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Online Dating Study Suggests It's No Better Than Meeting At A Bar

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First Posted: 02/ 6/2012 12:57 pm Updated: 04/ 7/2012 5:12 am


CHICAGO (Reuters) - Combing dating websites for that perfect love match can be very frustrating, and a group of U.S. psychology professors released a report on Monday explaining why there is no substitute for meeting face-to-face.

"Online dating is a terrific addition for singles to meet. That said, there are two problems," report author Eli Finkel, an associate professor of psychology at Northwestern University, said in an interview.

First, poring over seemingly endless lists of profiles of people one does not know, as on Match.com, does not reveal much about them. Second, it "overloads people and they end up shutting down," Finkel said.

He compared it to shopping at "supermarkets of love" and said psychological research shows people presented with too many choices tend to make lazy and often poor decisions.

The study's authors also questioned the algorithms employed by sites such as eHarmony.com to match people based on their interests or personality - comparing it to having a real estate agent of love.

While the algorithm may reduce the number of potential partners from thousands to a few, they have never met and may be as incompatible as two people meeting at random, Finkel said, adding the odds are no better than finding a relationship by strolling into any bar.

"Eighty years of relationship science has reliably shown you can't predict whether a relationship succeeds based on information about people who are unaware of each other," he said.

The algorithms are proprietary and were not shared with the researchers. "The assumption is they work. We reviewed the literature and feel safe to conclude they do not," he said.

He dismissed the dating websites' own studies on their success as unscientific, and said there are as yet no objective, data-driven studies of online dating. The researchers reviewed the literature on online dating and compared it to previous research.

Finkel said he and four psychology professors from other schools were enlisted by the Association for Psychological Science to write about the online dating industry, and the report was being published in the organization's journal, Psychological Science in the Public Interest.

Perhaps solving what Finkel termed the "original sins" of online dating are mobile dating websites such as Badoo.com and Zoosk.com. The sites offer some information about other members but more importantly allow participants visiting a museum, say, to ask others logged on nearby to meet up.

"There's no better way to figure out whether you're compatible with somebody than talking to them over a cup of coffee or a pint of beer," Finkel said.

(Reporting By Andrew Stern; Editing by Eric Beech)

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corte33
12:29 PM on 02/08/2012
Forcing yourself to meet someone is a waste of time. When the time is right, you'll meet someone compatible. If not in this life, maybe in your next incarnation.
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Tomtom2
SomeOligarchs need a good old fashion Vulcan Pinch
12:09 PM on 02/08/2012
Man looking for Woman:

A Princeton graduate who started his own company and after making millions decided to join Mother Theresa in helping the unfortunate. Moved back to the U.S. after several years and worked with Jimmy and Habitat for Humanity. They say I look a lot like George Clooney.
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corte33
12:29 PM on 02/08/2012
Maybe that's a negative.
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RoughCollie
Destination: A new way of seeing things.
07:57 AM on 02/08/2012
Wait a minute...this "study" seems pretty weird, what kind of statistical model are they using if they don't have access to the site algorithms? And what are the confounding variables, how many bars are located within a 30 mile radius of each single person?

Everyone knows a computer can't make the "perfect match" but if you're way past the age or interest of bar scene escapades colored by an alcohol haze, match sites may well provide the best and only "people available in your vicinity that you would never have the opportunity to meet randomly" based on common interests and personality choices.

Take the extreme examples of a PETA supporter and an avid outdoorsman/hunter.. the algorithm works brilliantly keeping these two apart, right? I rest my case.
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03:26 AM on 02/08/2012
Oh hell, it is like a damn train wreck of single men ! Hesus , I am in Idaho , the cross section is flippin scary !! My sister say's my picker is broken ? I only sign up for the 72 free hours . If I can't get a date by then , I quit . It's so weird , it really is . Had allot of damn fun with it though !!! Change your profile all the damn time , take it down for awhile , if not it's like sitting on a bar stool constantly. I call it dating purgatory !!!!! Or like shooting ducks in a barrel !!!
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mlshea1983
Politics is my football.
10:47 AM on 02/08/2012
lol
08:26 PM on 02/07/2012
There's no substitute for meeting someone through the natural process of living life.
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knowcomment
You keep using that word...
04:51 PM on 02/07/2012
Pffft! That potential Prince Charming just took enough time away from net porn to create a profile and do a credit card transaction. And he probably hit on the woman who took that call.
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03:15 AM on 02/08/2012
Yah , really . Net Porn is such a " drain" on mens libido , they think it helps ??? Just found a list of " teen porn " my boyfriend had purchased , no thanks , he's 60 . Blamed it on his then girlfriend . Lied about little stuff and big stuff ! To spare me because he was such a " loyal honest guy with integrity " met him on match.com
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corte33
12:40 PM on 02/08/2012
Dating services are a ripoff. Just hang out at the supermarket.
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AKansasComment
Don't it make my brown eyes blue
04:47 PM on 02/07/2012
Until there is proof required of one's age and how current their photo is, these sites will have to do without my money. I've yet to read a profile where they didn't have something wrong with them, or were just a liar. I'm a normal, attractive middle-aged woman and I can tell you... these sites s*uck.
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03:16 AM on 02/08/2012
Not really , met friends and lovers on there . Albeit , read the above comment ?????
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mlshea1983
Politics is my football.
10:48 AM on 02/08/2012
Give some examples of "something wrong with them." I'm curious.
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Paluxy Moon
07:14 PM on 02/08/2012
Still married, but going through a divorce. Or still encumbered with too much baggage from the divorce. Or they're just a player.
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anitaj
03:12 PM on 02/07/2012
"There's no better way to figure out whether you're compatible with somebody than talking to them over a cup of coffee or a pint of beer," Finkel said.

As my philosophy professor used to say, "Duh!"
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RoughCollie
Destination: A new way of seeing things.
08:18 AM on 02/08/2012
I met my husband on match.com, I also dated a few very, very nice men. Some I dated for a while, with others we both agreed we liked and respected each other but upon meeting didn't have that physical attraction and desire to keep dating.

Maybe it was our age group..40's and 50's, maybe it was that 10 years ago internet dating was still novel, but there was a maturity about it I liked. A single mom in a rural town with a kid who went to bed at 8pm I would never have had the opportunity to meet this many really nice guys since I don't do the bar scene. Btw, every guy I dated was shocked that I looked exactly like my photo, was the size and personality I claimed.

My husband lived 2 states away, was my age, great income bracket, incredibly intelligent and short..just the way I like 'em. How's our marriage? Like everyone else's... some days are great and then there's the rest of the time. It's a journey, not a fait accompli.
02:50 PM on 02/07/2012
I'm a 21-yr old college student, wouldn't say that I'm unattractive, but I tried the dating site "okcupid" because apparently it's become a big thing among people around my age. I definitely agree that the profile overload of 'matches' had me almost shutting down (that, coupled with three different meet-ups that were just "ehhh" with guys who were a lot shorter than they professed to be). I met up with some of the people who were recommended as my "perfect matches" but ultimately just drunkenly messaged a guy because his profile picture had a poodle in it :O We weren't compatible by the site's definition, but once I started using it differently and just starting conversations with people I wanted to, it worked a lot better! I found that just meeting up for a beer earlier on in the back-and-forth (before conversing online back and forth for say, weeks) worked a lot better! I've been with the poodle guy for about a year now :O
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FOX: Devolving their viewers since 2002.
03:36 PM on 02/07/2012
"just "ehhh" with guys who were a lot shorter than they professed to be"

They shouldn't lie about their height but I guess if they told the truth they would never get a response from women. A short guy has to have really thick skin as they seem to get blasted all the time.
04:03 PM on 02/07/2012
Woops, those two things were not necessarily connected. They were "ehhh" meet ups for other reasons, but I did find that many of the guys I met up with lied about their height by a lot! I don't care much about height-- the guy I'm dating is only a bit taller than me and I'm not tall-- but I do care about people being upfront! It's one thing to fudge statistics by a little bit, but if someone says they're a foot taller than they actually are, I'm wondering what else they've crafted up on their "profile"! which is why I'm an advocate of meeting in person, definitely.
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FOX: Devolving their viewers since 2002.
01:10 PM on 02/07/2012
One day someone is going to release a study that includes information in which everyone over the age of two didn't already know.
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Jennifer Kley
Sloppy Cubicle Rebel in search of Freedom
04:16 PM on 02/07/2012
Heee heee. Totally agree with that.

http://thecubiclerebel.wordpress.com/
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FOX: Devolving their viewers since 2002.
04:21 PM on 02/07/2012
Aarghh!! I will never eat at KFC again. I hope that pic was photoshopped.
12:55 PM on 02/07/2012
1. Because he doesn't own his own business like his profile says. Rather, he lives in his parents basement.
2. You are using profile pictures from 1985.
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mlshea1983
Politics is my football.
10:51 AM on 02/08/2012
It seems like everyone "owns their own business" these days. I once sold lemonade as a child. I guess I was once a business owner as well. Hell, my little brother worked with me so I guess I'm also "job creator"! I could run for president!
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MikeDu
Both salubrious and lugubrious concurrently.
12:05 PM on 02/07/2012
This makes it sound like dating is like a casting call for the supporting role in a movie. You've submitted your head shots and bios, and you go on your auditions. But its not about the person himself, its only about filling a fantasy role the 'director' has in her head.
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corte33
12:34 PM on 02/08/2012
Right on. If you can act, you might get the part.
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Martha Fair
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10:52 AM on 02/07/2012
Yes, unfortunately algorithms do not measure things like BO, bad breath and personal hygeine. These are things you are forced to experience in person as well as BIB (Bad in Bed) LOL.

Also, sometimes you can be sexually attracted to a person who is the absolute worst match in history for you. It's the mystery behind sexual attraction that makes it so appealing.
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blyan
12:30 PM on 02/07/2012
"Also, sometimes you can be sexually attracted to a person who is the absolute worst match in history for you."

I cannot even tell you how true this is, lol.
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Sue She
Restore the Matriarchy
11:33 PM on 02/07/2012
Yep, because we all know bad boys are the most sexual and sexually attractive. The problem is getting them to be sexual with only you. Sadly, men who make the best partners are not often the ones a girl wants to take to bed.
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corte33
12:37 PM on 02/08/2012
Women like bad boys, true. They also like guys with a good sense of humor. So the perfect male is an ex-con who can make her laugh. And who is creative in bed.
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spitfiredd
My micro-bio has got it going on.
08:42 AM on 02/07/2012
I don't think anyone knows what ultimately brings forth that spark when two people meet. Meeting a lot of people (be it on or off line) surly will increase you chances.
08:40 AM on 02/07/2012
I had no idea women were applying complex formulas to dating. No wonder they are so confused and disappointed.