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Slut Shaming: 13-Year-Old Explains Why It's Wrong In YouTube Video

First Posted: 01/11/2012 11:19 am Updated: 01/11/2012 1:10 pm

You know when a girl walks down the hallway wearing a low-cut shirt or short skirt and people start whispering about her outfit? Or when someone starts a rumor about a party hookup and suddenly the whole school starts looking at the girl differently? Some people call that behaviour "slut shaming."

This is the topic 13-year-old YouTube vlogger astrorice addresses in her video "Slut Shaming And Why It's Wrong." Her description of the video on her YouTube channel reads:

"While I am fully aware that this is a bit of an unorthodox topic for a thirteen year old virgin to be talking about, it's an important issue to discuss, and a great topic for girls my age to know about (to deny that demonstrates a clear lack of understanding as to what teenagers actually do and say)."

The video starts with a definition of the term "slut shaming," which she says is "the act of degrading or mocking a woman because she dresses in tight or revealing clothing, enjoys sex, has a lot of sex, or is rumored to be sexually active." And then she explains why participating in these types of conversations is not okay -- ever.

"It is nobody's business but your own how many people you're having sex with or how much sex you have. And you don't deserve to be hated on for being sexually active," she says in the video.

The vlog invites a large-scale discussion about how guys and girls talk about female sexuality, and although it was originally posted in August, it's making its way across across Tumblr this week and has been picked up by feminist sites such as Feministing.com.

The young YouTuber also asserts in the video that slut shaming contributes to rape culture and a culture of rape victim-blaming by sending the message that "sluts" are somehow "asking for it."

And it starts early. She says in the video, "I'm noticing a lot of girls my age starting to say it, and it just shocks me every time. How could they use such offensive language in such a casual manner? It's like they don't even know the meaning of their words, and that's the thing -- they don't know."

Do you notice harassing conversations, like slut shaming, happening at your school? How do they make you feel -- and how to you address them? Share your thoughts in the comments below or tweet @HuffPostTeen.

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04:21 PM on 10/23/2012
a 13 year old little girl is more mature and knowledgeable on this subject and probably others than adult males. I thought you were superior? get it together, losers.
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Abelardo Perez
Obama won...Yay?
03:34 AM on 04/19/2012
this girl is more mature than 95 percent of the republicans in the country, wow
04:57 PM on 03/22/2012
Brilliant! I wish more people shared her view.
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irrenmann
won't read your angry replies :D
07:54 PM on 01/21/2012
"'It is nobody's business but your own how many people you're having sex with or how much sex you have. And you don't deserve to be hated on for being sexually active,' she says in the video."

It would be totally personal if it didn't involve partners, but actions have consequences, and in a shared social environment like a school, you will experience such a consequence. You have the freedom to be a slut, and other people have the freedom to point out that this is a terrible idea for which you should be looked down upon.
09:31 AM on 02/09/2012
No, it's not. That's part of the problem of sexism. I'm going to guess you're a man. The problem with culture today is that people believe that others hearing about the information and spreading it is "just a consequence." No, it's people being nosy. That's what this video is talking about. We shouldn't be into each other's sex lives. This isn't people warning others that one girl in particular has an STD, this is people just simply being in a woman's business for being "slutty" simply because she has the desire to have sex. If a woman OR a MAN is having sex with hundreds of people, that may be a "whoa that's a lot" moment. This is rare though. The bashing I received in highschool was simply because.... I had sex with a guy. Who I liked. That's it, and that's how it is most of the time.
11:59 PM on 04/27/2013
Let's not be nosy. But if you end up with four kids from four different men, and they can't support them because they're in prison or on the doal, then....ok....you have to pay for their survival ....buts it's still none of your business.
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Laurie457
02:18 PM on 01/20/2012
I love this kid! She is wise WELL beyond her years... So well adjusted! Her parents must either be hippies or Scientists :)
02:17 PM on 01/20/2012
She completely has it all figured out! I think this video should be adopted into every sex ed class countrywide. It made my day.
06:25 AM on 01/20/2012
Good for her.

I always said, "I'm not sleeping with her, so why should I care?".
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Blastrocat
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09:54 PM on 01/19/2012
Very insightful and disturbing piece. We sometimes point the finger at Middle Eastern cultures for the "blame the victim" thing but then turn a blind eye to it at home.
08:02 PM on 01/19/2012
ONE smart young lady. Are you sure she is only 13? I wish my two oldest daugthers had her insight. I might not have to be putting flowers on their headstone. They took the wrong path down lifes highway.
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mallenrohslvr
03:28 PM on 01/19/2012
wow, a very mature and socially conscious child, kudos for speaking out. . . I regularly got called a slut from 5th grade til I graduated high school b/c I developed early and was *very* well endowed and I never even wore tight/revealing clothes! Kids on the playground would regularly knock me down and tear my clothes trying to prove I was stuffing my bra (I was not)
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Laurie457
02:20 PM on 01/20/2012
I'm sorry....been there too...though not for anything as fabulous as BIG boobs :)
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12:08 PM on 01/19/2012
This kid reminds me of me when I was 13, before the YouTube thing was popular. Amazing.
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cmr11
how do you want it
06:52 AM on 01/19/2012
smart girl.
09:57 PM on 01/18/2012
What a mature young lady for her age. I love her video. You go girl.......tell it like it is! GREAT JOB! People need to STOP the name calling! Get the message out!!! Thanks!
09:08 PM on 01/18/2012
speak the truth home gurl
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MTHM
05:56 PM on 01/18/2012
WOW!! What an impressive, thoughtful, articulate, intelligent, insightful young lady!! I know of women 2-3 times her age who do not have such insight.