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'Go The Fuck To Sleep': Why Adam Mansbach's Latest Book Appeals To Single Parents

Go The Fuck To Sleep

Huffington Post   First Posted: 07/18/11 01:24 PM ET Updated: 09/17/11 06:12 AM ET

Author Adam Mansbach knows a thing or two about the difficulty of putting a child to sleep. The father of a three-year-old, Mansbach became increasingly frustrated with his daughter's bedtime antics one night and took to Facebook to blow off steam.

"Be on the lookout for my forthcoming children's book, 'Go the Fuck to Sleep,'" he joked in his status update, with no intention of writing the book. The responses he received were encouraging, and the concept for "Go The Fuck To Sleep"--a children's book for adults--was born.

Fast forward several months, and the book--comprised of quatrains that detail a child's bedtime excuses (thirst, needing to go to the bathroom), with the first two lines mirroring a traditional bedtime story and the second two reflecting the frustrated internal monologue of the parent struggling to get their kid to bed--reached number one on Amazon seven months before it was published thanks to a leaked PDF that went viral. In June, it debuted at number 1 on the New York Times bestseller list for advice books. Samuel L. Jackson recorded the audio book, it has been optioned as a movie, and numerous foreign publications are in the works. Mansbach attributes to book's success to its honesty.

"I think that a lot of parents feel very isolated and this resonates with them because it's cathartic and it gives them permission to laugh at something they are going through, to acknowledge something they’re going through, and to be a little less caught up in the gravity of it," he told Huffington Post Divorce recently. "A lot of people's self image is caught up in their understanding of themselves as parents, but it's in a very narrow way. It's not like, 'well I'm a good parent if I love my kids' or 'I'm a good parent if I teach my kids how to enjoy life,' it's like a good parent means this rigorous and self-defined level of control that's almost unattainable," he said. "There's not of lot of humor."

According to Mansbach, the book may be particularly appealing for single parents:

"[As a single parent] it's just you and the kid and there's no one to bounce your frustrations off," he said. "It's simply harder across the board to be a single parent, so you need more release and more confirmation that the way you feel is normal and acceptable."

He recalled especially challenging nights when he relied on his partner to "tag in" and assist with putting their daughter to sleep: "It's like, 'I can't do this anymore. I'm done. I need to tag out and you need to take over,'" Mansbach said. "If you're a single parent, you ... can't do that."

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Author Adam Mansbach knows a thing or two about the difficulty of putting a child to sleep. The father of a three-year-old, Mansbach became increasingly frustrated with his daughter's bedtime antics o...
Author Adam Mansbach knows a thing or two about the difficulty of putting a child to sleep. The father of a three-year-old, Mansbach became increasingly frustrated with his daughter's bedtime antics o...
 
 
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KennytheRTiger
02:23 AM on 07/20/2011
Children are the Worst S.T.D. you can get.
10:30 PM on 07/19/2011
The Love and logic program will help you with this problem, no matter the age.
11:51 AM on 07/19/2011
I believe my book---Days You Wish You Could F**ck Someone UP: When You Become Tired of People Sh* t-----is much better than his.
12:39 AM on 07/19/2011
hey, what about the book----Days You Wish You Could F**ck Someone UP--- that book is a classic...isn't that his?
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zelda777
transcend the B. S.
11:31 PM on 07/18/2011
PS, you can't yell at your kids and expect them to go to sleep - they'll just be upset. See my previous remark. Northern Culture parents have mostly lost the ability and the instincts to nurture children. What works is love and affection and guidance, and lots of outdoor play for the kids. Your kids will definitely pick up on the parental hostility described in this article. "Get the #$%^ to bed," is borderline abusive, and your kids will hate you for it.
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zelda777
transcend the B. S.
11:27 PM on 07/18/2011
More examples of horrible Northern Culture "parenting." I moved to Mexico 4 years ago and live in a peaceful and charming cobblestone village in the mountains with LOTS of cheerful and well-behaved kids everywhere you go. In this balmy climate, the windows are open, the kids are out running around the streets and plazas. I see and hear a lot.

I ride the bus a lot where there are lots of moms with little kids and babies, and the little ones are uniformly calm, content, and simply sack out in the loving arms of their parents who carry them around. I've NEVER heard fussing or whining or acting out here, or in four years, I've never heard or seen one fight among kids of any age.

Down here, kids grow up in big and affectionate extended families where the babies are cuddled and played with by everyone, including their macho daddies. The moms walk their kids around town holding hands with the little ones as soon as they are able to walk. When they are tired, the parents pick them up and carry them. The moms don't have cars, and strollers don't work well on cobblestones.

So, the kids here are so much more calm and cheerful, and can also sleep through noise that drives the gringos crazy.. If the US kids had a LOT more exercise, less electronics, a LOT more cuddling, they would fall asleep much more easily.
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trescher
"You play with dirt, it gets in your eyes"
10:20 PM on 07/18/2011
My kids heard that phrase, (and I heard it from mine) way before this book came out. It's a human thing. I think every little kid has had that yelled from another room in at least some point in their life! My kids are great and my sisters and I came out just fine.
08:52 AM on 07/19/2011
Never, ever heard it. Never used it as a child.
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carllafong
Don't tell me I don't love ya.
04:32 PM on 07/18/2011
Excellent! I hope it's as successful as my book, "Get Your A$$ Out of the Street!"
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playsindirt
So much dirt, so little time.
04:19 PM on 07/18/2011
I was handed this at a party and laughed out loud when I read it. My 21-year-old son was appalled until I reminded him that he didn't sleep through the night until he was 2. All parents, unless you're blessed with a child who sleep through the night from birth, can relate to this book.
10:39 AM on 07/19/2011
Amazon review: 5 star or 1 star. which one are you?
http://www.amazon.com/Go-F-Sleep-Adam-Mansbach/product-reviews/1617750255/ref=cm_cr_pr_viewpnt_sr_1?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=0&filterBy=addOneStar
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fwwest
70 year old grandmother
04:06 PM on 07/18/2011
Ah as a mother of 3 and grandmother of 5 and aunt to a number of nieces and nephews this thought has crossed my mind many times!!!
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redsongia
is not Chicago
04:03 PM on 07/18/2011
I love this book as read by Sam Jackson. Honestly, who says the F word better than him. There should be a category in the oscars or the Nobel Prize for saying the F word and Sam Jackson should win it every year.
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SavageLeto
The Fulcrum
04:10 PM on 07/18/2011
If this place was not so heavily moderated, I would hope that I could show you, that one day I might be up for consideration, for that prize and title as well...

Ahh to dream.
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Bishop Coxcomb
04:03 PM on 07/18/2011
Yes yes... we remember this book from a month ago. Let it die.
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marianproletarian
03:59 PM on 07/18/2011
Please, it resonates with any parent who's had to put their kid(s) to bed.
03:19 PM on 07/18/2011
I was sitting in Barnes & Noble the other day when my elder daughter (a child care specialist) brought me this book to read. I laughed til I cried, this is what every single parent I know has been through. Definitely worth reading.
10:41 AM on 07/19/2011
not every one who purchased this book like it repetative use of the "F" word. Sad to see this book make any money. ck out amazons 1 star review http://www.amazon.com/Go-F-Sleep-Adam-Mansbach/product-reviews/1617750255/ref=cm_cr_pr_viewpnt_sr_1?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=0&filterBy=addOneStar
10:54 AM on 07/19/2011
It's only a word, and no one is forced to read the book. My, my, my, what delicate sensibilities you have.
03:11 PM on 07/18/2011
Single parent writes a book about how difficult it is to raise a child by themselves. No doubt true. But so many couples end their relationships and this is what they are left with. No one to help them do the things they were never meant to do by them selves in the first place. Scoffers need not reply. So the frustrated "adult" pens a book for "adults". big whoop! and has to add the "f: word to show HOW childish the child is. Bwaaaaaaahahahahah. Thats what they are! Children! and if one cannot accept that raising children is an excersize in constant course correction, they are in for a rude awakening. The new logic of letting ones kids express them selves without limiting them has nasty consequences. I wont read the book. Dont need to. Dont want to. I would rather spend the money on a book to read to MY kids. Not one about His. ...... Get married, stay married, and help the other to do what they cannot do without you.
03:21 PM on 07/18/2011
Yeah, how dare those widows and widowers try to raise a child. Durn them and their dead partner!
04:29 PM on 07/18/2011
bi-polar, I doubt you are one of those people. try to find another small percentage of the single population to make a point with
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stopnlisten
Hitch your wagon to a star!
03:30 PM on 07/18/2011
Good luck with that...I mean your life and attitude in general.
04:30 PM on 07/18/2011
Thanks, I will continue on as usual.