Not Socializing At Work Could Be Hazardous To Your Health: Survey Says

Socializing At Work

The Huffington Post   First Posted: 10/ 3/2011 7:16 pm Updated: 12/ 3/2011 5:12 am

Just reading the latest surveys made me so nervous, I started biting my nails. First, U.S. workers are really worried about losing their jobs. The lucky few who have job security are stressing about not having enough friends at work -- and it could be taking a toll on productivity and their own health. Hmmm, maybe I should start selling worry beads? Here's a closer look at some of the latest small-business surveys.

All Work and No Play

A secure job may be much sought-after these days, but employees with few friends at work could be risking their lives. Or so says a new study by researchers at Tel Aviv University. Work-Based Predictors of Mortality: A 20-Year Follow-Up of Healthy Employees followed 820 workers' medical histories over a 10-year period, controlling smoking, obesity and other health risks, and found that employees with weak social networks at work had significantly higher mortality rates. "Working in a very unfriendly and non-supportive environment takes its toll," the survey said. Workplaces without a lot of enjoyable social interaction led to more absenteeism (and less work getting done). But when employees are happy, friendly and social at work, not only are they more productive, but their bodies release hormones that contribute to good health. Whether it's potlucks, picnics, happy hours or just encouraging breaks and chatting, getting your employees to socialize pays off for you in more ways than just one.

Job-Related Fears on the Rise

According to Gallup's 2011 Work and Education poll, U.S. workers' worries about job-related cutbacks are once again hitting the record high levels last seen in 2009. What are they most concerned about? About 30 percent are worried about getting laid off, the same percentage think their hours will be cut, and 33 percent fear salary reductions.

The biggest concern: Forty-four percent are worried their benefits will be reduced. If companies go back to cost-cutting mode, this fear could well come true -- especially at small firms with little fat to cut.

Nice Girls Finish Last

Ever think the biggest jerks are the most financially successful? (I could name a few.) A new study suggests that it's not just our imaginations. An analysis spanning nearly 20 years found that people who are disagreeable earn more than people who are agreeable, and the gap is biggest among men.

Men who are significantly less agreeable than average earn 18.3 percent more than men who are significantly more agreeable than average. By comparison, disagreeable women earn just 5.47 percent more than do agreeable women, reports the study, led by Beth A. Livingston of Cornell University and presented at a recent meeting of the Academy of Management.

Given the workplace's current emphasis on teams, why would unpleasant men be financially rewarded? The authors theorize it's because disagreeable behavior conforms to expectations for masculinity -- while agreeable men get penalized for acting less, well, "manly." Still, both types of men made out far better than either agreeable or disagreeable women. "Exhortations for women not to be nice [in the workplace] might be overblown," the authors write. Nice girls might not get rich, but mean girls don't do much better.

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Just reading the latest surveys made me so nervous, I started biting my nails. First, U.S. workers are really worried about losing their jobs. The lucky few who have job security are stressing about n...
Just reading the latest surveys made me so nervous, I started biting my nails. First, U.S. workers are really worried about losing their jobs. The lucky few who have job security are stressing about n...
 
 
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sentimentiques
independent and ornery but purrfectly lovable
05:20 PM on 10/04/2011
Having read these stories and also experienced some really weird office situations, especially one psychotic manager who ruled by fear when I was a temp, I wonder: Do they teach this stuff in management classes? I currently work in a retail outfit where the manager is good at being manipulative and keeping people off balance, being effective at hitting buttons certain to get a specific desired reaction. I guess being a control freak is a managerial requirement, or maybe it's that type of personality that seeks the top job.
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dennis1943
whatever the voices in my head say.......
06:35 PM on 10/09/2011
I believe that's why they call them managers...........no one without the personality traits would seek the position.........
04:00 PM on 10/04/2011
Socialize at work?? Damned if you do ....Damned if you don't...
10:52 AM on 10/04/2011
After having worked in an office from the "Pits of Hell"" I can say your health is not worth all the "BS" you have to endure from co-workers. I left my office several years ago and they still harass me. It is bad when you have management that turns a blind eye to everything going on in the office or orders everyone to alienate one person because they don't agree with them. It makes it bad for the whole office.
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fdrrules
10:39 AM on 10/04/2011
the article confirms my opioion that to succeed in life and especially business you have to be a jerk who cares only about himself.This is why capitalism is such a cut throat idea and causes more harm then good for a nation when it is left without controls as the conservatives want.
02:50 PM on 10/04/2011
ANOTHER FREE RIDER.
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Michael Kenney
11:44 PM on 10/04/2011
I guess you're saying that the previous post is an example of "a free loafer", someone the conservatives are now calling "takers" as opposed to "makers". This sounds to me like the kind of simple mindedness that has come to typify conservative thinking, as if anyone's place in the world could be summed up so simply. Can you honestly say you've never accepted anything that you didn't earn entirely on your own? Can you look in the mirror and believe you are totally self-made, never accepting something you didn't entirely deserve, but just happened to be lucky enough to benefit from? Have you always contributed and never "taken"? Never exaggerated your charitable giving on your tax return? Never been down and out, either financially or emotionally, enough to accept some charity from family, church, a stranger who did you a good deed? Ever known what it's like to live with real poverty? Maybe you somehow believe that you will live your life from here on out without needing anyone. That you will somehow always be independent and productive, never get old or frail and become a "taker". Good luck. If however, you think you might need the help of others at some time, you might want to reconsider your point of view on so-called "free riders".
09:02 AM on 10/04/2011
Mindfulness attitude!! That's what I try to maintained all day. My work place is depressing. We were promised raises for 4 years now and still nothing. Every once in a while we have a meeting where the president gives us a B.S speech constantly reminding us how bad things are out there, that there are not jobs and to be thankful we have a job, meanwhile they got a new flat screen T.V for the conference room and so on... on top of being underpay ed I have to deal with constant gossip , drama and a game of "who to blame for my mistakes" between departments??? but... I put up with it, I have a 4 year old, a mortgage, car payment and bills...so I remain mindful to all the crap.
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newworldman777
What would our future 7th generation think of us?
07:53 AM on 10/04/2011
I used to work for an "artsy" company that decided to start a mold-making department, and the CEO, having recognized my talents, asked me to supervise the operation, which I agreed to do. I received training, and a small niche was carved out of existing work space for my operations -- a move that immediately demonized me among my co-workers whose own work spaces were consequently reduced. Performing the tasks of the job resulted in my polluting the air with smelly chemicals, creating excess noise with power tools, and rendering the work space dirty with messy materials, all of which angered my co-workers. They began daily harassing me to the point of absurdity.

I was asked by the CEO to begin making fiberglass molds. When I began, the fiberglass fumes wafted throughout the building. One of my co-workers called the police on me, and two police cars, as well as the city fire marshall, screeched up at the curb, and they came rushing in like storm troopers, immediately shutting me down and nearly arresting me. The harassment became so great that I complained to the CEO on several occasions, to no avail. I even walked off the job after one particularly nasty confrontation with a co-worker.

I finally had to quit the job, to maintain a shred of sanity in my own life. I loved the work, but I hated the co-worker harassment. I have never been able to obtain another job like that one.
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sentimentiques
independent and ornery but purrfectly lovable
05:04 PM on 10/04/2011
I'm sorry that happened to you~~what a nightmare for you to suffer! Please accept my sympathy. Kind regards, Kathie
07:32 AM on 10/04/2011
"The Supervisor" contin....

* She calls out selected employees in meetings for not performing well but fails to provide or conduct any research to support the critical statements. When challenged to prove or asked where did she find this failed data she threatens the employee with "insurbordination".

* When her witch cabal cant find anything to needle the other non-worshipping members the supervisor finds an obscure reason to send those women/men home or "out of the office" so that their sales quotas cannot be met without pay. The sales instead go to her witch cabal.

* Her own department is failing miserably but the business owner is self absorbed with a medical emergency within his family so she takes advantage of the situation and proclaims that nobody can contact the owner without going through her or they'll be written up for insubordination.

* When she cannot find any derogatory performance for a non-worshipper she warns the owners spouse and mother that this particular employee is planning to sue the company even though she herself has sued her last 3 employers.

I could go on and on its just a circus of cruelty and malignant poisonous behavior.

She's pyschotic.

She mismanages her personal finances so badly she doesn't have the money or credit rating to purchase a vehicle (she's been in like 5 accidents in 2 years) she's a horrible driver (shocker huh?). It's always someone elses fault.
08:42 AM on 10/04/2011
Wow. Hideous. Time for a new job when at all possible!
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Eileen Virnig
wide awake
10:22 AM on 10/04/2011
My last long term manager was similar, he would bring employees into his office, and tell them that thier job was 'secure' but grill them about what they thought of thier co-workers, tell them who might be fired, etc...pay cuts...someone fired for a comment they made in the breakroom about their breaks being taken away, encouraging burnout, and the 'rumor' that he had someone sit in the break room and text him details of the conversations going on...catty backstabbing, drama, drama, drama...almost worse than high school....

Accusations with no proof, toxic work environment...I had to walk out shaking and in tears...all at a Conde Naste recognized spa...a place dedicated to healing and wellness...run by a toxic, sociopathic, highly unprofessional, bully. I now work with grown-ups, who respect each other...I earn less, which stinks, but over all I'm MUCH happier.
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13champlain
It is all good....range rover all wood
07:25 AM on 10/04/2011
there are always a few women who want to tear each other's eyeballs out sitting next to each other in cubicles
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frank1946
Tell the Truth
07:23 AM on 10/04/2011
Nice Guys are Happy !

Mean Guys finish 1st in the short Run ?

Life is Easy, simply manage Anxiety !
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cmr11
how do you want it
07:21 AM on 10/04/2011
union yes!!
07:21 AM on 10/04/2011
My wife works in a horror circus and the anti-Christ is the supervisor. I don't know where to start.

The Supervisor:

1 Dresses like she's 15 in clothes for 3 size smaller woman. Her fat lumps bulge out like muffin tops everywhere and she is convinced she's hot.

2 She married a younger man 12 years her junior and all he does is sit on the couch and smoke pot. But she never misses an opportunity to tell the world she's got a younger man.

3 She's so self indulgent and attention starved. A woman in the office forgot her bc pills and got pregnant. She got so much attention the supervisor purposely got pregnant for the added attention as well. Even though she routinely complains her other children never get enough quality time and her husband threatens to leave every month.

4 She finds obscure rules in the policy handbook and then warns everyone about not breaking the rule then selectively implements the enforcement RETRO-actively against work done years ago.

5 She selectively implements the "on time" policy and openly ignores those subordinates who worship her. Then later collects a cabal of these witches to openly put them to the task of finding broken policies by non-worshipping co-workers.
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03:59 AM on 10/04/2011
...at my last position, when I mentioned the environment of social isolation to two separate supervisors, I was told by each that work isn't a place to have friends. (!) At 40+ hours a week spent working, I'm MUCH happier now, with albeit sadly lower pay, at an institution where people actually smile with each encounter and seem well-practiced in the art of talk both small and (appropriately non-personal) large.
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Monicalups
03:13 AM on 10/04/2011
I work in an open plan office...and my ipod is my best friend.
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Trittydi
Special on pap smears at Walgreen's this week ....
02:28 AM on 10/04/2011
The most poisonous work environment I ever had to endure had a paranoid, somewhat psychotic manager. She looked like she dressed at the Salvation Army every morning randomly grabbing whatever was closest (I'm not kidding.) You couldn't inhale without this woman bearing down on you. Insane.

Not an atmosphere even remotely conducive to forming even the most tenuous of friendships.
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peachfuzz
my favorite color is pinko
06:20 AM on 10/04/2011
I had the reverse: employees were psychotic and no management to control them. I tried to be friends and got stabbed in the back while saving the company $70K in seven months. My health suffered, so I left. High performers are not "less agreeable" so much as they are more focused on their tasks and get results if peers chose to be poorly-focused friends instead of actually working.
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JohnnyKong
Loyalty only to reason and logic.
02:21 AM on 10/04/2011
Get a MBA, be a disagreeable blowhard, earn more money than everyone else. Who knew it was that easy?