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Bullied 10-Year-Old Girl Says School Failed To Intervene In Repeated Attacks (VIDEO)

First Posted: 02/22/2012 11:44 am Updated: 02/22/2012 11:51 am

A 10-year-old girl in Chicago's south suburbs, severely attacked by a male classmate who has allegedly bullied her for years, has accused her school of doing almost nothing to intervene in the boy's repeated taunting, despite her family's pleas for help.

Elisa Ramirez of Lynwood, Ill., a fifth grader at Sandridge School, said a 10-year-old boy at the school has, for years, verbally and even physically abused her. Most recently, the boy allegedly hit her hard in the face and injuring her eye and causing a trip to the emergency room, CBS Chicago reports.

After the incident, Elisa's family has asked for the boy to be transferred to a different classroom, but the school's superintendent told CBS that he did not believe such a change would be appropriate. Her family also alerted local police who have the option of ticketing the boy's family under the parental responsibility ordinance -- a charge not possible because the ordinance carries with it a minimum age of 13 for any individual involved in an incident, according to CBS.

As Ramirez's family remains frustrated, the state has been working to change the way bullying is addressed in schools. Two years ago, Governor Pat Quinn signed legislation aimed at reducing bullying in schools by expanding the definition of bullying to include e-mail, text message or social media sites. The law also required schools to have gang-prevention training and created a School Bullying Prevention Task Force, ABC Chicago reported.

Bullying was also the subject of a new state law, sponsored by state Rep. Dwight Kay, which allows school boards and administrators to suspend or even expel a student who threatens another student or a school employee over the Internet.

But legislation is clearly not enough to protect students struggling with being bullied by their classmates. Last fall, 10-year-old Ashlynn Conner, a student at Georgetown Ridge Farm Elementary School in Vermilion County in east central Illinois, killed herself. She had told her mother a week before her death that she was being taunted at school and being called "a slut," "ugly" and "fat."

While bullying and suicide risk can sometimes be linked, experts on the matter also point out that other factors -- ranging from depression and mental illness to family life or the ending of a relationship -- can also play a role in such tragedies.

The Tribune recently outlined a number of tips to help parents and families prevent bullying.

Need help? In the U.S., call 1-800-273-8255 for the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline. You can also visit The Trevor Project's website, a national organization providing support to LGBT youth, or call them at 1-866-488-7386. And if you're worried about a friend on Facebook, you can report troubling posts. They'll connect your friend with a representative from National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.

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03:02 PM on 03/20/2012
I am only 18, and ive been bullied and teased pretty much ever since middle school because i developed young and I dont tend to say much, but when i did its was like hell broke out. I was hit, punched and chased. I told my teachers an a guidance councelor and all they did was send me to peer mediation with the kid. THAT DID NOTHING!!! they lied and said they were joking and they would never do it again til the point where I actually started fighting them right back. The thing that killed me was my teachers knew and didnt help me. My mother and family knew and helped me the best they could, but they couldnt follow me everywhere. But I have learned to defend myself because all I can see is that Teachers, Principals, and some other goverment officials will only go so far as long as their paychecks can reach. Other than that its not their problem.
MHT73
words matter
11:11 AM on 03/27/2012
Gigi, this is such a sad situation, and you deserve much, much better from the school. Hoping that now that you're 18 you're in a good college or a good job. My best to you.
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dede4007
11:06 PM on 03/15/2012
My daughter was getting bullied in middle school because she "developed" early. She was harassed and fondled and scared to go to school. I put her karate classes and my daughter got to yellow belt level. She never had another problem in school.
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seriously77
02:22 PM on 03/13/2012
There is bullying and then there is harrassment and assault, both of which need to be treated differently than bullying. Now I have a personal question for you readers (personal because it happened to my child).....I will give you the scenerio first then ask your opinion. Here is it. My son was on the bus when another student called him a name, called him out (asking him to physically fight). My son he wouldn't fight unless two things happened. 1. the boys older brother had to leave and 2. the other kid had to hit my son first. Well both of these things happened. The boy attacked my son and my son started fighting back. The next day the boy didn't show up for school.... the following Monday when he returned he still had a black eye. So who's to blame here??? My son didn't want to fight and he didn't start it, but he finished it. The other boy did admit that he took it too far and that it was his fault. Neither boy got in any trouble, but I know if the other boy's parents would have reported it, my son probably would've been the punished one just because he won. What do you think?
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Natassha Halverson
08:09 AM on 03/01/2012
As far as the name calling goes, there is nothing a school, parent, cop, etc can do to stop that. Name calling happens. Even adults call each other names. That is just something that happens, it hurts feelings, but you get over it. So I say get over it.

As far as physical assault goes, clearly that is when the school should step in, if it happened on school grounds. If it didnt happen on school grounds, the parents should step up and deal with it. I'm not really sure what cops can do with a 10 year old, but everyone is right in saying this is clearly assault and battery and should be dealt with at an appropriate level for a 10 year old.

I bullying is getting too much attention in the media. Real cases, where assault takes place, should be dealt with. But we cant talk about every hurt feeling and expect "officials" to fix it.
02:37 PM on 03/07/2012
Sounds like ur the bully to me...
MHT73
words matter
11:12 AM on 03/27/2012
Bullying starts small, and escalates. If you don't stop the name-calling, the bullied child is just beaten down bit by bit.
08:06 PM on 02/28/2012
I'm usually an anti-bullying person, but I don't think 'bullying' should be legally defined as to extend to anything outside of the school. The school has the obligation to stop bullying ON ITS OWN property. After that the school has no business meddling with that issue.
08:01 AM on 03/01/2012
But more and more parents want the school to raise their children. When I was in middle school I wasn't even on school grounds but I got attacked by a few bullies and I was suspended just as they were for fighting. None of us would have gotten in trouble except i reported it. I honestly think we could end a lot of the bullying by not punishing students for defending themselves.
04:21 PM on 02/25/2012
The term "bullying" is getting in the way of any progress being made. It makes the whole issue sound childish, and people continue to think of it as some kind of rite of passage. If person physically strikes someone walking down the street, the offense is called "assault and battery." The same crime taking place in a school building or on a school bus needs to be identified with the same language.
01:28 PM on 02/27/2012
Agree entirely!
02:24 PM on 02/25/2012
we are just raising pure monsters! And the school didn't do anything about it too! It's just sad.
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oxfordavenue
07:39 PM on 02/24/2012
The boy should be arrested for assault and nothing less. He should be transferred to another school. Period! The school's management team should be suspended for a few days and then transferred for ignoring the girl's pleas for help. We need Ellen G. to help out here. Where is the compassion?
06:31 PM on 02/24/2012
The girl was raised in a cabbage patch in a cave on a desert island.. her parents never taught her that in the real world, she might get her feelings hurt... and other people might not love everything about her...
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oxfordavenue
07:44 PM on 02/24/2012
Your nuts. You must be the bully!
09:45 PM on 02/24/2012
You hurt my feelings by calling me nuts. I can't stop crying now. :(
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mmc33411
You can't stop the signal ...
10:56 PM on 02/24/2012
This boy didn't just "hurt her feelings" - he HIT this girl so hard he injured her eye badly enough to warrant a trip to the emergency room. Perhaps if you removed the foil hat .... nevermind.
05:49 PM on 02/24/2012
We need to put pictures of the parents of these vicious animals on the front page of their local paper along with the list of criminal acts that their "child" committed. Hold the parents responsible for that which they have created. The world should be allowed to see how ugly they and their children are.
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oxfordavenue
07:46 PM on 02/24/2012
I couldn't agree with you more. The parents also should be responsible to some degree when their children misbehave. Punish the parent and the child for the bullying.
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Chastity Pine
He who laughs last didn't get it
03:10 PM on 02/24/2012
That 10 year old boy needs to be taught a lesson. Where's his parents? I bet they are sitting at home playing, "my son is a perfect angel" card. If that were my boys getting bullied, I'd be at that school every day and also over at the other parents house. No kid deserves to be bullied and assualted while the school stands by.
01:17 AM on 02/24/2012
Bullying could also be the reason why some students took their own lives. It is a major issue that affects the life of many and even brought much sufferings. While researching in the net for a safety and protection plan for my kids, there is a website that caught my attention. Aside from their colorful web design which is visually appealing I was amazed with the services that they are offering. They have this called panic button, an application that can be installed in any phone and can be used as personal safety protection. It was great and fantastic! You can check their site http://safekidzone.com/
10:59 AM on 02/23/2012
Sandridge School District 172
2950 Glenwood Dyer Rd.
Chicago Heights, IL 60411
(708) 895-2450
Dr. John Sawyer III --Sandridge school Superintendent--and man who allows bullying of girls
jsawyer@sandridgesd172.org---E-mail to express how this man does not protect students from physical violence and bullying
10:55 AM on 02/23/2012
Taken directly from the Sandridge School student handbook: Expulsion from School Offenses include: Intentionally causing or attempting to cause physical injury or intentionally behaving in such a way as could reasonably cause physical injury to any person.

They also have a chapter on bullying that they appear to overlook in their lack of disciplining this boy. Since the school apparently condones the physical and emotional abuse of this girl it is only a matter of time before the violence towards her escalates.
10:39 AM on 02/23/2012
When is hitting another student not assault? Apparently this school is not protecting its students. This boy is violent and apparently his parents don't give a darn about his behaviour or maybe they abuse him at home. I wonder if CPS has been called? I can't imagine why the school superintendent believes this violent boy should remain in the classroom with the girl he is abusing. Another example where a man thinks it is ok to allow a boy to hit a girl. One has to wonder what the school would do if this girl decides to strike back.