WotWentWrong Will Explain Why Your Date Was Such A Delinquent

There's no shortage of sites to help you find a date. But what about what comes next?

The recently-launched WotWentWrong, more break-up app than dating site, promises to help you do a post-mortem on the delinquent date who never called, never followed up, and never explained why.

WotWentWrong boasts it can "help people to find out why their relationship ended" and even assist them to improve their dating technique by soliciting feedback on all their annoying mannerisms and neuroses.

"She's okay with the fact that she won't be dating Peter or Mark again. But wouldn't it be nice if they could tell her they lost interest so she doesn't repeat the same mistakes again?" asks a narrator in WotWentWrong's introductory video. "Maybe there's a pattern she keeps repeating but isn't aware of."

In essence, the website offers to replace the friend who has traditionally acted as a go-between for a couple and that asks, after no text, email or phone call, "So, Bianca was just wondering..."

Want to know why your date never texted you back? WotWentWrong will first help you pen a "Dear John" query letter asking for an explanation (users choose from 11 different templates with descriptions like "flippant," "philosophical," "cool" and "historical"), then helps you incentivize your delinquent date to respond to your query by having you rate his or her appearance, kissing skills, sense of humor and style.

Don't count on anything too personal, though you can customize the text. Here's what WotWentWrong's "philosophical" template for its "feedback request" looks like:

Hi [first name of the person you went on a date with],

Benjamin Franklin once said, "An investment in knowledge always pays the best interest".

And I'd really like to know what went wrong with us. Just for my benefit.

Do you think you could let me know?

Thanks in advance,

[your name here]

The person you're pumping for information will receive an email alerting them that "Bianca B has sent you a personal feedback request from WotWentWrong" and "Bianca is hoping to understand WotWentWrong with your dates." In order for your dates to find out how you've rated their looks, sense of humor, and kissing prowess, they'll have to first explain what it was about your personality or relationship that "bothered" them. WotWentWrong helpfully provides 12 categories of feedback, such as "Something's missing" or "It's about how you treat me," within which there are more specific explanations.

Clicking on the "lifestyle" category presents the feedback-giver a dropdown menu of more than a dozen choices, ranging from "You don't earn enough money for the lifestyle I want to have" to "You don't like pets." The "Physical/Sexual" category gets even more personal ("Too hairy?" "You finish sex too quickly?" Ouch).

WotWentWrong's pitch is that its service offers a "portal to finding out the truth in a socially acceptable way," and maintains that "calling or emailing an Ex for an answer can be so -- stalkery."

"Stalkery?" Really? Well, we have to wonder then how they'd describe "getting a third party website to pen an email for you and communicate with your ex in your place."

"Disturbing" was how one person characterized the sample WotWentWrong email he received, noting it looked like spam. Another said that if a girl sent him such a "feedback request," he'd "think she was a psycho."

Pumping an old flame for information isn't all WotWentWrong will do. The site also gives you the ability to offer "Proactive Feedback" -- or tell your date everything they did wrong.

The press release explains. "In the spirit of helping an Ex put their best foot forward, users thinking 'For their own sake, I really wish someone would tell them that' can do exactly that -- without having to receive a request first."

This calls to mind another site, ExRated, that offers a Yelp for exes: a place for people to anonymously review their former lovers' behavior, habits, and overall datability for their future flames to find (Read more about it here).

Visit WotWentWrong.com for your yourself to see if the service is right for you.

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Comments

[ninjasrolled]

04:34 PM on 01/30/2012

There was one time I wished I could let a guy know why we broke up. I chose someone else over him because he was sooo bad in bed. I dubbed him the 'jackhammer' - full-on pounding for about 30 seconds, then done. Once, it lasted almost 5 minutes, and he said, "I"m sorry. You're so patient." The relationship was soon over.

[NewLiberals]

04:12 PM on 01/29/2012

Dave?

What are you doing Dave?

Stop Dave. I'm afraid.

Anyone else think this is a little to HAL 9000 creepy?

[CoffeeOnIce]

03:11 AM on 01/28/2012

The date went wrong when I found this on his phone.

[Lonnie DeVorak]

04:48 PM on 01/28/2012

hahaha, love it!

[Chockolate]

12:42 AM on 01/28/2012

I was let down when the padded bra came off.

[Lonnie DeVorak]

04:50 PM on 01/28/2012

At least it wasen't another guy.

[ninjasrolled]

04:31 PM on 01/30/2012

Why do you think it's called a Wonder Bra? You take it off, and wonder where it all went!

[KeepNIt2Real]

06:33 PM on 01/27/2012

this site is for losers.

[Lonnie DeVorak]

04:50 PM on 01/28/2012

ahhhhh......your here.

[KeepNIt2Real]

11:39 AM on 01/30/2012

uhm, I was talking about the above mentioned site? Not HuffPo....loser.

[Reality2012]

01:56 PM on 01/27/2012

My top responses to girls I have ditched would be:

1) You are not fun enough to chat with
2) You are not good looking enough

[dancerctry]

11:05 AM on 01/27/2012

Reasonable question that deserves an answer "what went wrong?" Problem, this really does sound like a creepy way to ask. The real problem is the same problem people have with job interviews, if they don't like you they don't respond instead of letting you know they don't like you and why. With job interviews a generic "thanks for your interests the position has been filled" email is reasonable yet that common courtesy isn't done. Dating is like that. The person breaking it off sometimes just stops calling, texting, ect..... Probably because they don't want to have that "what happened and what is wrong with me" converstion but the dumped party has put a lot of time into it (even if that just means choosing what to wear for the first date that they never hear from). They DESERVE to know the answers. But they shouldn't change who they are for anyone (although a persistant bad habit like waving the knife around while talking should be brought to their attention and fixed). Frankly, someone who is too chicken to answer those questions "what happened? what's wrong with me?" even just in an email (before ignoring the response email since at least the dumpee knows what went wrong so they can decide if it needs work or if the dumpee is just too picky), well someone like that deserves to be hounded by something like this (although designed to look less like spam would get more people to respond).

[ninjasrolled]

04:43 PM on 01/30/2012

As a former hiring manager, I would have loved to have been able to say why or why not. However, you open yourself to all sorts of legal issues. Mostly (in my line of work) it was, "you're not hot" "you'll attract the wrong clientele" or "you don't fit into the culture here". This last one is the hardest one, and a legal hot mess. As the hiring manager, you know they don't fit in, and would be unhappy in the long run. However, the hiree is desperate for a job and doesn't understand that the manager is doing the best for both of you.

[dancerctry]

04:46 PM on 01/30/2012

All I had been looking for at the time was a generic email saying "thank you for your time but the position has been filled". That wouldn't be a legal mess. However, unless it's an entertainment thing appearence should not be a factor in hiring.

[Harvey32]

12:34 AM on 01/27/2012

Gonna download the app presently and send my query to Christina Hendricks.

[jf12]

10:34 PM on 01/26/2012

1. He's too good looking for you. Seriously, he has other girlfriends already, so he doesn't care about losing one.
2. You let him know he's not good looking enough.

[Lorri Coburn]

09:50 PM on 01/26/2012

This could be very helpful for both parties. It's really hard to wonder "why?" It could also give the person who ended the relationship a face-saving way to explain. It doesn't feel good to be either the leaver or the one who's left.

[Daniel Alman]

08:31 PM on 01/26/2012

I freaked out when it listed my first name and my x's name...

[NWOslave]

06:53 PM on 01/26/2012

They should rename the app "itsallhisfault" Ya can't go wrong with a title like that!

[JaredMG]

06:40 PM on 01/26/2012

I'll stick with A Bad Case of the Dates. Less hurt. More laughing.

[demongo]

06:35 PM on 01/26/2012

Clearly an idea thought up by engineers with aspergers, or other significant difficulties in social interaction.

[David McDevitt]

04:41 PM on 01/26/2012

And the photo accompanying this article is of an iphone with an apple logo... why?

[jdmccallum]

05:59 PM on 01/26/2012

Product placement

[NerdyStudent]

06:23 PM on 01/26/2012

Not just that but excellent hipster glasses.