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At-Risk U.S. Children Struggle To Just Be Kids

Huffington Post   First Posted: 02/02/11 12:42 PM ET Updated: 05/25/11 07:30 PM ET

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Cierra Jones, left, with her mother Sally Jo and brother Isaiah

Cierra Jones does not invite her friends to sleep over. She would, if she had her own room, or her own backyard to play in. But the 9-year-old worries that her fellow third-graders would make fun of her, because her house is different. It's not really a house at all.

Jones lives in a set of rooms on the third floor of what was once the James Wilson Hotel -- named for one of the signers of the Constitution -- in Carlisle, Pa. Everything in those rooms, from the beds to the toaster, has been donated by people she doesn't know.

Nearly a month after the shooting in Tucson, Ariz., Americans are well acquainted with the life of the shooting's youngest victim, 9-year-old Christina-Taylor Green. Yet as the shock of the shooting fades, Americans -- including thousands of children Christina's age -- continue to struggle with the familiar woes of the Great Recession. The country's crises of joblessness and foreclosure have left many adults powerless, but it is children who are increasingly the most vulnerable citizens.

Cierra Jones lives with her mother Sally Jo, a cashier at Wendy's, and her 6-year-old brother Isaiah. Safe Harbour, a nonprofit group that houses the homeless, provides their rooms.

The factors that contributed to the Jones family's homelessness began before Cierra was born. Ten years ago, Sally Jo Jones was working as a cashier at Burger King in Carlisle, making just a little more than the minimum wage. One night after closing the restaurant, she was mugged in the parking lot, an experience that left her so shaken that she quit her job.

Her bounced rent checks and unpaid bills piled up. She gave birth to Cierra, and by the time the child was two, Sally Jo was out of money and out of options. "Every month I would decide what bills to pay and what bills to get behind on," she said. Unable to make rent, she and Cierra found shelter at Safe Harbour.

After a time, Sally Jo got the money together for a nearby apartment. But last year, in spite of working full-time at Wendy's, she became overwhelmed by the strains of working single-motherhood, and in October, the family moved back into the old hotel.

The story of Cierra Jones and her family is consistent with what experts say is a growing trend.

"We've just had this historically large jump in the poverty rate for children," said Curtis Skinner, director of family economic security at the National Center for Children in Poverty. Indeed, census data shows that the number of children living in poverty rose to 20.7 percent in 2009 from 19 percent in 2008. One in five 9-year-olds lives in a household that receives food stamps, and 15.3 percent are not covered by private or public health insurance, Skinner said, citing 2009 census figures.

More than 78,750 third-graders were homeless at some point during the 2008-2009 school year, according to the latest data from the Institute for Children, Poverty and Homelessness, a nonprofit research organization in New York City.

Numbers only begin to tell the tale. And while the forces that lead to poverty, homelessness and other troubles can be complex, the social implications and attached stigma are not lost on children.

"I think kids that age have more understanding than people realize about their families' economic situations," said Jan Wallace, the director of behavior health services at Casa de los Niños, a Tucson children's shelter.

In the depressing landscape of childhood hardship, there are success stories, though even these can be reminders of the challenges facing those who have escaped a past of joblessness and unemployment.

Corteja Brown is 9 years old and in fourth grade. Her favorite book is "Diary of a Wimpy Kid," and she likes playing Monopoly -- her favorite game piece is the car. Today she lives with her three sisters -- ages 8, 10 and 16 -- in a three-bedroom apartment in downtown Atlanta, along with their mother, Yasmier Neal, who has a steady job four years running as a shift manager at the fast-food chain Checkers. But things weren't always this good.

Five years ago, Neal lost her job, leaving the family homeless. The effects on young Corteja were noticeable: once a well-behaved student, she became angry, acted out in school and was disciplined by teachers. She frequently fell asleep during class.

The years that followed were characterized by uncertainty and several moves: first, to transitional housing provided by an Atlanta shelter, and then, in 2008, to an apartment. But Neal, who was earning about $7 per hour, was unable to keep up with the $700 monthly rent, and the Atlanta Children's Shelter, which provides child care and job-searching assistance to homeless families, encouraged her to seek subsidized properties. And while such a trajectory might seem likely to diminish or even destroy a child's innocence, Neal, who is now 32, said that with Corteja this is not the case. "She still plays with dolls," Neal said.

Child advocates say shame is among the lingering effects of homelessness and poverty. It is common for better-off children to ridicule their homeless peers, said Pat LaMarche, who works as the communications director at Safe Harbour, in Pennsylvania. Kids like Cierra Jones, LaMarche said, tend to carry their homelessness, poverty or troubled home lives by themselves, denied backyard playdates and sleepovers.

"The hardest thing about being a homeless kid," LaMarche said, "is that you just want to be a kid."

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10:18 PM on 02/02/2011
Did they change these childrens' names? If not you have just outed their way of life. I am so fed up with the media using kids' names and faces in articles and tv pieces no matter how good the intent. Christmas meals for the homeless and needy always seem to get lots of tv footage of these little ones being fed. Are they bullied and tormented when others see them in such a situation. Change their names in articles. Fuzz out their faces for tv. Let them grow up without the stigma of poverty.
08:15 AM on 02/22/2011
He's a self-professed comedy writer and hatchet-job book reviewer, so what you expect?
08:51 PM on 02/02/2011
How many children should be allowed to become collateral damage while we cut programs to aid their poor parents, so we can "teach them a lesson". What happened to caring for your fellow man or at least a little child who can't fend for himself?
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10:44 AM on 02/03/2011
i would be in favor ofg long term solutions that address the root problems this woman has. Not band aid solutions.
03:14 PM on 02/03/2011
That's all well and good, but the children are suffering NOW. Institute your promised long term solutions and when you prove they help, then you can cut off all of their social services.
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08:30 PM on 02/02/2011
9-year-olds, or any kids for that matter, shouldn't have to grow up homeless. When is our nation going to grow up and take care of families? It's cheaper to do it right than do it wrong--as we are demonstrating so adeptly.
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10:45 AM on 02/03/2011
When are our men and women going to grow up and stop having babies they can't afford?
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07:13 PM on 02/02/2011
In 1979, a woman working at the minimum wage earned 70% of the hourly wage of the median female worker. By 1998, that ratio had fallen to 52%. Similarly, in 1979 a single mother working full time at the minimum wage earned enough to lift a family of three (herself and two children) above the poverty line. By 1998, however, the same family would be 18% below the poverty line. And in the last decade, energy, health care, food, child care, and housing have all risen faster than wages. In order for a woman on minimum wage- today- to have the same purchasing power as a woman earning the minimum wage in 1979- that wage would have to be $15.68/ hr.
But by all means, let's keep stepping on working women. I'm sure cutting a generation off at the knees because you think their mothers are lazy will solve the problem.
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10:40 AM on 02/03/2011
Why would a grown woman have prepared herself with life skills that enable her to work only minimum wage jobs?
 
and then quit two of those jobs as the first woman did?When she has children.
 
Makes no sense.
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11:10 AM on 02/03/2011
The point is that a minimum wage that does not stop poverty and homelessness, that incurs more costs, is not doing it's job and it needs to be raised.
The entrenched wealthy are HAPPY, DELIGHTED and THRILLED that you are willing to keep fighting against a living wage, it keeps all our wages down.
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10:46 AM on 02/03/2011
the ratio fell in part because the average working mother by 1998 made a lot more than in 1979. far more educated and skilled.
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06:54 PM on 02/02/2011
Regardless of the choices made by the parents the suffering of the children can impact them for their entire lives. Some may be unable to overcome a poverty mentality. Many children of the depression era even after reaching maturity and having lives that can be measured as monetarily successful still suffered a poverty complex throughout their entire lives. Perpetuating thoughts of worthlessness, etc. I think Mental Health issues and Homelessness are two issues that have huge stigmas attached to them, and when brought into the light many people choose to look away. Thus, many homeless feel so much shame when poverty is a condition brought on by a myriad of factors. How many are now a paycheck or a job loss away from homelessness themselves.
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05:33 PM on 02/02/2011
THe storyis good at multiple - revealing the choices a person makes and then leaving to ask what, if anything we may owe this familyor similar families. Challenging questions - questions certainlynot faced by Obama or the megabankers he bailed iwth trillions and billions in bonuses. THose people were more valuable than this little girl - where you or the govt commits resources is where it cares. The other questionis the mother andthis is missingin most of these stories - themother was so traumtised by a mugging - whatdo we as asocietyowe her for that - she needed to getover it- weall do these things not make the decisions that have nofuture- she chose to have a second baby being unable to support it - what do we sa a society owe aperson that makes thesekind of decisions what doweowethis child? Whatareyou willing to pay outof your pocket or taxes? Tough questions andbelieve Obama and ourlawmakers could care less.
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05:24 PM on 02/02/2011
Here comes the all the "step on the working poor" folks.
Get out the paper and find out what apartments cost, then compare that to the minimum wage. Anyone who is working and contributing to the economy should be able to have a safe, permanent place to live, even if they are not rocket scientists.
Here's the facts:
In 1979, a woman working at the minimum wage earned 70% of the hourly wage of the median female worker (the woman right in the middle of the female wage scale). By 1998, that ratio had fallen to 52%. Similarly, in 1979 a single mother working full time at the minimum wage earned enough to lift a family of three (herself and two children) above the poverty line. By 1998, however, the same family would be 18% below the poverty line.
And things haven't improved for working women, now health care, energy, food, rent, and childcare have all risen disproportionately when measured against the raises in income in the last ten years.
It's not the fault of this woman, or that woman, it's the economy's problem, and it's a big problem for the future of our country, since we are willing to cut a generation off at the knees because their mother's are "lazy".
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09:18 AM on 02/05/2011
It certainly is the fault of this woman. She is uneducated, not on birth control and has no money. Wonder if she ever thought about abortion? Maybe she did and couldnt get past the picket lines? Poor kids. Maybe they will make it despite the sorry life she has provided. Perhaps some anti-abortion protester will take these kids in, give them peace of mind and a loving home. All children deserve this.
08:50 PM on 02/15/2011
Poor kids? Yes, the family may be "poor" by society standards. Who says that the life she is providing them is sorry? And just because someone is an anti-abortion protester doesn't mean that they can provide a more loving and stable home environment for said children. Peace of mind is not determined by the amount of money you have in your bank account.
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05:06 PM on 02/02/2011
Every time I hear the word Children I grab my wallet.

I refuse to be be held accountable for someone else's life decisions.
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01:11 PM on 02/05/2011
Thank god you and your mom never needed any help.
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05:05 PM on 02/02/2011
The 800 lb gorilla in the room for this woman is when she obviously had no support for the first child why in the world did she have the second one when she couldn't support the first one? This is a real question that has to be asked when this all too often situation is presented. I am a fairly liberal person but I absolutely draw the line at this kind of irresponsible behavior by the mother of these children. The shame the child feels is brought on by a parent who had no business putting this child in this situation. No sympathy here!!!!
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05:17 PM on 02/02/2011
I hope you never end up living in poverty.
09:29 PM on 02/02/2011
x 1000.
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05:42 PM on 02/02/2011
Should she have been forced to have an abortion? Or should poor people just not be allowed to have sex?
11:26 AM on 02/03/2011
Being poor is not an excuse to act irresponsibly.
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12:03 PM on 02/03/2011
 a condom is cheaper than a child. if used properly, it fails very very few times.
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04:50 PM on 02/02/2011
Im not sure how to solve the problems highlighted in this article.
 
Having kids young, having kids you can't afford when your working a menial jobs, having kids with a father who is apparently not in the picture and not supporting the kids, few jobs skills that are marketable, etc.
 
The first  mother made some major errors and the kids are paying. which completely blows.
 
But i mean, it was inevitable. You could written this life for them if given the details  when they were born.
 
and the cycle too often continues with the next generation.
 
Advice, too late for them:
 
1. Wait to have kids. Birth control is cheaper than kids.
2. Reduce the # of kids you eventually have through birth control.
3. Educate yourself as best as you can. Learn skills young.4
4. Choose responsible men to sleep with. Choose responsible men to have children with. Marriage also makes it easier to hold them responsible.
5. men, take care of your children. and have few of them.
 6. avoid alcohol and drugs especially if you cant afford them.
 
This would solve a lot of problems if people just followed that advice. It's not hard. i did it.
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05:19 PM on 02/02/2011
Apparently not everyone can be Saint Ignorant like you.
05:36 PM on 02/02/2011
It's not being a saint, it is being responsible. So many people think they can behave however they want to and when there are consequences expect people that do behave responsibly or the govt. to take care of them.
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05:45 PM on 02/02/2011
Apparently everyone cant look at the mistakes of others and prior generations and make a decision to improve themselves. like the first mom
 
but many can.many did. i did.
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04:37 PM on 02/02/2011
People here who want to cut funding for social programs, I ask you this: why punish the children for the mistakes of their parents? I grew up dirt poor, and wouldn't have been able to eat or now be in college if not for things like welfare and federal funding for student aid. What kind of world do you envision where you have to look a little girl in the eye and tell her that she doesn't deserve to eat because you think her mama's lazy?
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07:18 PM on 02/02/2011
I dont want to support programs that will encourage her children to make the exact same mistakes she did. When you have 3/4 generations still on welfare, something is wrong. You're masking a problem, not solving it.
 
The federal funding for student aid has helped you and others go to school. The unintended consequence of that of course is ollege costs increased substnatially and now people come out tens of thousands in debt from these federally backed student loans.
04:04 PM on 02/02/2011
Where are the DADDY,S????? Something needs to be done! It is time to stop asking the rest of us to help the ones who can't make it because of NO Daddy's.
04:25 PM on 02/02/2011
Or for the females, if you can't provide for a child, don't have a baby. If that means don't have sex, then don't.
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04:45 PM on 02/02/2011
It isn't that simple. What happens, is that a lot of women in situations like this were also abused as children, they just want someone to love them without hurting them.

They are also, often times, highly uneducated and they have zero knowledge of how their body works.

See my comment below about my experiences working with women like this.

You are saying don't do behaviour x based on your experience, not their experience.
03:21 PM on 02/02/2011
I don't really understand why Christina Green, the Tucson shooting victim, was mentioned in this article--because she is also a child? I don't think she was living in anywhere near poverty. Seems like her connection to the topic of the article is a little far-fetched.
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03:16 PM on 02/02/2011
Poor people having children when they cannot afford them. I see a problem here. And it's called irresponsibility. Birth control pills are a heck of a lot cheaper than a lifetime of pubic assistance.
03:44 PM on 02/02/2011
And rightfully so someone should suffer for those irrespnsible actions. It's a pity, of course, but maybe if enough children suffer people will learn. Called collateral damage isn't it.

Who the heck does this sound like? If your a leftie, get out of my house. Create one of your own so we can see who you are.
If your a rightie - how do you propose we do this when your out to get rid of the "pill".

No I think your some kind of new breed here. Hope there aren't too many of you.
04:31 PM on 02/02/2011
"out to get rid of the pill" Please! why do you want to say that? It is not true and you know it. Birth control pills are given away every single day at state health departments. People just need to take responsbility and get them and take them. But for some lefties personal responsibilty is way too much to ask. If you can't get the pill or take it and can't get any other type of birth control and you cannot afford a baby, then don't have sex. You know the consequences of unprotected sex.
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05:10 PM on 02/02/2011
Your style is a bit rough but your logic is spot on!!!!!
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04:30 PM on 02/02/2011
It's unfortunate that conception takes place by irresponsible people, but those little victims have a long road ahead of them and should be loved and cared for by any or all of us who are in a position to help even if only to provide a roof over their heads and the barest essentials. But most of all to provide an atmosphere of comfort of mind. It is also irresponsible of the adults who exploit sex, lust, alcohol and drugs to be a great part of living. I don't condone the actions of irresponsible parents, but the children must be cared for.
09:46 PM on 02/15/2011
I, personally, commend the mother for admitting that she needed help. That is a huge step in trying to end the cycle. Just because this family lives(ed) in a homeless shelter doesn't for one second mean that they are not loved, supported and encouraged. Everyone makes mistakes, some are more serious and/or detrimental, but mistakes none-the-less.
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03:07 PM on 02/02/2011
I am sympathetic to the plight of these children. They are truly the victims here. Many have parents that really try their best and I applaud their hard work and efforts. There are also parents who don't try and I hold them responsible for their children's suffering. I have seen some who are not interested in finding work at all, but keep having more children so they can receive bigger welfare checks. My husband's ex has never worked a day in her life, but she went on and have eight children with different men so she can live off on child support. Adults who cannot take care of themselves should not have children.
03:46 PM on 02/02/2011
That living on child support thing doesn't ring with me. Too little for too much. Trouble is we focus on that and don't look into the rest.
09:52 PM on 02/15/2011
Unfortunately, the people you speak of who take advantage of the system are the ones who dictate whether or not we look at others that are in a similar situation and pass judgement on them. Who's to say that this particular mother isn't doing the very best she can for her children? We need to stop passing an "umbrella" judgement and take every case for what it is and find out as many details as we can in regards to it. Only then, are "you" even remotely able to comment on the circumstances and/or pass judgement.