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Transgender German Girl Faces Being Institutionalized By Father Who Rejects Her Gender Expression

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Posted: 01/31/2012 5:09 pm

International lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights activists are expressing concern over reports that an 11-year-old German transgender girl is in danger of being institutionalized.

Though exact details on the case are slim (at least in the English language media), International LGBTQ Youth and Student Organisation (IGLYO) declared their support for the girl and her mother yesterday. The girl, identified by various media outlets only as "Alex," reportedly lives with her mother, who is supportive of her daughter, in Berlin. However, Alex's father, who is divorced from her mother, reportedly "rejects this view of his daughter's gender identity and wants to force her to grow up as a boy."

"If all else fails," Pink News noted, "there is a real and present possibility that pressure from her father, supported by the Youth Welfare Office in Berlin, means that Alex will shortly be confined in a closed ward of a psychiatric institution to ensure that 'he' returns to 'normality.'

Alex reportedly gave an interview to a German lifestyle publication earlier this month in which she stated that she has not only identified as female for as long as she can remember, but she is also accepted as female at school, where she has been registered as such from her earliest days there.

Meanwhile, Alex's father has reportedly insisted on calling his daughter "Alexander" and forcing her to wear boy's clothing. He is now believed to have gained the support of Berlin's Youth Welfare Office and is in the process of removing Alex from her mother's home.

"The board of IGLYO strongly advocates the rights of transgender youth and are concerned with the institutionalization of this happy and healthy child," IGLYO officials wrote in their statement. "We would like to highlight the endangerment of forced 'therapy' to make children fit into the gender roles the society thinks are right for them. IGLYO follows the wealth of research that shows that reparative therapy regarding sexual orientation or gender identity can be seriously harmful to the child."

Writes blogger Jane Fae: "This proposal by the Berlin Youth Welfare Office will be regarded widely as little more than child abuse and a fundamental breach of Alex's Human Rights."

Meanwhile, a petition in support of Alex has thus far drawn over 2,000 signatures. "This young girl will be taught how her feelings are wrong,and pushed more into the denial that has claimed the lives of so many transgendered people, thanks to biased decisions by the Youth Welfare office this child's life could be irrevocably ruined," it reads.

Click here to view the petition.

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International lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights activists are expressing concern over reports that an 11-year-old German transgender girl is in danger of being institutionalized. ...
International lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) rights activists are expressing concern over reports that an 11-year-old German transgender girl is in danger of being institutionalized. ...
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09:30 AM on 04/11/2012
I was under the impression that Europe was generally more enlightened about this kind of stuff. Was I mistaken?
orthobobsuruncle
Insurance is not the same as welfare
09:08 AM on 02/22/2012
It's actually about the child wanting hormone treatment at 11. (This is also an issue here in the States, there was an article about it a few days ago on HP.) Whether there's a secret agenda, I don't know, but the doctor who wants to institutionalise him/her wants to monitor him him/her quite closely for 6 months to see if the treatment is appropriate. The father's family has a history of transsexualism, and he accuses the mother of pressuring the child to change gender. Obviously things are confused. It may be the doctor wants to get the child away from both parents for a while to see if he can sort it out.
07:58 AM on 02/20/2012
probably more to the story. The first paragraph admits to not having a lot of verifiable information.
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Mark Colwell
Lead, follow, or get out of the way.
11:23 PM on 02/16/2012
Insane that anyone would favor an institution over the child living with her Mother. I can't help but wonder if it was a boy in a girls body... would the father and the state feel the same need to get involved?
03:24 PM on 02/08/2012
This is horrible.It shouldnt matter what your views are.You shouldnt treat a human being liek this.Why cant you just leave her alone and let her be happy?
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Tikvah Bethany Adler
01:50 PM on 02/05/2012
so many comments on here saying stuff like "he's a BOY!"... what's up with cisgendered people being so threatened by transgendered people living their lives in a way that feels comfortable to them?
04:03 PM on 02/07/2012
We're not all like that and I would like to apologize for those of us who are. There is just so much ignorance in the world.
03:20 PM on 02/08/2012
i know.its just wrong.let people be happy.
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Delphi Omally
transgender is NOT a mental disorder
06:48 PM on 02/03/2012
OMG!!! How tragic it would be for this child to be institutionalized for mind/body incongruence!!!! Being male or female is not a mental disorder and neither is the knowledge that one is either as part of our innate personality. Institutionalizing this child WILL cause her untold suffering such that a mental disorder WILL be created when it doesn't exist now. PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT make the possibly-fatal and life-lasting mistake of institutionalizing this young child. As a T-gender child, I had not idea that I could have begun hormones so I went through a self-loathing stage of puberty...the effects of which I am still paying for.

No child becomes a developed male or female until AFTER puberty, except for reproductive organs. DO NOT under ANY circumstances incarcerate this poor child!!!! Gender comes with us at birth and remains so until we pass on. Mental incarceration will NEVER work!!!! This is why the APA/DSM MUST be revised to the extent that it removes a T-gender condition as a "mental disorder." It has worked for the gay community and will save untold T-gender lives.
05:19 PM on 02/03/2012
I really hope that Alex can go through her life doing what she deems fit for her. Her father doesn't need to but in her life when they aren't even living together. It's really sad.
I really hope that her mother can retain custody for her.
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Darren Christman
05:39 PM on 02/02/2012
So the State will now what? Take people's children away from them and dictate to parents how to raise kids? Why should a child be permitted to tell his Dad how he should dress? It doesnt make sense. What if this is not true transgenerism and is instead something else? a phase, a means of getting attention? The boy should see a psychologist. It is required prior to getting hormones or sex reassignment surgery. Why not for an 11 year old?
03:51 AM on 02/02/2012
Why does this non-custodial parent, one that abandoned his family, allowed to threaten this child in this fashion?
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Valerie Keefe
01:34 AM on 02/02/2012
Alright, the horrificness of what this girl's father is doing aside, why on earth is there a washroom sign as the picture accompanying this article? It makes absolutely no sense.
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Christina-Xena
That little Voice in your Head...is mine.
08:15 PM on 02/02/2012
H-P is using the same shop-photo already used for another recent article, and as you well point out it has no relationship to this article.

It's a lazy misuse of photos to think that bathroom direction sign is a good representation of all transgender issues and cases.

Shame on H-P!
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Valerie Keefe
11:07 PM on 02/02/2012
Crash2Parties replied: "Nice catch, Valerie. I've become so used to that crap I didn't even notice.

"...why on earth is there a washroom sign as the picture accompanyi­ng this article?"

Because trans people + bathroom references gets attention and because the non-trans editors of trans stories can be careless of the damage they do."

I don't see what's offensive of pointing out that cis people come from a place of privilege that often blinds them to the small slights regarding trans people, regardless of how supportive they are.
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independentvoter007
God bless America
02:54 PM on 02/03/2012
"cis people" LOL. Am I still on planet Earth here?
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chaya
Another proud veteran
04:05 PM on 02/01/2012
Why is this guy so utterly fixated on Alex? It's always the parent's needs, not the kid's in this kind of situation. Daddy wants a good little butch boy to play ball with and hunt with and tell dirty jokes. Instead of torturing the poor kid, why doesn't he just spawn himself in a few more places? I'm sure he can come up with any number of "normal" kids without having to twist Alex's mind into knots.
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Christina-Xena
That little Voice in your Head...is mine.
08:18 PM on 02/02/2012
Good question, especially since there was no problem for 11 years with his trans-daughter living full-time as a girl and going to school as such for the last 6-7 of them.

My guess is this is his way to get back at his wife in anger, or to use the child's gender as a bargining chip in their divorce. The mother gets to keep the child as a girl, if he gets most of the assets they co-own.

What parents won't do to their children when a divorce occurs.
jm26dream
gaining fans despite posting ridiculous things
02:27 PM on 02/01/2012
Isn't 11 a little old to be a transgender?
10:45 AM on 02/02/2012
is this one of those ridiculous things you were referring to?
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Christina-Xena
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08:18 PM on 02/02/2012
Aren't you a little old to ask such assinine questions?
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01:47 PM on 02/01/2012
There's another suicide just waiting to happen. Sad.
10:48 AM on 02/01/2012
So what happens when this young man presenting as a young woman goes to a physical education class and changes and showers with the other young ladies?
12:04 PM on 02/01/2012
So, in order to avoid any "uncomfortable" feelings one girl's life should be thrown away? Can't believe there is still so much narrow-mindedness freely flowing in this country. It's 2012. There are people who exist that are DIFFERENT from you!

In response to the actual question, I'm sure special accommodations could be made.
02:32 PM on 02/01/2012
You are absolutely correct. There are people different than I am, and I celebrate that fact! However, because of "one girl's life" as you put it, others are made to adjust theirs. That is catagorically unfair.
07:50 PM on 02/01/2012
He's not a girl.
12:26 PM on 02/01/2012
Nice try at the "dressing/bath/locker room" scare tactic, but you obviously have absolutely no experience or factual knowledge about what trans kids go through just trying to live their lives.

Typically, she'd not want anyone to see her naked if she's transsexual; in fact the prospect can be enough to cause some trans people to go to great lengths to avoid it.

Assuming she is allowed to be herself, she and a supportive parent or guardian would work it out with the administration so that everyone's privacy is respected. Baring that, if she were simple told to go ahead and use the room that matches her identity, she'd go in, do whatever the room is intended for, and get out. Probably as quickly and quietly as she could.
02:42 PM on 02/01/2012
You are correct that I have no idea what a trans person goes through. I would be willing to read a book to learn more; and ask if you have any suggestions. That being said, if this young person would go to such great lengths not to be seen, how can they be comfortable with themselves? I would have to question if they are truely comfortable with the lifestyle they have chosen.

As far as working it out so that everyone's privacy is respected, that sounds like they would be asking for preferential treatment. It has been my understanding that the LGBT community has been asking for equality, not special treatment.

Finally, my original comment was not intended to be a "scare tatic", it was simply a query.