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Military Children Face Greater Academic Challenges Due To Relocation And Emotional Stress

The Huffington Post   Gabrielle Canon First Posted: 04/12/2011 11:29 am EDT Updated: 09/13/2011 11:31 am EDT

Michelle Hurley attended 12 different schools in six different states by the time she reached her high school graduation. She shifted between three different schools during her high school years alone.

"You just learn to deal with it," she says. "I was in the third grade before I did a full year of school without moving."

This is the reality children with parents in the military continue to face each year.

Hurley was on the move often, following her father, who was on active duty in the Army during her childhood. As he was reassigned, his faithful family followed, each time having to build new relationships and adjust to new surroundings.

Hurley remembers the frustration that came with each move and the fear that came with the midnight phone calls. Usually the wives of fellow military men called her mother for late-night support, relying on the solace of sharing their situation with others. She remembers how difficult it was when her father was gone, serving in the first Iraq war.

"You end up relying on your family to get you through," she recalls. "You just lean on each other."

According to the Department of Defense, there are currently over 2 million children of military parents in the United States. Military children typically attend between seven to nine schools before they graduate, moving approximately every two years. Each relocation brings with it the numerous problems associated with transitioning between education systems that may not translate. All these issues come amidst the emotional distress children face when a parent is absent for long periods of time, usually deployed to a dangerous destination.

Robert Blum, professor of the Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health elaborated in an interview with the American Association of School Administrators (AASA), about the difficulties children face when forced to live this lifestyle.

"Military families and military children are amongst the most transient of populations. It is not uncommon to see kids who have grown up in military families who have been in 5, 7 or 9 different schools by the end of their high school career. There is very high mobility. With high mobility come issues of engagement, disengagement and reengagement."

The Department of Defense found that children at different stages of development are affected in different ways.

Children ages 3 through 6 were found to exhibit behaviors of stress including regression, physical complaints and fears of separation.

Older children, who understand the reality and potential dangers associated with their parent's absence, exhibit signs of fear, irritability and sometimes aggression.

Teenagers were found to be rebellious and at higher risk of using drugs and engaging in early-age sexual behavior.

All of these emotional responses can have grave implications on academic performance.

In an effort to facilitate better understanding of the issues facing military children, the RAND Center for Military Health and Policy Research released a study entitled "Effects of Soldiers' Deployment on Children's Academic Performance and Behavioral Health."

The report found,

"Long and frequent deployments, with short dwell times in between, have placed stresses on Army children and families already challenged by frequent moves and parental absences. These stresses may present in the form of social, emotional, or behavioral problems among children at home and at school."

According to the study, the longer parental deployments were, the larger the impact on child academic achievement. Children who participated in the study were found to have lower achievement scores when their parents had deployed 19 months or more since 2001, across all academic subjects.

In light of these troubling findings, government bodies and nonprofit organizations alike are searching for solutions to help support school-age military children.

One government initiative that has resulted in recent years is the Interstate Compact on Educational Opportunity for Military Children, which was created in 2008.

The compact identified further issues affecting students,

"Military children often experience delayed enrollment, inappropriate grade-level placement, exclusion from educational programs and extracurricular activities, and delayed graduation. The compact establishes guidelines to better enable member states to address these issues."

Developed by the Council of State Governments, the compact seeks to align standards in education across the nation, including issues with enrollment, placement and attendance, and eligibility for extracurricular activities, to ease the difficulties associated with relocation and help a greater number of military children graduate on time.

According to AASA, 18 months after its creation, 26 states had signed onto the compact and, as a result, affecting 70 percent of school-aged military children.

Other programs have also been developed to assist these children academically. Student Online Achievement Resources (SOAR), provides online resources that allows students to sign on, take assessment tests based on state standards, and follow personalized tutorials. According to their website the program also allows parents to view their child's results from anywhere.

"SOAR is an innovative program that makes it easy for parents to play an active role in their children's education. SOAR is designed for military families, and is easily accessible worldwide."

Tutor.com has also offered their services to the military for free. Tutor.com is an online resource that provides access to professional tutors, day or night.

These programs are providing solutions to many of the problems military children face, however, experts say more needs to be done.

"More resources are available now than there have ever been, but we are dealing with the cumulative stress of a decade at war," says Joyce Wessel Raezer, the Executive Director of The National Military Family Association (NMFA).

"I believe what is going to be needed is sustained support," she elaborates. "Everyone across the country needs to realize the legacy of war is still there and it will stay with this nation for a very long time."

NMFA has created several programs, not only to assist families in the military, but also to provide resources for civilian members of the community who are needed to ensure these families are able to acclimate. "Finding Common Ground: A Toolkit for Communities Supporting Military Families," is a publication featured on their website that outlines several solutions civilians can take to lend a hand.

According to the publication, 70 percent of military families live in civilian communities. This is why it is essential for these neighborhoods to understand the needs of military families.

According to "Best Practices in Enhancing School Environment," a report commissioned by the Department of Defense, non-military schools should be better equipped to handle students with parents in the military, and experts believe this could be one of the most important factors in the success of these students.

"A positive school environment creates an optimal setting for teaching and learning. Research shows that school can be a stabilizing force for young people, both emotionally and academically, particularly when they are experiencing transition or crisis."

Michelle Hurley was lucky to be able to navigate the stressful life of the military child successfully. She reflects on her past, finding positivity in the struggles she faced. "It made me independent," she says, "and shaped the person I am today."

Though she was able to rely on the foundation her family provided, others may falter. Programs and resources are providing solutions, but civilian communities will make the key difference in assisting America's heroes and their families.

"Families are strong, but they are tired and stressed," Raezer says. "Communities need to learn how to help, because it takes all of us to support that military family."


This article is part of AOL and Huffington Post's Military Families Week series, an effort to put a spotlight on the issues affecting the lives of America's families who serve. Find more at jobs.aol.com/militaryfamilies and aol.com.

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12:47 PM on 04/13/2011
As a teacher in international schools, I have taught an enormous number of third culture kids (TCKs), not just army brats, but also embassy staff, non-gov orgs, and private enterprise kids.
Yes they move a lot, and yes change is difficult, but the schools and the students are used to this transition.
It is not the same to imagine the difficulties and social isolation a child would experience when moving from one giant public middle school in the US to another, and compare this to the TCK's experiences. I have kids come and go out of my class every few months. Even the kids that don't move regularly are used to seeing friends come and go. It's never easy, but they learn to accept it. And in return, they have a lot of incredibly positive experiences from living in another culture.
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JoePenn
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06:50 PM on 04/13/2011
We were lucky enough, as mil, to do a decade of embassy duty and our children attended int'l schools, filled with host-country students and children from all countries represented by embassies, non-profits, large, int'l corporations, etc., and what a fantastic experience. So much culture and understanding among 200-350 children, K-12 --- fantastic teachers topped it off and ALL parents were always heavily and positively involved - could not have been a better experience.

Another positive to mil life, whether stateside or o-conus, was having our children spend so much time with my wife and me - no mall-life and such.
02:25 AM on 04/13/2011
I'm not saying the study's findings were accurate, nor am I saying they are inaccurate, but saying, "I lived this life and I didn't have any of the problems, they mention," doesn't mean that the same is true for everyone. The study is about averages, not individuals.
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07:24 PM on 04/12/2011
navy brat here
as you grow up you learn its just a fact of life
the first 23 years of my life were the military 17 as a dependant and 6 as a service member
did i move around a lot by the time i was 21 i had been in 48 out of 50 states never got lucky engouh to go over seas
sure in one calander year i went to 4 diffrent schools
and thanks to facebook i have been able to get in touch with some of my old navy brat friends
funny thing that i see is as i look at people i went to hs with the ones that are more messed up are the civis
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JustMeinNJ
07:48 PM on 04/12/2011
I grew up in the same house from age 2-24. I went to school with the same kids K-12 (very few ever came or went). I can't imagine having to make new friends all the time as a kid. I have a feeling it matures you faster. It probably makes change easier. I think while at the time it probably wasn't the best thing - but moving around - when you look back at it gives you other advantages.
06:51 PM on 04/12/2011
Military brat here as well. Basically I describe this lifestyle as follows:
3 up - 3 down -- next duty assignment - you will never see them again - it's too bad, but you just have to deal with it - either you become an emotional basket case (every three years) or you simply build a wall around yourself emotionally to deal with it. My first 20 years were military so I didn't know anything else. Personally, I would do it again, strangely enough, if given a chance to relive it. Due to moving, I changed schools about 10 different times. However, I survived and so will all other kids who are in military families. I am connected, mostly online, with at least 600-700 other Military Brats that I have known through the years. At least Military kids today don't have to deal with the late night calls for their Army parent to hurry in to work as the country just moved to DEFCON 2 or potentially worse . . . .

. . . ahh the stories I can tell my kids . . . lol
06:25 PM on 04/12/2011
Army brat born in Germany, moved every year before age 8, traveled Europe by age 14, attended 11 schools before graduating high school, and then joined the Air Force & spent a decade overseas on my own. Today I work for the military as a civilian, speak 4 languages & wouldn't have the first clue how to work for "a corporation" with the single-minded goal of making a profit :) Frankly, I think that's a good thing!

It wasn't until I'd separated from the military & turned 30 that I kind of lamented never having "roots," or a place to go "home" to (my parents continued moving after my dad retired - it's a habit now!). Sure, "I have friends all over the world!", but at the same time "my friends are scattered all over the world" (and I rarely if ever see any of them). That can be kind of sad & isolating, especially for kids.

Being a military brat & veteran absolutely shaped my worldview, career path & [lack of?] social skills with those outside the military, for better or worse. As hard as it was to leave friends behind & never "belong" to any one place, I don't think I'd trade the experience. ...I also don't plan to inflict it on my own kids, however. The goal instead is to carefully schedule overseas moves on our own terms. We'll see how well that goes when plans smash into reality :)
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DevonTexas
Eternal Optimism
06:00 PM on 04/12/2011
Oh geeze! This brings back memories! I remember the first time I was old enough to experience the heartbreak of being subject to moving from one base to another. I think I cried fo like three days when I realized I'd have to leave my friends. I doesn't get easier, you just get better at it. By the time I graduated from a boarding school in the US while my parents were out of the country, I was in the 13th school! In the eight grade, it was three different schools!

But, on the other hand, I had a wild, exciting, constantly changing lifetime and travelled all around the world by the time I was 17. And on occasion I miss having people around that I've known since childhood. You learn to cherish the friends you have right now!
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05:47 PM on 04/12/2011
As an Air force brat myself, I've seen both those that have overcome the extra challenges and those that haven't done as well with them. I tend to get to know people very quickly compared to many. It definitely gave me a world view that many others don't get growing up in one place all their lives. Got to experience things that most don't get to experience either. Like flying a KC135 (just a simulator). My step-father was a KC135 instructor at Grissom. He also was head of LGMS at Offutt so he was in on the original B1 design back in the early 70s (which they never built).

Went to high school, back to middle school and then started high school again the next year. HUH?! High school in Indiana was 9-12 at Grissom AFB, middle school was 7-9 at the school I attended in Bellevue, Nebraska (Offutt). We moved there with about 3 months left in my 9th grade year. Lived in Illinois and California (a couple different places) also.

My step-father volunteered for 'Nam in 1968 (he happened to be there during the Tet offensive). Flew O10s (watch the movie Bat21). He volunteered so he would get a preferred assignment overseas (that was my Mom's wish). But, he did so well in Vietnam (Air Force Distinguished Flying Cross), that when he came back, he switched from MAC to SAC and that was his reward instead of a preferred assignment.
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DevonTexas
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06:06 PM on 04/12/2011
Cool. I know what you're saying. Great life, wasn't it!?

Even after my father retired form SAC, we ended up moving a lot. He went into the Foreign Service and we ended up posted in Southeast Asia. Because he was civilian, we got to go with him to Saigon --- right after Tet, by the way. It was a hoot! But I had to come back to the US for school. The schools there weren't very good (International school-- at least it was English-speaking!) LOL
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mrsvonii
05:00 PM on 04/12/2011
I'm so bummed that I joined the military out of ignorance and was a shill for corporate America. I'm so glad all you libs wised me up, cause till today I thought I loved being in the military and loved my country.
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DevonTexas
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06:06 PM on 04/12/2011
weird
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mrsvonii
04:48 PM on 04/12/2011
I grew up as a military dependent. It made me resilient, outgoing and adaptable. I treasure every minute of that time and wouldn't trade with people who grew up in one community and went to one school with all the same people. It must not have crippled me too much cause I have a college degree and a wonderful family. Thanks, Dad and Mom for giving me that chance and then accepting it when I joined the military too.
04:24 PM on 04/12/2011
WRONG! ABSOLUTELY WRONG! Military kids are resilient and learn to adjust well to change. I'm a military kid, all my life and moved many times. 3 times in the 5th grade alone and 2 different HS and I wouldn't trade it for the world. I got the best education, better than what most US public schools have to offer, and I have friends all over the country and world who are like family to me. We are no more prone to emotional or drug issues than any other kids, that is all psycho bable and don't believe a word of it! The kids are fine as long as the family supports eachother. I have 350 FB friends, all military kids, and every single one of them would agree with me, we got the BEST childhood ever and the BEST education ever. We learned to be responsible for our actions, to consider how they affected others, to have a broad view of the world, to celebrate diversity! We adjust, adapt and overcome. My military kid friends are the BEST and I wouldn't trade them for anything, and I'm so PROUD of my father and what he did, and so PROUD of my mom and my family for supporting him. The only think military families have to worry about right now, is GETTING PAID. SUPPORT OUR TROOPS!!!
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SionShankel
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04:36 PM on 04/12/2011
Wow, look at all the "new members" with no fans claiming they are happy successful military brats and that this article is wrong...... interesting pattern;)
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JoePenn
Shuhada?
04:42 PM on 04/12/2011
The expert --- usually wrong --- never in doubt. My children are mil brats, have lived on 4 continents and have great poise whether talking to a peer, child or adult ---- didn't get their character from me, thank goodness.
yappnmutt
humping legs for liberty
04:11 PM on 04/12/2011
the only negative about being an air force brat has been the lack of recognition for service to the usa for twenty years by civilians or .gov. it is not really a big deal because i know what i did even if it may not officially count.
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SionShankel
My opinons are all done sans pants
04:37 PM on 04/12/2011
Air Force brat...now of all the branches you had it easiest!
yappnmutt
humping legs for liberty
04:43 PM on 04/12/2011
and you would know this how?

you are definitely the exception. i am sorry you did not have the fun the rest of us apparently enjoyed.
05:23 PM on 04/12/2011
If I remember correctly you were the one who made the post about preferential treatment amongst officers and enlisted so the idea that you would now do a little bit of class bullying yourself is laughable.
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JoePenn
Shuhada?
04:46 PM on 04/12/2011
You're absolutely correct - my spouse and children were "diplomats" and like them, I'm sure you showed non-Americans that citizens are not their Govt, but always goodwill ambassadors.
The most DIFFICULT country to move to was ALWAYS back to the USA. Strange "homeland" indeed.
03:56 PM on 04/12/2011
I'm going to wait until the end of my contract to have kids, not so much for the academic stuff, my fiance is a physics education major, I'm not to worried about that, its more the moving around thing that would get me.
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INDIVIDUALTERRY
no to the collective!
03:45 PM on 04/12/2011
This report is a crock ! I went to 11 different schools in THREE countries and i'm doing great (just ask ).
The things you miss , you more than make up for in experiences others could only dream about.
From Check Point Charlie to southern Spain to the canals of Amsterdam before i was 17 and i would not trade a thing!
Military brats grow to accept the moves and changes in friends as normal.
The only ones i met who had a real problem were the ones posted state side in one location for a longer than normal period of time and then up rooted in their later school years.
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SionShankel
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04:12 PM on 04/12/2011
Good for you , I also had the personality to thrive in those conditions. But that is not the norm and I saw many peers who did not and my sister had to stay back in school a grade as was hospitalized for several times for stress related illnesses. I was lucky every time we moved I got the good teacher and she didn't until the last HS.
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INDIVIDUALTERRY
no to the collective!
04:17 PM on 04/12/2011
I suspect the case might have been the same in civilian schools.
Good teachers? In high school we had a multitude of teachers , not "one " good one , just as in any high school only they were generally more "worldly " and well traveled.
03:12 PM on 04/12/2011
Having grown up as a military brat. I have seen and lived through a lot of what the article describes. I also agree about the class system between officer kids and enlisted kids in the comments section.

To be honest, I wouldn’t trade my life as a military brat for anything. Spending 5 years in Germany, 4 years in Hawaii, 2 years in Texas and 5 in California gave me life experiences that no book ever could. Seeing how Europeans live, traveling all over Europe, extreme racism in Texas, were truly an eye opener for me as a child. Growing up in a military family brought us closer together, especially when my father went to Viet Nam or during the frequent moving. You just learn to adapt.

I have also seen the dark side. Delinquent kids, extramarital affairs, alcoholism and drugs. Like civilian life, it’s the strength of family that pulls you through the tough times. The kids who didn’t have a strong family bond were always the ones getting into trouble or had a harder time adapting.
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no to the collective!
03:47 PM on 04/12/2011
"The kids who didn't have a strong family bond" .....just like in civilian life.
Right on brother !
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SionShankel
My opinons are all done sans pants
04:16 PM on 04/12/2011
Thanks Jim, fanned and faved!

Its hard to have a strong family bond with all the moving around, parents marrying at young ages and loss of familiarity with extended family and dad is out to sea...and low pay often below poverty levels if your family is in he majority of the military the enlisted.
04:43 PM on 04/12/2011
Sion,
I absolutely agree it is tough. I remember while at Fort Ord, CA, a young boy committed suicide so his family would have one less mouth to feed. His family was on food stamps and they were still struggling to make it. This really shook up the Military community at the time and I believe there was even a Congressional investigation.

I was lucky that my mom always found a job to supplement the family income, wether it was working at the PX or the post nursery. Low paying jobs for sure, but every little bit helps. My father also made it a point, while in Europe, that we would travel around and see the different countries. A lot of my friends parents never took advantage of the opportunity while stationed over there.
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sandan
I am a 80 yr old military retiree
07:25 PM on 04/12/2011
Guy, You seem to have excuses for most of your life. I was enlisted 12 years during which I did civilian jobs: mowed lawns, painted housed, worked in a garage etc., until I became an officer, but I never blamed the Army for my inabilities, only myself!
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02:53 PM on 04/12/2011
Moving around can be very hard on military families.  My dad was a career military guy (he retired before I was born).  However, I have three older brothers.  After the youngest boy was born in France, my mom relocated back to the states and they stopped traveling with my dad.  Before my mom stopped moving around with my dad, they'd lived in Germany, France, and all over the US.  My folks ended up having about six years of separation before my dad retired.