The Moment I Knew: Readers Share Their Divorce Stories

Was there a moment you knew your marriage was over? The split-second you saw the writing on the wall--even if you didn't acknowledge as much until later? We put the question to the Twitter-verse (hashtag: #themomentiknew), and collected our favorite responses below (and the most surprising--who knew bacon could figure in the demise of a lifelong union?)

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• june andujar

• Kathryn E. Irwin

• Mrs. Jenn S.

• Valerie L. Dye

• Tammy Delgado

• Sharon Marmon

• Helen RobertsVickers

• The Queen

• HuggingFitMum

• Shirkan Line

• PMC

• Michelle Stillson

• Bill Lucy

• yvonne2370

• Nisa

Comments

[Martyn Collins]

06:35 PM on 01/13/2011

I kinda knew it was over when one night while our 1 year old son was sleeping and we were watching TV, she revealed that she had a conviction for running a scam at her then employer May Co. She was somehow returning new clothing and netting the cash. I was shocked, appalled but in love with her and my son, but in the back of my mind I knew I had a huge problem it. Well 7 years and one beautiful daughter later, it's gonna be a wrap in 2011. I'll give her credit she offered joint custody. I'm not looking back.

[randy of the netses]

07:43 PM on 01/11/2011

When my wife said to me three months into our marriage: "I'm pregnant ... now you can never leave me." I had never said I wanted to leave her. We had agreed long before the marriage that we would not have children. She was suppose to be taking "the pill". A year after my son was born, I left ... and took my son with me. He's 24 years old now and sitting next to me right now doing his Calculus III homework for Civil Engineering at University. Greatest son in the world!

[Box500]

03:40 PM on 01/06/2011

A friend of mine had a wife who wanted a new SUV even though they had 2 cars which were only a few years old. She was relentless about it for a few months. He was the sole earner so she could stay home with the kids. Eventually, she was saying that he "wanted his children to die" because he wouldn't buy her a new SUV which was "safer" than the cars. She was not joking. This was the proverbial straw that broker the camel's back. He filed soon thereafter. She was "shocked" and of course, he was the "bad guy" to everyone they know. I know differently. She was insane and selfish beyond belief.

[ttaz4dqm]

09:49 AM on 01/06/2011

I knew it was over the day she charged the joint credit card up to it's limit and emptied the joint bank account. Had herself a nice little payday and headed for Vegas. Good riddance.

[dblan9]

03:35 PM on 01/05/2011

I have been married for ten years with a woman whom I love very much and enjoy being married to. With that being said, marriage is hell.

[MountPanic]

01:45 PM on 01/04/2011

WTF, HuffPo?

SOME of us still want to get married!

[Shaun Hensley]

09:37 AM on 01/06/2011

We'll fix that.

[dodgereceptionist]

12:02 PM on 01/04/2011

Looking back, now I know that it was the first time he met my mother, she asked him, to look at my baby pictures. He acted disgusted and didn't look at them. We had a baby together, during all the time we were together and through the pregnancy he NEVER looked at my baby pictures. Had I paid attention to the little things like that, which had so many times before in my life proven to be telltale; I wouldn't be alone with a baby right now.

[BuckZephyr]

11:53 AM on 01/03/2011

They say great pressure makes diamonds. A hot young woman screwing an older rich man also makes lots of diamonds. I had the perfect answer to that dilemma. I doubted that Michelle would like Dang. Michelle looked like she was more attracted to blonde women threesomes than brunettes. I needed to break free of this relationship without breaking the heart of this poor sensitive girl. I said, “Do you have a sister?” Dang looked at me cautiously. Then she said, “Yeah but we normally charge 500 pesos for a threesome.” I laughed at that cute little joke. She was such a trooper to have a sense of humor during such a hard time in her life. She had still kept her humor despite being in a loveless marriage and all the desperate emotionally draining hardship that comes with it. I answered back, “You are such a little kidder. No. I mean do you have a sister that’s single?

[sittingbull]

01:03 PM on 12/30/2010

#9 sounds selfish as hell........

[Pambie]

10:50 AM on 12/30/2010

When I came home from the hospital after having my second child and my ex had not even changed the sheets that I broke my water on (and had SLEPT in them). Housework was "women's work" (seriously) and he never changed a diaper either.

[boxeadora]

11:44 PM on 12/24/2010

I'd been working overseas for a month in a developing country with little email or cell phone infrastructure, and thus I was stressed and had little contact with home. When I returned to the U.S. on the first leg of my flights, I called my husband from my connecting airport to tell him that I was back in the country, and that I was looking forward to being home later that night after the next leg of my journey. Trying to spark up the sexytime after 4 weeks away, I suggested to my husband that when I got home, that we take a candlelight bath together while drinking some wine. I'd bought a $10 bottle of white at grocery store a month before, so I asked him if he'd chill it to prepare for my homecoming. His response: We've really got to cut back on our expenses and quit buying things like wine. When I closed my cell phone, I knew it was over.

[LynnyC]

04:52 PM on 12/15/2010

what's funny is a woman came into my store and seemed very unhappy with her two sons, I tried to talk to her about the products but she was disinterested, then when I told her as she was leaving to have a nice day, she groaned, "Ive seen better days" and walked out. Guess that's another way to know your marriage is over when you start bringing your problems up to sales clerks.

[Box500]

03:31 PM on 01/06/2011

Who else do many people have in our compartmentalized & highly controlled society? Many people have nobody in their corner.

[SonyaInTx]

09:11 AM on 12/15/2010

Not mariage, but a 2 year dating situation. I was in college and working really hard at getting good grades. He was in a local college nearby.

I started falling out of love, when people who had nothing to gain was telling me that he spent most of his free time partying it up on his campus. Being the trusting person I was, I thought everyone needs stress relief and didn't think he was cheating.

The final straw was when he was arrested for stealing something on his campus. When I asked what he was thinking, he was only pissed that he got caught.

I looked in the mirror and asked myself, "is this the person you want to be the father to your children"? Hell no I don't. I dumped him that day. No criminals for me.

[Ibackobama]

05:29 PM on 12/14/2010

I knew it was over when he said I was an unfit mother - not sure how considering I was almost a single parent for the past 13 years ....

[kona-apeman]

01:43 AM on 12/12/2010

Pretty much everyone I know who is or has been married makes me glad I'm not. Sheesh!