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Sexting: Is It Actually Sexy?

Sexting

First Posted: 01/18/12 01:50 PM ET Updated: 01/18/12 01:50 PM ET

To sext or not to sext? Despite the Anthony Weiner scandal, the most compelling example ever of how wrong sexually explicit digital communication can go, sexting gets support from some quarters. For instance, this week dating expert Carlos Xuma is encouraging men to use the text message as a tool for getting women into bed. "The best seduction technique is for a guy to get the girl to start thinking about him in a sexy way hours before they have plans to see one another," Xuma said, according to a press release.

Glamour's Anna Breslaw apparently feels differently. On the magazine's Smitten blog, she advises men not to heed Xuma's advice: "Most women I know are more likely to be seduced via birdcalls," she wrote. "Or, like, Parseltongue."
Breslaw concedes that while a playful text could work if she was already into someone, "It certainly wouldn't 'seduce' me if I was ambivalent. In fact, it'd be a bit of a cheese-factory turnoff."

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To sext or not to sext? Despite the Anthony Weiner scandal, the most compelling example ever of how wrong sexually explicit digital communication can go, sexting gets support from some quarters. For i...
To sext or not to sext? Despite the Anthony Weiner scandal, the most compelling example ever of how wrong sexually explicit digital communication can go, sexting gets support from some quarters. For i...
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11:09 AM on 01/23/2012
Depends on the lighting and angles.
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04:23 AM on 01/23/2012
What ever happened to a phone call, an actual voice on the other side? The whole sexting thing is just way too impersonal. I don't understand it. It all seems pretty emotionless and cold to me. But that is the way technology is driving us. Hell, I'm 38 and I don't find it to be a turn on what so ever. Besides, who knows who is watching your digital life? It could get pretty messy pretty quick.
11:27 AM on 01/21/2012
I guess I'm an old fashion kind of girl, I'm not into it at all. Sounds cold, fake, and dull. What happen to one on one real life.
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spkninglsh
'Poor' Fridge Owner
06:32 AM on 01/21/2012
It's better when you aren't sexting yourself.
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lovely09
I don't comment much, but when I do...
04:23 PM on 01/20/2012
My boyfriend and I do it sometimes while we both are at our jobs. I'm not very "turned on" by it per se. I view it as just playing around to kill time throughout the day.
orthobobsuruncle
Insurance is not the same as welfare
08:19 AM on 01/20/2012
I am astonished that 61 percent think it's a turn-on. Maybe the other 3-odd percent are the old ladies like me, who are far to defeated by our telephones to be aroused by ANYTHING they might have to say to us.
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fireart
I got mine the hard way.
10:14 PM on 01/19/2012
Sexting is dangerous. Just look at how different people read your posts on HP. Individuals come from different backgrounds and see (between the lines) comments you never thought of saying. Unless you are really close it is better to look her in the eyes until your relationship matures. One could be married or in jail depending on the individual.
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MikeDu
Both salubrious and lugubrious concurrently.
03:40 AM on 01/19/2012
I'm reminded of an old joke. A woman is painting her apartment and her boyfriend phones. He asks her what she's up to, she says "I'm spattered head to foot in wallpaint". His response: "Mmmm, baby... is it latex or oil based?" In other word ANYTHING is sexy if that's your frame of mind.
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Dede Eagleburger
Beauty is in the eye of the makeup brush holder
09:58 PM on 01/18/2012
depends on the message and how it's said...some people have a way with words...
05:05 PM on 01/18/2012
NO! It is very stupid.
03:52 PM on 01/18/2012
depends on the font
04:36 PM on 01/18/2012
Comic Sans!
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MsMelanieee
You can call me names but I won't play that game
05:44 PM on 01/18/2012
Noooo!!!