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Teen Forced To Hold 'I Steal From My Family' Sign On Street Corner As Punishment (VIDEO)

First Posted: 02/15/2012 1:15 pm Updated: 02/15/2012 2:05 pm

Last week, a North Carolina father shot his teenage daughter's laptop as punishment. Now, a Tennessee mother has made her 13-year-old daughter stand on a street corner holding a sign reading, "I steal from my family."

Natia Wade stood on the corner of an intersection in Memphis, Tenn., on Feb. 12, as punishment for taking things without asking, ABC 24 reports.

Aunt Lauren Scales said Wade allegedly took her mother's debit card after the teen's cell phone was taken away. Scales told the station she wasn't exactly thrilled about shaming the teen in public, but she felt Wade had to learn a lesson.

"Don't get me wrong because you never want to put your child in this situation because they're fragile," the teen's aunt told ABC 24. "But with all of the things that are going on with kids stealing things and all the crime being committed in Memphis, she will not be one of them."

Wade's public shaming isn't the first of its kind.

Last year, Ronda Holder forced her 15-year-old son to stand on a street corner wearing a sign that displayed his low GPA.

The Florida mother said the teen didn't take school seriously and the tactic was her last attempt at getting through to her son, the Tampa Bay Times reported.

But a clinical psychologist said the public punishment bordered on emotional abuse.

"It's shame, embarrassment and humiliation," Arlinda Amos told the paper. "This will be a lifelong memory for him."

But Tommy Jordan, the father who shot his daughter's laptop and posted the video to YouTube, has since defended his actions, and even said he would do it again.

"My daughter isn't hurt, emotionally scarred, or otherwise damaged," Jordan wrote on his Facebook wall in an attempt to explain his decision not to speak with the media.

Would you publicly punish your child? Read what two HuffPost editors have to say about the topic.

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03:46 PM on 05/16/2012
wow! not only was she publicly embarrassed, but it was also put on the news. how embarrassing!
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Justdontgetit
Don't screw with old people, they will mess you up
06:59 PM on 02/18/2012
Here's a thought, pumpkin. You don't like the rules at this house? I'll dial the number for you and you can live somewhere else for a while.

You want to get snarky with me? The law says I have to feed and clothe you. It doesn't say I have to buy you clothes from the mall and it definitely doesn't say I have to get you steak each night. Beans and cornbread and very nutritious.

All four of mine paid their own way through college and I have 4 of the most wonderful grandchildren on earth! Not that I'm bragging about the little ones or anything! ;-)))
04:00 PM on 02/18/2012
My moms ex girlfriend punished me with something similar to this at one point. Had to walk around a mall with sharpie on my face saying, " i draw on things that don't belong to me" or something along those lines. Boy did that work.
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TruthHurtsPPL
"The truth is rarely pure and never simple"
03:48 PM on 02/17/2012
Emotional abuse?! Everything a parent does to discipline their children is being labeled as some form of abuse nowadays. I don't see anything wrong with this punishment especially if it corrects the behavior. If they don't do something now she will be robbing/stealing from someone else later. Which will result in her going to prison or worse, being killed because she tried to take from the wrong person. My mother would have spanked me, which now they call physical abuse. I hold no grudge against my mother, I'm not emotionally or physically scared, and I'm a productive member of society. So thanks mom for the spankings that set me straight and I'm glad I was raised before people started making a mountain out of a mole hill.
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FactsvsFear
11:08 AM on 02/17/2012
Emotional abuse!!!!! Oh my God!!! Really? Making a kid do this or that kid who's mom made him wear a shirt with his GPA is abuse now?? Holy smoke no wonder why our kids have all the self inflated ego with very little results. Give me a flipping break. Abuse. If I stole from my father he would have done much worse. This is not about abusing a kid it's about making a kid feel what pride is shame is humility is. Abuse! 100 bucks says that woman who said that doesn't have kids. I love how so many people who don't even have children have dictated to parents how to best parent. How has it been working? Anyone on here spend lots of time with kids lately? I have. I coach my sons baseball teams and my wife is a educator and the kids now are totally out of control. If you even dare tell them in a nice way they did something wrong there is a school regulation book with about 10000 pages to tell you no your wrong don't tell them they did wrong. Or the kids parents today? They back their kids up in every instance. Abuse! What a joke.
05:10 AM on 02/17/2012
I steal from my family also.
My dad never notices though. I feel sorry for her :- (
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Citats
Bring me that horizon.
08:29 AM on 02/17/2012
Well then screw you.
05:39 PM on 02/16/2012
Oh well... She shouldn't be stealing... What should have been done instead? This is apparently an ongoing issue in their household...
02:36 PM on 02/16/2012
Wow. Sounds like too many frustrated parents......this is what happens when women don't choose abortions and end up with kids they didn't want to begin with. Wait...where are these exemplary parents? What! The South?! Shocker!
01:19 PM on 02/16/2012
Do the parents really think this will stop the stealing? Absolutely useless punishment.Sounds like the parents wanted some media attention.
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SoulOfDespair
01:47 PM on 02/16/2012
If you are a good child it would.
12:04 PM on 02/17/2012
If she were a "good child" she wouldn't be a thief!
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dvglass3
Right, Left....Wrong
05:45 PM on 02/17/2012
The mother should have called the police I guess. Maybe the mother wanted to try this before sending her child to jail?
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92102
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09:10 AM on 02/16/2012
I'm not a fan of public humiliation, but don't think kids should be let off the hook. I prefer grounding and making the grounding as unpleasant as possible. There are always plenty of extra jobs around the house, or a relative's house to keep the teen busy while grounded with no electronics, phones, computers, games, tv, etc.
04:25 AM on 02/16/2012
People have to get pretty inventive these days with how quick everyone without kids is to call abuse. When I was little I feared my dad’s belt, but the thought of trying to get him arrested or sued for it... that wasn't even possible to comprehend. I think it'd be a lot better if people could go back to that. Not breaking bones or drawing blood, that is abuse, but a paddle when you've been bad makes you think for sure versus just blowing it off. I don't have kids, but I've babysat a lot since I have a large extended family, and kids who know their parents will spank them if they were bad were a lot better behaved and mannered then kids that weren't. Also a lot more fun to be around since it wasn't their way or the highway type attitudes. Kudo's to mom for something that teaches the kid without touching them once.
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stjoshy
"C is for COOKIEEEEE. thats good enough for me"
01:32 AM on 02/16/2012
man.. my black bros and sis' know whats up. hahahaha... im diggin this one just like the mom who made her son hold a sign saying he failed some classes that he was supposed to pass.
12:33 AM on 02/16/2012
If I ever thought of disrespecting my family by stealing from them I am sure my ma would have done the same exact thing after giving me a butt whopping I would never forget.
10:12 PM on 02/15/2012
Back in my youth mom would just whip us with an old belt.
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stjoshy
"C is for COOKIEEEEE. thats good enough for me"
01:33 AM on 02/16/2012
me too. and i tried to stuff somemini pilows down my undies one day.... o my. i neer did that again
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Justdontgetit
Don't screw with old people, they will mess you up
06:56 PM on 02/18/2012
Switch was most popular in our house. And we had to cut own switch. If we tried to get a tiny one, we were made to go back again and again until we got the right size.

Lied to my dad once. When he was done with that switch, I'd have rather bitter off my own tongue than lie to him again.
10:02 PM on 02/15/2012
How is this emotional abuse? There is clearly a breakdown in parenting/education today. I mean the fact that this kid didn't even realize that taking a credit card, even if it was her mom's, without permission IS stealing. Most kids today need to be taught that 1) you don't always get what you want and 2) actions have consequences. Too many kids today get away with too much.
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FactsvsFear
11:10 AM on 02/17/2012
Yep. And there is a long line of adults out there who back up your kid against you to empower them more and take away your ability to parent. Funny most of those people don't have children.