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Vanessa Pinto, San Francisco Blogger, Teaches The World About Sex (PHOTOS)

First Posted: 09/21/11 02:48 PM ET   Updated: 11/21/11 05:12 AM ET

One year ago, Vanessa Pinto was a paralegal at the Law Offices of Daniel A. Conrad.

But by night (and by weekend), she was Fleur De Lis: an anonymous, kink-positive sex blogger who documented her experiences online. Curious about alternative forms of sexuality, Pinto had decided to explore all that the San Francisco sex scene had to offer, and took readers along for the ride.

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Shortly after she began blogging, Pinto was awarded the title "Sluttiest Blogger" by the San Francisco Bay Guardian's September 2010 sex issue--a true honor in the sex community.

"I was only about a month into blogging when the Guardian called me," she told The Huffington Post. "It was such a surprise!"

In the story, Pinto explained her goals: "I want to educate people to embrace sex and sexuality. I want people to accept who they are, and who we are sexually is a huge part of who we are as people."

Pinto was invigorated with validation, and glowed with a new drive to spread her goal of sexual liberation.

Until she returned to work.

Shortly after the release of the Guardian story, Pinto's boss called her into his office. "He asked me to take a seat, and said, 'I found out about your blog, and I'm really happy you have a great sex life. The pictures are great,'" she recalled. "And then he said, 'Now here is your last check; please give me your keys.'"

Pinto was beside herself. "It was surreal. I was so shocked--especially that this happened in San Francisco," she said. "And I was outraged. If I had been a man, no one would have cared. But it's like the old saying: A woman loses 50 percent of her authority once people find out whom she's sleeping with. I had been fired for being 'that kind of girl.'"

And with that, Pinto had a new mission: publicly championing sexual liberation and gender equality, free from anonymity. "I felt like it was important," she said. "People shouldn't be afraid to be who they are. Perhaps my talking about it would keep someone else from getting fired."

Freshly unemployed, Pinto decided there was only one thing to do -- sexual sabbatical. She spent the next year exploring every sexual experience, fetish and taboo: group sex, bondage, whipping, secret parties, electrocution play and more, all while spilling every saucy detail in her blog.

The reaction was overwhelming.

"People started emailing," she recalled. "Soon, I was hearing from all of these people. They wanted to ask questions, and they wanted to tell me everything: their fetishes, their fears, their personal stories. I found that people are really interested in these things but they are terrified of telling anyone. Many are terrified of even admitting it to themselves."

Besides her regular blog posts, Pinto also put it all down in a book that explored her experience in greater detail (on shelves in August 2012.) "The blog never mentioned anything negative -- I wanted to keep that as positive as possible," she said. "But the book explores everything: the good, the bad and the scary."

When the year was up, Pinto decided to throw a party to put it all out in the open: a Sexy Circus. "I invited comedians, dirty storytellers, electrocutionists, sex writers, sex workers and all of my friends I'd met along the way," she said.

The result was a twelve-act variety show exploring sexual fetishes and freedoms. Acts ranged from a deep-throat demonstration to heart-pouring spoken word performances, and everything in between. "I wanted people to see what's out there," she explained.

It worked. Tickets sold out immediately and the show was standing-room-only. Afterwards, audience members begged her to make it an annual show. "People came up to me and thanked me for the show," she said. "They said it made them feel better. They said it made them feel normal."

Now, Pinto's taking her message on the road, with a yearlong trip around the country, experiencing what the nation has to offer. While traveling, Pinto will host sex workshops and discussions, spreading the good news that "it's okay to be a slut."

And she's hoping to get even sluttier. "I want to see what else is out there--how they do it in the rest of the country. In the Bay Area, we live in a bubble. I want to see it all."

Pinto will document her experience and turn it into another book before embarking on the ultimate sexual journey: the world tour. "I'm especially excited about that," she said. While the national book is in production, Pinto will travel the globe, experiencing sexual fears, fantasies and fetishes in international cultures. (Surely she'll need plenty of research for her third book.). Of course, she'll discuss sexual equality and liberation with whomever will listen.

"I want to tell people my story in places where people might be even more terrified," she said. "People are embarrassed; people don't know. I want them to know that's it's okay to be yourself."

Check out images from the Sexy Circus courtesy of Julia O Test Photography and Shilo McCabe below (CAUTION: Images contain nudity and strong sexual content):

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12:56 AM on 10/19/2011
זה סיפור טוב.

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06:40 PM on 10/03/2011
Fran Drescher, is that you? The Nanny gets naughty for a GREAT cause. Hell, I was attacked at work and walked out because I married John Dillinger. One of his 13 aliases is John Stiffey. We're still waiting for AZ to get on the ball...
12:44 AM on 09/26/2011
It's a great thing to see a woman who know that she's allowed to enjoy sex. Keep on educating the masses, honey!
11:40 PM on 09/25/2011
BWAAH!
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07:50 PM on 09/25/2011
Interesting to learn that alternative sex practices seem to be predominantly engaged in by very homely women...

No, thanks.
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BcemXAHA
Yerushalaim shel zahav
08:13 PM on 09/25/2011
The hotties are out there, believe me! you just have to know where look :)
12:40 AM on 09/26/2011
There are plenty of attractive ones. You just gotta look for them! Or stop using photoshopped women as a basis for comparison. :)
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irrenmann
won't read your angry replies :D
06:05 PM on 09/25/2011
Breaking news! Tramp can't hold regular job and decides to have sex for money!
12:38 AM on 09/26/2011
Yeah... it's people like you who she's trying to educate. She wasn't fired for her job performance, she was fired for having a personal life.
06:42 PM on 10/03/2011
This story isn't quite what you think it is. She might be a Hobo, though.
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Reikoku Jaken
My economic philosophy? Pragmatism
01:12 PM on 09/25/2011
She's wrong about one thing, if a man working in a law office, or the political establishment had made his sex life the matter of public knowledge, he would also surrender his keys. This isn't about "being this sort of girl" or "that sort of girl." Its about the social expectation of discretion from lawyers, doctors, politicians, and financial managers.
06:46 PM on 10/03/2011
Basically all those people who are molesters and torturers, yet hide behind a conservatively dressed (poor man's Hilary Clinton or the male version of that), phony mask that only gets removed once they need to communicate beyond the usual banalities of small talk.

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Reikoku Jaken
My economic philosophy? Pragmatism
01:48 AM on 10/05/2011
Please, please, please, please tell me you aren't a holder of a B.A./B.S.

That, juxtaposed on top of your obvious case of "blanket statement" logic would just hurt.
03:21 PM on 09/23/2011
good for her...
06:42 PM on 09/22/2011
Remember: Your slave owners dictate what you do at work AND at home. This story is just one in a long line of stories that involve your personal life impacting your job. Pretty soon, you will be told when you can and cannot take a dump.
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02:50 PM on 09/22/2011
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jennielake
Intellect is Learned... Wisdom Already Knows
09:05 AM on 09/22/2011
Dont like the idea that one of them shows a Black Eye...

... wouldnt want violence of any kind made to look sexy.
06:48 PM on 10/03/2011
It isn't.
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jennielake
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08:44 PM on 10/03/2011
Maybe we are looking at two diff pics - the one I see is her holding a drink, being sexy with a black eye while a guy sits next to her laughing - now tell me - how, and why, does a "black eye" have to be placed into the mix if not to add to the scene?

Sorry - but not one person I showed this to thought it was funny or anything but BAD taste... and as the founder of a Domestic Violence Prevention Agency here in the city it might be wise not to use this method of abuse to premote art or ??? - just saying - ya think - there would be all kinds of bad press if needed - like the title of the blogg said - sf blogger teaches about sex - so black eyes are part of it?
01:22 AM on 09/22/2011
"If I had been a man, no one would have cared" Or maybe your boss didn't want his practice associated with you and your side job. I doubt her firing has a thing to do with her gender and everything to do with her actions.
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07:54 PM on 09/21/2011
good for her, you shouldn't get fired because you're sexually active from ANY job.

Screw em! show them you're boss now ;)
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cowanln
There are worse things than
05:05 PM on 09/21/2011
Great Story! Good luck Ms Pinto. Have fun out there.
06:48 PM on 10/03/2011
I heart beans!