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India: Girls Fight Gender Discrimination, Shed 'Unwanted' Name

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CHAYA BABU   10/22/11 09:43 PM ET   AP

MUMBAI, India — More than 200 Indian girls whose names mean "unwanted" in Hindi have chosen new names for a fresh start in life.

A central Indian district held a renaming ceremony Saturday that it hopes will give the girls new dignity and help fight widespread gender discrimination that gives India a skewed gender ratio, with far more boys than girls.

The 285 girls – wearing their best outfits with barrettes, braids and bows in their hair – lined up to receive certificates with their new names along with small flower bouquets from Satara district officials in Maharashtra state.

In shedding names like "Nakusa" or "Nakushi," which mean "unwanted" in Hindi, some girls chose to name themselves after Bollywood stars such as "Aishwarya" or Hindu goddesses like "Savitri." Some just wanted traditional names with happier meanings, such as "Vaishali," or "prosperous, beautiful and good."

"Now in school, my classmates and friends will be calling me this new name, and that makes me very happy," said a 15-year-old girl who had been named Nakusa by a grandfather disappointed by her birth. She chose the new name "Ashmita," which means "very tough" or "rock hard" in Hindi.

The plight of girls in India came to a focus after this year's census showed the nation's sex ratio had dropped over the past decade from 927 girls for every 1,000 boys under the age of 6 to 914.

Maharashtra state's ratio is well below that, with just 883 girls for every 1,000 boys – down from 913 a decade ago. In the district of Satara, it is even lower, at 881.

Such ratios are the result of abortions of female fetuses, or just sheer neglect leading to a higher death rate among girls. The problem is so serious in India that hospitals are legally banned from revealing the gender of an unborn fetus in order to prevent sex-selective abortions, though evidence suggests the information gets out.

Part of the reason Indians favor sons is the enormous expense of marrying off girls. Families often go into debt arranging marriages and paying for elaborate dowries. A boy, on the other hand, will one day bring home a bride and dowry. Hindu custom also dictates that only sons can light their parents' funeral pyres.

Over the years, and again now, efforts have been made to fight the discrimination.

"Nakusa is a very negative name as far as female discrimination is concerned," said Satara district health officer Dr. Bhagwan Pawar, who came up with the idea for the renaming ceremony.

Other incentives, announced by federal or state governments every few years, include free meals and free education to encourage people to take care of their girls, and even cash bonuses for families with girls who graduate from high school.

Activists say the name "unwanted," which is widely given to girls across India, gives them the feeling they are worthless and a burden.

"When the child thinks about it, you know, 'My mom, my dad, and all my relatives and society call me unwanted,' she will feel very bad and depressed," said Sudha Kankaria of the organization Save the Girl Child. But giving these girls new names is only the beginning, she said.

"We have to take care of the girls, their education and even financial and social security, or again the cycle is going to repeat," she said.

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MUMBAI, India — More than 200 Indian girls whose names mean "unwanted" in Hindi have chosen new names for a fresh start in life. A central Indian district held a renaming ceremony Saturday that...
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02:47 PM on 10/24/2011
I am so glad the district government even cared about this. I understand the pressure of dowries, though they are illegal since many years. Parents of Goddesses should simply tell dowry-gouging grooms to stuff it! From what I read, the mothers are the worst offenders.
08:27 AM on 10/24/2011
This happens in every country but in India its in larger scale due to the population nearly 1/6th of the world population lives in India. So what do you expect ? Every truth is also a lie when it comes to India.. You cannot compare India with any other country on this planet because of the scale of the country is beyond comprehension. Plus one good thing about India is that it never hides behind a iron curtain. The Media is free to report whatever they want. The real freedom of specch
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butchcliff
The future is unwritten
06:53 AM on 10/24/2011
This is a good first step for a new generation to bring change
01:02 AM on 10/24/2011
They should all change their names to the Hindi phrase for "my misogynist society sucks".
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Angie Daniels
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12:18 AM on 10/24/2011
As a person who can't have a child, I can't understand any world where a girl child (or a ANY child) is unwanted.
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Kerry Cook
11:39 PM on 10/23/2011
How sad to see that even in this day & age that a progressive country like India still treats females so poorly. Perhaps it's time to rethink the dowries & make new marriage traditions. Do men realize that without women, there would be no men nor sons? It takes the 2 to keep up each & every family line. Hooray for the girls who got to change their names to help reinforce that they truly are worth something & are indeed wanted.
08:43 PM on 10/23/2011
In a country where half the population worship God in the form of the Divine Female, it is a shame that these things continue to be such a big problem! What contradictions!
07:57 PM on 10/23/2011
It is the country who elects a woman to be the prime minister and president and also worships woman deities. But also ill treats women... May be an Indian thing ?
08:44 PM on 10/23/2011
You are right, the Subcontinent (India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and Sri Lanka) produced more female heads of state so early on, even before a lot of European countries, and yet, these problems remain so entrenched.
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TAIsabel
Suffer no fools.
07:24 PM on 10/23/2011
What a great story but what a sad background for it. This in the land of Indira Ghandi, hard to comprehend.

http://departments.kings.edu/womens_history/igandhi.html
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carmenalex
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07:20 PM on 10/23/2011
Gives new meaning to the question "Whats in a name".
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StrawHat
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07:01 PM on 10/23/2011
America is not that far ahead of India in this regard. I was the third daughter (born in the 1950's) and my parents made no secret that they were very disappointed -- they even named me after my father's father out of fear that they'd never get the son they both REALLY wanted. When my brother was born three years later they made no secret of their great relief and showed him overt favor over their three daughters for the rest of our lives.

It is no longer the custom here to keep having daughters until the SON arrives (insert sound of angels singing here) but there are people walking around with WASP names and fair skin from "good, solid, multi-generational" WASP families who are also carrying the pain of knowing they were considered inferior just because of their gender -- and who were deprived of ANY support for higher education, as this would be "wasted" on a young women.

I can't even remember how many times my father (born in the 1930's) waxed on and on about what a waste it was to spend so much as a dollar on post-high-school education for "girls". If I had dropped out of high school to marry a "young doctor" twenty years my senior my father would have been THRILLED.
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viennawoods
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10:18 PM on 10/23/2011
In my years of teaching high school I have identified what I call the "young prince" syndrome; boys who think that they can do whatever they want; usually I find out that they are the first boy in the family after a few girls.
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MJinCanada
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11:15 AM on 10/24/2011
A friend of mine visited China where the one child per family rule is still more or less enforced. She said she saw three-year-old boys whose feet hardly ever touched the ground because their parents or grandparents carried them everywhere. Girls don't get spoiled like that.
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MJinCanada
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11:20 AM on 10/24/2011
One of my husband's friends committed the triple sin of being female, intellectually gifted and lesbian in a right-wing fundamentalist "Christian" family. Her brother is the apple of their eye, despite having been in trouble with the law. She largely put herself through school and got two degrees, taught college, etc., and got the cold shoulder. When she was seriously ill recently, she told her parents she needed them, hoping for reconciliation. They sent her a cheque for $10 to help pay her medical expenses!
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the crustybastard
I could be worse, and have been.
06:09 PM on 10/23/2011
Also "unwanted"? Elderly parents with a mean streak.
05:42 PM on 10/23/2011
Pretty dou.chy of their parents. Lets see how funny they think the name is when they need taking care of.
04:05 PM on 10/23/2011
Men prosper when women are well cared for and wanted by society. Women can be the driving force behind India's new found prosperity. As you elevate women, children's lives improve and men are less burdened by family worries. This positive energy is a wave that brings more prosperity to him and his family. Succesful men usually have a positive home life. I'm happy to see that India is improving the plight of its children. India has been a sleeping tiger far too long. If they spend money on improving the lives of children they will reap a massive future reward.
04:19 PM on 10/23/2011
I realize you probably meant this comment in a good way, but I find it very sad.

You advocate the advancement of women because it will help MEN. Not because women make up half the human race and are entitled to the same rights and benefits. But because it will men's home life happier, make them more prosperous, make men less burdened.

How about doing it because it's the right thing to do? How about because it's simple justice?
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Ioan Lightoller
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04:38 PM on 10/23/2011
Exactly. If men are helped by the advancement, well and good. But that isn't why women should have the same pay, benefits and rights as men. It is because as human beings and at least half the human race, they deserve nothing less. This is why it is the RIGHT thing to do.
05:22 PM on 10/23/2011
India is a paternal society. Its not like in America where women are more but not completely equal. Even in America women haven't achieved equal pay for equal work.
I understand what you feel but sometimes in an entrenched paternal culture, strides are made in small ways. Of course, we would want all women across the world to be free of men's stigmatizing influence but I think these changes come gradually. For an American, calling one's child, "unwanted" seems inconceivable and yet in India, this is a new concept they're adopting. Sometimes entrenched cultures can't make drastic changes towards democracy. The baby steps they make should be applauded. The more autonomy women gain will lead to what you're talking about but it will take take time for a new idea to filter through a culture. In any case, I totally agree, it is the right thing to do.
09:45 PM on 10/23/2011
I think male infanticide would be a quicker and less costly option.
10:08 PM on 10/23/2011
I don't know if that's necessary since they say that the male species is dying out naturally. In any case, this is how women talk when men aren't around.
03:07 PM on 10/23/2011
HOw about Kali, or Shevani? Good strong girls names!
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Margo Arrowsmith
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03:30 PM on 10/23/2011
Oh, I just have to fan that sentiment.  Yes, the strong goddesses!  But I bet that there, like here, young girls see the stars as goddesses.  Sad, but at least they are moving in the right direction.
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Ioan Lightoller
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04:40 PM on 10/23/2011
Yep. This gay man does not fear strong goddesses, just like I don't have issues with strong women. I think Kali is a great goddess for girls and women.