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Marriage Rate In America Drops Drastically

Marriage Rates Declining

First Posted: 12/14/11 02:09 AM ET Updated: 12/14/11 05:19 PM ET

Barely half of Americans over the age 18 are married, according to a new report from the Pew Research Institute. The number of couples married in 2010 dropped a startling 5 percent from the previous year, and the overall number of married couples has declined by more than 20 percentage points since 1960.

The report, released Wednesday, showed that Americans are not only getting married less frequently, they're doing so later in life. These findings mirror those observed in the UK in November, where researchers found that only 48 percent of adults there were married.

But what does this mean for society? And why does it matter at all? HuffPost Weddings spoke to Pew researcher and senior writer D'Vera Cohn to find out.

What are the major findings in this report?
We looked at three aspects of marriage and all of them had pretty notable numbers to them. We looked at how many adults are currently married -- among people over 18, how many of them have a spouse -- and we found that barely half of all adults now are married. That's declined quite a bit from the past. In 2010, again it was barely half -- 51 percent -- in 1960, it was 72 percent. The second thing we looked at was how many marriages are taking place from one year to the next. We have some recent data about that from the last few years from a census survey. So our second finding is that from 2009 to 2010, the number of marriages declined by five percent, which is a pretty notable decline. We don't know why, we can't really say for sure that it's the recession or bad economic times, but it's certainly one more sign that marriage is less important than it used to be in the lives of Americans. The third thing we looked at was how old are Americans when they get married for the first time. Among men who get married for the first time, half are nearly 29 years old or older, and among women who marry for the first time, half are about 27 years old or older. Back in the baby boom days it was early-20's, in the 1990's it was mid-20's, now we're talking late-20's, which means we're seeing a substantial number of people not get married until their 30s for the first time.

Why aren't people getting married?
There are a number of things going on that could play a role. One is that there are other kinds of living arrangements that are socially acceptable now that may not have been in the past, such as living with someone without being married, living on your own, or even living as a single parent. So people may feel they have options that they didn't used to have. Another factor in some cases is that among Americans who complete college, or education beyond that, they may want to get their education done and get launched in a career before they settle down and get married. From some surveys we've taken, we've had people say that it's important, at least for men, to be financially able to provide for a family before they get married. It may [also] be that some couples feel they don't have the financial wherewithal to have a wedding yet.

Why does it matter that people are getting married less or later in life?
Economically speaking, married couples tend to have more income and more wealth. Some of that might have to do with who chooses to get married, that is, people who are educated have less of a decline in their marriage rates than people who are less educated. We also know that the kind of partnership marriage encourages is one in which you plan for the future, share your assets, build wealth together. There isn't that evidence yet for people who live together. So it would be of concern if there's a growing gap between people who are married and people who aren't, in terms of the wealth and income that they have. Another thing to think about is that many of our organizations and institutions are built on the assumption that people are married, that doesn't mean that they can't change or shouldn't change, but it means there would be some adjustment. The third thing to think about is the living conditions and well being of children. There's research indicating that children have a higher likelihood of turning out well if they come from a household where their parents are married. Most children turn out well regardless of whether their parents are married or not, so I'm not at all trying to suggest that children will turn out badly if their parents aren't married. But there's a somewhat higher likelihood that they will face issues, and some of those may include economic hardship.

So that's why this matters. But who does it matter for?
It might matter for their children; it might matter for the institutions that they operate in, such as their employers and the nation's tax base. If, for example, people who aren't married are less able to build wealth, then that will affect the overall wealth of the country.

In your report, you note that about 40 percent of people overall said they believe marriage is obsolete, including 31 percent of married people -- that's surprising. Can you tell me more about that finding?
It kind of makes sense that people who are married would be less inclined to think marriage is obsolete than people who aren't. It also makes sense to me that people who are younger, who are growing up in an era where marriage is less common, would also be more likely to think that marriage is becoming obsolete. I'm also struck by the fact that a large percentage of people who say that marriage is obsolete still want to get married. I think they may be having two ideas in their head at once: one about the institution of marriage and what its status is in society today, which is to say that it's a lot less dominant, central or important in society, [and another about] their own wishes for their future, in which they personally would very much like to be married.

What are the larger social implications of this trend?
It hasn't happened here yet so we don't know. You might look to some countries in Europe, but their social institutions are different because there are many countries over there where there's a well-established tradition of cohabitation that has some legal recognition. The legal rights of people who live together might be, if not equivalent to marriage, at least close, so there would not be concerns about inheritance or health benefits. This trend that we observed in our report is something that has been happening in a number of developed countries. [In] some of those countries, the Scandinavian ones especially, many people just live together and the assumption is that that's just about an equivalent state to marriage. It'll be interesting to see whether, in this country, whether we move more to that or whether we continue to have a kind of two-tiered system where marriage has the most recognition and legal benefits, and cohabitation is somewhat lower.

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10:27 AM on 05/05/2013
I understand that the trend is not to get married, so some day in the future unmarried people will be like 90% of the population. But then who gets the inheritance? Government? Woow
05:41 PM on 04/16/2013
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07:18 PM on 01/05/2013
Marriage is the traditional institution which isolates people affected by a mild state of insanity known as romantic love. The fact there are fewer cases of it today than in 1960 speaks to the improving mental health of the country.
05:15 PM on 02/26/2013
just wrong. there are fewer marriages bc men have seen what the courts will do. a women can leave for any reason, including cheating on her husband, and she will get the house, car, kids, and a large portion of the man's salary. new males understand what is going on. there will be fewer marriages bc the system is toxic towards the family and towards men.
01:17 AM on 04/01/2013
thank you
12:48 AM on 12/25/2012
marriage is over.
12:45 AM on 12/25/2012
Marriage is basically over but the article above hesitates to reach that conclusion. People are waiting longer only to realize that it's not for most of them. Marriage is generally a losing proposition and the anecdotes of family court have made their way down a generation, so even cohabitation and having any children at all may be less common as time goes on. Future Americans will be the children of immigrants as they still believe that these things might work out...at least for a generation or two.....good luck n best wishes.
01:57 PM on 12/12/2012
What I enjoy most about this article is the complete failure to address the fact that in states like California, the divorce rate is now 75%+, with the wife initiating 70% of the divorces. Also no mention of the inordinately high amount of American females currently prescribed anti-depressants. Nor any mention of the draconian family court system that is wildly biased against men.

My placement in the marriage demographic has little relevance. I retired from the U.S. Army at age 32 after some "work related injuries" in Iraq. I had a dozen or so relationships with women from 18 to 40 years old while in the military. None of them were worthy of marriage. Apparently, I am not a "great catch" for any American woman. Thank God.

In spite of my many, many faults, I met a lovely young girl back in 2004. Although she was 10 years younger than myself, she was stable, mature, and well educated. She also spoke 3 languages, with blond hair, blue eyes, model quality looks, quite beautiful actually. And boy, can she cook! In any event, I quickly succumbed to her feminine wiles, and asked for her hand in marriage within weeks of meeting her. She agreed, and we have been happily married for 7 years now and look forward to our first child next year.

Oh, did I mention my wife is from the Ukraine? Yeah. Go figure.
05:03 PM on 12/29/2012
So, what's your advice to American women?
05:46 PM on 12/29/2012
Nice anecdote. I am not holding my breath. I let a very smart gal go. She wanted marriage and I did not. She spoke two languages (English is not her first), has a phd. Her accent and her smile would make me wild. But what happened happened. I'm on the road a lot as a contractor and a marriage would certainly drop my income quite substantially. The women who do know me and see me at work are well aware that I am one foot out the door, so they don't give me the time of day. I can do without relationships. Done so in the distant past.
07:08 PM on 10/08/2012
My philosophy is (take it for what it is worth) that women are becoming successful much faster than men are learning to except it. It is fairly common for a successful man to date a far less successful woman ("trophy wives") and it is socially acceptable. However, women, who have always been taught that is socially unacceptable to date someone "beneath them" look for mates of similiar success levels. Some men are attracted to intelligence and success in a woman but some are still afixated on someone they can feel they can control and have power over. This means there are far more intelligent and successful women interested in meeting intelligent and successful men than there that are interested in them. This means less suitable mates and less marriages.

I find it comical that many comments on here site men not wanting to get married because fear of losing money in a divorce. Both parties are to blame in that situation, not just the woman. If a man seeks at a woman who fills the "trophy wife" persona who is clearly only hanging around for financial gain then it is obvious that she is going to take what she can get from a man in a divorce. If a man picked a more optimal mate, maybe a woman who is financially independent and not interested in their money, then it would never become an issue.
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10:27 PM on 12/16/2012
"I find it comical that many comments on here site men not wanting to get married because fear of losing money in a divorce." I am glad you find it so funny that tens of thousands of men have had their lives destroyed by a woman in divorce. I guess that's why nothing has changed except it getting worse by draconian laws that make it very profitable for a woman to divorce and falsely accuse a man of abuse. (ie. VAWA). You seem to find it funny, hence women are fine with the status quo. A 30 second phone call will rid a husband or boyfriend out of his own house. Give all assets to the wife or girlfriend. Alienate him from his own children. All without a crime ever having been committed. Just say "He threatened me and I'm afraid" and his life is essentially done. It is an everyday occurrence in every family court in the country. He ends up losing his kids. his assets, his job. Ends up in prison and homeless and broke.
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10:28 PM on 12/16/2012
"If a man picked a more optimal mate, maybe a woman who is financially independent and not interested in their money, then it would never become an issue. "
No man that has been financially and custodially raped by his ex and the biased family court system ever thought his bride would ever resort to such things or that he even would ever be divorced. Try finding a woman that doesn't care about his assets, income, status, or what he does for a living. They are far and few between. Most women who are financially independent want nothing of a man that doesn't out earn her. Plenty of articles and research have show this to be true. Yes, there are women out there who don't care, but it's a minority and there's no guarantee that after years of marriage she suddenly cares or becomes vindictive. Men are waking up to the risk of catastrophic destruction of life and are opting out.
04:57 PM on 02/12/2013
Actually, men aren't opting out. Men remarry at far greater rates than women do after divorces or death of a spouse. Men want someone to take care of them for the rest of their lives so they remarry. Women on the otherhand, are tired of having to do all the work so they opt out of marriage. Far more women are saying I don't than are men.
11:06 PM on 10/01/2012
After what my wife is doing to me in our divorce, I would never remarry and I would tell every man I know to not even consider getting married.
07:26 AM on 06/02/2012
The Rutgers report — admittedly based on a small sample — found ten prevalent reasons. The first three:

— They can get sex without marriage;

— They can enjoy "a wife" through cohabitation; and,

— They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks.

As a critic of anti-male bias in the family courts, the reasons I hear most frequently from non-marrying men are fear of financial devastation in divorce and of losing meaningful contact with children afterward. (Such feedback is anecdotal evidence but, when you hear the same response over a period of years from several hundred different sources, it becomes prudent to listen.)

In a similar vein, the Rutgers report finds: "Many men also fear the financial consequences of divorce. They say that their financial assets are better protected if they cohabit rather than marry. They fear that an ex-wife will 'take you for all you’ve got' and that 'men have more to lose financially than women' from a divorce."

Increasingly, men are stating their reasons for not marrying on the Internet. In an article entitled "The Marriage Strike," Matthew Weeks expresses a sentiment common to such sites, "If we accept the old feminist argument that marriage is slavery for women, then it is undeniable that — given the current state of the nation's family courts — divorce is slavery for men."
11:24 AM on 01/30/2013
What really bothers me about comments like this is that they completely fail to take into account the fact that many women earn more than men these days. Is everyone who spews the whole line about wanting to "avoid divorce and its financial risks" oblivious to the fact that if the male is the lower earner, those risks are almost completely nonexistent?

Divorce still sucks, don't get me wrong, but I had a three-year cohabitation relationship break up, and that hurt worse than my divorce. Not getting married won't keep you from getting hurt, but choosing a mate that earns about as much as, or more than, you do will keep you from getting taken to the cleaners, provided you don't have more than a couple children and you fight for at least joint, if not full, custody.
03:47 PM on 04/22/2012
I am an attorney in family law, and routinely see largely men (very very rarely women) being looted in family courts : These articles are amazing : it would be too regressive to admit the real reason - feminism, women or the laws enforced by a voting-en-masse women population correct? Women still want to get married- It is men who dont - there is nothing in it for them - they are realizing that. Marriage means not equal rights - it has been made a legal license to steal for women - community property, alimony, child support (which really implies ex-wife support again) and domestic violence.

Rise up men- complaining about something unjust is equally your right - gather up and vote against these laws - because what I observe in courts is war of women on men !!.

you WILL lose almost all, if there is a vindictive woman you are dealing with and you will lose upto 50% or greater if you are dealing with a very nice woman - so forget that nice woman would spare you - their attorneys in divorce wont !
You can do prenuptials/postnuptials - that will protect against community property and alimony partly- you can avoid losing all but you could still lose substantial.. at least suggest a pre-nuptial/postnuptial - shouldnt be embarassed to raise in case you are being coerced into marrying
The best is DONT do it and if you have the urge to give away your money - open
09:49 PM on 05/23/2012
"feminism, women or the laws enforced by a voting-en-masse women population correct?"

You know that feeling you get when another man tries to tell you what to do? The feeling when a man tries to bring you down in order to bring himself up?

Same way women felt.

Can you sort of understand a reason why we wanted a bit more freedom?
After all, you wouldn't want someone telling you what to do, especially if they didn't have your best interests at heart. Especially if it's to keep you from accessing power -- your own power to be a better person.
This is what voting and women entering in the work force has done for us.
If you still don't agree, perhaps at least you can attempt to understand, and maybe sympathize another person's perspective of wanting to better one's self.
09:50 PM on 05/23/2012
I know you certainly wouldn't want someone to try to get in your way of success, why should anyone else's potential be hindered because of hormones and a few physiological differences?
When it comes down to it, that's all it is: an anger toward atoms and their arrangement and how your choosing to experience it.

Hopefully you wouldn't allow someone to make you feel a certain way either. I can only hope.

None the less,

Women didn't have a choice but to enter the workforce because our beloved world readily put our men to war, leaving a broken family. Our strong providing husbands were taken away from the family (and I mean that with all sincerity). How would the wives suppose to survive?
Should they have allowed the government take care of them?
Should they have allowed themselves and the children to starve, and the home go without heat?
Considering 7-15 children were normal with one income, it's no wonder women had to work.
05:39 PM on 03/17/2012
I am a lawyer and see largely men (>95%) and rarely women (
05:58 PM on 12/29/2012
I lived with a wonderful woman many years ago. I loved the experience. At the time I did not believe in marriage and I told her. She stayed with me thinking she could change me but then left after three years. These days I still do not believe in marriage except if you want kids. Marriage is the legal apparatus to be sure the kids are your beneficiaries, I guess. But laws should change that too. Anyone should be able to appoint anyone a legal heir.
02:45 AM on 12/22/2011
the posts here are very interesting - much more so than the article : ) for me (female) i haven't wanted to marry because i value my independence first and foremost and that's difficult in a marriage. (i also think the forever stuff is completely unrealistic.) i've had some great live-in relationships, but i've seen too many of my female friends loose so much of themselves once they were married for many reasons... i've found things pretty equal in my live-in relationships, whereas a lot of the married couples i know fall into roles like their parents. purely my own experiences here, but wanted to add them to the mix : )
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12:47 AM on 12/21/2011
As women march forward, more boys seem to be falling by the wayside, McCorkell says. Not only do national statistics forecast a continued decline in the percentage of males on college campuses, but the drops are seen in all races, income groups and fields of study, says policy analyst Thomas Mortenson, publisher of the influential Postsecondary Education Opportunity newsletter in Oskaloosa, Iowa. Since 1995, he has been tracking — and sounding the alarm about — the dwindling presence of men in colleges.
"If we create a generation of men who aren't getting an education, that's bad for women."
http://www.usatoday.com/news/education/2005-10-19-male-college-cover_x.htm
02:00 AM on 12/22/2011
It is not the fault of women that so many boys and young men are eschewing education. If men lack ambition or the discipline to succeed in higher education, it is their own loss.

It is strange to see how unambitious so many young men are today. So many males in their teens, 20s and 30s, instead of moving out into the world and stepping into adult roles, have chosen to keep living with their parents and spend their time viewing porn and playing video games and remaining in a state of perpetual adolescence.
01:43 PM on 10/15/2012
whats wrong with them spending their time playing video games, they are having much more fun then people in their "fun careers". And this world is getting far too populated,there needs to be sterilization.
01:24 AM on 01/23/2013
Less ambitious? Only women seek money and materialistic things. Women lust after money. Marketers go after women. Men are content with so much less. Why should they bust their butts? To serve you? To fulfill your materialistic desires? Screw that.
08:18 PM on 01/01/2012
This is self-inflicted. I am a white male and I earned my MS degree more than 20 years ago. The choice is to the individual on whether or not to become educated. So far many of the drop outs did so of their own choice. Sad situation.
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06:21 PM on 12/20/2011
It's because "men" are going the wrong way. just as Repealicans are pushing women backwards the average male does the same thing. Our crappy patriarchal society is - as ALL OTHERS have - collapsing on itself.

When will we learn? After the Apocalypse?
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03:18 AM on 12/20/2011
A bad economy with no job security has a way of destabilizing relationships. People relocate more, out of economic necessity. It makes it hard to establish long term relationships.
08:19 PM on 01/01/2012
I stopped relationships 11 years ago due to the economy and that I wanted to achieve more than my parents. Life is a three legged stool, but one of those legs has got to go: Health, career, relationships. I get social contact at the gym or in the work place. If I want love, that can be rented as well.