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Sex Advice From Literary Women: 10 Steamy Secrets From Classic Novels

Sex Advice For Women Literature

Posted: 01/ 9/2012 11:02 am

While classic literature may not be the most obvious go-to source for sex advice, according to Jack Murnighan there's nothing hotter than a good book.

Along with Maura Kelly, Murnighan is the author of "Much Ado About Loving: What Our Favorite Novels Can Teach You About Date Expectations, Not So-Great Gatsbys, and Love in the Time of Internet Personals." Their book inventories the love and sex tips we can find in other books -- in other words, a welcome alternative to some of the sex advice you find in ladymags.

"Not to disparage women's magazines, but there's obviously so much more you can do in a novel than you can do in a short essay," Murnighan said in an interview. "The fundamental difference is dramatization."

"The great thing about novels," he continued, "is that they can show instead of simply telling and we, in turn, can not only learn, but feel."

And as is clear to anyone who has ever enjoyed a bodice-ripper -- or just that famous scene in "Lady Chatterley's Lover" -- few things can be sexier than reading something sexy. In fact, Murnighan admitted that he's begun first dates with two long-term girlfriends by reading them Milton. "I don't, however, advise this as standard dating practice," he said. Instead, he recommends Lydia Davis' short story "This Condition," racier poems by E.E. Cummings, Maya Angelou and Pablo Neruda, and "Basia" ("The Kisses") by Johannes Secundus for women looking to get in the mood.

We asked Murnighan to share 10 pieces of love advice for women he gleaned from the pages of our favorite novels. His answers probably don't resemble anything you heard in an intro literature class.

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Never Say "Do You Love Me?" After Sex
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Book: "Lady Chatterley's Lover"

Lesson from one of said lovers asking, "You do love me, don't you?" post-coitus: "[This is] the classic 'Don't ask!' question -- because if you have to ask it, it probably isn't the case. Even worse, what response can the other person make?"

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10:44 PM on 01/13/2012
president obama---some good politicking

United states has always been a country that embodied the ideals and values of the french revolution and the foreign policy of the roman empire...if not structure. That is really a necessity given their are many regimes around the world,too many,unfriendly to its interests and concerns. Obama handed a fig leaf to his opponents...a leaner government,less top heavy and more resposive to the people...opponents charge their is little savings and see it as electioneering.It may be..but at least he is thinking of reform of government services in a serious way. So it is a good first step...I really have never been anti military...but they too need to be more efficient and smarter and understand the world better,to address nationally security concerns especially as they move into different areas. Why is it everyone's learning french...we havent concentrated on obama yet but will when his party's proposals are put fourth...at this point only romney and obama
have emerged as presidential figures...personally,politically,and in various ways. Obama's job is to hold onto his coalition which Romney will try to appeal to to win,,,and he is an attractive figure to that coalition who havent yet decided?
10:35 PM on 01/13/2012
Women go for Romney...what can we learn from that?

I find some news commentary of Romney polling well among women being somehow attracted to him not only disparaging but off the mark. These days given our problems..the voter is in a different position. Not only is the country,any country, ina different position people are also worried about jobs and a whole host of issues. People are actually very interested in this election and about everything. Politics too! They see what Romney has achieved on the east coast,addresses their concerns all too well. In terms of their rights,economic status,civil rights,...and they may fear the alternative. Romney's challenge is to build a coalition of ethnic and lobbying groups,unhappy about current prospects,a coalition of divergent interests,and try to bring it together in november and cruise to victory. He is doing well at present...by offering divergent groups something they want to hear,and telling them he is their only real alternative. If he does not win...youll have president obama...that's his messsage
05:30 PM on 01/11/2012
"if you become appalled by any and every guy you've ever had a crush on as soon as he liked you back -- "

Yes can someone tell me please, what *is* up with that?
10:38 AM on 01/11/2012
Intimacy comes in different forms in a relationship, each one has to be equally balanced with the proper amount of respect. Trying to manipulate a woman into bed and showing her your stuff has been going on since the beginning of time.

Get creative and use your heart in strengthing the relationship and forget about quick fix remedies to accommodate your selfishness.

Remember, it is not always about YOU!

All will come in time with the proper amount of respect for your partner.
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bentenrai
The guy who fixes stuff everybody's given up on.
05:33 PM on 01/10/2012
Steamy sex secrets from novels is fodder for the inexperienced and only makes their first time more awkward since their expectations end up being completely off-track.
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bentenrai
The guy who fixes stuff everybody's given up on.
05:28 PM on 01/10/2012
I would urge any woman to ignore any kind of advice on sex coming from romantic novels, books or magazine articles by so called "experts", with the exception of the gynecologist's advice on safe sex and other clinical matters pertaining to women's physiology. Novels will only put the wrong ideas in your head about men. Most men are not hard to please and could not care less about stuff out of romantic novels. It just does not fulfill our needs. All it takes to light a guy up is to send him a suggestive message about how bad you want him right now while he's at work. If the guy is really into you, he'll clock out and come home on time to get his punani.
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05:15 PM on 01/10/2012
Forget about sex books, work, play, and everthing else and concentrate on WHAT COMES NATURALLY! If you are a man, you can tell what she like sand likes and likes! OOOH, OMG!
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bentenrai
The guy who fixes stuff everybody's given up on.
05:31 PM on 01/10/2012
No I can't tell, that's why I ask.
02:28 PM on 01/11/2012
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05:10 PM on 01/10/2012
Things to never ask a FAT woman! I did find the right crease, did I not?
02:20 PM on 01/10/2012
Question to never ask after sex:

"Oh, sorry--did I wake you? I tried to be quick and quiet..."
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probo
fear is a waste of my time
10:07 AM on 01/11/2012
lol...
11:15 AM on 01/10/2012
Do you love me???
12:52 AM on 01/10/2012
Oh you guys are gross....
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terwalk2
05:19 PM on 01/10/2012
men you shouldnt have to ask, did you cum? duh, if youre good enough you should know
08:00 PM on 01/10/2012
If she leaves scars on your back, you know you're good.
08:34 PM on 01/10/2012
Yes, you are right...and I know... ; )~~~~~
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Gary Sawyer
Joe Citizen
10:03 PM on 01/09/2012
Silly me! I thought the question to never ask after sex is, "What's that smell?"
wsdave
Abusive or Insulting? I won't be responding.
11:05 PM on 01/09/2012
Burning rubber....
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robbo1400
Far-left and Far-right are BOTH wrong
11:54 PM on 01/09/2012
I thought it might be "did you fart?"
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gfgarv
but you are Blanche! You are...
01:55 AM on 01/10/2012
The question to never ask would have to be......"are you really 13?"
screwitall
excellence
09:14 PM on 01/09/2012
The useless sex books and articles remind me of the tow Indians meeting out west ,Indian one ,says, how. Indian two says,know how need chance
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bobjimflys
help me to help you help me to help you
09:13 PM on 01/09/2012
it is not EE Cummings, it is ee cummings, and they are pretty different...
jenniferkizzy
zombie chick
08:50 PM on 01/09/2012
look the best sex advice is your own your in control and you know your moral compass and limits if you took advice from a book that's like taking advice from a porn star their are thing's your comfortable or your not so yeah bye see ya trust me your your own sex doctor don't know till you try never take advice from a book it alway's end's up wrong and kind of creepy bye in other word's ladies be your own guide too sex love romance relation ship's and life it's your rep on the line bye