case it's a prom. It other cases, it's getting beaten up or killed," Polis said.

The school district had said it hoped a privately sponsored prom could be held.

Southside Baptist Church Pastor Bobby Crenshaw said he's seen the South portrayed as "backwards" on Web sites discussing the issue, "but a lot more people here have biblically based values."

Itawamba County is a rural area of about 23,000 people in north Mississippi near the Alabama state line. It's near Pontotoc County, Miss., where more than a decade ago school officials were sued in federal court over their practice of student-led intercom prayer and Bible classes.

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David Rozgonyi
Writer and traveler
01:53 AM on 03/20/2010
New info: Ellen just gave her a 30k scholarship! Great news and great for Ellen!

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/35951683/ns/entertainment-celebrities/
04:37 PM on 03/15/2010
Kudos to Constance McMillen, her girlfriend, AND HER DAD!

It's great to see that not all heterosexual Southern men are homophobic redneck cowards!
10:57 AM on 03/13/2010
Pastor Bobby please hang on to your beliefs. "Backwards" is the insult of the season for biblical based values.
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CmdrTomalak
I am... and proud of it.
09:25 AM on 03/14/2010
Discrimination is not a value; it's a crime. Nothing wrong with bibilical based values as long as people aren't using them to impinge on someone's rights.

That... is backwards.
04:29 PM on 03/15/2010
"Backward" is an accurate description of people who thing Jesus Christ taught hate and discrimination.
DesmondRavenstone
kinky and polyamorous Unitarian Universalist
08:44 AM on 03/13/2010
Personally, I think the students should organize their own prom. This one, and every prom ever after. If the school board is going to punish the entire senior class to prevent ONE student from showing up with a same-gender date, then they've forfeited the right to have any say in this event.

When I was in high school, the students organized the prom themselves, with faculty advisors helping. The board did not micromanage things. The fact that this school board feels the need to exert such control over extracurricular activities is very telling. It's not just homophobia -- it's the idea that young people cannot be trusted.
06:25 AM on 03/13/2010
Has a poll been taken as to the number of school board members are conservative, liberal, or Tea Party Patriots
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klandish
07:27 PM on 03/12/2010
Heterocentric behavior is SO passe!
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washlib
02:04 PM on 03/12/2010
Go for it! Slam them to the wall!
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cstmrsrvc
02:04 PM on 03/12/2010
1) Every guy in the school will want to see this couple, 2) they will be the one couple that there will be no worries about a teen pregnancy , and 3) WTF
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sharpstick
Jesus = The world's most famous liberal, socialist
12:28 PM on 03/12/2010
If any school official has been recorded indicating that the reason they cancelled was the lesbian couple, then lawsuit will be won by girls. Which is why they made darn sure not to mention anything in their statement.
01:47 PM on 03/12/2010
I don't think there explanation of "distractions" is going to fly either.

Example: A bIack man walks into a restaurant and they say "we don't serve your kind". He gets upset at which point they throw him out for "creating a disturbance". It is still discrimination.

In this case, the school improperly tried to bar them from the dance. At that point the "distractions" became the result of the school's discriminatory act.
04:30 PM on 03/15/2010
Depends on where the case is tried. 8 years of bushwhacker judicial appointments were made to make this kind of cr@p possible.
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Nat Irvin
12:27 PM on 03/12/2010
Courageous young lady who was trying to help her classmates...maybe now they will help her!
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urnumbersix
"I am not a Number. I am a Free Man!"
12:25 PM on 03/12/2010
This could turn out for the good.

I hope the the MS school sticks to its backwards decision, and that New Orleans' Mr. Cummings comes through and throws the Best Prom party these rural kids have ever dreamed of! Shame the school and the town.

Constance is fortunate in having a strong family. Dad was SO on target, advising his daughter to face down the bigots. It is fortunate that this "case" is lesbian coz the hate runs deeper for gay males, and that Constance is So Cute doesn't hurt the story either!

With all of this negative national publicity, plus attending a Prom of their dreams, will instill in this and following generations of MS students the sheer folly of gay discrimination. They will have Experienced the world outside of the Bible-belt.

They will each individually have to ask - who are you going to believe? Bible bigots or your own lying eyes?
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Dwells75
12:16 PM on 03/12/2010
"The pursuit of happiness: It's not optional, it's in our founding documents."

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness were guaranteed to white Anglo males, not everyone. How the founding fathers could sign off on that document yet make slaves of an entire race as well as the females of their own race, shows that politicians back then were just as hypocritical as they are today.
04:31 PM on 03/15/2010
True--but the priniciples were sent down in the Constitution, and given that the issue of slavery was one that they knew they'd be pushing onto future generations, there were mechanisms to improve and expand civil rights.
12:15 PM on 03/12/2010
This is a very brave young lady, with the courage to stand up for her civil rights. The fact that she is doing this in the deep south is examplary.

In 1967 I during my Junior year in High School in Georgetown, SC, the public schools had just been de-segregated, and the few African-American students walked the halls proudly, but always aware of the seething racism of many classmates. That year the School Board, in its infinite wisdom, decided to cancel our prom. They didn't want to cause trouble, don't ya know. We were outraged at being deprived of our prom.

We raised the money independently, sponsored by a few wise parents who were not afraid to do the right thing. The community at large supported us. We rented the National Guard Armory and had one splendid prom, to which ALL students were invited. The theme was "Camelot" and we even had a fake moat running through the set.
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urnumbersix
"I am not a Number. I am a Free Man!"
12:30 PM on 03/12/2010
Fanned!
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samthor
Infinite diversity in infinite combinations
12:13 PM on 03/12/2010
"Somebody said, 'Thanks for ruining my senior year,'" McMillen said ....

Actually it would be the school that ruined the senior year.
If this is what they teach the students, they may have ruined your life as well.
What are they teaching?
A negative view of those who are different.
If you can't get your way just take your ball and go home.
And certainly don't take any responsibility for your actions... just say "its God's will".
04:33 PM on 03/15/2010
They're letting the kids be the thugs that pick on the girls, and then they can stand back and say, "Well, they knew they were causin' trouble..."

It's a pity that human beings don't have to hit some sort of mental or moral adulthood before they can reproduce. We wouldn't have jerks like that running schools.
11:58 AM on 03/12/2010
Look, I am a conservative and a Christian. I think it is apalling and stupid what the school is doing. Who cares who she brings with her. I find it more objectionable what some of these girls wear to the Prom. I really don't care who they bring. Let them have fun. YOu don't have to accept the girl's lifestyle just b/c she brings her lesbian date to the Prom.
DesmondRavenstone
kinky and polyamorous Unitarian Universalist
08:35 AM on 03/13/2010
Amen! Love thy neighbor as thyself.
04:34 PM on 03/15/2010
A lot of people calling themselves 'conservatives' and 'Christians' are neither... glad to see that there are some balanced conservative Christians out there!