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DADT Repealed, But Not Before Interrupting These Women's Careers

Katherine Miller

The Huffington Post   First Posted: 09/20/11 05:28 PM ET Updated: 11/20/11 05:12 AM ET

Today saw the long-awaited repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," the 1993 law prohibiting gay men and women from serving openly in the U.S. military. The law led to the discharge of over 14,000 men and women, and the repeal is being lauded as a historic victory for gay rights.

While the military may often conjure up images of mostly men (only about one in five service members is female) reports suggest the DADT policy has actually affected more women than men. Here's a look at five of these women and how the law changed their lives.


KATHERINE MILLER, former Cadet

Katherine Miller made headlines last year for her decision to resign from West Point Military Academy, where she was ranked ninth in her class.

A top student across the board, Miller said that her decision to leave was entirely due to the "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" policy. She could no longer bear to conceal her identity or compromise her integrity by lying about who she was, reported ABC. In her powerful letter of resignation, Miller wrote about the double life she was leading:

I have created a heterosexual dating history to recite to fellow cadets when they inquire. I have endured unwanted approaches by male cadets for fear of being accused as a lesbian by rejecting or reporting these events. I have been coerced into ignoring derogatory comments towards homosexuals for fear of being alienated for my viewpoint. In short, I have lied to my classmates and compromised my integrity and my identity by adhering to existing military policy.


BETH SCHISSEL, former Air Force Captain

Beth Schissel was a member of the 10th class of women to graduate from the United States Air Force Academy. She attended medical school on a military scholarship and there fell in love with her best friend -- another woman. She was honest about her sexual preference and discharged on September 20, 2001 -- just over a week after the 9/11 attacks. "Naively, I thought that mission needs would trump my being a lesbian," Schissel wrote on the Service Members Legal Defense Network website. "Every day, I am reminded that, simply because of who I love, my country has said I’m not good enough to help save the lives of our women and men in uniform," she wrote.

(Read more incredible stories from the SMLDN's "Stories From the Frontlines: Letters to President Barack Obama" series here.)


ELLIS, Marine

Ellis is an enlisted Marine who came out long ago to friends and family at home, but is closeted to her supervisors in the military. She was featured as part of photographer Jeff Sheng's photo series on military personnel forced to serve in the closet.

"For someone who's been out her entire adult life, Ellis is finding her double existence in the military emotionally stressful," reported the L.A. Times.


AUTUMN SANDEEN, retired Navy officer

Autumn Sandeen joined the U.S. Navy 30 years ago, lying about the fact she was a teen cross-dresser. Sandeen's unique story on what it was like to be a transgendered woman serving under DADT was published in the Gay & Lesbian Times. Here's an excerpt:

I know from personal experience that DADT policies affect transgender people. It affects transgender people because most folk outside of the GLBT community don't see much of a difference between effeminate acting straight men, effeminate acting gay men, crossdressers, drag performers and transsexual women, as well as not being able to see much of a difference between masculine acting straight women, masculine acting lesbian women and transsexual men.


BRIDGET ALTENBURG, former Army engineer officer

Bridget Altenburg published her DADT story, "Why I Got Out," on the New York Times blog "At War" a year ago today.

Born into a military family, she graduated from West Point as an Army engineer officer and was deployed three times oversees. When returning from her third deployment, she was forced to celebrate her reunion with her girlfriend in private. Altenburg wrote "I think it was at this point that I decided living in the closet as a soldier under "don't ask, don't tell" was something I could no longer do ... But, the biggest reason I left was that I hated living a lie. I hated playing the pronoun game."

She resigned in August of 2000 and now works for the Academy for Urban School Leadership and serves as a founding member of Knights Out, a LGBT organization at West Point.

"I was willing to make the sacrifices, to deploy three times in four years, to live in a tent with 10 men for nine months, to wade through hip-deep mud," she wrote. "But I was not willing to give up sharing a life with someone."

CORRECTION: Autumn Sandeen is a retired Navy petty officer (the Navy's version of a non commissioned officer), rather than former officer which implies commissioned officer status.
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Today saw the long-awaited repeal of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell," the 1993 law prohibiting gay men and women from serving openly in the U.S. military. The law led to the discharge of over 14,000 men and w...
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diamonds61
09:26 PM on 09/23/2011
Does the repeal of DADT require that heterosexuals also reveal the identity of their sexual partner(s) to their commander or platoon or unit? Does the repeal of this ridiculous law signify that when soldiers are engaged in battle, it would be necessary to announce their sexual orientation? I think not, men and women from all walks of life, regardless of their sexual preferences, have proudly and bravely served in the military. We need to be grateful to ALL OF THEM for protecting our country so that we can be a free nation.
11:40 PM on 09/22/2011
Thank you women for coming out and being honest. Thank you for your integrity and courage.
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floodberg
Attorney (ret.)
03:06 PM on 09/22/2011
I can't believe there's still an argument about this in 2011.  There are lots of countries where gays serve openly (and women serve in combat) and life doesn't end. 

Sorry to all those who had to pay a price to serve; you deserved better in the 'Land of the Free.'  We need a breath of fresh air around here.
01:36 PM on 09/22/2011
DADT was basically torture for gay and lesbians in the military... How can you force someone to NOT be themselves? I goes against our very nature to try to act like someone else.
11:11 PM on 09/21/2011
Everyone one of these individuals chose to lie. That alone is cause for removal from the service.
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Nic Mercy
The Constitution is one-sided in favor of equality
02:05 AM on 09/22/2011
And if they hadn't lied they would be removed for being honest. Can't win either way eh?
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TXanimal
Somewhere between Occam's Razor & Murphy's Law
02:30 PM on 09/22/2011
I dare you to find me a Soldier, Sailor, Airman or Marine who hasn't lied by choice.

Double-dog dare you.
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dws51564
History doesn't repeat itself ignorance does
11:01 PM on 09/21/2011
What kind of an idiot came up with DADT to begin with? You have a policy that says the military can't ask but they can still investigate which is for all intense purposes is the same as asking. DUH
11:46 PM on 09/21/2011
Don't you mean "intents and purposes" instead of "intense purposes"? :)
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dws51564
History doesn't repeat itself ignorance does
11:18 AM on 09/22/2011
Excuse the typo. Glad you understood the message
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dws51564
History doesn't repeat itself ignorance does
10:32 PM on 09/21/2011
Okay okay let them join back up now that it doesn't make a difference. I was hoping the media would let this drop after DADT was eliminated. Does the media really have to drag up all these people even after the law has been changed. There are always people who were the last to have been treated badly because of a law that's why the laws are changed. I generally believe allowing anyone who wants to serve should be able to if they wish, no matter who they find floats their boat. But now that the law has changed we don't need to have every gay military marriage and example of discharged lesbians constantly in the news. One of the reasons I believe GLBT people should be given equal rights is we won't have to hear about how badly they are still being treated. Seems the media won't let it drop even when the laws change to bring equality to at least the military. Lets get this gay marriage thing to the SCOTUS so they can give them their equal rights and lets be done with the constant media hyping of everything remotely GLBT. Hopefully with equality we will have anonymity.
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GirlInNYC
A girl in NYC
09:39 PM on 09/21/2011
I've never served in the military, but I've never understood why someone's sexuality plays any part. This repeal is a good thing in my book.
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Honora
11:55 AM on 09/24/2011
I don't understand either why one's sexual preference has anything to do with anything. Seems we could all mind our own business, so to speak.
08:43 PM on 09/21/2011
to the men saying they wouldn't want to serve with a gay man for fear of being hit on ::: you're probably not even his type, so don't flatter yourself.
to the people saying they should just hide their sexuality ::: if you don't have to, why should they??

I have both gay and bisexual friends in the military, who are glad they can finally be open in their line of work. this is such a good step forward. I hope my kids will live to see the end of the close-minded American.
08:10 PM on 09/21/2011
It's strange how people who aren't even CITIZENS have able to enlist in our military. But, a U.S. born, tax paying individual, because they happen to have emotional feelings for someone of their own gener, hasn't been able to serve. There will still be discrimination against gays in the military, even if it's put into law that they're now allowed to serve. JUST LIKE THERE CONTINUES TO BE DISCRIMINATION AGAINST WOMEN AND MINORITIES. If you say there isn't, then you're just a damn fool for thinking so!
12:18 AM on 09/22/2011
There's discrimination against everyone for SOME reason or another.

THERE IS DISCRIMINATION AGAINST MILITARY MEN TOO! Are you kidding?
12:43 AM on 09/22/2011
Not when they're the majority. It's only when QUOTAS have to be made about how many blacks, hispanics, asians, and women, etc......are in a unit. Then it becomes reverse discrimination.
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laureenholt
TheConservativeCurmudgeon
06:44 PM on 09/21/2011
Funny how it is that heterosexuals don't feel the "need" to "come out" to family & friends about who they're sleeping with.....what's the deal w/homosexuals? Why should any one care who you're doing it with?

I sure don't.
06:58 PM on 09/21/2011
Heterosexuals don't need to come out to their families or friends because they can automatically assume that their romantic preference is accepted and approved of. They are living a lifestyle that is not questioned or called "unatural" by others. Heterosexuals are socially "normal". A person who GLBTQ is living a life that may be surprising or unexpected to their family or friends. Isn't better if that person comes out to their family in an honest way, rather than a parent or sibling finding out through someone else or on Facebook?
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laureenholt
TheConservativeCurmudgeon
04:13 PM on 09/22/2011
Brynk336;
You are correct in what you say--hetero-s are living lives in conformity w/societal norms & morals, soooooo......they don't have the issues homosexuals do.

I get what you're saying about family/friends--but ONLY if it'd stop THERE!

It sure seems to me & a LOT of other people that homosexuals will not be satisfied unless & until EVERYONE else around them KNOWS which gender they're going to bed w/@ night. I have run interference on conversations in public places like wi-fi hotspots/coffee houses, bookstores, restaurants, movie theatres...where 2 homosexuals are discussing the current state of the love life of 1 or both of them, to where others in proximity can hear it. If u & I were anywhere out in public NO ONE but u & I would be privvy to the conversation. The "demonstrations" & "pride" parades, etc., are nauseating & offensive to many who are not homosexual, but it's to make those around them UNDERSTAND, "I am homosexual!" I couldn't care less who is sleeping w/whom, & yet I & others get this mess thrown @ us.

I don't throw MY sexual orientation in homosexuals' faces; why can not homosexuals refrain from doing that to me & others? Why can't homosexuals understand that people who are strangers to them DON'T CARE who they're going to bed w/@ night?

Please answer these questions, if you can. Thank you.
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usmcqtco
This is a republic, not a democracy. Let's keep it
08:00 PM on 09/21/2011
It's society and the various laws which have unjustly been enacted, Einstein.
SpikeGCHjr
conservative warrior
06:40 PM on 09/21/2011
Now that the military is openly recruiting and allowing homosexuals into the army, I will no longer recommend it to my children as a possiblity in their career choice. Though they were there before, it was not acceptable to be open, so their activities and lifestyles were hampered and suppressed, and their open behavior was curtailed. Now that there is nothing left to deter them, they will actively engage in their sinful behavior with no restraints or penalties...so therefore, it will no longer be an acceptable option for my family. It's America, and thats my freedom of choice to protect my kids. if others are ok with that, that's their call, just like it's ok for me to be against it. If they have the freedom to be for it, I have the freedom to be against it.
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laureenholt
TheConservativeCurmudgeon
06:45 PM on 09/21/2011
Thank you.
Well said.
07:07 PM on 09/21/2011
What do you think will change now? Do you think our soldiers will be throwing parties in the barracks with techno music and a disco ball and glitter? Do you think they will be hooking up in the showers? Do you think they'll be shopping online for shoes instead of protecting us? Get over yourself and your bigotry! Nothing is going to change, except for the fact that honorable men and women will no longer be thrown out like garbage after YEARS of distinguished service, stripped of their benefits, and told that none of it matters just because someone ratted them out for being gay in their private life. Have a little respect for the discipline and the structure of the military--which teaches each soldier how to be a leader with integrity, regardless of religion, race, or sexuality. You think those principles are suddenly going to melt away because now you KNOW someone is gay instead of just suspecting it like before? You need a reality check.
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laureenholt
TheConservativeCurmudgeon
10:42 AM on 09/24/2011
brynk336:

Please answer 1 question:

Is it a fact that homosexuals are well-known for rampant promiscuity? And STDs?

Yes or no, please.

Thank you.
06:05 PM on 09/21/2011
I am much more interested as to how the repeal of DADT will afeect the lives of the other 1.3 million service members and how it will affect military readiness.
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02:43 PM on 09/21/2011
SO ...WHAT IS THE POINT...the all survived without the military...whats next?