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Gay-Friendly Senior Housing Needed, Say LGBT Advocates

Lgbt Elderly Housing

By KATHY MATHESON   12/29/11 08:04 PM ET   AP

PHILADELPHIA -- At age 62, Donald Carter knows his arthritis and other age-related infirmities will not allow him to live indefinitely in his third-floor walk-up apartment in Philadelphia.

But as a low-income renter, Carter has limited options. And as a gay black man, he's concerned his choice of senior living facilities might be narrowed further by the possibility of intolerant residents or staff members.

"The system as it stands is not very accommodating," Carter said. "I don't really want to see any kind of negative attitude or lack of service because anyone ... is gay or lesbian."

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EDITOR'S NOTE – This is the latest in the ongoing AP-APME joint project looking at the aging of the baby boomers and the impact this so-called silver tsunami will have on the communities in which they live.

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Many gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender seniors fear discrimination, disrespect or worse by health care workers and residents of elder housing facilities, ultimately leading many back into the closet after years of being open, experts say.

That anxiety takes on new significance as the first of the 77 million baby boomers turns 65 this year. At least 1.5 million seniors are gay, a number expected to double by 2030, according to SAGE, the New York-based group Services and Advocacy for GLBT Elders.

Recognizing the need, developers in Philadelphia have secured a site and initial funding for what would be one of the nation's few GLBT-friendly affordable housing facilities. They hope to break ground on a 52-unit, $17 million building for seniors in 2013.

Anti-discrimination laws prohibit gay-only housing, but projects can be made GLBT-friendly through marketing and location. And while private retirement facilities targeted at the gay community exist, such residences are often out of reach for all but the wealthiest seniors.

Census figures released this month indicate about 49 percent of Americans over 65 could be considered poor or low-income.

Gays are also less likely to have biological family to help out with informal caregiving, either through estrangement or being childless, making them more dependent on outside services. And that makes them more vulnerable, SAGE executive director Michael Adams said.

"They cannot at all assume that they will be treated well or given the welcome mat," he said.

Cities including San Francisco and Chicago also have projects on the drawing board. But the first and, so far, only affordable housing complex for gay elders to be built in the United States is Triangle Square-Hollywood in Los Angeles.

Open since 2007, the $22 million facility has 104 units available to any low-income senior 62 and over, gay or straight, according to executive director Mark Supper. Residents pay monthly rent on a sliding scale, from about $200 to $800, depending on their income. About 35 units are set aside for seniors with HIV/AIDS and for those at risk of becoming homeless, Supper said.

The Triangle's population is about 90 percent GLBT and it has a waiting list of about 200 people. The project's developer, Gay & Lesbian Elder Housing, plans to build a second facility in Southern California in the next 18 months, Supper said.

But what took so long for the need to recognized? Chris Bartlett, executive director of the GLBT William Way Center in Philadelphia, noted that advocates spent the better part of two decades devoting their energy to programs for those affected by HIV or AIDS, which were decimating the gay community.

While AIDS remains a priority, Bartlett said, the crisis mentality has passed and allowed the community to focus on other things. He said he looks forward to the Way Center providing social services at the planned Philadelphia senior housing facility, in a sense repaying those who led the gay liberation movement.

"Don't we owe it to them ... to ensure that they have an experience as elders that's worthy of what they gave to our community?" Bartlett said.

The Philadelphia group has been trying to get its project off the ground for about eight years but has been stymied by location problems, a tough economy and stiff competition for federal housing tax credits.

Rejected once for the credits, developers recently reapplied and hope for a different answer this spring, said Mark Segal, director of the Dr. Magnus Hirschfeld Fund, which is spearheading the project. It's planned for a thriving section of the city affectionately known as the Gayborhood.

"I'm extremely optimistic," said Segal, also publisher of the Philadelphia Gay News.

However, Adams said the real solution lies not only in building more facilities, but in cultural competency training for staffers at existing elder programs. The Philadelphia Corporation on Aging, the private nonprofit that serves the city's seniors, began offering such seminars to health care workers a couple of years ago, said Tom Shea, the agency's director of training.

"They're going to be seeing a diverse slice of the aging population in Philadelphia ... and we need to be sensitive to all their needs," Shea said.

Adams suggested that discrimination faced by today's GLBT elders could diminish in the decades ahead, since he said opinion research shows that younger generations are less likely to harbor anti-gay biases than older generations.

"So we hope that the passage of time will provide part of the solution," he said. "But of course, today's LGBT elders can't wait for that."

Jackie Adams, 54, of Philadelphia, said being diagnosed with AIDS many years ago meant she never thought she'd live long enough to need elder housing. But now Adams, who was born male and lives as a female, is part of a local initiative focused on GLBT senior issues.

On a limited income after losing her job as an outreach worker for those with HIV, Adams said affordable, GLBT-friendly senior housing is badly needed. She is not related to Michael Adams.

"I would be incomplete if I had to go from wearing stockings and dresses to (work boots) and jeans," Adams said. "I would like to be able to live in a community where I could fully be me."

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03:32 AM on 01/11/2012
Well, I just saw the news that SeniorsSinlgeDating.(om is the best and most effective senior dating site for senior singles over 50! Many of our members are well-educated, successful, and fresh in mind.
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madcityy
01:57 PM on 01/01/2012
ole age is not a sex issue..................quit asking me to pay for ur renttttttttttttttttttt
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DMSmith
01:20 AM on 01/02/2012
Being gay is not either. And who asked YOU to pay for their rent?
And you judge OTHERS? L O L
08:52 PM on 12/31/2011
If you had the benefits of a rent controlled apartment for the past 30 or 40 years, but never bothered to bank some of the savings for your old age, you don't have much flexibility now that you're old and gay or straight. If you bought a fixer upper in SF's Castro district back in the mid-70's, you are probably a millionaire now just from your real estate equity. Think about moving to a gay friendly place like Palm Springs/Cathedral City where rents and condo prices are much more reasonable than in SF.
12:10 PM on 01/01/2012
Please,please don't inject logic into posts here.
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DMSmith
01:21 AM on 01/02/2012
Not to worry. He didn't.
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loggerboots
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08:45 AM on 01/02/2012
What is happening in the once thriving,now changind gay neighborhoods,and all over the city,is that if you lived in a rent controlled unit,the landlord HAD the right to raise the rent a certain percentage every year.
If the landlord did not take the opportunity,to take advantage of this option,the now new owners of this property are able to raise the rent to new market rates.
I agree,should have saved some money.
07:12 PM on 12/31/2011
As an author of the book Caring for Dying Loved Ones, who has done 20 years of caregiving and has interviewed dozens of caregivers and dying people, I agree that this is a major issue. I have heard many stories from persons who identify as GLBTQ and who have been treated coldly, rudely or even sadistically by nursing home staff. Unfortunately, the enforcement divisions in most states are woefully understaffed, and there are years of backlogged complaints. We must push for federal legislation to protect persons who identify as GLBTQ from discrimination in health care (hospitals as well as skilled nursing facilities), housing, and employment. Unless we do, persons who identify as GLBTQ will be victimized by ignorant and bigoted persons who believe they have the right to treat these persons as "less than."
10:28 AM on 01/01/2012
Thanks for taking the time to connect the dots in the elder maze. One topic that really has bothered me is how vulnerable you are when it comes to possessions, the little things. I have heard a story, from a very reliable source, on how the Case workers form a local Government County area for aging agency help themselves to the possessions of the clients. A piece of jewelry here, a watch there any thing that can be pocketed is vulnerable. It was not just the low end of the staff either. She told me that the Chair and a crony stole a valuable antique gun collection form a client. Remember they are old, they loose or misplace things and who will believe them if they report a loss to law enforcement? Sometimes these trinkets are the only things that they believe still gives them value.
So not only are you vulnerable on one level but the system adds to your helplessness in making a restful exit. I just find what I have heard sad and disturbing and rarely is anyone held accountable if ever because everyone is in on it.
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04:23 PM on 12/30/2011
I am so sick and tired about hearing the phrase "Affordable housing" in San Francisco. If you can't afford to live in SF itself, there are plenty of much lower cost neighborhoods a few BART stations away. The same people that want taxpayer subsidized housing also want cheap public transportation. They want it both ways.....to live in SF and BART it out to Berkeley for whatever.
They are too arrogant to live in areas like Antioch or Hercules, or Tracy, etc. They can still get into SF whenever they want.
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hugatree
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07:03 PM on 12/30/2011
I live in an affordable senior complex in Petaluma, accessible by bus to SF. The company that operates this place has others in Santa Rosa and in Union City (that one a block from BART). There's also a nice complex in Hayward. For families, there is affordable housing all over the Bay Area. I would like to live in Beverly Hills, but it's not affordable to me :)
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04:08 PM on 12/31/2011
Exactly. Affordable housing should be addressed in a regional approach.
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04:20 PM on 12/30/2011
A segment of the gay community in SF is off-scale outrageous. They want separate, taxpayer subsidized benefits just for them. If we're all equal, we should all live together and share the same benefits from the local, state, and federal govts.
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Ioan Lightoller
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07:06 PM on 12/30/2011
We want a place where we can be ourselves...do you have to live with the fear of being beaten if you hold your loved one's hand or give them a simple peck on the cheek? GLBT live with that fear very day. When straights can be civilised and let us live our lives and be ourselves, then we would be more than happy to live in gay-friendly communities.
Cacey
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08:16 PM on 12/30/2011
Move to Costa Rica. We did.
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04:07 PM on 12/31/2011
Why should gay or straight San Franciscans pay for specialized senior housing?
Apartheid ultimately failed because there was no money for separate services.
Surely, there a few wealthy gays out there that can fund what you seek and surely you have acceptance in the SF Bay area, LA, Miami, etc.
03:15 PM on 12/30/2011
We need AFFORDABLE gay-friendly elder housing! However, i don't think we'll ever get it because society at large thinks that ALL gays have plenty of money, which is really a spurious view. We also are still under the impression that S.F. has a liberated mentality and that people still come here to be liberated, and we wonder why the same sex marriage law hasn't passed in such a liberated city. But the fact is that S.F. no longer has a liberated mentality and people come here for the money and not to be liberated, and that S.F. doesn't represent all of very conservative and racist/bigoted California.
Billybladerunner
Is this thing on....
09:16 AM on 12/30/2011
Why should Gay people get anything more or less then straight people ....Yo want equality .....get in line ...
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frankg3400
02:39 PM on 12/30/2011
They are not asking for anything more than straight people. What they want, are senior housing/nursing homes geared towards gays. They don't want to have to go back in the closet as seniors just to survive abuse at the hands of anti gay staff, administrators and religious zealots. .
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Ioan Lightoller
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07:25 PM on 12/30/2011
Ganned and faved. However some would consider our desire to be ourselves as wanting something "special". I know that I do not want to have to go back into the closet in my old age. Why should I have to?
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02:18 PM on 12/31/2011
You're missing the point. All people are entitled to the same housing rights, although it doesn't always work that way. There is a lot of discrimination going on; as an example, I was asked by a landlord a number of years ago to STOP having 2 friends over that were transsexuals because it was making tenants uncomfortable, and I told him absolutely not. We put in notice and ended up moving a month later. My friends are the sweetest, kindest people, but that doesn't matter to those with warped mentalities...their prejudices are what controls them.
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Ioan Lightoller
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02:16 AM on 12/30/2011
It is imperitive that there be affordable housing for GLBT seniors. Many of us arenot nearly wealthy enough to live in those GLBT communities that currently exist. I know I'm not.
08:04 AM on 12/30/2011
It may be safe to save that Senior Communities often reflect the mentality of a Community in which they are located. Having been to this dance, there are so many layers to the Senior experience. There are Nursing Homes, Assisted Living, Adult Only Communities, Hud Housing so it is generalizing in looking for a place to hang you hat in those senior years. It really all boils down to MONEY. If you have lots of MONEY, you have lots of choices. The same Freedom your money affords you now will buy you the circumstances that fit your means. Many of these facilities function as Hells Waiting Room. A place to linger until your money runs out and you understand the price of compassion.
The odds are that the more progressive the community the more understanding you will receive in your care. But money will control your options, it does now.

We all end up singing for our supper, one way or another.
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11:55 PM on 12/29/2011
I clicked on this article because this is something I have never thought about - it's not an issue that would cross a straight person's mind. But now that I read it, I realize just what a real dilemma it is. It is probably unrealistic to assume that enough gay friendly and affordable assisted living facilities will be available in the next 10 or 15 years to accommodate the growing need. As I ponder this, I wonder if it wouldn't be easier and a lot more pleasant for a gay couple to stay in their home with the help of a caretaker of sorts rather than having to face being separated in a nursing home. It couldn't possibly be any more expensive or am I just not well informed?
08:24 PM on 01/01/2012
The answer is, the cost depends on the type of conditions and need for care. At home care costs anywhere from $20-$50 per hour, depending on the location and skills of the caregiver. This means at-home care can be very expensive. In my opinion, we need systemic changes (policies, structures, and funding) to our present end of life care system in order to care for the 72 million baby boomers (gay and straight) who will reach the age of 80 in the next 15 years.

I would like to see: more Medicare and Medicaid funding for care at home (chronic care and hospice care): changes to "reverse mortgage" regulations to increase the percentage of the home valuation that elders can receive and reduce the high closing fees that are currently charged, so that home owners can access the assets of their homes to hire caregivers; more "age in place, die in place" assisted living housing (with a minimum of a single bedroom and private bathroom) to allow people to age and die with privacy rather than being moved to double (or triple) rooms with shared bathrooms in skilled nursing facilities.

I hope that we will all continue to envision, talk about, and work to bring about a greater range of alternatives for end of life care for everyone.
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10:20 PM on 12/29/2011
I agree. We need to help these people. you do not stop being gay just becasue you grow old and need help
Cacey
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06:51 PM on 12/29/2011
My partner and I moved to Guanacaste in Costa Rica where people just don't care if your are gay or straight simply that you are a good person. We love it.
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08:47 PM on 12/29/2011
I find it to be embarrassing that countries like Costa Rica actually deliver the freedom, justice, and equality that this country -- which was founded upon those principles -- still fails to provide, nearly than 250 years later.
Cacey
Ignore rudeness, honor discussion
08:51 PM on 12/29/2011
Agreed. The President has said that she would sign a law okaying gay marriage if it was passed which it nearly was
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09:07 PM on 12/29/2011
I agree.
06:28 PM on 12/29/2011
My Partner's mother was in a Nursing home for 13 yeas after having a stroke. It was quite an education as to the levels and pecking orders that still will follow you to the Grave. We visited often and our Gaydar was always set off by the staff. I recall reading that the Profession with the highest percentage of Gay Folks is Health Care. We never outed ourselves with the staff out of concern for the trickle down Homophobia that may have affected his mother's care- a reality. We know that we set off their Gaydar because we would visit often and together and we groom. However it was interesting to know that a high Majority of residents had NO immediate families but had the money and we are talking about the Heterosexual majority. We never got the impression that any of those residents we gay. I also recall reading in "Queer in America" that LGBT folks are better prepared to cope with the isolation that comes with aging because they have had a life time of practice and could never depend on understanding. It would be pleasant to know that Homophobia takes a breather in those senior years but as I look to the horizon I get the impression that it doesn't. You just learn to ignore to the best of your abilities because you don't have the same energy to fight since being an ally does still have a price.

Another day in Paradise?
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outloud
Illegitimi non carborundum
04:03 PM on 12/29/2011
If you have the bucks, you can move to one of these...

http://www.gayretirementguide.com/gay_retirement_communities_in_usa/

http://www.gayretirementguide.com/2006/04/gay_retirement__10.html This is for California.

Old but still relevant news.... http://www.ebar.com/news/article.php?sec=news&article=1615

Another location in the SF bay area...

http://www.ourparents.com/california/san_leandro/lavender_seniors_lesbian_gay

And finally, this informative article.... http://tobyjohnson.com/retirement.html

I do hope that if and when it comes to making this type of decision, one of these places will be open/affordable for me.

Getting old sucks...but not yet ready for the alternative.....yet!
08:29 PM on 12/31/2011
The Oakland project never made it as gay housing. Not even the chief promoter of the project, Armistead Maupin wanted to live there.
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Illegitimi non carborundum
12:58 PM on 01/01/2012
I guess that's why I couldn't find any contempary news about the place.
Do you know what went wrong?

BTW, I know Armistead. I doubt he ever really had plans to move to Oakland. He was, and could still be, kind of a snob.
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