Tameka Raymond Tweets Gay Men Should Wear Wristbands

Usher's ex-wife, Tameka Raymond, recently took to Twitter to express her feelings about undercover gay men and what they should wear.

Last month, the 40-year-old mother and stylist filed a petition against ex-husband Usher for sole custody of their two sons and additional child support. But the singer isn't the only man on the receiving end of Tameka's rage. She also sent out a message to gay men who look straight, saying they should identify themselves with "bright wristbands" rather than Timberlands, caps or vests.

@TamekaRaymond
Tameka J Raymond

I really feel that the 'undercover' gay guys that LOOK str8 should wear a bright wristband. Cuz this isnt really fair. Timbs, caps, vests?

November 20, 2011 2:34 am via UberSocial for BlackBerry Reply Retweet Favorite

After receiving angry backlash, Raymond attempted to clear the smoke by making it clear, saying she was not talking about all gay men but was referring to those who participate in "trickery." But she defended her decision to speak her mind.

@TamekaRaymond
Tameka J Raymond

something I say STAND UP 4 it, but defensiveness is often associated with guilt. Again, my opinion..but Guilt why? Guilt usually=wrongdoing

November 20, 2011 5:17 am via web Reply Retweet Favorite

Raymond isn't the only celebrity to speak out about closeted gay men. Rapper Game also discussed his feelings about men on the "down low" who, he said, are responsible for spreading diseases.

"Game has a problem with people that are pretending not to be gay and are gay," he said during the interview. "Because the number one issue with that is that you could be fooling somebody and you could give them AIDS and they can die."

The subject of men on the "down low" has been a hot topic for African Americans, specifically tied to the disproportionate rates HIV/AIDS infection among black women.

According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, black women accounted for 30 percent of new HIV infections among all blacks in 2009, and had an estimated HIV infection rate 15 times higher than white women and three times higher than Latino women. Scientists, however, have roundly debunked the idea that the heightened rates of HIV/AIDS are linked to closeted men who also have sex with straight women.

Comments

[JohnT1919]

06:43 PM on 02/21/2013

Everyone has got some kind of 'issue', so to speak. As someone said: "Let's all wear wristbands."

[Jacknasty83]

03:35 PM on 02/20/2013

I don't know who this woman is, but I'm guessing the time I'd spend researching her up on wikipedia could be better spent looking at LOLCats

[mygrands]

09:28 AM on 04/04/2012

It sounds to me (and others), that apparently "one" got a hold of you. I suppose after you gave up the cookie...then he told you he was gay, and now your pissed. Then again, what are you...you can pass for both? (if you know what I mean)!!

Better yet Tameka, get a life, who wants to hear anything from you...who really cares??!!

[KDK0590]

01:20 AM on 04/25/2012

You sound very jealous.

[KDK0590]

01:25 AM on 04/25/2012

I take it that you are on the "downlow" too?

[EmeraldFalcon]

05:39 PM on 03/06/2012

All for it...as long as women undertake the same concerning their true eye color, true hair color, real hair or weave, big booty or booty pops, real breast or enhanced....see where this could go?

[Ms 0pinion]

10:20 AM on 03/26/2012

yes we do it could bring some clearity and alot of us don't mind what we were born with or what people think of us and downlow men should not care what people think of them and some women would love to stand by a man that likes to be pounded lol strap ons become so much more fun come on closet men let us enjoy u too lol

[Johnangry]

10:28 AM on 02/24/2012

Black women with homosexuality are much like white men of the KKK. Until they change their stance, this will continue and they will continue to have children out of wedlock 72% of the time.

[Womanvoter4Obama]

05:49 PM on 02/26/2012

What does this mean? What are you saying? Can you please clarify?

[Snoop Catt]

09:30 AM on 02/17/2012

It is abundantly obvious that most Americans need to get Educated on the differences between Gay and Bisexuality. If you enjoy having sex with both sexes you are NOT GAY; that is BiSexual. And it should not be considered immoral to love more than one type of person or more than one person at a time.THAT is why humans are NOT monogamist...humans are serial monogamists/ serial polygamist. The sooner we accept our biology, the sooner we can move on with better enjoyment of our life experiences.

[EmeraldFalcon]

05:42 PM on 03/06/2012

Finally, someone with the boldnest to speak some truth. Such is what happens when we walk in the Light. It reveals a lot!!! Thank you Snoop Catt

[Ms 0pinion]

10:26 AM on 03/26/2012

yes we know the difference but did you understand the article it is about MEN THAT DO NOT LET IT BE KNOWN BISEXUALS OR NOT AFRAID TO TELL PEOPLE ABOUT THEM that being said they need to wear some kind of band on them since their to scare or embarrased to open their mouth give us a choice some women would love to be behind her man in that sense lol

[acharles82]

01:27 AM on 02/17/2012

I think most of you are missing the point... the point is not to OUT Gays who are gay... its saying that there are men who are living lies and hurting women, children, family as a result... I understand the secrecy because its a difficult life to lead sometimes esp without support but I believe the problem is not with gays but those who pretend not to be and because they are trying to live some fallacy of a life they think everyone wants them to lead they wind up hurting those who love them... a woman does not want to spend her life with a man and then find out that all along he was not only cheating but cheating with a man... u coulda just left the woman alone and did your business as a single gay man and no one would think anything of it... there are plenty of "bachelors" who claim not to want to be married or have kids... if you want to have a wife and be married then be married... if you dont then dont waste their time with lies... I understand her frustration esp if she was aiming this comment at her ex... it was probably an angry post to try and say that Usher is/was gay and probably not meant to offend anyone else but him...

[b4pangea]

11:18 PM on 01/16/2012

Openly gay folks are accused of "flaunting their lifestyull" but if they aren't identified for your benefit up front they're being deceitful?

Make up your minds.

[msbadside]

09:13 AM on 02/17/2012

I think you're missing the point. Gay men who are comfortable with themselves (and their sexual orientation choice) are NOT the target of this diatribe.

It's the brothas who are having that Egyptian "moment" (in de-NILE [denial]), and are NOT accepting of themselves; those who still choose to deal with/marry women w/o giving those women the benefit of choice in the situation; those who, b/c they don't accept that they are NOT straight, and don't carry condoms when they're cruising and, therefore, put their (and others') lives/health at risk; those who, because they feel guilt about the things they do (instead of accepting that it's who they are), take it out on the women in their lives...THOSE are the ones she was talking about. Because of them, many people mistrust gays as a group, and the reason people hold gays (in general) responsible is that they're the only visible targets. These cowards hide, and let gay MEN take the flack for them.

As always, my 2...

[Womanvoter4Obama]

05:53 PM on 02/26/2012

Fanned. I do agree. There are a lot of black men who play the role of masculine, love women and they in fact are getting down with men..but also sleep with women as a cover. While I believe it is totally up to women to protect themselves against diseases of all kinds..some women have no idea their men are perpetrating. I am not a person who has anything against gay men at all. But I definitely have a problem with men who engage in risky sexual behavior with men and then sleep with women under the guise of being straight when they know they are not.

[Val The Great]

02:53 PM on 12/12/2011

Bigots like this woman are the ones that should wear wrist bands.

[emperance]

11:41 PM on 12/17/2011

Everyone is a bigot to some degree - including YOU.
You are just as human as everyone else.
No better, no worse - NO DIFFERENT.

[klwarner]

03:01 PM on 12/20/2011

Well then we're all even, and there's no need to call people out, right?

[Matthew Beastie]

03:51 AM on 12/12/2011

since black males, gay or straight, are the biggest carriers of aids and other venereal diseases, should the white women who sleep with them wear tags so white men know to avoid them? does that sound ignorant? then so does this broad and the game.

[Camycam15]

03:10 PM on 12/09/2011

Here's a tip for all of you who are concerned about DL guys, STOP BEING SO JUDGMENTAL OF GAY PEOPLE.

That is why so many are downlow. You constantly thumping them with your bible won't change their sexuality, it will just change the way they go about it(secretly). As long as their is discrimination against gays, there will be a bunch of men undercover.

Oh, and about HIV, gay or not, you need to protect yourself. Blaming it on gays only adds to the problem because it gives a false barrier of protection to heterosexuals. Get tested with your partner and wear protection.

[OSHHi]

10:14 AM on 12/12/2011

Once again women should not have to bear the brunt of that by being lied to and toyed with, used as beards, cover, objects, and what have you by men who are either bisexual and/or homosexual.

[horace2884]

07:05 PM on 12/17/2011

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNNNNNNN amen that is the truth. There is always someone claiming to be a helpless victim when they are the perpetrator.

[klwarner]

03:02 PM on 12/20/2011

Maybe women should spend more time getting to know the people they're sleeping with and this would be less of an issue?

[Goldie Treasure]

01:48 PM on 12/09/2011

Omg I really feel that was a total shot at Usher.

[horace2884]

07:06 PM on 12/17/2011

Gay people have it at a higher rate so why not link it to them. First white gay men then the whole world.

[emperance]

11:17 PM on 12/17/2011

Per your last comment. Small world, went to school in Richmond.

[zoboogie]

01:09 PM on 12/09/2011

Being gay is not a choice for some. I am gay and have been since a kid, never been with a woman never had the desire to be with one. Always even as a child been attracted to the same sex. I live in a small town and there are DL men all over the place am I DL know am I out there know I live my life as a normal male. Should I wear a wristband because Im not flaming NO. thats segregation and this country have been past that for many decades. Should there be a GAY ONLY TOILET in the restuarant or a GAY ONLY WATER Fountain. Tomeka get over it...Everyone is this world is different by GOD there is no one the same. If thats the case everyone should wear some sort of wristband cause know one is perfect and all is different thru GOD.

[CarolinaSistah]

07:50 PM on 12/10/2011

Zoboogie, I am trying to educate myself on LBGTs. I am not going to bash you with the Bible, but I don't agree with your statement basically saying that God accepts your sexual behavior because He made you. Did He make pedophiles too? Alcoholics? Spouse abusers?

We do know that things happen in utero and in the environment that contribute to many things - including disorders. I don't mean to be disrespectful, but I believe homosexuality is one of those disorders. I've read many of the articles written by the APA, AMA, APS...etc. I'm basing my beliefs upon my own observation and interactions with gay people and my faith. Could I be wrong? Absolutely! But I don't believe that a merciful God would create anything, and then turn around and condemn what they are. I do believe that what is in our hearts and minds leads us to lust after and desire those things that are morally and physically harmful; and if we act on those lusts consistently and with no intention of stopping, we damn ourselves in God's eyes.

That is the beauty of knowing and believing in something other than our own selves. Jesus can take away that desire by renewing the mind and spirit of man. I know, He does it over and over again for many, including me. Did you ever know Him?

[klwarner]

03:02 PM on 12/20/2011

Yep! God made us all, imperfections and everything. He gave us our burdens and the strength to overcome them.

[Snoop Catt]

09:23 AM on 02/17/2012

Who's to say that heterosexuality is not a disorder. Just because things appear that they "should be a certain way" doesn't make it so. All things in nature are based upon change, evolving, combinations, permutations, and mutations. It seems evident to me, in lieu of your commentary, that you Desparately need to get a university level education so you can slough off the backward thinking of old, Carolina, mah Sista.

[CarolinaSistah]

01:36 AM on 12/09/2011

I'm so glad I'm no longer in the dating market! Divorced, celibate, straight, alone, and loving it! LOL