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Happy Kids Divorce More: University Of Cambridge Study

Happy Teens Divorce

The Huffington Post   First Posted: 03/14/2011 2:48 am Updated: 05/25/2011 6:40 pm

You might believe that happy kids stand a better chance of growing up into happy adults.

And for the most part you'd be right--a recent study looking into the effect a happy adolescence has on adult life found that most outcomes are better for happier teens. But a startling fact also emerged: happy teens are more likely to divorce.

Researchers at the University of Cambridge used data from 2,776 teens who participated in a 1946 British birth cohort study. Their teachers rated the children at ages 13 and 15 on whether they exhibited any of four different measures of happiness: "very popular with other children"; "unusually happy and contented"; "makes friends extremely easily"; and "extremely energetic, never tired."

Based on the answers, the group was divided into three: those with none of the positive markers, those with one, and those with two or more. Then at ages 36, 43, and 53, researchers went back to the same people to measure their incidence of mental disorder, life satisfaction (participants rated themselves), and social lives.

Teens in one of the positive categories grew up to have more social contact, and higher life satisfaction. Perhaps most pressingly, those with one positive rating were 21 percent less likely to have mental health problems in their adult life, and those with two positive ratings were 60 percent less likely.

But teens who received two positive ratings were also significantly more likely to divorce than those with one, or no positive ratings. While 20.4 percent of this happiest group had divorced at some point (of those who had been married), 16.5 and 16.3 percent of those with one or no positive ratings divorced, respectively.

To get a better understanding of these results, we talked to researcher Felicia Huppert, an author on the paper and director of the Well-being Institute at the University of Cambridge:

You found that happy kids are more likely to divorce. Did that finding surprise you?

It certainly did.

Did any prior research point to that?

No, not that I'm aware of, nothing at all. Happy children are much more likely to get married.

Why do you believe positive kids were more likely to eventually divorce?

From this study we can't be sure. Minor possibilities would be things like, happy children are likely to be more confident and have more friends and family and are more likely to be supported. If they find themselves in a sad position where their marriage has broken down, they might be able to leave it.

How did you measure "happiness"?

It was based on teacher rating when the cohort members were aged 13 and 15. It rated many things--conduct, behavior--and a handful of questions. For example, was the child unusually happy, unusually energetic, did they have a large number of friends? We developed a scale to see if they had one of those, none of those, or two or more.

What were some typical outcomes for happy kids?

The most important outcome was that as far as we had measured them, up to their mid-fifties, they were 60 percent less likely to have any mental disorder at all. And given the devastating effect of mental disorder on people, their families, and society, it's a huge difference. It supports the idea that we need to put effort to the early years to make sure all children have the best start they can.

Did you look at any other factors in the kids' lives--whether their parents had divorced, for example--or just whether or not they themselves were happy?

In this particular study, we only looked at the childrens' happiness based on those teacher ratings. From a different study we did, we found that the kind of parenting they had really affected people's happiness up into their fifties.


We typically think that a happy childhood leads to a happy adulthood. Does this finding suggest that's not true? Or are we just redefining what happiness is? (ie. it's now the option to divorce)?

The kids who were happy when they were young may have come from happier homes and know what a good relationship is like and maybe they were more likely to recognize when they didn't have one. I'd also be interested in whether the kinds of divorces they had were different--whether they ended up in more amicable divorces.

This seems like a rather pessimistic finding overall. What can parents take away from this?

The one finding about divorce was pessimistic, but the other findings were overwhelmingly positive. Some people end up in very bad marriages, perhaps having the strength to leave such a marriage is not a bad thing.

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You might believe that happy kids stand a better chance of growing up into happy adults. And for the most part you'd be right--a recent study looking into the effect a happy adolescence has on adul...
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MollyLive
Educator and peaceful divorce blogger
01:35 PM on 03/16/2011
I love the Huff Po's title for this piece "Why Happy Kids May Be Doomed." It doesn't sound like they are doomed. It sounds like happy kids become happy adults. Yet they also have a higher incidence of divorce. So maybe the conclusion should be that marriage isn't an indicator of happiness.
12:08 PM on 03/16/2011
Well if you know what it feels like to be happy, but then made the mistake of getting married. The desire of being happy once again might be the motivation for divorce.. I know it was my motivation.
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MollyLive
Educator and peaceful divorce blogger
01:33 PM on 03/16/2011
Good point!
02:55 PM on 03/16/2011
Thank you Molly
10:10 AM on 03/16/2011
Maybe they are spoiled? Maybe they marry other spoiled people? Maybe two spoiled people won't give each other enough to make a marriage work?
01:42 PM on 03/15/2011
This article assumes that marriage brings happiness and that marriage is a desired state. There is no scientific evidence for either, and a lot to the contrary. I have seen very few happy marriages. None that fit the glamorized view that is portrayed in the media. This article is misleading and the science behind it is mis-leading.
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GlassMask
Comedian/Curmudgeon
10:30 AM on 03/15/2011
I had a lousy childhood and a crummy adolescence, but once I moved out on my own and could become myself (whoever that is; still workin' on it), I was much happier, I could grow up, I could do the things I wanted instead of what my folks had in mind. Got married to a wonderful woman, and we've been together 24 years now. Don't underestimate the rotten early years for making you more determined to enjoy the later ones. ^_^
08:51 AM on 03/15/2011
Sounds like the popular kids marry early and often.
10:20 AM on 03/16/2011
Billy Joel --- Scenes from an Italian Restaurant
Brenda and Eddie were the popular steadies
And the king and the queen of the prom
Riding around with the car top down and the radio on
Nobody looked any finer
Or was more of a hit at the Parkway Diner
We never knew we could want more than that out of life
Surely Brenda and Eddie would always know how to survive.

Brenda and Eddie were still going steady in the summer of '75
When they decided the marriage would be at the end of July
Everyone said they were crazy
"Brenda you know that you're much too lazy
and Eddie could never afford to live that kind of life."
Oh, but there we were wavin' Brenda and Eddie goodbye.

Well they got an apartment with deep pile carpets
And a couple of paintings from Sears
A big waterbed that they bought with the bread
They had saved for a couple of years
but they started to fight when the money got tight
And they just didn't count on the tears.

Well, they lived for a while in a very nice style
But it's always the same in the end
They got a divorce as a matter of course
And they parted the closest of friends
Then the king and the queen went back to the green
But you could never go back there again
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07:24 AM on 03/15/2011
If you want to secure the sanctity of marriage,
then protect the escape hatch of divorce.
07:13 AM on 03/15/2011
Isn't divorce a good sign? It shows that a bad relationship has come to an end, good for both people.
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Ramkshrestha
Welcome to Nepal - the birthplace of Buddha
06:29 AM on 03/15/2011
No doubt after number of divorces, finally they would know what is life and that time it could be too late. If they can not compromise and ignore own weakness with existing own, the same process will repeat with others as well ruining their own life and kids' as well.
04:49 AM on 03/15/2011
Sure they do, they are used to being happy. If you are with the wrong person or they (or you) change significantly, why stay and be miserable? Only people used to being unhappy do that.
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dubbleplusgood
turned off CNN, turned on CurrentTV
04:44 AM on 03/15/2011
Ha! I knew there was a good reason to make kids miserable. ;)
04:13 AM on 03/15/2011
I don't believe many contemporary teachers or psychologists could identify a truly healthy child. A truly healthy person is not definable as happy or sad, but as authentic and emotionally whole, while having an ability to be moderate in their relationships, not necessarily being popular or a stand out, but rather being their own true-self .
07:36 AM on 03/15/2011
Excellent response and so true!
07:50 AM on 03/15/2011
would you like a fan?
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yannb
Noblesse oblige
03:56 AM on 03/15/2011
Fact 1: "outgoing happy people are more likely to marry than sad shy ones"
Fact 2: "married people are more likely to divorce than unmarried ones"
Conclusion: "outgoing happy people are more likely to divorce".
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rob2007
02:36 AM on 03/15/2011
When he was asked: "What is the best early training for a writer?" Hemingway responded, "An unhappy childhood."
04:01 AM on 03/15/2011
I think that's true.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YPnGPIMUnus

It's from Finland arguably the happiest country on the planet. They make some aweful music videos apparently.
05:35 AM on 03/15/2011
Not to be picky but Finland has a relatively high suicide rate and lots of alcoholism. Happiness is really hard to define.
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GlassMask
Comedian/Curmudgeon
10:31 AM on 03/15/2011
Also very useful for actors and comedians... ^_^
01:56 AM on 03/15/2011
A stable happy marriage between happy people is not exactly a bad role model for kids to experience while growing up. They may even wish to emulate that as they take their place in the adult world.