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Gen X Women Succeed at Work, Have Fewer Kids: Study

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First Posted: 09/13/11 09:59 AM ET Updated: 11/13/11 05:12 AM ET

The women of Generation X are a hard-working bunch. They're so hard working, in fact, that many of them are opting to not have children, according to new research from the Center for Work Life Policy.

The study, titled "The X Factor: Tapping into the Strengths of the 33 to 46-year-old Generation," concluded that Gen Xers, who you might think of as the "Reality Bites" generation, have gradually shed their slacker reputation to become more ambitious and educated.

But they are also more likely to be childless than members of their parents' generation -- over 40 percent of women between the ages of 41 to 45 surveyed didn't have children.

According to the study, during Generation X's peak years, more than 34 percent of Gen Xers were enrolled in colleges and universities. Women and minorities made up 64 percent of graduates.

The downside to these positive numbers is that debt has been a major contributing factor in the career choices of Gen Xers: 43 percent of them said that their ability to pay off their student loans is an important factor in their career decisions, while 74 percent cited credit card debt as a factor.

Other factors that make the Gen X outlook less than rosy: Multiple boom and bust market cycles and the current housing slump. As a result, they're first generation not meeting the living standards of their parents.

So what's all this got to do with forgoing parenthood? HuffPost asked Sylvia Ann Hewlett, the founding president of the Center for Work Life Policy and author of "Winning the War for Talent in Emerging Markets: Why Woman are the Solution" -- whose work has inspired some debates in the past -- to walk us through some of the study's findings.

According to a CWLP press release, Gen Xers are "choosing" not to have children. Does this mean they delay and then can't get pregnant, or are they actively making the decision not to have children?

The data show that at age 40, college-educated women in this generation do not have children, and that’s obviously towards the end of the childbearing years. I call it a 'creeping non-choice' because it's nuanced: You don’t wake up one day and say, 'I'm not going to have kids.' It’s a decision that falls out of other circumstances. Other important factors and opportunities crowd out the possibility of having children.

36 percent of Gen X men also don’t have children by age 40, but women are paying a more permanent price because guys can have children when they're 55.

It's also true that whether it's extreme jobs, or the financial pressure on this generation, many individuals decide they want to do two things well, and not three things badly. Those two things are their relationship and their career.

According to your findings, some of the reasons Gen X women aren’t having kids are career ambition and economic challenges, as well as changing mores and life choices. Can you explain how these factors are deterring women from having children?

I think more women definitely want to find success and fulfillment in work, love, and those are the two things that you're gunning for in life.

What happened to work is that it has become much more extreme: We find that 28 percent of Gen Xers are working 10 hours more a week than they were 5 years ago. That's in part because of the Great Recession. Everyone is doing more with less. Everyone's running a little scared. Unemployment is 9 percent. You really fear for your job.

There's tremendous work pressure and it's gotten considerably more intense over the last 5 years. Sometimes it's hard to find time to wash your hair, let alone date and have kids.

The study found that among non-parents, 60 percent of women and 36 percent of men feel their personal commitments are perceived as less important than those of colleagues with children. What's going on here?

Many companies have a bunch of benefits and support policies around working parents. There's flextime, paid parenting leave, telecommuting options, these things are not unusual these days. Often times, non-parents feel that all the best benefits are going to one demographic: those who are married with small kids. If you've got a two-year-old, you luck out. If you want to run a marathon or play the cello or volunteer, you have a really hard time getting any legitimacy around those things.

It's not that non-parents are [be]grudging parents getting help -- because they do understand this is a hard society to bring [a] child up well in -- but they're beginning to say, 'What about me? How about honoring and celebrating my life out of work? I also have a life.' Therefore, there's a big yearning to have employers pay attention to their passions.

One big recommendation of the report is that employers look hard at their employees and try to figure out what it takes to make everyone feel that their lives are respected and that we are inclusive in terms of giving support of lives outside of work. Maybe that yoga class at 6:30 is as important to you as picking your kids from soccer.

When it came to the men and women you surveyed, on which topics did you see the biggest differences in their responses?

We find that by their mid-thirties, and certainly by age 40, women are feeling more stalled in their careers than men. They are less likely to make it into senior positions. There really is still a glass ceiling, no longer the lower or middle management level, but at the senior management level, and that popped up in our survey.

One interesting different take from men and women was that when we asked them in this survey, what is your role in child care responsibility, 54 percent of male Gen Xers claim that they were sharing it equally, but women didn’t agree with them. Only 25 or 30 percent of Gen Xers felt that their partners were doing 50 percent. Maybe men have this aspiration to divvy it up equally, but they don’t always come through.

The study found this generation to be a particularly resilient one. How did you measure ‘resilience,’ and why are women in particular resilient?

It was the amount of times you've been let go and experienced churns in the market place. If you can survive that and hang on to your ambition and your work ethic, you're doing pretty well. Fewer women in this generation have the option of relying on a man to pay her bills for the rest of her life. There's been a fundamental shift in terms of the expectation for a dual income family: There's a need for dual income families. I think women understand that they're in this game for the long hall.

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The women of Generation X are a hard-working bunch. They're so hard working, in fact, that many of them are opting to not have children, according to new research from the Center for Work Life Policy.
The women of Generation X are a hard-working bunch. They're so hard working, in fact, that many of them are opting to not have children, according to new research from the Center for Work Life Policy.
 
 
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02:15 PM on 11/01/2011
I had myself sterilized at age 26 because I always knew that I didn't want children. More women are waking up to the fact that a child free life can be rewarding and fulfilling too! Childfree people deserve respect, not to be mocked all the time.

We've got 7 billion people and a planet in crisis, so maybe there's no need to give people incentives to produce more children.
09:19 AM on 10/19/2011
--I call it a 'creeping non-choice' because it's nuanced: You don’t wake up one day and say, 'I'm not going to have kids.' It’s a decision that falls out of other circumstances. Other important factors and opportunities crowd out the possibility of having children.--

Sorry?

Actually, what often happens is we just don't want to have kids, which allows a lot of time for other projects, like work, yoga, cookie eating, etc. - Sylvia, author of 'No Children, No Guilt' (Should probably have included a subtitle, though: "And not because I forgot or got too busy.")
01:06 PM on 09/19/2011
Could it be possible that they have no time to take care of a child? Maybe being married is a prerequisite to having children. Maybe peer pressure no longer works when you're forty. Maybe you don't want to be called "baby mama". Maybe you don't make enough to feed several people. Maybe it's not my job to populate the earth.
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12:19 PM on 09/19/2011
Wow, honestly I'm kinda surprised by the number of people so dismissive of one of the most basic, fundemental parts of being human...reproduction. From what I hear having a child is one of the most wonderful, enriching things in life, and to poo poo it so easily? Sad and one dimensional...
04:11 PM on 09/19/2011
You might try reading The Mommy Myth: The Idealization of Motherhood and How It Has Undermined Women by Douglas and Michaels.

You have been sold a patriarchal media myth. Do you think cleaning up feces and diapers is wonderful and enriching? How about being sleep deprived for months on end because the progeny screams half the night? How about when the infant grows into a teenager, borrows your car and plays horrible music in your house? Wonderful and enriching?

The greatest rates of depression are found in stay-at-home mothers with young children. That should tell you something about how enriching child care is. In studies, half of older parents say that they wish they had not had children.

With the planet straining under the weight of 7 billion humans, encouraging wholesale reproduction and motherhood is a suicidal course.
10:07 PM on 09/18/2011
Be careful what you wish for feminist. No wonder so many American men are marrying foreign woman.
09:21 AM on 10/19/2011
It's perfectly all right with us, too. :)
07:18 PM on 10/27/2011
I guess its really taxing for the male ego to have to address their sexual partner as an equal person with autonomous interests.
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Mohammed Noori
05:04 PM on 09/18/2011
I respect and admire the previous generation (my parents' generation) for the enormous hard work, sacrifice and dedication they put in to raising us and giving us a good life.

Instead of having children (which, in all honesty, I do crave internally), I think a lot of people feel the need to take care of their parents which can be difficult if one wants to balance that with marriage and kids.

My parents are getting older and I'd like them to move in with me so I can take care of them. I think previous generations have made enormous sacrifices like volunteering to go to war, becoming refugees, living on a skint wage so their children can enjoy life, etc. and me helping them could be a humble way of saying thank-you.
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Dakota Yates
02:22 PM on 09/18/2011
I chose not to have children because of the awful experiences I had when I was attending Public School in Las Vegas, Nevada. (Back in the day) they used to paddle students right in the classroom for the slightest things. And sometimes the teachers were sever in administering punishment! I think it must have been a learned behavior because all those teachers talked about when they were students and on the receiving end of the paddle.

My memories of school are awful, and there was no way in hell I was going to have children (to deal with the bull---- I experienced then, but now with my own children.) It wasn't just paddling, but it was alson bulling that a lot of the teachers did to students!! Now I have no idea what the schools are like there now, but obviously my experiences left a life long scar on my soul!

I have never regreted my decision not to have children. I think (for those who have them, and wanted them) Bravo!! I am happy for you. But the worst thing is for someone who doesn't want them, to bring them into the world. What an awful life for those children to have detached parents!!
09:33 AM on 09/17/2011
The economic factor is not the only one in play here. Gen Xers are the first to be painfully aware of their parents' failures, as parents and as a generation. And they are very mindful not to repeat them. Gen X women do not want to get knocked up at age 22, because there was a contraceptive malfunction, or get married just to get married, or have kids just to have kids while working and be absentee mothers the way their mothers were.

They want to go to College, have an interesting job, and a fulfilling relationship. That leaves very little time for motherhood- the window of biological possibility is very small.
10:54 AM on 09/17/2011
Agreed.
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Mohammed Noori
04:55 PM on 09/18/2011
I think our parents, in an overall sense, did a wonderful job. If only our generation were more appreciative of their efforts.
03:25 PM on 09/16/2011
Women who love children should have children. Those that want to be like men and have a career, should not. Feminists are destroying America anyway.
09:25 AM on 09/17/2011
Wow, it's tro!! day today, isn't it.
09:54 PM on 09/17/2011
At least those women you think want to be men can support themselves if their husbands decide to leave them or die. They don't have to rely on alimony or go on welfare to get by.
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Stacey Schley
12:53 PM on 09/15/2011
Didn't need a study for that. I am a Gen X and my husband and I do work...a lot. Between full time jobs, and part time school for my Masters, when do we have to time to raise a child? Oh trust me, I want one. However, there is so much uncertainty with job security right now. I am getting my Masters for more options just in case. I read an article several weeks ago that says Gen X also is very pessimistic about their financial future. I feel its completely irresponsible to bring an innocent child into a world of uncertain financial health. Plus my job doesn't provide pay during maternity leave. How does one go out of work with a new baby for 6-8 weeks with no pay? We are working harder to survive, not for selfish reasons.
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Goddess Athena
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11:14 AM on 09/15/2011
As for children, I knew that I did not want kids from the time I was a teenager. I love kids, but I don't see myself as a person who would be a good parent, and I would not want to have children if I would feel indifferent or resentful towards them. And I never thought that I could "have it all" because there is just too much work and responsibility in parenting to be able to devote enough time and energy to do everything well. It's a series of choices and compromises in any life choices. I've always thought that raising children had to take priority over a career.
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Goddess Athena
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11:09 AM on 09/15/2011
A "slacker image?" I don't see it. Most of the people I know have worked hard to get where we are now, and that started when our educations ended. I had a three year period when I did not have a job because I stopped working to become a full-time caretaker to an elderly relative with alzheimer's. I was back to a full time jobe within 3 months of her death. I have always worked hard, done my job well. I don't feel stalled in middle management, but that is the nature of my profession. I do know that many of my friends feel stuck and unable to advance, and many of them sya it's because the people above them aren't retiring due to financial concerns.
09:38 AM on 09/15/2011
The time necessary to get ahead and jockey for statues and power in the business world negates the ability to reasonably have a viable family.

The best most fertile years are spent pushing papers, getting degrees and trying to move up the ranks. All of this stuff requires no attachments and the ability to relocate and work any hours. Having a family makes that problematic.

The nature of the economy makes this happen.
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lrobb
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08:20 AM on 09/15/2011
My 36 year old daughter made the decision early on not to have children. As a teenager she never babysat because she found youngsters annoying. Her friends were always several grades ahead of her, and her fiancee is ten years older and also childless.

This wasn't a choice based on economics, and it most certainly wasn't selfish. For someone like my daughter to have had children would have been a much more selfish decision because she knew she would be an impatient mother with little interest in anything her children were doing.

Too many women simply don't have the courage to be honest and say they just don't like kids.
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jf12
Esta vez saldré como las otras y me escaparé.
09:16 AM on 09/15/2011
But like cats, plural. Am I right, or am I right?
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KDMac
It's called sarcasm, Genius.
09:19 AM on 09/15/2011
lol!!
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lrobb
Gold Standard = four paws and a tail
09:23 AM on 09/15/2011
Cat, singular, of the Ragdoll variety. Very large. Very affectionate. Very independent. :)
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chiara0
The sleep of reason produces monsters.
04:28 AM on 09/15/2011
It took me many years into adulthood to recognize that 'typical' family life for women didn't create satisfaction for me and another bunch of years to stop pursuing that because I had inherently learned this was what I was supposed to do and I couldn't recognize how to stop the pursuit for the longest time. Cutting out all that waste of my energy has been very freeing.