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Older Married Couples: Sex Key To Happiness

Older Married Couples Sex

First Posted: 12/06/11 07:03 PM ET Updated: 12/07/11 04:41 AM ET

For married couples to stay happy as they grow old together, a healthy and robust sex life is essential, a new study concludes -- and the more sex, the better.

According to research presented at last month's annual meeting of the Gerontological Society of America, the more often a survey of older spouses reported engaging in sexual activity, the more likely they were to find fulfillment in their lives and in their marriages.

In examining the responses of some 238 couples aged 65 or older to the 2004 iteration of the General Social Survey, a national data-collection program focused on U.S. societal structure and development, the researchers found that the frequency of sexual activity often predicted general well-being. That remained true even after accounting for such factors as age, health and financial satisfaction.

For individuals who reported no sexual activity in the past year, only 40 percent said they were "very happy with life." But for respondents who engaged in sexual activity more than once each month, 60 percent said they were very happy with life and 80 percent said they were "very content" in their marriage.

To help get a better handle on the study's results, The Huffington Post spoke with its author, Adrienne Jackson, an assistant professor of physical therapy at Florida Agricultural and Mechanical University in Tallahassee. Jackson's paper has been submitted for publication in a forthcoming peer-reviewed journal.

What's the relationship between sex and happiness?

Based on the findings, as the frequency of sexual activity goes up, so does your likelihood with being very content in your married life and very happy with life in general. The biggest takeaway is that the things we enjoy in midlife and while we're young don't fundamentally change as we get older. No matter your age, the more frequently you engage in sex and intimacy, the better your ultimate quality of life.

How can older, married couples increase the frequency of intimacy in their marriages?

A lot of the things that limit older people from having sex, whether they're age-related or biological changes, can be addressed. I wanted to put out there that there is a link between quality of life and sex for older people, so those in the medical field can address some of the issues that inhibit intimacy.

What tends to prevent older adults from leading robust and fulfilling sexual lives?

Besides physical limitations, there's this stereotype that once you get to a certain age, you're not supposed to think about sex or enjoy having sex. I think half the battle is society coming to the realization that the same things we enjoyed in midlife aren't things that we necessarily have to give up on as we grow older.

What's the sweet spot in terms of happiness and the frequency of sex?

More than once a month is the sweet spot for people who report at higher rates that they're happy with life.

What does your research tell us about the changing dynamics of marriage and happiness?

As we get older, we found that the number of available women greatly outnumbers the available allotment of men. Also, that a greater share of the men are married. Essentially, the number of available partners decreases. When it comes to sexual partners, older men can often have their pick of whomever.

Were there any limitations to your study?

We didn't look at desire and we didn't examine the cause and effect relationship between having sex and being happy. Essentially, are you happy because you're having sex or are you having sex because you're happy. Also, the sample was fairly small and wasn't racially diverse, though it was reflective of the American population of married couples 65 and older, which is mostly white. But I would have liked to include the perspective of more minorities in this study.

What can older married couples take a way from your research?

If you enjoyed sex when you were 40, there's no reason why you can't do so now.

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For married couples to stay happy as they grow old together, a healthy and robust sex life is essential, a new study concludes -- and the more sex, the better. According to research presented at l...
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10:45 PM on 12/07/2011
Old people are not supposed to do this, Grandma is supposed to be in the kitchen baking cookies and grandpa out in his boat fishing and smoking his cigar. I don't want to think about what they do after a good night at the bingo parlor. EEEWWWWWW
09:21 PM on 12/07/2011
I am one of those unlucky ones been 12 years since my husband has wanted to do anything . I have gotten to the point I hate being married. I am only in my fifties I should of know when we were newlyweds and we hardly had sex what it was going to be like in later years. Before we were married he couldn't get enough. Now all I am good for to him is cooking cleaning and laundry. I would be one happy person if I was getting it like I did before marriage.
GOODDOC1
"civil war" is an oxymoron
09:55 PM on 12/07/2011
Have you been able to get him to see his doctor? There are a lot of possibilities, like depression, etc., that could be causing his behaviour.
10:46 PM on 12/07/2011
U left out the most likley symptom. How dose his secratary look?
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shyhon
Truth, Justice and the American Way
12:15 AM on 12/08/2011
Plenty of men have very low libedo's. It is disguised when they are young and gone entirely by middle age.
Doc is right. Get him to a doctor. He may be fine with it but you will go crazy.
agnis1
NO FORCED HEALTHCARE
09:04 PM on 12/07/2011
Each persons sex drive is different so you better find someone w/ the same as yourself. I agree good sex and love does keep you happier no matter what age.
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jf12
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09:34 PM on 12/07/2011
Statistically there is scarely any overlap between the genders in terms of desired sexual frequency.
07:56 PM on 12/07/2011
I'm seventy and still maintain a quasi-healthy sex life. However, the desire waxes and wanes. My wife doesn't have any problem with our infrequent sex. We still hold each other and cherish each other's company. After fifty years we're still happy. Guess that's what counts.
09:23 AM on 01/24/2012
Wonderful! I think communication is vital and realizing that sex is the bonus. Most importantly I remain convinced that at no matter what age we must find the humour in our daily life experiences. Happy is all that matters!
07:51 PM on 12/07/2011
I can hear all those seniors bones cracking right now!
But Martha, they SAID it on AOL, you HAVE to do it....lol.
10:47 PM on 12/07/2011
LOL BINGO!!!!!
09:20 AM on 01/24/2012
Wow. Guess it's true. Can't fix dumb.
07:34 PM on 12/07/2011
1. Well, duh 2. Why is there a report to begin with?
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06:40 PM on 12/07/2011
Once a month equals happiness??? Give me a break! Once a week is the barest of necesscities--and I'm only 73...
05:53 PM on 12/07/2011
Let me venture a guess, the more secure you are monitarily in later years, the happier and more sexually active you are. Stress is less and you can concentrate on living life to the fullest.
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04:24 PM on 12/07/2011
Ya but these statistics were taken at Hedonism lV for seniors.
02:25 PM on 12/07/2011
This is a much better subject to talk about then today's Politics--72 and married almost 50 years !!
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CR46
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11:33 AM on 12/07/2011
First of all, if your sex life isn't good in the early yrs, it won't be good in the later yrs.
Secondly, if the sex is great in the beginning, it will be great later on :)
12:51 PM on 12/07/2011
That would preclude any ability to learn from experience...if the sex wasn't better now than 35 years ago, I'd figure I'm not paying enough attention. Sex was great then, for what it was & what we needed, but it's better now...a bit less often, but a lot better...and so are the close encounters that serve to whet the appetite...
07:36 PM on 12/07/2011
Back up, CR?
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KIVPossum
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08:45 AM on 12/07/2011
There is a combined 114 years between my wife and I and she thinks I am mad at her if we don't fool around ten times a week.
04:21 PM on 12/07/2011
WOW! You are 78 and she is 36? Well done!
10:52 PM on 12/07/2011
When dose she have time to bake cookies?
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KIVPossum
Moldova Marsupial
11:28 PM on 12/07/2011
My bride go into a kitchen? Shirley, you jest.
08:19 AM on 12/07/2011
From a person 65+ enjoy sex as often as possible it is good for bothe partners.
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ginger42
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07:33 AM on 12/07/2011
As a former statistics teacher, this looks like a fairly weak survey. 238 couples? Randomly selected? Margins of error? Causations or correlations or other factors?
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peegan
Obama 2012
08:44 AM on 12/07/2011
The parameters you are referencing is probably in the full study but there only appears to be summaries on the net at this point. The number of couples doesn't bother me but I would like the other factors. It does make sense however. Most people are happier when they're getting some.
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Christine Fowler
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09:32 AM on 12/07/2011
Let me sum it up for you - forget the statistics. Just have more sex. ; )