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Aggressive Parents Force Colorado Egg Hunt Cancellation

By P. SOLOMON BANDA 03/26/12 07:11 PM ET AP

Colorado Egg Hunt

COLORADO SPRINGS, Colo. — An annual Easter egg hunt attended by hundreds of children has been canceled because of misbehavior last year. Not by the kids, but by the grown-ups.

Too many parents determined to see their children get an egg jumped a rope marking the boundaries of the children-only hunt at Bancroft Park last year. The hunt was over in seconds, to the consternation of eggless tots and the rules-abiding parents.

Organizers say the hunt in Old Colorado City has gotten too big for the hundreds of children and parents now attending. They canceled this year.

Last April's egg hunt, sponsored by the Old Colorado City Association, experienced a few technical difficulties, said Mazie Baalman, owner of Rocky Mountain Chocolate Factory and sponsor of the event.

There was no place to hide the plastic eggs, which were filled with donated candy or coupons redeemable at nearby businesses. So thousands of eggs were put in plain view on the grass. A bullhorn to start the event malfunctioned, so Baalman, master of ceremonies, used a public address system that was hard to hear.

"So everybody thinks you said `Go,' and everybody goes, and it's over in seconds," Baalman said. "If one parent gets in there, other parents say, `If one can get in, we all can get in,' and everybody goes."

Parenting observers cite the cancellation as a prime example of so-called "helicopter parents" – those who hover over their children and are involved in every aspect of their children's lives – to ensure that they don't fail, even at an Easter egg hunt.

"They couldn't resist getting over the rope to help their kids," said Ron Alsop, a former Wall Street Journal reporter and author of "The Trophy Kids Grow Up," which examines the "millennial children" generation.

"That's the perfect metaphor for millennial children. They (parents) can't stay out of their children's lives. They don't give their children enough chances to learn from hard knocks, mistakes."

Alsop and others say the parenting phenomenon began in earnest when baby boomers who decorated their cars with "Baby on Board" signs in the 1980s began having children. It has prompted at least two New York companies to establish "take your parent to work day" for new recruits as parents remain involved even after their children become adults.

Lenny Watkins, who lives a block away from Bancroft Park, took his friend's son, then 4, to the hunt in 2009. "I just remember having a wonderful time, him with his Easter basket," Watkins said, adding he can understand why a parent would step in.

"You have all these eggs just lying around, and parents helping out. You better believe I'm going to help my kid get one of those eggs. I promised my kid an Easter egg hunt, and I'd want to give him an even edge."

Jennifer Rexford, who used to live near the park, said she participated in public Easter egg hunts with her boys, ages 3, 8 and 14. She doesn't anymore, because of "pushy parents" that she said she has dealt with at the hunts.

"It just seems to be the mindset. People just want the best for their kids," Rexford said.

Alsop said that dynamic is at play with parents who hover over their children, even into adulthood.

"I don't see any sign of it abating," he said. "It seems everything is more and more and more competitive, fast paced, and I think parents are going to see they need to do more to help their kids get an edge."

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03:24 PM on 04/08/2012
Heritage Square Family Entertainment Village in Golden, CO took a different approach and succeeded wildly with Saturday's Easter Celebration.

With a strolling Easter Bunny distributing eggs, and a solar powered Bubble Tower blasting humongous bubbles in all directions, and even a stilt walking party, there was entertainment for all ages, and no one felt left out. Report and photos here: stiltwalker.com/v65u
10:11 PM on 03/28/2012
my parents just hid stuff around the house and outside and that was super fun, especially when they had it like a hunt with clues and stuff. my parents were involved like that, not sending me out in public to win meaningless things..... reminds me of parents who lie for their kids to their kids' teachers to keep them out of trouble.
04:58 PM on 03/28/2012
Hey all you Springs parents, we're having our own little Easter egg hunt down here in Penrose. Take a nice drive down 115 and come visit! The hunt is at the park (turn left just past the Apple Shed and its giant rocking chair and you can't miss us). Saturday the 7th at 10:30 - come meet Harvey the Bunny and have your picture taken. We will also be having a Random Egg raffle to raise funds for future events. Grab some great coffee and the best breakfast burritos around at Coyote's Coffee Den on the way in or as you leave. It's a win/win situation ;)
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04:30 PM on 03/28/2012
When I rit lad: I went to ONE Ishtar egg hunt. (I was 8) didn't even get one piece of candy.
02:55 PM on 03/28/2012
As the mother of a 3-year-old, I guarantee most of the parents who hopped the fence were more likely looking to avoid the impending meltdown that would occur if their kid didn't get an egg, rather than impart some sense of accomplishment. While it may be a great lesson to teach your kid that he won't always get what he wants or that it's okay to fail or lose, parents of young children encounter these "lessons" far too frequently every day, and sometimes it's easier to just give in and avoid the tantrum. It's exhausting.
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09:01 PM on 03/28/2012
Boo-hoo. Parenting well takes effort and is often difficult, what a surprise that a large number of modern parents find that just too hard. Perhaps you should have been self aware enough that you knew that you couldn't tolerate tantrums and then realised you shouldn't have given in to societies pressure to breed unnecessarily. This is what happens when the "me generation" grows up and has kids. If you are unwilling to parent responsibly don't breed. It's not rocket science.
02:03 PM on 03/29/2012
I'm not sure if you've ever spent an entire morning, day, week or year taking care of small children, but I don't think ANY parent, modern or otherwise, would object to my saying that it can be, at times, exhausting and trying. It doesn't make me a bad parent or irresponsible for picking my battles and deciding not to treat each and every second as a teachable moment. Sometimes, for my sanity and theirs, it's okay to say, "fine, you want it, here it is." Trust me, your mother most likely did the same thing. Now whether she taught you manners or to treat people with respect ... that I'm not sure about.
09:27 PM on 04/05/2012
Not not really. And if your child was disciplined and knew how to share, you wouldn't be exhausted listening to them cry. Be a parent. I just steal whole baskets when that happens to me. Watch the parent and the kids cry.
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02:41 PM on 03/28/2012
What a depressing comment on modern parenting. Kids don't need an "edge" at an egg hunt. They need to learn how to fail. It is part of life, and they need to be prepared to deal with it. I feel a little sorry for these children, they are not learning to be independent when every moment of every day is organized for them.
10:01 AM on 03/28/2012
My mommy typed this comment.
09:29 AM on 03/28/2012
I thought it was supposed to be about the kid feeling thrilled when they find an egg, not the parent grabbing an egg and handing it to the kid. These are the same parents who punch the football ref, make an appointment with a teacher to complain about their kid's grade, etc.
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09:05 PM on 03/28/2012
Don't forget the sports trophy just for competing. I recently read about a parent complaining to the parents of her child's friend because at a birthday party a game of pass-the-parcel resulted in her progeny getting upset because she didn't get anything.
I look forward to the day when parenting must be licensed.
09:42 PM on 03/29/2012
I'm so old, I remember losing at games on a regular basis.
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09:20 AM on 03/28/2012
I am the mother of a 10 month old and I have already given myself a parenting resolution...I won't be "that" parent. The only time I am going to hold my daughters hand and help her with an Easter Egg hunt is when she is just learning to walk and can't easily get around the terrain. But I won't help her find the most eggs, that is her role. And if I see another pushy parent or a pushy child don't think I won't push back. But that will come to an end as she gets older, she gains more independence and her feet become more steady under her. I think we do our children a great disservice when we do all of these things for them. What are they learning, that if they don't get the job or don't get into that college that mommy and daddy will be there to get it for them? That there are no losers and everyone is a winner? Sorry, that isn't the real world and we as parents are supposed to be prepping them for the real world.
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09:08 AM on 03/28/2012
Smaller events need to be held...and kids should go per age group.. Little ones first...and so forth. But the real problem is parents today are nuts..They view their kids in an agressive and very competative way.. Good grief it's an egg hunt. Buy a few and put on the groud near your child to find if they come up empty handed at the end. This all kids should get the trophy is crazy.
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Carla van der Meer
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02:42 PM on 03/28/2012
But they all get a gold star just for showing up. So silly.
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08:51 AM on 03/28/2012
The sad part is, they are not helping their kids.
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06:40 AM on 03/28/2012
*sigh* Another meant to be fun event bites the dust. We need a brain hunt instead of an Easter egg hunt, it appears... Oh well, just do what we did as kids and what I do with mine... arrange one in your yard or even your house... you can even invite a few neighbors/friends! And we all will win!
02:05 AM on 03/28/2012
Sad and hilarious. But small kids these days are not millennials. They're some other generation that will soon be saddled with a stupid nickname. Hopefully one that doesn't incorporate 9/11, war, or the recession.
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09:01 PM on 03/28/2012
They were born in the 2000s. Ergo, they are millennials.
05:47 PM on 04/01/2012
Hmm. Interesting. I've always heard it defined roughly as people born in the 1980s and 1990s- ones who would actually remember the millennium changeover, 9/11, etc. Currently, they'd be people in their early 30s down to high-schoolers. Usually it doesn't even include those born in the late 90s, who are just reaching high school now.

Wikipedia does acknowledge that some commentators would extend the birth date all the way to the early 2000s, though: "There are no precise dates for when the Millennial generation starts and ends, and commentators have used birth dates ranging somewhere from the mid-1970s[6] to the late 1980s, early or mid 1990s, or as late as the early 2000s."

Born in the mid-80s, I didn't grow up in the same world that today's kids are growing up in, so I see them as another generation- plus many people around my age have small kids themselves. But I know that sort of split happens in any "generation"- a Baby Boomer born in 1945 had very different experiences than one born in 1960. My parents were born in the 1950s and consider themselves "just barely" Baby Boomers. So I guess it just depends on the definition you use.
01:04 AM on 03/28/2012
My generation embarrasses me.
09:45 PM on 03/27/2012
The title of Alsop's book is missing one very important word: sex, as in Sex Trophy. Crotchfruit Worship, the Golden Sprog, King Baby Christ, Divine Sperm and Eggs.

Thank God my religion prohibits the worship of children on grounds of the First Commundment: Thou shalt not put thy crotchfruit before Me or I'll deliver a bolt of lightening to it.
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04:15 PM on 03/28/2012
What the hell are you talking about?