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Daughters Make Dads Let Go Of Gender Roles, Says Study

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Posted: 02/ 6/2012 5:30 pm

Rumor had it Jay-Z was going to stop calling women bitches after the birth of his daughter, Blue Ivy. Though it wasn't actually true, a new study says his alleged change of heart wouldn't be particularly surprising. According to research by sociologists Emily Shafer and Neil Malhotra, men who have daughters are more likely to let go of traditional gender roles.

Shafer and Malhotra set out to measure how new babies impact their parents' attitudes about societal norms for boys and girls. The surprising part of their results: New dads tended to let go of (some) gendered expectations after having daughters, but the same statistically significant effect was not found among new moms.

"The biggest takeaway is that we're seeing an effect among men and not among women," Shafer told The Huffington Post. "Prior research ... just looked at correlations and found this effect among mothers and fathers."

Published in the journal Social Forces, the study used data from the National Longitudinal Survey of Youth (NLSY79), which followed 12,686 young men and women from 1979, when they were between the ages of 14 and 21. The participants were interviewed annually until 1994 and are still interviewed every-other year, and in '79, '82, '87 and 2004, they were specifically questioned about their views on gender roles.

Participants were asked whether they "strongly agree," "agree," "disagree" or "strongly disagree" with eight different statements:

1. A woman's place is in the home, not in the office or shop.
2. A wife who carries out her full family responsibilities doesn't have time for outside employment.
3. A working wife feels more useful than one who doesn't hold a job.
4. The employment of wives leads to more juvenile delinquency.
5. Employment of both parents is necessary to keep up with the high cost of living.
6. It is much better for everyone concerned if the man is the achiever outside the home and the woman takes care of the home and family.
7. Men should share the work around the house with women, such as doing dishes, cleaning, and so forth.
8. Women are much happier if they stay at home and take care of their children.

Shafer and Malhotra then compared the attitudes of mothers and fathers of baby boys and baby girls. The chart below illustrates the significant decrease in men's support for traditional gender roles after having a daughter.

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The second chart shows that a lack of change occurs around these issues for women. However, Shafer pointed out that women start off supporting traditional gender roles less than men do.

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There are a few hypotheses about why this phenomenon occurs, one being as simple as exposure to gender-based discrimination. "Women are [already] exposed to [things like] workplace discrimination," said Shafer. "A man may have noticed these issues a lot less, but when he has a daughter he may witness them more."

Another theory revolves around self-interest -- women are inevitably more personally invested in a greater diversity of opportunities for women, such as the chance to choose whether or not to stay at home with the kids or work full-time, or the ability to ask one's male partner to contribute to the housework. Yet, when men have baby girls, their daughters' self-interest may become their own. Dads may not want to see their children denied the opportunity to advance in the workplace in the future because they were "mommy-tracked" or marry a man who puts his own passions above hers.

Ultimately, the subject merits more research. "You can also ask the question, why are [attitudes] not changing more?" said Shafer. "Why do we have these traditional ideas about gender and why [are] people ... holding onto them so strongly still?"

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10:02 PM on 07/07/2012
completely sexist to say that men have a "feminine" side. of course the women worshipping womans mag HP wouldnt understand that. if men have a feminine side, what is a womans "masculine" side???
08:07 PM on 02/08/2012
I have a 14 year old daughter (others have told me that I have a geek girl) who is headed into engineering and possibly medicine. She is going to have to do some looking to find a peer. She has already noted that she might have to settle for a nice house-husband. We will see. But traditional she is not (to the despair of her mother).
11:08 AM on 02/08/2012
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04:13 PM on 02/07/2012
I guess I am an outlier. I think gender rolls are important. I am 50. When I look at people in their 20s I see lots of females who look and act like guys. Them seem to think they do not need men at all. They don't need them for support, friendship, employment, even children. Adoption and in vitro have taken care of that.There is an explosion of metro and gay men along with butch and lesbian women. There are lots of unintended consequences to this androgenation of women. But I guess there will be fewer bad husbands. Fewr husbands all together.
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06:21 PM on 02/07/2012
So? Men have always been self-interested, now women are having the opportunity to be self-interested as well. Of course men want women to stay home and raise the children and cook and clean and take care of them and devote their entire lives to their spouse, who wouldnt want someone to do that? but if a woman were to ask a man to do those things while she pursued her career, he wouldn't want to.
06:40 PM on 02/07/2012
All that is fine. Women are free to do what they want. I just think there are unintended consequences to all this. The proliferation of pornagraphy is a perfect example. Women feel free to be just a promiscuous as men, as if there is no difference. So now we have the glorification of violence against women in the form of rampant pornography. What happened to the concept of a nurturing woman? That is not bad. It is natural.
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WilliamL
07:50 AM on 02/08/2012
I was that stay at home. The reasons men are not lined up to be stay at home parents has to do with the behavior husbands have and do exercise as primary income earners. Take a stroll through the women's section and see the dominance of female issue-money, power, sex, and so on and so forth.

There is a certain level of, arrogance and irony in women expecting/wanting men to be stay at home parents and perhaps on a certain level-even asking. Asking/expecting someone else to do something that they themselves do not want to do is pretty interesting.
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11:59 AM on 02/08/2012
You are only 50 years old? A gen Exer and not even a boomer? You sound over 80. Most women your age work their ---es off. Adoption didn't just start when iPhones were invented. As far as friendship goes a lot of heterosexual men are incapable of having friendship relationships with heterosexual women and some erroneously believe that it is impossible. There are no more LGBT people than there was when Kinsey did his surveys.

I am really finding it hard to believe that you are only 50 years old. It's hard for me to believe that someone who grew up in the 70s and early 80s could be so naive.
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bmitche
03:43 PM on 02/07/2012
Another reason why good fathers should have daughters is because when everyone else has walked away, that daughter will be there for you.
02:02 PM on 02/07/2012
As a father your daughter or daughters will change you in many ways. If they do not that would be unique.
Rollin McKim
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01:40 PM on 02/07/2012
Jay-Z's SUCH a class act.
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Acemkr6
Trying to keep the left honest!
03:40 PM on 02/07/2012
hopefully, your being funny!
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01:21 PM on 02/07/2012
I thank God for my daughter every day. She was an awesome baby and is amazing at 21. Two things that I believe helped me was that I was 35 when she was born, and that when she was 3 months old I had to deploy to the Middle East for 9 months. I couldn't wait to catch up on all I missed during that time. Unfortunately my marriage ended in divorce. The silver lining was when she wanted to live with me instaed of her mother and stepfather.
01:40 PM on 02/07/2012
Awesome! Thank you for your post. I can't tell you how much I appareciate it.
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01:46 PM on 02/07/2012
Thanks. I am so grateful for her. No drugs/DUI/Gangs etc., 3.8 GPA, works part-time, gentleman boyfriend........Girls Rock!!!
01:16 PM on 02/07/2012
Having 2 girls has changed my outlook in many ways. Before, when my wife spoke of the negative influences on girls in popular culture, I had no idea what she meant. Now I see it clearly, be thin, be pretty, be sexy, don't be too smart. I want my girls to be healthy and happy. I want them to know they can control their own lives and choose their own way, whether it involves marriage and family, career or any combination thereof. Any father or grandfather who is disappointed to have girls is missing out on a wonderful experience.
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04:28 PM on 02/08/2012
love the post!
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collectsrocks
It's good to be good & nice to be nice
01:16 PM on 02/07/2012
As a single mother I taught my son both sexes were equal in everything in life. Neither a man nor woman was the most significant or important. He has 2 sons and one daughter he treats with total equality sans "gender roles." When the boys go outside with dad to play catch his daughter participates as well. He's equally loving and proud of all three children encouraging them in every aspect of their lives. My late father, of 2 girls and one boy, always told us we could accomplish anything if we made the attempt whether we were male or female. I passed that on to my son, a wonderful father to both his sons and daughter.
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askonemom
01:04 PM on 02/07/2012
Dads profoundly impact who their daughters become in this world. Dads, please be conscious of your words because your children will hear them clearly, for they are hanging on every syllable, and your words can cut like a knife or support and bolster like a helium balloon.
12:38 PM on 02/07/2012
What a shame that so many men miss out on the beauty and diversity of raising daughters due to sex-selected abortions (aka gendercide).
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jessicadevyn
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11:51 AM on 02/08/2012
Where the heck in America is that common? Most abortions are done before gender can even be determined and almost no abortions in the states are done over the fetus's gender.
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redconvoy
12:17 PM on 02/07/2012
My father missed that boat when my sister and I were born.
01:04 PM on 02/07/2012
You know what, sweetie? He didn't miss the boat at all. He received a better boat!
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redconvoy
01:46 PM on 02/07/2012
Do you have any idea what I was talking about? He never got rid of gender roles and told us both we should marry rich men because he did not think women should be equal to men until later on when I became an adult and my mother and I proved him wrong.
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12:05 PM on 02/07/2012
Why Fathers Should Have Daughters. WHAT a headline. Does the writer think the "fathers" have any CHOICE in the matter?
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06:22 PM on 02/07/2012
Maybe it should be Why Fathers Should Want Daughters.
12:05 PM on 02/07/2012
Sure - And some men should have daughters, and some shouldn't, and some men should have sons, and some shouldn't, and some women should have daughters, and some shouldn't, and some women should have sons, and some shouldn't. That about covers it, doesn't it?
So, some adults should have children because they are responsible adults and want them, and some adults (who are still children) should not.
Don't turn families into cutesy laboratories for sociological experimentation.