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Marriage Rate In America Drops Drastically

Marriage Rates Declining

First Posted: 12/14/11 02:09 AM ET Updated: 12/14/11 05:19 PM ET

Barely half of Americans over the age 18 are married, according to a new report from the Pew Research Institute. The number of couples married in 2010 dropped a startling 5 percent from the previous year, and the overall number of married couples has declined by more than 20 percentage points since 1960.

The report, released Wednesday, showed that Americans are not only getting married less frequently, they're doing so later in life. These findings mirror those observed in the UK in November, where researchers found that only 48 percent of adults there were married.

But what does this mean for society? And why does it matter at all? HuffPost Weddings spoke to Pew researcher and senior writer D'Vera Cohn to find out.

What are the major findings in this report?
We looked at three aspects of marriage and all of them had pretty notable numbers to them. We looked at how many adults are currently married -- among people over 18, how many of them have a spouse -- and we found that barely half of all adults now are married. That's declined quite a bit from the past. In 2010, again it was barely half -- 51 percent -- in 1960, it was 72 percent. The second thing we looked at was how many marriages are taking place from one year to the next. We have some recent data about that from the last few years from a census survey. So our second finding is that from 2009 to 2010, the number of marriages declined by five percent, which is a pretty notable decline. We don't know why, we can't really say for sure that it's the recession or bad economic times, but it's certainly one more sign that marriage is less important than it used to be in the lives of Americans. The third thing we looked at was how old are Americans when they get married for the first time. Among men who get married for the first time, half are nearly 29 years old or older, and among women who marry for the first time, half are about 27 years old or older. Back in the baby boom days it was early-20's, in the 1990's it was mid-20's, now we're talking late-20's, which means we're seeing a substantial number of people not get married until their 30s for the first time.

Why aren't people getting married?
There are a number of things going on that could play a role. One is that there are other kinds of living arrangements that are socially acceptable now that may not have been in the past, such as living with someone without being married, living on your own, or even living as a single parent. So people may feel they have options that they didn't used to have. Another factor in some cases is that among Americans who complete college, or education beyond that, they may want to get their education done and get launched in a career before they settle down and get married. From some surveys we've taken, we've had people say that it's important, at least for men, to be financially able to provide for a family before they get married. It may [also] be that some couples feel they don't have the financial wherewithal to have a wedding yet.

Why does it matter that people are getting married less or later in life?
Economically speaking, married couples tend to have more income and more wealth. Some of that might have to do with who chooses to get married, that is, people who are educated have less of a decline in their marriage rates than people who are less educated. We also know that the kind of partnership marriage encourages is one in which you plan for the future, share your assets, build wealth together. There isn't that evidence yet for people who live together. So it would be of concern if there's a growing gap between people who are married and people who aren't, in terms of the wealth and income that they have. Another thing to think about is that many of our organizations and institutions are built on the assumption that people are married, that doesn't mean that they can't change or shouldn't change, but it means there would be some adjustment. The third thing to think about is the living conditions and well being of children. There's research indicating that children have a higher likelihood of turning out well if they come from a household where their parents are married. Most children turn out well regardless of whether their parents are married or not, so I'm not at all trying to suggest that children will turn out badly if their parents aren't married. But there's a somewhat higher likelihood that they will face issues, and some of those may include economic hardship.

So that's why this matters. But who does it matter for?
It might matter for their children; it might matter for the institutions that they operate in, such as their employers and the nation's tax base. If, for example, people who aren't married are less able to build wealth, then that will affect the overall wealth of the country.

In your report, you note that about 40 percent of people overall said they believe marriage is obsolete, including 31 percent of married people -- that's surprising. Can you tell me more about that finding?
It kind of makes sense that people who are married would be less inclined to think marriage is obsolete than people who aren't. It also makes sense to me that people who are younger, who are growing up in an era where marriage is less common, would also be more likely to think that marriage is becoming obsolete. I'm also struck by the fact that a large percentage of people who say that marriage is obsolete still want to get married. I think they may be having two ideas in their head at once: one about the institution of marriage and what its status is in society today, which is to say that it's a lot less dominant, central or important in society, [and another about] their own wishes for their future, in which they personally would very much like to be married.

What are the larger social implications of this trend?
It hasn't happened here yet so we don't know. You might look to some countries in Europe, but their social institutions are different because there are many countries over there where there's a well-established tradition of cohabitation that has some legal recognition. The legal rights of people who live together might be, if not equivalent to marriage, at least close, so there would not be concerns about inheritance or health benefits. This trend that we observed in our report is something that has been happening in a number of developed countries. [In] some of those countries, the Scandinavian ones especially, many people just live together and the assumption is that that's just about an equivalent state to marriage. It'll be interesting to see whether, in this country, whether we move more to that or whether we continue to have a kind of two-tiered system where marriage has the most recognition and legal benefits, and cohabitation is somewhat lower.

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03:47 PM on 04/22/2012
I am an attorney in family law, and routinely see largely men (very very rarely women) being looted in family courts : These articles are amazing : it would be too regressive to admit the real reason - feminism, women or the laws enforced by a voting-en-masse women population correct? Women still want to get married- It is men who dont - there is nothing in it for them - they are realizing that. Marriage means not equal rights - it has been made a legal license to steal for women - community property, alimony, child support (which really implies ex-wife support again) and domestic violence.

Rise up men- complaining about something unjust is equally your right - gather up and vote against these laws - because what I observe in courts is war of women on men !!.

you WILL lose almost all, if there is a vindictive woman you are dealing with and you will lose upto 50% or greater if you are dealing with a very nice woman - so forget that nice woman would spare you - their attorneys in divorce wont !
You can do prenuptials/postnuptials - that will protect against community property and alimony partly- you can avoid losing all but you could still lose substantial.. at least suggest a pre-nuptial/postnuptial - shouldnt be embarassed to raise in case you are being coerced into marrying
The best is DONT do it and if you have the urge to give away your money - open
09:49 PM on 05/23/2012
"feminism, women or the laws enforced by a voting-en-masse women population correct?"

You know that feeling you get when another man tries to tell you what to do? The feeling when a man tries to bring you down in order to bring himself up?

Same way women felt.

Can you sort of understand a reason why we wanted a bit more freedom?
After all, you wouldn't want someone telling you what to do, especially if they didn't have your best interests at heart. Especially if it's to keep you from accessing power -- your own power to be a better person.
This is what voting and women entering in the work force has done for us.
If you still don't agree, perhaps at least you can attempt to understand, and maybe sympathize another person's perspective of wanting to better one's self.
09:50 PM on 05/23/2012
I know you certainly wouldn't want someone to try to get in your way of success, why should anyone else's potential be hindered because of hormones and a few physiological differences?
When it comes down to it, that's all it is: an anger toward atoms and their arrangement and how your choosing to experience it.

Hopefully you wouldn't allow someone to make you feel a certain way either. I can only hope.

None the less,

Women didn't have a choice but to enter the workforce because our beloved world readily put our men to war, leaving a broken family. Our strong providing husbands were taken away from the family (and I mean that with all sincerity). How would the wives suppose to survive?
Should they have allowed the government take care of them?
Should they have allowed themselves and the children to starve, and the home go without heat?
Considering 7-15 children were normal with one income, it's no wonder women had to work.
05:39 PM on 03/17/2012
I am a lawyer and see largely men (>95%) and rarely women (
02:45 AM on 12/22/2011
the posts here are very interesting - much more so than the article : ) for me (female) i haven't wanted to marry because i value my independence first and foremost and that's difficult in a marriage. (i also think the forever stuff is completely unrealistic.) i've had some great live-in relationships, but i've seen too many of my female friends loose so much of themselves once they were married for many reasons... i've found things pretty equal in my live-in relationships, whereas a lot of the married couples i know fall into roles like their parents. purely my own experiences here, but wanted to add them to the mix : )
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12:47 AM on 12/21/2011
As women march forward, more boys seem to be falling by the wayside, McCorkell says. Not only do national statistics forecast a continued decline in the percentage of males on college campuses, but the drops are seen in all races, income groups and fields of study, says policy analyst Thomas Mortenson, publisher of the influential Postsecondary Education Opportunity newsletter in Oskaloosa, Iowa. Since 1995, he has been tracking — and sounding the alarm about — the dwindling presence of men in colleges.
"If we create a generation of men who aren't getting an education, that's bad for women."
http://www.usatoday.com/news/education/2005-10-19-male-college-cover_x.htm
02:00 AM on 12/22/2011
It is not the fault of women that so many boys and young men are eschewing education. If men lack ambition or the discipline to succeed in higher education, it is their own loss.

It is strange to see how unambitious so many young men are today. So many males in their teens, 20s and 30s, instead of moving out into the world and stepping into adult roles, have chosen to keep living with their parents and spend their time viewing porn and playing video games and remaining in a state of perpetual adolescence.
08:18 PM on 01/01/2012
This is self-inflicted. I am a white male and I earned my MS degree more than 20 years ago. The choice is to the individual on whether or not to become educated. So far many of the drop outs did so of their own choice. Sad situation.
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Christian Howell
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06:21 PM on 12/20/2011
It's because "men" are going the wrong way. just as Repealicans are pushing women backwards the average male does the same thing. Our crappy patriarchal society is - as ALL OTHERS have - collapsing on itself.

When will we learn? After the Apocalypse?
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Badger33
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03:18 AM on 12/20/2011
A bad economy with no job security has a way of destabilizing relationships. People relocate more, out of economic necessity. It makes it hard to establish long term relationships.
08:19 PM on 01/01/2012
I stopped relationships 11 years ago due to the economy and that I wanted to achieve more than my parents. Life is a three legged stool, but one of those legs has got to go: Health, career, relationships. I get social contact at the gym or in the work place. If I want love, that can be rented as well.
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Katie Wray
06:01 PM on 12/19/2011
as an educated professional in a long-term committed relationship, i'm still waiting for a reason TO get married. taxes aren't an issue, we don't have children, we rent, neither of us are religious.

so really...why get married?
04:55 PM on 12/20/2011
Exactly!
02:04 AM on 12/22/2011
And if you mate dies without a will, you get nothing and his family gets everything.

And when a person in a nonmarital relationship gets sick, his or her family swoops in and cuts the unmarried partner off from contact. WHen you get to these estate or end of life issues, the unmarried are without rights.

You do not have to get married and may be fine living together. But marriage is a deeper and more ultimate commitment that you are apparently afraid of going that deep with another. It is not the same as living together. As long as you are boyfriend and girlfriend, a relationship that is by nature temporary, you remain in a temporary uncommitted state, to the world and to yourselves. And that's your right.
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Katie Wray
10:16 AM on 12/22/2011
such condescension........

you're wrong, by the way.
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Edogg62
05:25 PM on 12/19/2011
The only "happy" marriage is one that involves subjugation. At least to SOME degree. Relinquishing SOME measure of "control" or self. THESE days that seems to be the man... it USED TO BE the woman back in the days of b&w sitcoms. NEITHER should have to do it, but like any relationship there seems to be a push-pull for control over various situations... money, sex, family, children etc. I think at this point marriage is a great deal for the woman, not the man. EVERY (see: ALL) man I know that's married has been beaten into submission... they "get" less every year and give more. And first and foremost (esp with MEN), the "get" involves sex predominately... more and more sweatpants and socks, more and more "tired" or the infamous "is that ALL you can THINK about?!" line. Men typically want peace, so they ride it out. They want someone to be nice to them to act as if they LIKE them... it's pretty simple. MEN are pretty simple. But apparently we ask too much.
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Katie Wray
05:56 PM on 12/19/2011
i think you've projected a little too much of your personal experiences into this sweeping generalization.
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Edogg62
05:17 PM on 12/19/2011
Perhaps we've EVOLVED? No... THAT'S not it...
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dav0001
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07:42 PM on 12/20/2011
I would change that to some of us have evolved. Marriage in the past was about money, producing a family and sometimes social acceptance. Today those things don't apply the same as they used to. People are also seeing that the number of failed marriages is huge and that some people who stay married are not happy in their marriage. It's just not that important a part of life as it used to be.
01:50 PM on 12/19/2011
Later marriages are not a bad thing at all. It is better for parents to have the financial means to support their kids. Given the necessity of college these days, most adults aren't going to have decent paying jobs until their mid-20s. There is plenty of research that says that adults who get married after 25 are more likely to stay married.
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Edogg62
05:20 PM on 12/19/2011
ONE of the reasons "later marriages" have a higher success rate is resignation. How many options does one HAVE after 40? 50? Fewer with every passing decade. At a certain point you lower your expectations and simply want a companion... not "true love" or the mythical "one" or "soulmate." I'm in a "later" marriage and predictably it's reached the same point as my first marriage did... it doesn't meet my needs, but it's probably marginally better than the alternative. I THINK.
09:57 AM on 12/19/2011
One of the biggest problems with getting married, I've always felt, is that in doing so you change the composition of the strongest "glue" holding you and your partner together. Pre-marriage, the glue is attraction, affection, admiration, or any number of mutually (hopefully) felt positive emotions. Post-marriage, the glue is a piece of paper implying all sorts of responsibilities, obligations, and bondages, effectively transforming your partner from a lover into a prison warden. The love doesn't disappear, of course, but for many people, whether they realize it or not, it's no longer the strongest element at play. People will endure years in a loveless marriage just to avoid the legal hassle and the stigma of being a "divorcee". Other people can stay together for a lifetime while never making it official. Why sign up for the possibility of the former when, if your relationship is strong enough to justify marriage anyway, you could do just as well, and might be happier, with the latter?
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01:07 AM on 12/21/2011
It's a piece of paper, a legal document that provides visible proof of a commitment. That commitment should not change due to marriage, and if it causes that much disruption to the relationship, the relationship would not have lasted anyway.
09:25 AM on 12/19/2011
Think I'll stay single. While marriage works for many, some aren't so lucky.
I lived with my fiance for roughly 7 months, and realized it wasn't going to work out. I ended the relationship and moved out. It was one of the toughest decisions I've ever had to make. Just glad it didn't involve kids. Then leaving wouldn't be an option I'd even consider, for their sake.
I have never regretted my decision, and life has been good.
08:26 PM on 01/01/2012
Good point. I lived with a wonderful woman for three years. She made my life meaningful and for those three years I felt alive. Yet we had our ups and downs, just like in a marriage. The thing that split us was about religion. I'm an atheist and she's a Muslim and she demanded that I pretend to be Muslim to marry her. It's not what type of religion she was, it was that she demanded I be something that I'm not. I'm not a believer. I am a thinker. And yes, good thing there were no children during that time. Ironically she met someone within a year after we split, got married, got pregnant, and a couple years later had another baby. Then a year or two later divorced. Now she's divorced with two children and I'm single with no children. She has to support two mouths.
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08:05 AM on 12/19/2011
How about this conclusion. There is an increasing amount of people that are becoming of age that are the product of a household that ended in a catastophic divorce. A divorce that not only changed their living arrangements but also financially devasted their financial situation. They saw that a group of outsiders, lawyers, took thier families money and told them how life would continue. As these children grew up the realized that this would not happen to them.
Is it not surprising that are large group of lawyers grow into politicians. This is why politicians are so skilled at seperating people from their money and controlling peoples lives, they have practice
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Fenrir Lokison
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02:19 AM on 12/19/2011
I just can't find a woman who I like and who likes me in return. It is has I like her, she doesn't like me. Or she likes me and I don't like her.

But, everyone has their own story. But, there are some very obvious factors too...

1. We push the idea and term of independence to the wrong level.
2. We truly believe we can have it all.
3. Poor role models from those we look up to in society. Take this Kim K. Thing...72 days?
4. Why get married when you can sleep with whoever you want and it is perfectly okay in this society?
5. Who has time?
6. We are a very cynical and distrusting nation.
7. The dangers that comes from giving a person that much trust.
8. We are going to school longer and/or later in life.
9. What is the point of marriage? Seriously. Do we really know what marriage is or have the fortitude to live by our vows?
10. We are having too much fun being single.
11. The price of weddings are ridiculous.
12. Many of us are just struggling to keep what we have now and probably can't afford the strain of an extra mouth, especially if that extra mouth can come back and bite us in the rare.
13. The looked at their parents and say "Not me."
14. Fear of commitment.
08:29 PM on 01/01/2012
I am a male and a physical fitness buff. Yet it seems the only women who like me for my looks are women who are obese. I work hard for my looks. I am not a bum and happen to have a lot of money (though don't flaunt it). I think it's the age old instinct. If I drove an expensive car I would get a lot of interested attractive women.
11:39 PM on 05/26/2012
I am a lot like you, I am 51 years old and the only women I seem to attract are women that are 50+ pounds over weight. I gave up dating for the most part about 5 years ago. I own a Porsche but don't drive it often because when I do, I seem to attract women that are only interested in me because I have money. Or they think I have a lot of money. Best of luck finding what you are looking for.
02:13 AM on 12/19/2011
America finally wised up and realized the truth, marriage is not all that it's cracked up to be.

Sadly in my case for 'better or worse' means better the first year and consistently worse thereafter.
Time to move on, unfortunately the partner has yet to accept it and realize the truth.

Living in a loveless marriage is a fate worse then de(a)th, wouldn't wish that on anyone.