10/25/2011 01:35 pm ET Updated Dec 25, 2011

Put A Ring On It: Does Being Married Automatically Get You Points In Your Career?

"If women really wanted to change society, they could do it. I plan to change it. I just want to get married first."

The character Ally McBeal once said this on the show Ally McBeal. When the show started Ally was a single lawyer obsessed with finding the one so she could get married already. Perhaps Ally felt like because she was the single girl in her office that she wasn't taken as seriously by the partners at her law firm as her married colleagues. Of course, she may not have been taken seriously because she hallucinated dancing babies on a regular basis, talked to herself and wore skirts that barely covered her ass but part of it could have been her single status. As Sheila Robinson Kiss, psychotherapist, author, humorist, and trainer, said "marriage represents a secret rite of passage in the eyes of many people that represents a sense of stability, reliability, and grounding."

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