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Foster Care: An Uncertain Future For Half A Million Children

Foster Care

The Huffington Post   Gabrielle Canon First Posted: 04/18/11 02:41 AM ET Updated: 06/17/11 06:12 AM ET

When Enrique Montiel was 9 years old, he and his four siblings were taken away from their parents, and placed into the foster care system. He remembers the fear, sadness, confusion and longing.

"We were put into a car and as I looked out the back window I watched my parents disappear into the distance. I tried to memorize where we were going, hoping maybe to find my way back, but it was just too far."

According to AdoptUSKids, an organization jointly run by the Children's Bureau, Administration for Children & Families, and the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, there are nearly 500,000 children in the U.S. still waiting to go home.

Montiel's parents immigrated from Mexico. His mother, who had a condition that gave her seizures, was unable to care for her children, and his father had little means to find a job so he resorted to selling flowers on the street.

The family of seven was forced to survive on food stamps and welfare, and lived in a one-bedroom mobile home in around Compton and Watts.

Montiel, who is the second eldest of five, recalls that concerned school officials intervened when they noticed discrepancies in his and his brother's attendance patterns. "We would take turns going to school," he says, "so after a while they noticed."

When the cops arrived to inquire about the truancies, Montiel's father was drunk, a state he was often in. Officials promptly acted. "They just drove us off."

His father visited his children regularly and worked hard to regain custody of them. "They loved us," Montiel reflects, "they just had a problem with alcohol."

This problem caught up with Montiel's father, who developed cirrhosis of the liver. As he began to get sick, he told his children that they had come to America for opportunities, and so they could get an education. "That stuck with me," Montiel explains.

When Montiel was 12 years old, his father died from his condition. All hope of familial reunification died with their mother a year later.

Montiel's story is one of many featured on the "AdoptUS Kids" website, detailing the lives of foster children in the U.S.

Foster children face a myriad of problems, including issues that stem from racism and homophobia, and other social problems which can result in abuse, neglect and even death.

A problem that affects nearly all foster care children, however, is the increased difficulty they experience in education. Because they are forced to relocate often, foster care children often lack both academic and emotional support. They have little recourse for dealing with these emotional stressors.

Montiel shuffled through, on average, a new foster home every year until he was 19. He continued to fight to find the confidence to be the only source of support for his younger siblings. "I was forced to become responsible for everyone," he remembers, "but it's my brothers who kept me on track. I couldn't live not knowing what was going on with them."

Childtrends.org reports that children in foster homes are twice as likely to do poorly in school than other children.

Casey Family Programs, a foundation that focuses on foster care policies, reports that 65 percent of foster children experience more than seven school changes during K-12.

"For every move, a child loses six to 12 months of educational instruction, which is detrimental to academic achievement," Kathy Ledesma, the National Program Director of AdoptUSkids says. But, she elaborates, that inroads have been made and the system is now seeing greater stability. "It is still not good," she explains, "but it is much better."

Foster children are also more likely to experience physical and mental health issues. Childtrends.org reports that foster children have a greater likelihood of health problems, even when compared to groups of children who are also disadvantaged, including those on Medicaid and those supported by Temporary Assistance for Needy Families (TANF).

The National Coalition for Child Protection Reform also reports increases in abuse in group homes, which often negates the reason by which children were originally taken from their homes:

"In group homes there was more than 10 times the rate of physical abuse and more than 28 times the rate of sexual abuse as in the general population, in part because so many children in the homes abuse each other."

Sadly, some of these children do not survive these difficulties. A Center for Family Policy & Research report estimates that in 2009, 1,770 children died from either neglect or abuse, 80 percent of which were under the age of 4.

Stories like Montiel's demonstrate that there is hope, however. Montiel now works as an advocate on behalf of other children who share this situation. He has custody of his brothers, one of which is a college-bound high school student set to graduate this June. His sister is currently working and going to college.

As a social worker at Nuevo Amanecer Latino Children's Services, he is working to help other children whose struggles he shared. He continues to believe in the power of the system that took him out of the dangerous living situation he would have remained in, but emphasizes the need for change.

"If I wouldn't have gone into foster care I wouldn't have accomplished what I did," he says. "But what really affected me was the idea of attachment. I never had someone I could call my parent -- the feelings and sense of belonging to a family."

"I was determined to be something in life, for my dad, for my brothers who were still in foster care, and for the children in care who experience what I had experienced ... I hope I can motivate prospective foster/adoptive families to consider becoming a positive resource for the children that are unable to return to their birth families. Every child needs an adult in their lives that could love and care for them, and who could also provide a safe environment."

"I believe the call to action is community responsibility to our children," says Ledesma, of the National Program Director of AdoptUSkids.

She explains, "the key is to treat foster parents well -- to provide support for them to parent children who have been traumatized."

Montiel, and others like him, are making a difference in the lives of foster children who need support. But more needs to be done, he says. "There isn't a lot of emphasis to help teens -- not a lot of funding when they leave, when they age out. We are missing support," he explains. "There are programs, but I wish there were more."

Learn more about how you can help foster kids at AdoptUSKids.

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12:06 AM on 05/06/2011
http://agedoutfosterkid.blogspot.com
02:11 AM on 04/22/2011
Most teenagers in foster care, age-out and are placed in the streets to survive on their own.

Children enter foster care by no fault of their own. And, often times they come into placement in need of programs and services that far exceed the provision of federal funding, which was cut 10% in 2009. This is where the FHSN Children’s Fund steps in. Through the fundraising efforts of the Children’s Fund, FHSN is able to provide basic care necessities, educational opportunities and incentives, family and sibling programs, self-esteem building programs, life-skills training, and social, recreational and cultural activities to the children placed in their care.

Family Health & Support Network, Inc. (FHSN) is a private non-profit 501 (c)(3) corporation established in 2003 to help high risk children in foster care (age 0-18) develop into healthy and successful adults. This is accomplished through the provision of safe and supportive certified homes and families; quality programs and services to children; professional, well-trained and caring staff and a community atmosphere that encourages teamwork and cooperation. Headquartered in Palm Desert, and through contracts with Riverside, San Bernardino and Orange counties, FHSN has provided quality foster care services to more than 1,500 high risk children and youth.

The annual Juneteenth in the Coachella Valley fundraiser is yet another demonstration of FHSN’s commitment to provide quality programs and services to the children who desperately need their help. Learn how you can help! http://www.fhsnet.org or http://www.juneteenthcv.com
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olitenup
04:17 PM on 04/20/2011
Can someone tell me why the children are removed from a home and not the parents? Instead of paying an equally abusive foster family, why not pay homemakers to go in and keep the children in their own space, and kick the worthless parents to the street.

I, personally know children who were more abused by their "foster parents" than their real parent(s).
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RicoShay
I like big mutts and I can not lie!
01:52 PM on 04/19/2011
All you anti-abortion people.... how many of these kids do you foster or adopt?
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wrenmark
Drink Tea not Koolaid
09:30 PM on 04/19/2011
So you would prefer that they had been killed? Really?
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RicoShay
I like big mutts and I can not lie!
11:48 PM on 04/19/2011
Did you read anywhere in my comment that I said such a vile thing? really?
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olitenup
04:21 PM on 04/20/2011
You didn't answer the foster/adopt question. Did you call your congressperson urging them to vote for assuring benefits for those children who need help? Just asking.

Before you ask, I do and I did.
11:44 AM on 04/19/2011
Meanwhile thousands of Gay couples want to adopt but are not able because of prejudice laws. It amazes me when you hear about the abuses that go on in foster and group homes and the powers that be would rather leave these kids where they are instead of going home with two Gay people who desperately want to share their love and their home.
11:51 PM on 04/18/2011
There is a blog written by a former foster child that talks about this very issue!

http://percolatedparadox.blogspot.com/2011/03/parental-rights-human-rights-and-foster.html
whinenot
Actions speak louder than words.
10:10 PM on 04/18/2011
Foster care is but one of a number of underfunded and under acknowledged safety nets that needs to not just be 'saved' from the GOP knife, but actually better funded. But wait, the rich and powerful couldn't possibly due without that third house, or 8th car or private jet. No, it simply isn't a priority in this 'christian nation'. 500,000 children in foster care is yet another indictment on our nation of 'haves and have nots'.
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
06:09 PM on 04/19/2011
You're right, this is what those social workers and child care workers and family court people do. And when they are overworked, they cannot do the proper interviews and investigations to make sure children are safe and well looked after. Plus, proper social security would help keep kids with their own parents. Removing kids from parents who are abusive is one thing, but taking them away from parents who are just poor is something else.

And for the tax-freakers, it's more cost-efficient to help a family get back on its feet than deal with the fall-out of abuse, neglect, foster care, jail, health issues, etc. that the kids could go through.
08:16 PM on 04/18/2011
I find it interesting though that these children (even if they are adults now) tell a story of inside the system looking at their parent's while I on the other hand can tell a story more so of a teenager looking at the system and dealing with the system in the same way that a parent does. Very apparent to me in some children (now adults), is the lack of compassion and understanding that a child (adult) has in not knowing the cruelty involved when a child is taken away from their parent's and the pain, grief and suffering involved; whereas I identify more with the cruelty involved to the parent's and what the parent goes through to get their child back. That is the side they don't see; where as that is the side that I experienced as a teen. Please do not comment to my post as in all stories everybody has different experiences and everybody's story is different.
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MJinCanada
Safe from zombies until my 2nd cup of coffee
06:13 PM on 04/19/2011
I know you said not to comment, Lodkia, but I just want to offer a virtual *hug*, because I've just read two books dealing with similar stories.
06:26 PM on 04/19/2011
Thank you for your kindness and understanding.
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ssassy78
Laughter is the best medicine.
07:31 PM on 04/18/2011
I get so enraged when I hear about this travesty in our society. At the same time the right is calling to end abortions and access to affordable birth control, I hear them say NOTHING about this. I say that every person donning a "Pro-life" bumper sticker should immediately report to their local social services agency and adopt one of these unfortunate children. Put your money where your mouth (and vote) is.
07:35 PM on 04/18/2011
Are you really implying that abortion is "affordable birth control"?
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ssassy78
Laughter is the best medicine.
07:43 PM on 04/18/2011
No. I'm simply stating that you can't cut off a tree limb to solve the problem of an overgrown tree. If you don't worry about the 'ROOT' of the problem, you are fooling yourself to believe you have provided a viable solution. Birth control, and yes, abortion, prevent us having another half a million.
07:54 PM on 04/18/2011
I believe they are referring to the attack on planned parenthood as a whole- an affordable clinic with access to birth control and yearly exams. I don't know what you read, but I didn't read ANYTHING that states that aborion is affordable birth control...
08:24 PM on 04/18/2011
Some people do come from large families; sometimes back then it wasn't a matter of birth control but a choice to have a large family even if they couldn't afford a large family; although, I believe probably times have changed now.
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Carol Snow
07:20 PM on 04/18/2011
Let all the Republicans take care of them since they are PRO LIFE! Send them to Boehner's house!
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Cindy Bloom
All I want is fairness 4 all, is that a bad thing?
07:23 PM on 04/18/2011
F&F
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ssassy78
Laughter is the best medicine.
07:41 PM on 04/18/2011
Don't do that to the kids. He'd have them shining his shoes, making his bed, and plucking his nose hairs in no time. I shudder when I think of the poor soul who would have the illustrious job of spraying on his tan!
socialtalker
this micro-bio is a great idea!
07:18 PM on 04/18/2011
i once thought about being a foster parent, until i had 3 separate instances of friends talking about how difficult the situation was. either the child was too damages to deal with or the system purposely move kids around even if the child and foster parent were doing well. now its like i will either go straight to adoption or not at all, but no foster parenting.
07:17 PM on 04/18/2011
By the way; how many people here have ever known a child in foster care? Was that child your sister, brother, niece, nephew etc. So many people talk as if these kid's just fell from they sky. This story is different because his parent's passed away; so, technically they are orphans; although, I do have to question if they have family in Mexico who would have gladly taken them in!
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atexasdem
Pointing out the foolishness of republican voters.
02:33 AM on 04/19/2011
Yea deport all those kids to Mexico. That'll save us some tax money. Dump them at the border and just drive off. Much like some do with unwanted puppies.
09:36 AM on 04/19/2011
Well, it would save you from having to pay a welfare king andqueen called a foster parent!
09:37 AM on 04/19/2011
Your response lacks a little tact; people do have relatives in Mexico; they just need to be found!
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Bushido08
Spirit of a Warrior
07:12 PM on 04/18/2011
Ok I'm not judging these organization but did anyone pay attention to the number of them involved with just this story?
I count at least 9!
AdoptUSKids, Children's Bureau, Administration for Children & Families, U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, Childtrends.org, Casey Family Programs, The National Coalition for Child, Center for Family Policy & Research, Nuevo Amanecer Latino Children's Services
I bet if we took all the money that these organizations rake in using the theme that they are trying to help children and just give it to the families they would all be rich and not need any of them.
I know this sounds terrible and as I said these organizations are probably trying to do good things but in the end it is still bureaucracy that shippons funds and donations from the children and families that need the money.
07:11 PM on 04/18/2011
Obviously, this is a story of a family who came to America to find hope; like most Mexicans do. When a family is poor it certainly is not unusual to live like this family. Every family's story is different. While I grew up in extreme poverty; I on the other hand experienced something so negative at the hands of this abusive agency and how they treated our family; I was treated as if I didn't exist and not even offered a peanut butter sandwich except emotinal abuse that has lasted a lifetime. Fortunately, I had a good head on my shoulders and withstood their abuse. So, while Montiel's experience is positive; although, I do have to wonder what kind of services his parent's were offered and I have reason to question that also! Also, please do not respond to my post as my experience is different and only I know the atrocity that took place; not you!
07:11 PM on 04/18/2011
Make the law such that these children can be adopted by loving families, and can stay adopted by them in perpetuity without having to worry about a capricious birth parent showing up some day with a feckless pettifogger to take them to court and sue for custody.