Ohio School Shooting Victims: Danny Parmertor's Parents Reflect On Child's Death (VIDEO)

Danny Parmertor's parents want their son to be remembered as "a funny, loveable kid who would help you with anything."

The 16-year-old boy, one of three Parmertor children, lost his life along with two other innocent victims when T.J. Lane allegedly opened fire on Monday at Ohio's Chardon High School.

"I have to think about going to a funeral home, picking out a casket. What is that, picking out a casket for your son? We're supposed to go and pick out colleges and supposed to go visit Ohio State next month. I'm mad now. I'm mad," Dina Parmertor told CBS News on Tuesday.

The mother, a nurse, was driving home from a late shift when she turned on the radio and heard the news. She described a "sick feeling" in her stomach and feared for her son's safety. She tried her son's cell phone but there was no answer.

"Danny, it's Mom, call me back," the mother described her voicemail as she held back tears, according to CBS.

The boy's father, Bob Parmertor, told the network that he knows that "life will never be the same."

"I will get better, but right now, I'll never be, there will always be something missing," he said.

The accused shooter, Thomas "T.J." Lane, 17, reportedly opened fire around 7:30 a.m. At the time, Parmertor and several friends were seated at a cafeteria table waiting for a bus to take them to a vocational school for a Cisco computer network course, according to the Cleveland Plain Dealer.

More on this story:

• T.J. Lane Personal Photos


• The Victims: Three Lives Cut Short


• Chardon High School Shooting Case Photos


• Expanded Coverage

PHOTOS: CHARDON HIGH SCHOOL SHOOTING

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• TJ Lane

  T.J. Lane smirks as he listens to the judge during sentencing Tuesday, March 19, 2013, in Chardon, Ohio. Lane, was given three lifetime prison sentences without the possibility of parole Tuesday for opening fire last year in a high school cafeteria in a rampage that left three students dead and three others wounded. Lane, 18, had pleaded guilty last month to shooting at students in February 2012 at Chardon High School, east of Cleveland. Investigators have said he admitted to the shooting but said he didn't know why he did it. Before the case went to adult court last year, a juvenile court judge ruled that Lane was mentally competent to stand trial despite evidence he suffers from hallucinations, psychosis and fantasies. (AP Photo/The News-Herald, Duncan Scott, Pool)

• T.J. Lane

  T.J. Lane sits in court during sentencing Tuesday, March 19, 2013, in Chardon, Ohio. Lane, was given three lifetime prison sentences without the possibility of parole Tuesday for opening fire last year in a high school cafeteria in a rampage that left three students dead and three others wounded. Lane, 18, had pleaded guilty last month to shooting at students in February 2012 at Chardon High School, east of Cleveland. Investigators have said he admitted to the shooting but said he didn't know why he did it. Before the case went to adult court last year, a juvenile court judge ruled that Lane was mentally competent to stand trial despite evidence he suffers from hallucinations, psychosis and fantasies. (AP Photo/The News-Herald, Duncan Scott, Pool)

• TJ Lane

  T.J. Lane unbuttons his shirt during sentencing Tuesday, March 19, 2013, in Chardon, Ohio. Lane, was given three lifetime prison sentences without the possibility of parole Tuesday for opening fire last year in a high school cafeteria in a rampage that left three students dead and three others wounded. Lane, 18, had pleaded guilty last month to shooting at students in February 2012 at Chardon High School, east of Cleveland. Investigators have said he admitted to the shooting but said he didn't know why he did it. Before the case went to adult court last year, a juvenile court judge ruled that Lane was mentally competent to stand trial despite evidence he suffers from hallucinations, psychosis and fantasies. (AP Photo/The News-Herald, Duncan Scott, Pool)

• Chardon High School Shooting

  Students leave with parents from Maple Elementary School after a shooting at Chardon High School Monday. Students assembled at Maple Elementary School after a shooting took place at the high school. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day, killing three students and wounding two others, officials said. A suspect is in custody. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)

• Ohio Shooting

  Community members attend a during a prayer service for victims of a school shooting at Chardon Assembly of God in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the Chardon High School's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others.

• Demetrius Hewlin

  Demetrius Hewlin, a junior, was one of three students taken by helicopter to a local hospital following the shooting. He died. <em>Photo provided via <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/RIP-Demetrius-Hewlin/115955785195928?sk=wall" target="_hplink">Facebook</a> tribute. </em>

• Danny Parmertor

  Danny Parmertor, 16, a junior, was shot along with several classmates while waiting for a bus. Parmertor was airlifted to a hospital and died shortly after. <em>Photo provided via <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/RIP-Danny-Parmertor/121146101345306" target="_hplink">Facebook</a> tribute.</em>

• Russell King

  Russell King Jr., 17, was pronounced brain dead shortly after the shooting and died the next day. <em>Photo provide via <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/RIP-Russell-King/385026981508707" target="_hplink">Facebook</a> tribute. </em>

• Ohio High School Shooting

  A FBI agent speaks with people in front of Chardon High School where a shooting took place on Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman, believed to be a student, opened fire inside the high school cafeteria, immediately killing three students and wounding two others.

• Ohio Shooting

  Flags fly at half staff in front of the town hall in Chardon, Ohio for the victims of an early morning school shooting on Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day, killing three students and wounding two others.

• TJ Lane

  This February 27, 2012 photograph shows a picture of Chardon High School shooter T.J. Lane posing on his Facebook page. Lane, opened fire with a handgun on a group of fellow students at Chardon High shortly after the start of the school day on Monday, killing three and wounding two others.

• Ohio Shooting

  An Ohio Highway Patrol helicopter takes off from the rear of Chardon High School in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others, officials said.

• Ohio School Shooting: Prayer Service

  Alissa Sully, 17, hugs a friend before a prayer service for victims of a school shooting at Chardon Assembly of God in Chardon, Ohio Monday, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others. (AP Photo/Mark Duncan)

• Ohio School Shooting

  A woman and her children walk down a back street near Chardon High School in Chardon, Ohio Monday, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others, officials said. Special Agent Vicki Anderson said Monday the shooter was taken into custody near his car about half a mile (one kilometer) away from the high school. (AP Photo/Mark Duncan)

• Four Students Injured, Two Killed In Ohio High School Shooting

  A sign in front of Chardon High School where a shooting took place on Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman, believed to be a student, opened fire inside the high school cafeteria, immediately killing one student and wounding two others. Two others later died from the injuries.

• Ohio School Shooting: Press Conference

  Chardon School Superintendant Joe Bergant speaks to the media during a press conference at Chardon High School where a shooting took place on Feb. 27, 2012 in Chardon, Ohio. A gunman, believed to be a student, opened fire inside the high school cafeteria, killing three students and wounding two others.

• Ohio High School Shooting

  Doug Gasper, a ninth-grader at Chardon High School, is hugged by his mother, Sandy, as they leave Maple Elementary School Monday, Feb. 27, 2012, in Chardon, Ohio. Students assembled at Maple Elementary School after a shooting took place at the high school. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day, killing three students and wounding two others, officials said. A suspect is in custody. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)

• Ohio High School Shooting: Police Search

  Investigative agents search a home several miles from the shooting Monday, Feb. 27, 2012, in Chardon, Ohio. A gunman opened fire inside a high school cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, immediately killing three students and wounding two others, authorities said. A suspect believed to be a student was arrested a short distance away. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)

• Ohio High School Shooting: Evidence Search

  FBI and local police investigators search for evidence in a rural area of Chardon Township, Ohio Monday, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the Chardon High School cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others, officials said. (AP Photo/Mark Duncan)

• Ohio High School Shooting: Prayer Service

  Rev. Jeff Johnson, left, and Bill Mullett lead prayers during a service for victims of a school shooting at Chardon Assembly of God in Chardon, Ohio Monday, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others. (AP Photo/Mark Duncan)

• Ohio High School Shooting: Press Conference

  Geauga County Sheriff Dan McClelland addresses the media regarding an early morning shooting at Chardon High School in Chardon, Ohio Monday afternoon, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the school's cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others. (AP Photo/Mark Duncan)

• OHIO SCHOOL SHOOTING

  Map locates Chardon, Ohio, site of a school shooting

• Search For Ohio High School Shooter

  A deputy sheriff searches a wooded area with his gun drawn several miles from Chardon High School in Chardon, Ohio, Monday, Feb. 27, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the high school cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday, killing three students and wounding two others, authorities said. A suspect believed to be a student was arrested a short distance away. (AP Photo/Tony Dejak)

• Ohio Shooting

  A group of students and parents pray for victims of a school shooting on the square in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the Chardon High School cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday. Three of the victims have died and two others remain wounded.

• Ohio Shooting

  A group of students and parents pray for victims of a school shooting on the square in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012. A gunman opened fire inside the Chardon High School cafeteria at the start of the school day Monday. Three of the victims have died and two others remain wounded.

• TJ Lane

  T.J. Lane, a suspect in Monday's shooting of five students at Chardon High School is taken into juvenile court by Geauga County deputies in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012. Three of the five students wounded in the attacks have since died.

• Candlelight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012.

• Candlelight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012.

• Candlelight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012.

• Candlelight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012.

• Candlelight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church in Chardon, Ohio on Feb. 28, 2012.

• Candleight Vigil

  Students and those in the community embrace one another as they hold a candlelight vigil at St Mary's of the Assumption Church on February 28, 2012 in Chardon, Ohio. Gunman and student TJ Lane opened fire inside the Chardon High School cafeteria that left 3 students dead and two injured.

• Red Ribbon

  Heidi Marks finishes tying a red ribbon around the tree in front of her home outside Chardon High School, where her son David, 17, is a student in Chardon, Ohio on February 28, 2012. Gunman and student TJ Lane opened fire inside the Chardon High School cafeteria that left 3 students dead and two injured.

• TJ Lane

  T. J. Lane, center, is led from Juvenile Court in Chardon, Ohio Tuesday, Feb. 28, 2012. Lane, 17, admitted taking a .22-caliber pistol to Chardon High School Monday, along with a knife, and firing 10 shots at a group of students sitting at a cafeteria table Monday morning, Prosecutor David Joyce said.

• Danny Parmertor

  Danny Parmertor, 16, a junior, was shot along with several classmates while waiting for a bus. Parmertor was airlifted to a hospital and died shortly after. <em>Photo provided via <a href="https://www.facebook.com/pages/RIP-Danny-Parmertor/121146101345306" target="_hplink">Facebook</a> tribute.</em>

• Chardon High School

  Two students hug on the town square in Chardon, Ohio, on March 1, before marching to the high school to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Chardon High School

  Students and parents march to the high school in Chardon, Ohio on March 1, 2012, to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Chardon High School

  Hundreds of students and parents march to the Chardon High Schooll in Chardon, Ohio on March 1, 2012 to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Chardon High School

  A tribute to the victims of a shooting at the high school Monday, is displayed in the town square in Chardon, Ohio on March 1, 2012.

• Chardon High School

  Two students hug before hundreds of students and parents march to the high school in Chardon, Ohio on March 1, 2012, to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Chardon High School

  Assistant football coach Frank Hall talks to the media during a news-conference on March 1, 2012, in Chardon, Ohio. Three students were killed by a gunman Monday at Chardon High School. Hall chased the gunman out of the building.

• Chardon High School

  Hundreds of students and parents march to Chardon High School in Chardon, Ohio, on March 1, 2012, to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Chardon High School

  Residents of Chardon, Ohio, applaud as hundreds of students and parents march to the high school in Chardon on March 1, 2012, to honor the three students who were killed in a shooting there Monday.

• Daniel Permertor

  People line up outside of Monreal Funeral Home for calling hours for Daniel Permertor on March 2, 2012, in Eastlake, Ohio. Parmertor and two others were fatally shot Monday at Chardon High School. Hundreds showed up for his wake at Monreal Funeral Home in Eastlake on Friday, the same day students returned to classes.

Comments

[rockysparks]

10:55 AM on 03/01/2012

This is one of the saddest stories I've followed in a long time. Ordinary people in a small town --- the usual dynamics, kids, parents, teachers, some from solid families, one kid who came from more or less nothing. Like his victims, T.J. Lane never had a chance in life. Maybe less of a chance than the kids he shot, because at least they had families who cared about him.

Not an excuse for him, by any means. He's a lost soul. But maybe we can learn something by trying to understand what made him the way he is --- maybe something that will help us keep other kids from following in his footsteps.

[am10]

01:03 PM on 03/01/2012

How about parents acting like adults and not screwing up their own lives so their kids don't reap the punishment?

[desertmap]

10:34 AM on 03/01/2012

Ok someone please tell me if he was not bullied - What led him to just opening fire on the school! There is something not being said by the police - Why was this young man so angry. The police need to say Why - to put the questions to rest. As I said I was a victim of bullied but I am sure people will say I bullied too and I will be the first to say "I did" right back to those damn spoiled rotten kids who bullied me.

[mrfit95]

09:13 AM on 03/01/2012

As a school administrator I wonder what is happening to society!!!! Columbine seems to have become an example of how to deal with problems! I blame the media! I blame technology, kids today have access to way too many devices... Not sure what it will take to wake up the World! The new book of revelations state, "the World is coming to an end when the children become wicked"!!! Well, folks we are almost there! My heart goes out to the family, friends and classmates of these children!!! They are in a better place!!! (just not by choice)

[The Dude67]

10:37 AM on 03/01/2012

Hate to break this to you, but organized religion is the source of nearly every problem in our society.  It forms for the mental foundation for lying and manipulative behavior and above all else - it teaches people to "go along" no matter how badly they are being wronged.  Don't rock the boat.  Even if your kids are shooting each other at school - don't question the system.

[jibhank]

08:39 AM on 03/01/2012

It makes me sick to see the gunmen in court later on with all of the defenses their attorneys cook up to save their skins. Suddenly the perp's are filled with remorse and concern for the victims' families. I just hope the judge can put himself in the victims' and their families' places on the day of the crime and feel their pain when it's time to sentence this person, and while listening to his, and his attorneys', pleas for leniency.

[jamesjoyce100]

07:22 AM on 03/01/2012

Very very sad

[tavvie]

04:19 AM on 03/01/2012

My heart and deepest sympathies go out the Parmertor family. I was crying when I saw their interview. They are incredibly courageous to do that interview.

[ketavan]

01:35 AM on 03/01/2012

Who needs schools? Kids can get an education through the internet and distance learning. But then again parents would not have someone to baby sit their kids during the day.

[jamesjoyce100]

07:22 AM on 03/01/2012

If everyone homeschooled who would pay the bills?

[apaverman]

10:50 AM on 03/01/2012

Some of us parents have to work to pay the bills

[shari2nut]

11:15 PM on 02/29/2012

I can't even imagine how Danny's parents feel right now. I get a sick feeling in my stomach when I think about losing one of my kids. Life would be so difficult. Everyone would be sad including Danny's two siblings. Kids should not pass on before their parents. I just don't get it. Why didn't the shooter just take his own life if he was so miserable. If he was being bullied, he should have been depressed, not angry. I pray that all the victims and their families and friends get through this tragedy!

[hopein2012]

11:11 PM on 02/29/2012

i feel bad for all involved. their lives will never be the same.

[SuperDaveOsborn]

11:10 PM on 02/29/2012

PalmSpringsLife - Jesus already spoke on what to do with T.J. & other show shed blood:

"If a man shedeth man's blood, let their blood be shed" ... and "man" refers to mankind, i.e., women & children.

DOESN'T A JESUS ECHOING INDIVIDUAL READ THEIR BIBLE ???

[highercallchurch]

06:43 AM on 03/01/2012

That's an Old Covenant command , "A life for a life an eye for an eye." Jesus acually said to love your enemies and to pray for those who persecute you and to forgive others.

That isn't anything I would say to the victims at this point in time but eventually they will have to forgive or this will destroy them.

[Mike Ritter]

08:29 AM on 03/01/2012

an absurd statement in a trying time... You go read your bible... I applaud the the mother of the third victim. She has forgiven Mr. Lane for what he did. She understands her faith and religion far greater than you. Did Jesus not forgive you of all your sins unconditionally? Learn a little more about your bible, the difference between the old and new testament. But then again, you probably like to pick and choose what you want out of it. With all the abominations in Leviticus, we'd all be dead I guess...

[SuperDaveOsborn]

02:35 PM on 03/01/2012

Mike Ritter - Leviticus is as much part of God's Word as the remainder of the Bible is, and though some Levitical Laws have been "fulfilled" with Christ's appearnace on earth, READ Matthew 5, where HE declares he did not come to do away with The Law - and sir, there is no new Biblical "prescedent" for what we are to do with those who shed blood, so you "forgive" all you want, and cuddle all you want - those who butcher humanity, but "as for me and my house, we shall serve the Lord" in obedience to His TRUTH - and not your cocamime and unfounded notions. READ: Rev. 22:18 & 19 sir !

Isaiah rightly declares, "those who READ shall not fail" and therein lies the PROBLEM, for most of us pick up the Bible, "here a little and there a little" until we "fall backward", as Isaiah also declares, and - BY THE WAY- God is the ONLY one who can forgive sins, so the third victims mom is off base also - for though God commands us to forgive one another 70 times 7 daily, again sir - READ the context of this, for this forgiveness applies ONLY to those who "ask for it" .

PEOPLE, GET IT TOGETHER - before spouting off on any subject matter that you have failed to look into with any serious consideration - and especailly when you say, "thus sayth the Lord" for you will be held just as accountable

[Vince Giordano]

11:06 PM on 02/29/2012

The victims were not the ones doing the bullying....it was open fire and so three innocent lives were taken....one of my nephews kept getting bullied..only because he wouldn't smoke pot...so when he finally started to using his fist...who got in trouble...my nephew...so four months before graduation he and 27 other students all seniors quit school...went on to get the GED's and everyone of them turned out with excellent jobs...the school system needs to crack down on those who bully...listen to the students for a change...and dismiss the guilty ones from school permanently....

[Mike Ritter]

08:31 AM on 03/01/2012

First, the prosecutor stated after interviewing Mr. Lane, that bullying was not involved. People were/are so quick to make judgements without all the facts... People are angry and so many seek revenge not justice.

[Henssis1]

11:03 PM on 02/29/2012

The bullying needs to stop...This is what it can lead to...Needless killings...

[geauxangel]

01:06 AM on 03/01/2012

I agree...I wish these all these children who have grown up in the shadow of Colombine and zero tolerance would wake up and realize that bullying is the reason for these school shootings...no more children have to die or commit suicide if their peers would just go to school to learn and respect each other as human beings.. to not single out someone because they are different...next time it could be their school, their cafeteria...bullying leads to pain, torment and often times rage and revenge that leads to loss of so many lives....

[Mike Ritter]

08:33 AM on 03/01/2012

according to the prosecutor, bullying was not involved, but something made this kid snap...

[bettyboop68]

10:52 PM on 02/29/2012

These parents are living their worst nightmare. My heart went out to her when she said they were supposed to be helping him choose a college not a casket. I hope God gives the strength and comfort to deal with this pain.

[travelergtoo]

10:49 PM on 02/29/2012

Maybe young men and women will learn not to bully.

[brendaf031266]

10:58 PM on 02/29/2012

This kid was not bullied. You are not sent to an alternative school for BEING bullied. You are sent there when YOU are the problem. You are not sent there for failing school. You are sent there when you are causing problems at school. Excuses dont help Travel. It only makes things worse. Think before you comment. The "poem" sounded to me like he was made at kids that "had it all". Mad at kids for being happy and were being taken care of by their parents because he wasnt being. It didnt sound like he was being bullied to me. Sounded to me like a angry mentally disturbed kid.

[Mike Ritter]

08:39 AM on 03/01/2012

You are partially correct. There are many more reasons why kids are sent to alternative HS. However, the prosecutor stated that bullying was not the reason. He also stated that "something is not well." Mr. Lane did come from a somewhat dysfunctional family. Both parents had criminal records. The father spent time in prison for assault when he held a girlfriends head under water and then preceded to bash it into a wall leaving a dent. The uncle, who I believed lived in the house had multiple (as in many) guns. This is how T J got the .22.

[mrc1006]

11:16 PM on 02/29/2012

People who are bullied don't have to shoot innocent people.

[dovellmark]

10:47 PM on 02/29/2012

It ain't gonna change. More guns = more shootings. Get used to it.

[ketavan]

01:32 AM on 03/01/2012

There were "more" guns 100 years ago, so why weren’t there "more shootings”?

[Pat N]

02:03 AM on 03/01/2012

Just a thought - maybe people had more RESPECT for life back then. I do agree that this will continue UNTIL we can ALL learn to get along with each other and respect each other and our "differences" .. and that means ALL generations. We need to be able to get along with one another in order to share space with each other. If we ALL tried just a little harder to be nice to people we meet on the street, at the store, at work, on the road .. people may just respond, and pass it on to the next person. We NEED to change our attitudes, AND pay attention to one another.

[Mike Ritter]

08:43 AM on 03/01/2012

actually there are cases where things like this happened. But understand, we live in an era that news becomes instantaneous. People didn't carry cellphones, there was no texting. We didn't have twitter and Facebook. We didn't have the ability to video chat with people in Australia. Times have changed for the good and bad in many ways, but it changes.

[schotts]

01:40 AM on 03/01/2012

Except that as gun ownership has gone up, violent crime has been decreasing.