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Government Assistance And Divorce: What's The Connection?

Government Aid Divorce

First Posted: 09/14/11 02:53 AM ET Updated: 11/13/11 05:12 AM ET

It probably comes as no surprise that money troubles often lead to marital strife. But could receiving government assistance such as food stamps, Medicaid or welfare do further harm to your marriage?

The answer is yes--and in a big way, according to Dr. David Schramm, a researcher and professor at the University of Missouri.

In a study released earlier this month, Dr. Schramm found that, among couples in the same income bracket, those receiving government assistance experience lower rates of positive bonding, commitment to their spouses and overall satisfaction in their marriages. They are also more prone to divorce, negative interaction and feeling trapped in their marriages.

Dr. Schramm, a relationship and marriage education expert, surveyed 295 couples, 64 of whom were receiving some form of government assistance. He found that couples earning $20,000 or less--and receiving some form of government assistance above and beyond that--reported significantly lower rates of marital satisfaction than those earning the same amount but receiving no state support.

With jobless rates high, more families are relying on state aid. What does that mean for their marriages? We spoke with Dr. Schramm to find out.

What are the implications of your study?

We have to take a closer look at what the effect of government assistance is, and how it may affect people’s attitudes and make them feel inferior: “Now I can’t provide. I can’t be the provider because I’m out of work, or looking for work, and now we have to rely on government assistance.” There may be a stigma associated with receiving welfare assistance, so I think we need to do a better job of looking at what government assistance does to individuals’ sense of self and well-being.

For married people, I think that regardless of income, regardless of government assistance, I think the implications are that relationships take work, that all relationships will experience stressors, whether they are economic or otherwise. There are very, very happy marriages that we know of where people make hardly any money, and there are very unhappy marriages with people who make a lot of money. So income doesn’t need to be a determinant of relationship satisfaction. All relationships, regardless of income, take time, and effort and putting the other first.

What surprised you most about your findings?

[What surprised me most] was that people could be making the same amount, $20,000 or less, and yet one group happened to differ. There was such a big difference [in terms of marital quality] between those who are receiving government assistance and those who are not.

What are some possible explanations for your findings?

I have some plausible explanations: One, I think, and the research supports this, is that work brings satisfaction and accomplishment. And perhaps government assistance, for some men, may make them feel inferior, which may influence their level of stress.

There’s some research that shows that welfare participation compromises family values, it somehow biases the values and attitudes of those receiving it against marriage. Another explanation may be that there’s some other factors that we haven’t tapped into: There may be some mental health factors, the person may be disabled in some way, or there’s drug abuse. So there may be some other possible explanations ... This is not causal, this is simply correlation and not causation.

In your report, you suggest that mental illness and addiction are sometimes characteristics of those receiving government assistance, and that those qualities may contribute to lower marital quality. If that’s the case, wouldn’t it be more accurate to say that mental illness and addiction negatively affect marital quality, rather than the receipt of government assistance?

There is some research that shows the effect of mental illness and substance abuse, even disabilities—depression, anxiety, those types of factors—they do have a direct effect on relationship quality … [And yet] we have no reason to think that those that received $20,000 didn’t also experience some health challenges. The question that we can’t answer from this is, what are the other differences? There’s got to be some other differences between those two groups of people receiving less than $20,000, other than one is simply receiving government assistance.

There’s still something that we haven’t uncovered yet.

What can be done to improve marital quality for couples receiving government assistance?

[Right now I'm working on a project] to develop a curriculum to train social workers and child welfare workers—those who work with this type of an audience—to give them the tools, relationship tools, to go in and help the individuals, the couples, who are low-resource and likely receiving government assistance.

We’re doing workshops with social workers, I’m teaching a graduate class [at the University of Missouri] this semester with social work students, to give them the tools to help individuals and couples who want to have a healthy relationship to have one.

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ignacio sanabria
Mirror synapses at work
03:52 AM on 09/17/2011
If were not for these pesky sex and money issues, people would be very happy with each other.
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22Keys
11:41 AM on 09/16/2011
We have come a long way in many aspects of since the civil rights movement. My grandmother was subjected to some pretty ugly racism at the time. However she still believed in the institution of marriage. The erosion of the black nuclear is something that has gotten worse since the 1960s and we should work to amend the situation.
12:11 PM on 09/15/2011
Im thinking there's no mystery here. A couple making 20,000 /year works out to both people making about $4.80/ hour, full time... so maybe that would be migrant workers, or something? What you really have here are couples where one person is earning $8-10/hour, and the other is not working, or working very few hours. In a home where the person not working, or working very few hours is getting government support, they are more independent, feel more empowered to stand their ground on disagreements, and/or tell their partner to get lost (break up.) And I've been out of grad school for about 15 years now, but back then, the most stable marriage (lowest rate of divorce) was still the full-time husband with part-time or stay-at-home wife (no, I didn't say that's how everyone should live, so cool your jets, feminists. I just said that group had the lowest rates of divorce. It's a statistic you can easily check, I'm sure.) Add to that the difference between respecting someone for the work they do to add to the family income, vs. the disdain most people feel for hand-outs, even as they accept them. I really don't see any great mystery in the observation that government subsidies are not really good for people, other than as a short-term bridge through a bad spot in life.
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Mchris1947
My Life is Too Big, for a teenie-tiny Bio.
07:54 PM on 09/16/2011
Noggindog, making sense when commenting on a blog post on HP is a rare feat.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
11:40 AM on 09/15/2011
The female finds out that she will get much more government help after a divorce - so there is a divorce.
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amd02148
01:45 PM on 09/15/2011
Ed, don't comment on things that you 100% wrong on. Please. What is the matter with you? Things don't work like that. If there is one less person in the household the receipient gets LESS money and food stamps.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
03:34 PM on 09/15/2011
Actually, if she is a single mother, there is increased aid.... might be different in your state, but in many states, extra benefits are given for this status. Even the IRS gives special tax rates to single parents who work for a living.

I know because they out foxed themselves in our case. My partner and I each had to file as single people because the federal government doesn't recognize our marriage. Each of us claimed one of our children. We qualified for the "single head of household" tax rate - much lower than married filing jointly, in fact the lowest income tax rate one can have. If the federal government had recognized our marriage, we would have had to pay more tax.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
11:38 AM on 09/15/2011
If you don't feed the kitty, the kitty will start to wander.
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warloch2
Spraying cold reality from the hose of truth.
08:23 AM on 09/15/2011
It does not matter why the fact is it does. Liberal policies hurt families either by design or through ignorrance.
:-)
11:04 AM on 09/15/2011
Making less than $20K per year in a marriage with kids and/or being unemployed is an enormous relationship stressor. Government programs can help but problems are very complex and stress often breaks apart the relationship.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
11:39 AM on 09/15/2011
Yeah well I don't understand that. My partner and I have been up down and all around - it's me and him against the world - we've been poor, rich, poor, sick, healthy - you name it.....
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warloch2
Spraying cold reality from the hose of truth.
12:43 PM on 09/15/2011
jedwigtn,
I agree with you however the fact still remains that government welfare requires that women be single in order to receive it and because of that many couples are forced to live apart. That was written into the program by liberals and makes no sense. Also, having been unemployed with two small children I know from experience that had my wife and I not had a strong relationship to begin with the stress of poverty would have easily drove us apart. The key to success is stopping dysfunctional behaviors, being responsible and having a mature marriage based in love.

:-)
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FACTISFACT
A war veteran. Finally retired
05:11 AM on 09/15/2011
It is not the government directly but indirectly yes it does, but directly the divorce law does. The males are scared to marry under the overall situation prevailing in the country and the divorce law playing always the role of the last nail in the coffin.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
11:40 AM on 09/15/2011
Further, most social programs pay her much more if she divorces..... marriage is penalized in social programs.
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amd02148
01:52 PM on 09/15/2011
Ed please why do you keep posting the same wrong information over and over? on a welfare budget there is an amount alloted for each member of the family. When someone leaves the household, the allotment for that person who left the household is subtracted from the household budget. And that household receives LESS money and food stamps.
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Zilo
Indie--The GOP opposes critical thinking
03:03 PM on 09/15/2011
Social programs rightfully recognize that marriage is *supposed* to theoretically offer more stability financially, that's why.
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ApprxAm
Oh, dam_…the dam is broke!
02:46 AM on 09/15/2011
You know what would be nice government assistance? Good schools, consumer and police protection.
11:50 PM on 09/14/2011
Everybody keeps saying it is financial stress and poverty etc. that is to blame for the higher divorce rate among government assistance recipients but read the article again. It compares couples EARNING 20,000 and either receiving assistance or not. In my opinion any couple earning 20,000 or less is living in miserable poverty. Shouldn't the ones making that income AND receiving assistance be less stressed because they have a safety net? Wouldn't the couple making 20,000 and getting no help be more subject to stress and financial worries? I agree that it is simply not as easy as "financial stress" being responsible for these findings.
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02:17 AM on 09/15/2011
It's obvious that if you aren't asking for a handout you have pride and together you are resiliant and are on the same page with your spouse. You are looking at life in a positive way and are working together as a team. Makes sense that you have more character and will stay together to weather the difficulties in life.
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Zilo
Indie--The GOP opposes critical thinking
03:04 PM on 09/15/2011
That's such conservative bs. You guys so obviously just make it up as you go along.
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Ed Baker
All Hail Big Mother
11:41 AM on 09/15/2011
But the social workers tell her that she'd get a lot more money if she were divorced, so she gets divorced.
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amd02148
01:54 PM on 09/15/2011
All I can do is shake my head. Ed you just don't get it.
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10:12 PM on 09/14/2011
DUH! Taking the handouts destroys your pride.
09:29 PM on 09/14/2011
It amazes me how much you people out there know very little about people who are trying to survive on Social Security Disability Income who have worked all their lives and have to rely on the government for assisants. All of you are very ignorant.
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Crystal McCree
HP loves to block me
12:08 PM on 09/15/2011
It is easier to demonize unfamiliar situations rather than to empathize and figure out what is really going on.
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Zilo
Indie--The GOP opposes critical thinking
03:06 PM on 09/15/2011
Yep. Americans really don't get issues that involve any kind of complexity. They prove it time and time again during election years.
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honky1234
Sweep the leg? But I'll be disqualified!
08:22 PM on 09/14/2011
It's a shame that we have a society that makes people feel inadequate for receiving government assistance.

This, despite the fact that most people get some form of gov't assistance at least once in their lives. We tend to think of gov't assistance as meaning welfare and food stamps, but it also includes Pell grants and subsidized loans for college students, health insurance for children, school lunches, etc.
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whomod
Saved By Grace
10:07 PM on 09/14/2011
The headline I clicked on was no different.

"Why Getting A Government Handout May HARM Your Marriage"

A "HANDOUT"???!! Really?

Something is going on here and it isn't pretty. Ever so subtly, I see this sort of right wing language creeping into headlines here.

It looks increasingly as if selling out to a0I was a means of controlling the message and language.
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mxytsplyk
De gustibus non est disputandum
01:41 AM on 09/15/2011
An Insightful Badge for you.
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Zilo
Indie--The GOP opposes critical thinking
03:07 PM on 09/15/2011
They're trying to whip up the conservatives who come to this site by making them think there are articles for them here, finally.
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Winter Skye
Spiritual being not human doing
06:57 PM on 09/14/2011
Once again proving the utter worthlessness of "studies." Um...DUH...if you are on welfare you have money problems, ergo you will be stressed out, ergo you will be more likely to fight with your spouse. DOY!!!!
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04:43 PM on 09/14/2011
Yes, it creates dysfunctional homes.
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amd02148
04:04 AM on 09/15/2011
And there aren't millions of dysfunctional homes where people are not getting assistance?
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Zilo
Indie--The GOP opposes critical thinking
03:07 PM on 09/15/2011
Poverty causes dysfunctional homes. Not that you care about that.
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amd02148
07:57 PM on 09/15/2011
How one earth do you know what I care about? lol.
11:12 PM on 09/15/2011
We care, but you're exactly wrong. Dysfunctional behavior - blowing off school, rebelling against authority, being lazy or rude - causes poverty.
It is true, though, that people can get trapped in very dysfunctional, impoverished worlds, and not know how to get out.
Historically, welfare programs don't help anyone get out.