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Parents Raise Concerns At School Run By Troubled Order

First Posted: 06/01/2010 8:21 pm Updated: 05/25/2011 4:40 pm

By Tim Townsend
Religion News Service

CHESTERFIELD, Mo. (RNS) A group of parents from a school run by a troubled Catholic order says the school coerces their children spiritually and undermines their parental authority--concerns they are bringing to the archbishop of St. Louis.

The concerns of Gateway Academy parents come in the wake of a Vatican move to overhaul the order, the Legionaries of Christ, after its now-deceased founder was accused of sexual abuse and fathering children out of wedlock.

Some Gateway parents are bringing attention to what they say is manipulation of their children, with the goal of funneling students into the Legion's priestly and consecrated life.

"Once they've got your kid, they own your kid," said John Gouveia of west St. Louis County, who sent two children to Gateway. "Their standard MO is to supersede the authority of the family."

Steve Notestine, a Gateway board member and parent of former Gateway students, is a member of the Legionaries' affiliated lay order, Regnum Christi, and said he had not seen the behavior the parents are alarmed about.

"Gateway is always interested in accommodating the role of the parents, because the parents are primarily responsible for the formation of their child, and Gateway just assists," he said.

Parents' concerns come in the wake of a May 1 report from the Vatican that said the Legion required an overhaul after revelations of child abuse by the order's founder, the late Rev. Marcial Maciel.

Gateway parents do not allege any sexual misdeeds at the school. But they say the school's officials, including Legion priests, regularly single out children who are susceptible to the Legion's message for advancement and rewards--positions on the student council, altar boy duty for a special Mass, or exclusive meals with Legion priests.

They say the Legion's intent is to replace the child's loyalty to his parents with a loyalty to the Legion and its founder. Any parents who question their son's loyalty to the Legion are suspect, they said.

Stacey White had two young sons at Gateway until 2008. She and her husband were uncomfortable with some of the one-on-one spiritual direction Legion officials gave Gateway students. When the Whites told the school they didn't want their son to go on a school retreat, school officials began asking the fourth-grader for reasons, she said.

"One of the (religious) brothers would ask him, 'Why aren't you going on the retreat? What's more important?"' White said. "Then he'd come home and ask us that question. It was disturbing."

Parents said Legion priests used guilt and the threat of banishment to hell if older boys resist a call to priesthood.

"If they're not giving God the first chance with their life, they're not being generous with God," said Molly Callahan, whose father, Jim Bick, helped found the school with a $2.3 million gift in 1992. She sent four children to Gateway.

"And if you're not being generous with God, you're not following God's will. And if you're not following God's will, you're outside of God's will and that's a mortal sin. And any boy brought up in a Catholic home knows the consequence of mortal sin."

The Gateway parents' concerns are similar to those raised in Baltimore, where Archbishop Edwin O'Brien told the Legion in 2008 to stop giving spiritual direction to anyone under 18 at a Legion-run school similar to Gateway.

"It's clear that from the first moment a person joins the Legion, efforts seem to be made to program each one and to gain full control of his behavior, of all information he receives, of his thinking and emotions," O'Brien told his diocesan newspaper last year.

Maciel formed the Legionaries of Christ in Mexico in 1941. Today, the order claims 650 priests and 2,500 seminarians in more than 20 countries and says it operates 162 schools and 15 universities around the world.

In 2006, Pope Benedict XVI banished Maciel to a "reserved life of penance and prayer." Later, Vatican officials acknowledged that Maciel had fathered at least one child and molested dozens of seminarians. He died in 2008 at the age of 87.

In the last five years or so, bishops in California, Florida, Maryland, Minnesota and Ohio have banned the order or severely restricted its ministries.

Not all parents and alumni, however, share the concerns.

"It's always provided a great Catholic education, and I hope it continues to do so," said the Rev. Michael Houser, 28, now an associate pastor at Holy Trinity Parish in St. Ann, Mo., who attended Gateway from sixth to eighth grades, then went to one of the Legion's boarding schools for boys leaning toward the priesthood.

Dennis Coon, whose child graduated from Gateway, attended a school fundraiser in March. "I would love to see the school prosper," he said. "The teachers are top quality."

Mark Harford, another alumni parent at the fundraiser, said he was "very disappointed" in the revelations about Maciel, "but that's not a reflection of the school, it's a reflection on an individual sinner."

In an interview, Archbishop Robert Carlson said he was happy parents felt comfortable coming to him, and said he would decide whether to take any information he receives from parents either to Gateway officials or the Vatican.

"I look forward to a dialogue," he said, "and just like any pastoral discussion, I'll take it to its natural conclusion, whatever that might be."

(Tim Townsend writes for The St. Louis Post-Dispatch in St. Louis, Mo.)

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BlueCashew
If I were a cat, what life would I be on?
03:17 PM on 06/09/2010
Another Catholic-bashing article by the Huffington Post.

Really, if parents don't like a particular school, there's nothing stopping them from taking their kids out. They won't be missed by those who want their kids to be there.
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Patricia Russell
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08:31 PM on 06/08/2010
Once, while on a swing, I kicked a nun in the head. Still makes me smile to this day.
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DavidGW
01:45 PM on 06/08/2010
TAKE YOUR CHILDREN OUT!! NOW!!! Or, sacrifice your childrens' lives on the altars of your faith. Do and Abraham. WHO DO YOU LOVE MORE - your children or your faith?????
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Pammy1151
I just use my common sense.
04:01 PM on 06/07/2010
My parents sent my sister to a Catholic High School (she was not catholic) to get a better education. Within 6 months she decided she was an atheist. Today she is 52 and still an atheist.
09:45 AM on 06/06/2010
Well take the kids out of this academy and find another..or better yet, keep them home and find a good school nearbye.
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StillMadMatt
Offending the right people is its own virtue.
02:19 AM on 06/06/2010
I dreamed the Pope came to me dressed in S&M gear holding his Holy "schwanz". He jackbooted me straight into his Papal Chambers and performed a special rite on my "pimmel". Guess what...NO condom!! He then talked of forgiveness and redmption as he whipped himself into a frenzy. Finally spilling some Pope Juice on his trousers. What does this mean????
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DannyEV
01:36 PM on 06/06/2010
uh...that you have a fetish for former nazi youth who wear pointy hats?
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Weirdo
"It's a Wall Street government"
12:07 PM on 06/05/2010
It's amazing how wiling people are to complicate their lives for a fantasy.
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grailknight
is happily godless
01:40 PM on 06/04/2010
Pass the Kool-Aid!
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cliffhammond
Onward through the fog!
10:34 PM on 06/03/2010
Surely these parents have Catholic Munchhausen's Syndrome. They send their kids into this wilderness of darkness so they can welcome their little victims home with loving arms, cry tears of sympathy and complain with outrage to the bishop.
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vonric
08:48 PM on 06/03/2010
Just another third-tier cult caught recruiting via the selective use of power and authority in a construct where the individual is not operating with a full sense of autonomy.
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Barbara Graham
Comin at u from Area 5150
07:25 PM on 06/03/2010
Gosh, a church getting between parents and children? What a concept! How could this happen?

Scientology's been doing it for years. They must be better at it, because they can get parents to dump their own kids, which takes a bit more skill at manipulation.

It's called 'disconnection.' I would beware of any religion that attempts to control, rather than enhance, familial connections.

Hell, I'd beware of any religion, regardless.
09:46 AM on 06/06/2010
And then there is the Moonies.
05:56 PM on 06/03/2010
"Give Me the Boy Until the Age of Seven, I Will Give You the Man."
05:23 PM on 06/03/2010
Priests learn child psychology and about learned anxieties and fears in children at Seminary.
05:22 PM on 06/03/2010
A touching little program on the Confessional can be seen .. . http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xeiHYF7nqZU&feature=channel

This is truly saddening and maddening.
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Pavane
I pick my battles and walk from the rest.
07:09 PM on 06/03/2010
Thank you. As a child brought up catholic, I recognise what this video says. It is spot on and well done. (The Sheeple series of various discussions are always enlightening.)
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StarDagger
The Welfare of the People is the Supreme Law
05:19 PM on 06/03/2010
I wonder what kind of parent allows their kids to go to institutions that are in any way related to the Dark Side Church of Death, aka the Roman Catholic Church.